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Why is the wishlist appealing to our cam custies?? Dont get it....
Ok, so a couple regs of mine asked me to make a wishlist on a couple occasions. At first I was against it, then around Christmas I decided to go ahead and make one. When I realized that I couldnt safely block all the info I wanted after messing with it a bit and then reading some stories here about it, I decided I would only put an egiftcard up there and let that be it. I mean if they really wanna "spoil" me then it shouldnt matter, right??
Wrong.... Not a damn gift card has been bought. lol And when one of my regs saw that it was only a giftcard he acted surprised, disappointed. And I didnt quite get why. Is it because he wants to see me wearing what he bought, or should I be worried that he was hoping to see an addy or at least state and city info? I think I just need some better regs, but are they all kinda this way? Strange to me.:confused:
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Re: Why is the wishlist appealing to our cam custies?? Dont get it....
I never did it have one, I never will.
Not worth the aggravation of some crazy weirdo fighting tooth and nails to find out my location.
Not worth the $100 gift. not even worth the $1000.not worth the $10000.
I want my life as private as possible.
Even with receiving E-gifts sent to personal e-mail adress..
I fear someone with good enough skills can/will track my e-mail adress to my internet provider, to my town, to my street..
Ya, I know Im paranoid.
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Because they can buy the gift and then get a refund...
Or, for the honest customer... I guess it's like the difference between buying someone a present you'll know she'll like and buying her a gift card. Wouldn't you rather see her wear/use whatever you bought her? It's more personal.
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I did the wishlist thing before. When i got things off my wishlist most men suddenly thought they were now super special and were allowed to be even more annoying. Like if it was lingerie or shoes they wanted a picture, which is fine and i would do, but then they ask for like 100 other things. I would then have to "earn it" and that's utter bullshit. Don't get me wrong, it was kind of nice to get the things and the money they would just end up giving me would have went to those items anyway, but the overall entitlement macho crap just isn't worth it.
This time around i made my own wishlist for motivation and if they want to "spoil me" they can give me money towards the things.
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Re: Why is the wishlist appealing to our cam custies?? Dont get it....
You can make a full wishlist. Just don't provide an address with it. Then they can pick and choose the amount to send you via an e-giftcard.
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Re: Why is the wishlist appealing to our cam custies?? Dont get it....
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Originally Posted by
HaydenBlue
You can make a full wishlist. Just don't provide an address with it. Then they can pick and choose the amount to send you via an e-giftcard.
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I agree, or get a post office box. Or just say fuck it to Amazon since they arent the only site that has a wishlist feature (I dont trust their privacy stuff either) and use sex toy wishlists - particularly from BDSM sites like ExtremeRestraints that are used to 'tribute' style relationships and don't disclose.... anything beyond an email and first initial. Just be sure to read the privacy info ahead of time. Or get them to load something like a GreenDot card if you want hard cash and want to ensure it is not refundable and none of your info is disclosed.
A general principle is if the person fights you on how you prefer to be 'spoiled' theyre full of it (determining why and what his particular explanation is is even more of a waste of your time) and just move on.
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I don't trust the whole wishlist thing, honestly, despite the fact that lots of cam girls do it. I find it very strange when a guy who barely speaks to me in public chat suddenly blurts "Do you have a wish list?" What's THAT about? And if they REALLY wanna make me happy, then can A) buy me an e-gift card instead or B) tip me instead. I prefer option B. :P
And I've heard models say that they haven't been making their MFC token goals because guys were buying them wish list items instead. That ain't cool.....
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Actual items are just more personal than sending a gift card or money. Ive kept an Amazon WL for years, I just put in my stage name (since name and city show up on the wishlist) and I make sure to uncheck "allow 3rd party sellers" since they may end up showing your full addresss on a reciept or something somewhere. Also, when I pick out items, I always only pick items sold and shipped by Amazon, none by 3rd party sellers.
Anyway, Ive never accepted gifts as payment, so if someone buys a gc or buys an item off my wishlist and then cancels the order trying to be slick, it doesnt affect me in any kind of way...gifts are gifts, not payment. So if someone wants my wishlist, go for it. When I was really active on cam, it was not unusual to suddenly get a package in the mail, some guy who has never talked to me, seen my cam, emailed me, anything..just would decide to buy me something.
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I use a wishlist, and have had lots of nice things bought for me. I am clear that gifts are NOT a form of payment.
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I have a P.O. box. I've been bought some crazy nice and really expensive things.
So yes, I recommend one, but get a P.O. box first!
I don't accept it as a form of payment, but I take a photo-set with each item bought.
Guys rather buy gifts because that's how they can make sure they are spoiling you. They give you $ and you use it for rent. That's not spoiling you, or sexy. Gifts are made just for you, and it is the only way they can make sure you are getting spoiled for sure.
They could give you a gift card, but then they didn't pick out the item, or get to surprise you.
Many guys insist on making it a surprise, or even anonymous. (Yes, some of my most expensive gifts were anonymous)
Like I said before, I do small photo-sets with each gift. If they give me a giftcard, and I buy a book and do a photo set with a book, they may be disappointed.
And often times, guys like to brag about it! In my room when the guys are complimenting my lingerie, "looks good, huh? I bought it for her."
There are so many valid reasons guys love the wishlists and love a huge variety of things to choose from!!!
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Yeah, guys are funny... LOL! They love to compete, and the love the bragging rights. Many times, the guys would eagerly wait to see me post about their gift in my blog, and if they saw someone else bought me something, hed be determined to one-up him. Also, the idea that Im using and enjoying something they bought for me is a thrill for them too.
So true, they know money is going to go towards bills, expenses, non-sexy stuff. Okay, so a tv or a stereo may not be a sexy gift per se, but they love the idea that you are using something that they specifically bought for you. Heck, on a personal scale, my ex bought me a wok for my bday a couple of years ago, and to this day, if I happen to say I made stir-fry, he gets all excited with...Niice!!! Did you use the wok I got you?!! But hes given me money through the years, and thats all but forgotten.
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Guys only like it because they want to find out the exact city you live in... which can't be hidden. I still have one, but they have to send me an e-giftcard and then I order the item.
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Originally Posted by
GlamourRouge
Guys only like it because they want to find out the exact city you live in... which can't be hidden. I still have one, but they have to send me an e-giftcard and then I order the item.
This is how I feel too about some of the creepy guys. I do think some of them are cool and just wanna get you a gift (and have bragging rights too), but damn, they could just give me "the gift of money." LMAO. Some may call it paranoia, but I feel like, when it comes to your private info and the internet, etc., you can never be too careful. Especially since technology and all that stuff has come a long way.
Like when guys ask where you're from, and you tell them, then they say "What part of ___? Do you ever go to that place called ____?" That's just a bit too much information to be asking a model.
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Originally Posted by
Fridays
Even with receiving E-gifts sent to personal e-mail adress..
I fear someone with good enough skills can/will track my e-mail adress to my internet provider, to my town, to my street..
Ya, I know Im paranoid.
Actually that can happen (not sure about the exact street but internet provider yes and town yes) lol that's why I don't do anything on messengers, no emailing, nadda. I have an Amazon wishlist but it's through a site that I work for and they deal with all of it. The items are shipped to them then forwarded to me. Wishlists are awesome I have gotten some pretty nice things but honestly I wouldn't have one if I had to put my info in it. I agree with what a lot of you said though the guys really like to pick the gifts out. To them it feels like they are getting you something you really want and it's more personal which is fine cause I love getting gifts! :)
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If you have a big fan base and many guys asking to buy you a gift, why not then use a virtual address? You can pick one in practically any city, and then when you get packages, the service will alert you and ship it to you. Theres an additional cost by weight for shipping costs, but could be worth it if you dont want anyone to know what city you're in.
I live in a big city, and rarely leave my apartment lol... the odds of someone coming here and wandering the streets hoping to run into me are slim...plus I look drasticaly different in person than how I do on cam, so they wouldnt recognize me if they saw me anyway, but if you live in a small town or dont really disguise yourself, and want gifts...its an option.
I once had a fly by night admirer who cleaned out my wishlist of about $2k worth of stuff in about 2 months....he barely sent actual cash, and only saw my cam once or twice...and then disappeared as fast as he appeared. There are a lot of creeps, but...there are also guys who just like buying stuff. For this guy, and a lot that Ive come across who are into gift buying...not giving money. I once had a guy who for his wife's bday and their anniversary, he would buy me a gift too, because he said I made him happier than she did lol
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Wow, thanks ladies for the resonses! You all make some great points and have some great ideas.
As much as I wouldnt mind havent some gifts thrown at me looks like I have a decision to make for those men who want to actually give me something. But I need to be sure theres a clear cut message sent to them about not accepting gifts as payment, def will not be doing that.
I think BlkSharpie's idea is great to use a virtual address, think I will google that and see what it entails. And A P.O box isnt half bad either, maybe go a distance away and get one there, just wanna make sure it cant be traced back to me, where I really live in anyway....theres a lot of paying attention to detail in all this isnt there?! lol
I guess I can see where a guy likes the idea of buying something for a host and have that idea of connecting in a diff way with her, or like others suggested, the whole competing thing....guys are def good for that!! lol Or kinda like marking its territory in a virtual way, hmmm thats an idea. lol I could also see where guys may have an entitled attitude, so I'll be quick to give the boot if that happens, no man IRL or virtually is entitled to anything from me...at least not right now. lol
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Originally Posted by
GlamourRouge
Guys only like it because they want to find out the exact city you live in... which can't be hidden. I still have one, but they have to send me an e-giftcard and then I order the item.
If that were true, they would have no need to buy expensive and multiple things. Also, you can get a PO box in a different city. Mine is 45min. away from my house.
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Like BlkSharpie mentioned, I have a box that accepts packages in my alias in a whole other state, thousands of miles away from my location. Then, I have it forwarded to me. I got an xpole xpert, an ipad, hitachi, clothes, computer accessories, and shit, even kitchen accessories off my wishlist. It was worth it to me, that's for sure.
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Originally Posted by
SweetPinkCupcake
I have a box that accepts packages in my alias in a whole other state, thousands of miles away from my location. Then, I have it forwarded to me. I got an xpole xpert, an ipad, hitachi, clothes, computer accessories, and shit, even kitchen accessories off my wishlist. It was worth it to me, that's for sure.
Do you have the name of the company?
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The guys that are really into GFE are usually the ones who like buying gifts because they're more personal. And some guys just like to flash their money around. Although I really do think that most of the guys like to look at your wishlist just to get a peek inside your brain. You can tell a lot about a person by their wishlists!
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Originally Posted by
ImpossiblePrincess
The guys that are really into GFE are usually the ones who like buying gifts because they're more personal. And some guys just like to flash their money around. Although I really do think that most of the guys like to look at your wishlist just to get a peek inside your brain. You can tell a lot about a person by their wishlists!
This is *very* true!!! Ive actually had guys tell me they are happy I dont have stuff like food, toilet paper or a ton of childrens toys on my wishlist. Thats just *too much information!!!* lmfao! It anyway makes them think middle aged housewife...the not hot kind. Or when a girl has stuff like tools, workboots, flannel shirts..I swear its true! WAaaay back when (its been awhile since Ive scoped out wishlists) I found some crazy interesting things that make you go "hrmm!'
Ooh, about PO Boxes, be aware that they do not accept packages from UPS or FedEx, and most online merchants ship that way. Id go with a FedEx mail box or something like that, not the USPS box..since they only accept USPS packages. Now, yeah, a guy could buy and mail you stuff personally, but the easier it is to order and send stuff, the better. And for two..I dont really want to open up any packages any guy sends me himself. Id really rather not.................................:D
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I'm always at a loss about what to put on my wishlist. I feel like if I put expensive stuff I'm going to look high maintenance. Although I disagree about food - it just depends on the type! I'm a huge anime/manga geek, so I have a lot of snacks and soft drinks from Japan on mine. It comes across as cute and quirky rather than housewife-ish :)
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Oh well thats different! Notice I said food and toilet paper :D Ive seen straight up grocery lists on wishlists! I didnt even know Amazon had food til I saw that... Thats what I mean by not hot middle-age housewifish...
I always put a healthy mix in mine...a few high dollar, a few mid, a few low...that way theres something for every price range, guys who like the high maint types will like that I have the high dollar items, guys who just want to get a little something can too. I make it easy to buy me stuffs LoL
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I've found my wishlist getting used wayyyyyyy too often, and as much as I enjoy my gifts!!! I prefer rent money first >.<
SOOOO, i've now made it so my wishlist is only available after my rent and phone bill are covered :x my regs understand for the most part , but as the saying goes, those who mind dont matter and those who matter dont mind , thanks dr seuss :D
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Re: Why is the wishlist appealing to our cam custies?? Dont get it....
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Originally Posted by
BlkSharpie
This is *very* true!!! Ive actually had guys tell me they are happy I dont have stuff like food, toilet paper or a ton of childrens toys on my wishlist. Thats just *too much information!!!* lmfao! It anyway makes them think middle aged housewife...the not hot kind. Or when a girl has stuff like tools, workboots, flannel shirts..I swear its true! WAaaay back when (its been awhile since Ive scoped out wishlists) I found some crazy interesting things that make you go "hrmm!'
Ooh, about PO Boxes, be aware that they do not accept packages from UPS or FedEx, and most online merchants ship that way. Id go with a FedEx mail box or something like that, not the USPS box..since they only accept USPS packages. Now, yeah, a guy could buy and mail you stuff personally, but the easier it is to order and send stuff, the better. And for two..I dont really want to open up any packages any guy sends me himself. Id really rather not.................................:D
My PO box has a street address so that I can get my UPS and FedEx boxes. You just have to look around. :)