Is it really that bad to be rude to a customer that was rude FIRST?
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Is it really that bad to be rude to a customer that was rude FIRST?
Nope. If a guy was rude to me I was rude back. I've had guys say nasty things so I attacked back. I will not put up with being called names. At least with dacning generally I never got in trouble for this but when I worked minimum wage jobs I had to accept it and I ended up quitting these jobs.
Rude comments are going to happen... I find if I respond rudely back, I will think about that crap and it will throw me off my game. If I am dancing for him, I stop. If we are talking, I get up. If I am on stage I walk to the back of the stage, and ignore him.
If I am rude back to him, other customers may see it and label me a bitch. I don't need that... Move on and avoid him.
Great question!
On one hand, I spent way too much of my life silently taking crap from others and now I have the urge to stand up for myself over the smallest infraction.
On the other hand, *most* people are nice to their grandmother, y'know? Being nice to the people you like isn't "nice," as much as it's just "normal." Maybe being nice and having character is how you treat the people you don't like. i.e. the rude assholes of the world.
No its not bad to be rude to a customer that was already rude in the first place however this has gotten me in trouble quite a few times and recently canned. So the only reason why being rude may be bad is if the club decides to take the customers side instead of yours.
i will be rude back here and there, but its easier to just walk away and ignore them.
if i think theres still a chance that they will spend money on me and they are just natural-born assholes then ill giggle and still keep on hustling. but if they are super-rude and get personal then hell yes!!
While being rude back is certainly understandable, a classy sharp tongued put down is even better. It preserves your dignity (and us guys around who here it will probably be cheering you)
I agree with rgbg. I like to be quick witted (but still rude as FUCK) when people irritate me. That way, I'm still a sexy, witty lady and the customer is just a prick. :)
hmmmm.....
I mean, you don't want to get caught up arguing with some asshole, that's just stupid and pointless. And some of these guys really get off on knowing they got under your skin.
Sometimes I'll just smile and be like "yeah, that's awesome!" as I walk away.
Once a customer goes into rude mode, then might have some fun with it and go into weird mode. Start conversing completely weird or bizarre to the point he forgets trying to be rude(in his failed attempt to be insulting, witty, etc..). It puts you in control and you wont have to get mad/rude back which might ruin your night.
I'm very positive and rarely retaliate, or let anything get to me ITC. I would usually say, "Have a nice night etc", if anything, and walk away. I'm not there to be talked down to or have my time wasted etc. But, when someone is extremely rude a subtle, quick witted comment never goes astray (sometimes it feels good to defend yourself, with out causing confrontation or letting it effect your mood).
Sometimes there is a fine line between dishing it out to a customer who truly crosses some line vs. letting hypersensitivity get the best of you. It is one thing to give a guy a piece when he says something truly nasty or out of line, but quite another to become offended simply because he said no in a way that she didn't like, or was abrupt or standoffish, or was a self satisfied jackass, etc.
IME when a girl gets to the stage where she lets things get to her that she used to shrug off, then often she is on the short road to burnout. So when I hear the question...
"Is it really that bad to be rude to a customer that was rude FIRST?"
...my first thought is that it depends just how rude he was, the "normal" rude that one often finds in a collection of SC customers or the really outlandish stuff. IMHO the former comes with the turf, but the latter should not be tolerated.
Anyway, just my :twocents:
I don't think anything good can come of it.. Worse case management thinks you are a loose cannon and fire you or begin to doubt you in the future and customers within earshot or witnessing it will loose interest in you. The guys being rude often just want drama or to try to make girls snap.. don't feed in to them, just ignore them and smile even bigger when you walk past them on the way to do dances or a room with a gentleman. Don't get rude back, but just excuse yourself to go back to work and quickly leave. Sometimes when you high tail it out of there they will try to stop you and tell you they were just kidding and ask for a dance, it's like they were reverting to kindergarten when boys teased the girls they like. If the guy is spending lots of money but just is an asshole who is probably douchey to servers, retail workers, coworkers beneath him etc. I'll just suck it up and do my bare minimum job requirement and gtfo as soon as times up.
True words! Show your intelligence and surprise them with it! They will be embarrassed and feel bad. If you're rude back, they'll simply get what they expected. Best way to teach a customer a good lesson is to make them FEEL dumb and uncivilized.
Don't give them what they want - a reaction! If they're putting you down, being rude to you etc it's to make them feel better about themselves, they want that reaction from you to get that kick.
If they're making snide remarks, comments etc, I simply wait until they're mid sentence, look around and just walk off.
As they're right in the middle of saying something, just wander off.
Nothing says 'you're not worth an iota of my time' more than walking off mid sentence.
Half the time, the ones who are rude first actually WANT you to be rude back. They are probably into dommes whether they realize it or not. So I just walk away. Don't give them what they want if they aren't paying for it.
Ignoring someone stings more than anything else ever could because it shows you don't even care enough to put any thought or effort into them whether positive or negative.
& the hustle start...love
I'm rude to rude customers because it makes me feel better leaving them with the last word. I'm immature. I never get in trouble for it or anything, management is always on my side.
I'm good at spotting douchebags, so avoiding them is easy. If a guy tries to be grabby, I pull their hand away before even try (I'm quick) or tries to say something rude - I just walk away (mid sentence) }:D
I guess it depends on what they did and how they were rude. Most times, I just be the bigger person. Either by getting up and moving on; or stop dancing. You don't acknowledge the behavior and they'll stop doing it. Sometimes though, if the guy does something really uncalled for, then I address it and turn the rudeness around on him. Half of the time they tell me to fuck off. The other half of the time they buy me a drink and give me money lol Some guys want the nice girls; some don't. You gotta learn how to turn any situation into an advantage for you. Not always easy, but fun and lucrative if you do it right.
If I received a rude comment, I'd ignore it and not be rude any way what-so-ever in return. That is how you loose money- that's what a ban button is for.