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A Regulars request
I have a regular now that I have clicked with very well. A couple weeks ago he asked me what my goal was for the day. I took my normal number and added 100 bucks to it. He said fine and said he would like me for the rest of my shift. I agreed and we had an incredible time. During that time, we may have done 5 actual dance songs. Mainly it was a lot of flirting and conversation. At the end of my shift, he paid me, thanked me for my time, and that was that... Since then, it has happened multiple times. I can count at least 3 where he was the only customer I was with the entire day.
At the end of the day I ask myself; Did I loose money being with one person the entire time? Why does he keep coming back? Will he expect more if this continues? Am I ruining this guys life?
I am all for hustling to earn a buck. I like what I do. But in a way I feel this guy is too wrapped up into me and dumping lots of money that he doesn't seem to have. Should I care? I enjoy the fantasy I fill, but I don't like the idea of someone being too obsessed with me... It kinda freaks me out. Any input or ideas would be greatly appreciated.
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Re: A Regulars request
Should you care that he is blowing all his money on you? Of course not. You didn't make him come into the club, you aren't the one making him empty his wallet...he's doing it of his own volition. Take it as a compliment. He's spending all this money on you because he wants to, because he enjoys spending time with you, and because he thinks you're worth it.
Did you lose money being with him the whole time? Possibly. I personally would have added more than $100 to my daily average, to cover the possibility of getting an unusually big spender, cause you really never know who's going to tip you what amount until they do it. But then again, real money is better than theoretical money. You KNOW how much money you make off this guy. It's possible you could make more from working the entire room, but it's also possible you'll make less. It's a gamble, and only you can decide what decision you're going to make about it. Is it too late to up your required amount to sit with him your whole shift? If it's not too late, do it.
As for the obsessing thing...look, all regulars have a shelf life. There eventually comes a point where the money dries up because he wants to date you, or where he loses interest in you, or where you find what he's paying you is no longer enough for you to be around him. I've had regulars that became so goddamn annoying that it was absolute torture for me to sit with them for any length of time, even knowing the amount of money I was going to make. Are you getting any creepy or stalker vibes off of this guy, or are you just speculating about what may happen? If you're getting an honestly bad feeling about him that has nothing to do with general paranoia on your part, I'd start thinking of an exit plan. But you didn't mention anything this guy did that was especially invasive or creepy, so I'm going to assume you're just worried in general. DON'T worry. If you don't find it difficult to sit with him for the duration of your shifts, then by all means, enjoy yourself while the money lasts. If he starts paying less or pressuring for OTC get-togethers, start making your excuses and go back to approaching other customers.
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Re: A Regulars request
how much money is he giving you for the whole night with you?
Firemaiden is right about theoretical money vs. real money but at the same time, there should be a level of dignity that is important (not saying that she didn't mean that!!). Like, last night I did my first 3/50$ and it was because I knew that there wasn't anything else out there. Would I do 2/30$ no but 50$ is still 50$.
at the club that I worked at BEFORE this one, girls were doing an hour for 120$ and that I simply cannot agree with no matter how you cut the cake.