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I'm a stripper not a cam girl but for me it depends on the person and my mood at the time.
I am not embarrassed or ashamed at all about dancing so I don't really care if people know or not as I'm happy with myself.
My main reason for not telling people is that I have a 9-5 professional job during the week and for work reasons, keep my stripping and personal life fairly private from my work colleagues.
For people outside of work, I generally don't go out of my way to tell people but if they find out I don't really care. Half my friends know, however a few of my friends that I don't see as often and are a bit more closed minded I haven't told. Having said that though, if they were to ask or found out I wouldn't have any reservations telling them. If friends don't like me enough for me (and not what I do or don't do), I don't particularly want them in my life.
Sometimes I tell random people who I will probably never meet again just to see how they react.
I'm pretty much open about it. Obviously, I try to gauge the situation and I make a judgement call. I'm not necessarily going to tell some random straight dude. But my gay hairdresser? Of course. Besides, who is he going to tell? The other girls in the salon? I don't know these people so it doesn't really matter to me. My family knows. My husband's family doesn't though it wouldn't be the end of the world if they did know, my husband's just a pussy.
That said, I don't really tell anyone what my stage name is.
I think it also depends on how big of a community you live in as well. If I lived in a small town in the south, I would be keeping my lips tightly sealed.
People will pretty much react one of two ways to finding out you're a cam girl: 1. Awkward silence; or 2. Enthusiastic but awkward questions. Or some combination of the two.
The only person who knows that I cam is my boyfriend. My non-judgmental best friend knows that I do non-nude fetish clips, but not about the camming. I told her about the clips once when she was really upset about her terrible financial situation (she's a transgender BBW with an unconventional appearance that makes it hard to find work in our conservative hometown that she doesn't want to move away from). I thought she could make some good money with non-nude fetish, and she said it sounded cool and she planned to try it, but I don't think she's actually done it yet.
ETA: I also told my sister about the fetish clips because she's always been into domme and fetish and is very open-minded.
I am not ashamed of what I do but let's face it, 99% of people are still not accepting of this career so I am not going to out myself like that.
I don't need the whole town thinking I am a nasty whore or prostitute or whatever they may think and I don't need people knowing how much money I make.
Plus, it's not good to put your business on the streets like that. In some places if you do that you will get a mob breaking down your door telling you that you are going to pay THEM taxes or you won't be working anymore. Just not smart really. It's just like people that sell a lot of dope, you don't want anybody knowing.
I don't need the aggravation. It's none of their business. I used to type at home doing medical transcription and still do a bit here and there so as far as people know that's what I still do. I also do a bit of affiliate stuff so I claim that too. No need to go into details. If anyone gets curious enough to want to work from home too I send them to workplacelikehome.com to find something for themselves.
:) :) :)
My friends are all open minded so I had no problem telling them but as for everyone else...no way! There are too many negative judgements that people would make that I dont want attached to me for the rest of my life.
If camming or the adult industry in general was going to be a career for me then that would be different but it's just something I'm doing part time until I get another job.
I know that theres always a chance someone I know will come across a video of mine and if that happened I wouldnt deny it but I dont see a reason to let everyone I know or meet what my job is.
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No I am not, anymore.
For many years I was on sickness benefits and could not work. Ended up in hospital
(long story) and recovered. Because I was so long out of work I could not find a
company to hire me for 2 years. Then I found something right what I wanted.
I was going to make monthly magazines (layout/design) and also make programs from
them, that people could play on their computer and I got two very large internet sites to
work on, update them daily and work on the design.
OMG what glad I was and so proud!!!! I told everybody about it. Everybody was happy
for me ..................................... until ....................... I told them, on their asking, that
it were porno magazines and porno sites.
"Friends" came less often or not anymore at all, my relation fell apart.
So, when I started the camwork I told people around me that I have a job at an internet
helpdesk for solving PC problems, working from home and cannot be disturbed at
certain hours.
I don't consider the adult industry my career - it's more an investment towards me working my ideal career- .... Then I'll strart telling people :P
Yes I'm really open about it. However, I don't go around randomly mentioning it. I would only tell people if asked, if the subject came up, or if they are a pretty good friend.
It immediately lets me see whose my friend for the right reasons. It immediately shows me whose close-minded or thinks everyone should have their belief system (aka people I could NEVER be or remain friends with). However, most people in my area tend to be extreme liberals with a strong emphasis on open free will, so I haven't really come across people from my own generation with anything negative to say.
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Almost Everyone who knows me personally knows my chosen career in this industry. Almost everyone because there are older adults and very young kids I know that I don't tell because they don't have the capacity to understand this industry.
For a long time I kept what I did a secret in fear of people judging me and shunning me but when I finally came clean, I felt a huge weight lifted off my shoulders AND the truth weeded out who were my truest friends/supporters and who was just hanger-ons.
My husband and I have only been camming since this past October. I've told my BF which is 38 and he has told his BF. We are from a VERY small town and his parents are both preachers. So...=P It is nice to have the ONE freind that knows. She laughs at all our stories when we tell her how REALLY down and dirty men are!
I used to be super open about what I do when I started, perhaps too open, so a lot of people I either blogged with or cammed with, and since have been paying for it since with people knowing my real name.
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I tell people im a phone sex operator .If its a dude or a girl that wants to know more i tell them sometimes it involves me getting on cam to do a strip tease for the client.Its hard to tell people i fuck myself on webcam for money (that's if they want to go into details).But all my sisters and best friends know what i really do.To be honest im really proud of being a cam Model.I just don't want noone to use it against me or tell my parents.So that's y i dont tell them the whole truth .
I use to be somewhat open about it. I didn't go around telling ppl that I was a camgirl or that I made non-nude fetish clips. But years ago I had a myspace based on my persona and I would add old friends/highschool classmates to it. An when I had a facebook I use to post little things about camming. My immediate family figured out what I was doing an I told my ex-boyfriend. I didn't/don't talk to my family about camming but I talk to my Ex about camming all the time. No one has really said anything to me about it.
My perspective has changed since then an I feel like I was a little too open back then. I've deleted my myspace/facebook an keep alot things private now. Even though I'm comfortable an not ashamed of camming I now feel that not everything you do needs to be put on display an sometimes you need to/should keep certain things private. Now I have a personal life an a private life. My personal life is what I involve friends in and my private life is things I keep to myself like camming. Now when strangers, classmates, old friends, distance family, dudes I'm dating ask me what I do I tell them "I work from home doing customer service".
Yes, I am incredibly open about the fact that I am a webcam model. My parents, family, and friends all know. Then again, I live 2,000 miles away from them and I'm basically estranged from most of my family, so the issue of them accepting it or not doesn't apply in my case because I honestly, truly don't care. The only people I don't tell specifically what I do is my apartment complex, because I'm afraid it might cause problems. I told them I'm self employed, when they asked I said I work online, and they didn't really ask any follow up questions because as long as I'm paying my rent on time that's all they need to know. Actually I just paid my rent yesterday (yes, very early) and my leasing agent was so sweet, asking about how I'm doing and how is work. I told her it's great and she was glad to hear it. She has no idea what she's *really* asking about, but it's okay :)
I'm recently single and was debating whether/how to tell guys I date and I've personally found being upfront about it works for me. I don't shove it in their face and it's never the first thing out of my mouth because really, that would just be weird o.0 Usually when we start talking I mention that I work online as an independent contractor. If I like the guy and feel he's someone I'd like to get to know better, he usually asks specifics about my job by the first or second date, at which point I'll tell him I'm a webcam model. Maybe I'm just lucky but I've never had a guy react negatively. Usually they are more curious about how it works, so it can lead to an interesting conversation. I look at it like, if I withheld it from them and they found out that I am a cam girl later on in our relationship they would probably feel like I was trying to hide it from them and get suspicious of what's "really" going on. Because it's not a big deal to me and I don't treat it like it's a big deal when I'm with them, they don't treat it like a big deal, either.
Funny thing, when my ex first moved in with me he was really jealous over my camming. He wasn't working, but he would try to stop me from working because of his insecurities. My mother is the one who had to set him straight and school him on how important it is to us that he let me continue camming. My momma says as long as I'm not doing anything illegal and I'm not hurting anyone, who cares how I pay my bills and keep a roof over my head?! Amen!
if it comes up yes
Im very open about it, but I'm lucky enough to have an extremely open minded family and friends. Most of my friends are in the adult industry anyway so it's not an issue. The only time I'm vague about it is if I'm at the bank or something and they ask about my job, just because I don't feel like answering a million "whats the adult industry like?" questions and getting weird looks. But even if they found out, I wouldn't care much. I'm proud of what I do and I don't care if other people don't get it or look down on it
family and close friends know...
for all the others... I dont have a job .. lol
Im a MtF transsexual, 21 years old and after i finished a school year i stopped going further to transition in 2010. When i started webcamming i told my mom about it since i live at home, and she was fine with it. Actually wanted to know how it works and what people are like and we can actually laugh about it. So i recently told my sister about it and the conversation was okish but akward for her.
Turns out it kinda backfired and she is having trouble dealing with it. She then told my mom on the phone that she thinks im losing it since i started transitioning. While i feel better then ever, im coming out of my shell, i open to people, since i started camming i got over being a prude and im happy overall. So yeah that was a bust lol.
Gonna tell a good friend about it soon i think and perhaps my other siblings :o
I am open 99% of the time but never give out my cam name or site. I have noticed some jealousy out of close friends...I guess sometimes you just find out who your real friends are, when it comes down to being open about yourself. At the end of the day if I lie I just feel like I am doing something wrong. I think to myself is camming so bad I have to lie about it? So I just say Fuck it! I am who am and I Do not have a boss breathing down my neck telling me when and how to do something I hate for 8 dollars an hour. SO its ok to be Yourself and get paid doing so :)