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Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
I had a profile up on some sugar daddy sites and I got very very few messages or profile views. Some guys didnt even respond to my messages :'( So I decided to do a little experiment and put up a picture of a young white girl with blonde hair and big boobs. My profile views have skyrocketed and Im getting all kinds of messages. When I look at these guys profiles alot of them either say flat out I only am attracted to white girls/i dont date outside my race/no african americans/etc :'( It seems like these guys only want a lily white young girl. And even if they do get a WOC she looks very racially ambiguous and its obvious she has some white in her. I hate white men :mad:
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
I doubt the OP placed a picture of a 60 year old black woman and tried comparing it to a young white gal.
That's the way it is unfortunately. Men of a certain age don't leave their comfort zone and tend to believe stereotypes (ghetto-ness, AIDS, welfare moms w/ 10 kids) There isnt much you can do about it. SD websites are major waste of time anyhow and you are better off meeting men at places where men congregate.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
According to this study done by OkCupid, you're not alone: http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/yo...rite-you-back/
Their stats show that black women and Asian men are the least likely to get responses when they send messages, even though black women are far more likely to respond to any messages they are sent. Also, I read somewhere once that darker skin signifies higher levels of testosterone, which is something men have evolved to dislike (again: according to this study). Above all else, I think older white men have just been conditioned to dislike black women. Coming from a small redneck town, my vote is that it's pure bigotry at work. I'm sorry you're having to experience that sort of nonsense.
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tuesdaymarie
According to this study done by OkCupid, you're not alone:
Their stats show that black women and Asian men are the least likely to get responses when they send messages, even though black women are far more likely to respond to any messages they are sent. Also, I read somewhere once that darker skin signifies higher levels of testosterone, which is something men have evolved to dislike (again: according to this study). Above all else, I think older white men have just been conditioned to dislike black women. Coming from a small redneck town, my vote is that it's pure bigotry at work. I'm sorry you're having to experience that sort of nonsense.
That's really fascinating, and at the risk of putting myself on blast here, I've totally been guilty of it. I never used to reply to Asian guys; mostly because they tend to be shorter (I'm tall), and there's the stereotype (notice I said stereotype, not fact) that they're more feminine, diminutive etc. I've never been attracted to black men or Indian men, so that narrowed my pool to white, hispanic or middle eastern.
OP, people have a lot of misconceptions. Older white guys are the worst about it, especially Southern ones. Don't let it get you down- there's a lot of other good avenues for you to explore.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
The last state law against interracial marriage was repealed in the year 2000!!!! That's what you're up against
Between 1913 and 1948, 30 out of the then 48 states enforced anti-miscegenation laws. Only Connecticut, New Hampshire, New York, New Jersey, Vermont, Wisconsin, Minnesota, Alaska, Hawaii, and the federal District of Columbia never enacted them. In 1967, 17 Southern states (all the former slave states plus Oklahoma) still enforced laws prohibiting marriage between whites and non-whites. Maryland repealed its law in response to the start of the proceedings at the Supreme Court. After the ruling of the Supreme Court, the remaining laws were no longer in effect. Nonetheless, it took South Carolina until 1998 and Alabama until 2000 to officially amend their states' constitutions to remove language prohibiting miscegenation. In the respective referendums, 62% of voters in South Carolina and 59% of voters in Alabama voted to remove these laws.
Anti-miscegenation Laws enacted in the Thirteen Colonies and the United States
Anti-miscegenation laws repealed until 1887
State First law passed Law repealed "Races" banned from marrying whites Note
Illinois 1829 1874 Blacks
Iowa 1839 1851 Blacks
Kansas 1855 1859 Blacks Law repealed before reaching statehood
New Mexico 1857 1866 Blacks Law repealed before reaching statehood
Maine 1821 1883 Blacks, Native Americans
Massachusetts 1705 1843 Blacks, Native Americans Passed the 1913 law preventing out-of-state couples from circumventing their home-state anti-miscegenation laws
Michigan 1838 1883 Blacks
Ohio 1861 1887 Blacks Last state to repeal its anti-miscegenation law before California did so in 1948
Pennsylvania 1725 1780 Blacks
Rhode Island 1798 1881 Blacks, Native Americans
Washington 1855 1868 Blacks, Native Americans Law repealed before reaching statehood
Anti-miscegenation laws repealed 1948-1967
State First law passed Law repealed "Races" banned from marrying whites Note
Arizona 1865 1962 Blacks, Asians, Filipinos, Indians
Filipinos (" Malays") and Indians ( "Hindus") added to list of "races" in 1931
California 1850 1948 Blacks, Asians, Filipinos Anti-miscegenation law overturned by state judiciary in Supreme Court of California case Perez v. Sharp
Colorado 1864 1957 Blacks
Idaho 1864 1959 Blacks, Native Americans, Asians
Indiana 1818 1965 Blacks
Maryland 1692 1967 Blacks, Filipinos Repealed its law in response to the start of the Loving v. Virginia case
Montana 1909 1953 Blacks, Asians
Nebraska 1855 1963 Blacks, Asians
Nevada 1861 1959 Blacks, Native Americans, Asians, Filipinos
North Dakota 1909 1955 Blacks
Oregon 1862 1951 Blacks, Native Americans, Asians, Native Hawaiians
South Dakota 1909 1957 Blacks, Asians, Filipinos
Utah 1852 1963 Blacks, Asians, Filipinos
Wyoming 1913 1965 Blacks, Asians, Filipinos
Anti-miscegenation laws overturned on 12 June 1967 by Loving v. Virginia
State First law passed "Races" banned from marrying whites Note
Alabama 1822 Blacks Repealed during Reconstruction, law later reinstated
Arkansas 1838 Blacks Repealed during Reconstruction, law later reinstated
Delaware 1721 Blacks
Florida 1832 Blacks Repealed during Reconstruction, law later reinstated
Georgia 1750 All non-whites
Kentucky 1792 Blacks
Louisiana 1724 Blacks Repealed during Reconstruction, law later reinstated
Mississippi 1822 Blacks, Asians Repealed during Reconstruction, law later reinstated
Missouri 1835 Blacks, Asians
North Carolina 1715 Blacks, Native Americans
Oklahoma 1897 Blacks
South Carolina 1717 All non-whites Repealed during Reconstruction, law later reinstated
Tennessee 1741 Blacks, Native Americans
Texas 1837 Blacks, Filipinos
Virginia 1691 All non-whites Previous anti-miscegenation law made more severe by Racial Integrity Act of 1924
West Virginia 1863 Blacks
http://www.reference.com/browse/Anti-miscegenation_laws
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
Try not to take it personally, I am of mixed race myself and I get discrimination sometimes too , despite the fact that I'm very light skinned with traditionally "white" features. As another poster said the sugar daddy sites are usually full of fakes and guys looking for cheap escorts anyway. Try going to places where rich guys tend to be and meeting them there. I don't do the sugar daddy thing, but most of my friends have met their sugar daddys in the strip club or at restaurants/bars/ events etc.
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Op, are you overweight? I have noticed that men with money want girls in excellent shape and will not take overweight girls. As much as it sucks and I disagree I think many upper class white men still prefer to date in their race, and tend to want trophy wife blondes in shape. Sadly so do many black professional as well.
I have to admit I have judged on race. While I would (and have)date a black man he needs to be a certain type, namely profession and in shape. However on various dating sites the thug looking black men have contacted me and I ignored. Same thing with thug looking white men and Indian men in general (yes I know that make me a racist but I developed issues with them when dancing).
I've never done sugar daddy sites but have done online dating sites and have had terrible luck with them. The men I liked generally didn't like me and I didn't like the men contacting me. I'm trying a religious site along with a religious single group and am meeting men.
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vixenluv
I had a profile up on some sugar daddy sites and I got very very few messages or profile views. Some guys didnt even respond to my messages :'( So I decided to do a little experiment and put up a picture of a young white girl with blonde hair and big boobs. My profile views have skyrocketed and Im getting all kinds of messages. When I look at these guys profiles alot of them either say flat out I only am attracted to white girls/i dont date outside my race/no african americans/etc :'( It seems like these guys only want a lily white young girl. And even if they do get a WOC she looks very racially ambiguous and its obvious she has some white in her. I hate white men :mad:
I would say take very professional pictures and try again. Dress classy, get long extensions, and natural looking makeup. CLASSY is the word of the day. Make sure your sentences are all grammatically correct and use spell check on your profile. Talk about art, music, history, poetry, etc. Study those crafts intensely, it's worth it and pays off. Let them know you are a cultured and worldly woman. Don't bother trying to sound 'cool' or 'down to earth' like the average women. TRUE wealthy men don't want that as a sugar. That gets thrown to them all the time. You have to separate yourself from the "stereotype of black women" to ANY man of wealth.
And I co-sign with the women who are telling you most of these sites are fake as hell. You'll meet very few real men with serious money on there so don't put so much pressure on yourself. I highly doubt 99% of those profiles have the amount of money they list their income under. Unless they're paying loads of money a month. And most wealthy social circles have 'matchmakers' for lack of better terms, for those types of arrangements.
To say wealthy white men aren't attracted to women of color is way too unbelievable to me. And it definitely doesn't hold true if you are seeking wealthy men who aren't American. Most wealthy men in the world ARE NOT American, and do NOT hold the same stereotypical "Black American Woman" view. Expand your world.
ALL of my bills and then some are paid by wealthy white men, middle class white men, and blue collar white men. EVERY SINGLE majority white club I'm in, I'm a top earner. I met the president of an internationally known company in the middle of a dive. As SOON as he spotted me, he dragged me away. A man of class seeks a woman of class, this is in EVERY industry and in real life. I only work urban clubs for fun when I'm sick of the stifling upscale atmosphere and I want to shake my ass.
I grew up well off (mother is part of a prominent UAE family) so I know exactly how to present myself to a man with a 8-10 figure bank account. That world is not unattainable. If I didn't have my decade long relationship, I would do very well as a golddigging no prenup billionaire wife. ANYONE can become this. I wasn't born with this knowledge, nor is anyone else. Hang around country clubs and try to get into upscale events and parties. You will learn the culture and the hustle of these sham wives/girlfriends. Personally, I find it incredibly suffocating so I'm known as the black sheep (no pun intended ;)).
Hope this helps and if you need more advice, I'm more than happy to provide. Good luck!
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It's an age thing. Most older white men grew up in a segregated society and are uncomfortable with change. They don't understand urban music, style, and mixing with people of other races and backgrounds. I've seen this type of guy be interested in a wholesome looking white girl to be turned off because she danced to hip-hop music. Just today, a white haired man wanted to wait for a song to dance with me because he "didn't like that rap song". Well, it wasn't rap, it was R & B. He was thinking 'black music' not listening to the fact that it was a slow romantic song.
My father and Grandfather were like these types of men so I can see why you would be frustrated. Unfortunately, you may want to take a pass on these guys and focus on others who will appreciate you.
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Honey I'm sorry you experienced this but IMO (observations) all I see are old farts with WOC. They love em out here in PA. Back home in Albuquerque too....one of my good friends is African American dark skinned, absolutely gorgeous and she has the whole NM AARP paying her bills. 99% of her customers are old farts.
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that's really strange, maybe its just cali but I feel like the guys out here love exotic women
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In reality, I'm a thick light brown skinned black chick with a pretty face, bit tits, and a girl next door attitude and I've attracted White Old Farts on those types of sugar daddy sites. I didn't have tons knocking on my inbox but they did message me and I went out on a few dates leaving with cash in hand without doing anything. It's usually the white men who like women of color but a lot are not into going public with it, especially the baby boomers. However, most of them like them pretty, in shape with long hair extensions black girls like someone mentioned. It's hard in this society as white women have dominated the industry and a lot of people are brainwashed when it comes to true beauty. Good luck and don't give up! There are tons of guys who date interracially. My husband is Caucasian so I know first hand. I know England is big on the sistahs so maybe try outsourcing to internationals? I'd put more professional looking pics up, weave it up and try, try, try again. We are still in demand.
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I don't have a problem attracting these guys, especially Italians. The biggest issue is they want a mistress type situation, and I'm not one to be 'hid'. Also quite a few of them are worried about what their friends/associates think, do they would rather approach a black woman when they are alone. I have been ignored by these guys when they are with friends at the club, but another time they happen to show up alone, it is a totally different scenario. This is my experience.
Everyone I know with an older guy SD met them in person or in the club, not from one of those sites. Although I'm sure anything is possible.
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Sugardaddies want the barbie look. Long fake hair, lots of makeup, big boobs. Race doesn't seem to matter, but many are white yeah. Single sugardaddies want eye candy and married "sugardaddies" usually just want a cheap or free escort TBH. You can get money out of them, but it takes wayyyyyy too long and you'll probably be going on a lot of free waste-of-time dates. You make way more just dancing.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
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vixenluv
I had a profile up on some sugar daddy sites and I got very very few messages or profile views. Some guys didnt even respond to my messages :'( So I decided to do a little experiment and put up a picture of a young white girl with blonde hair and big boobs. My profile views have skyrocketed and Im getting all kinds of messages. When I look at these guys profiles alot of them either say flat out I only am attracted to white girls/i dont date outside my race/no african americans/etc :'( It seems like these guys only want a lily white young girl. And even if they do get a WOC she looks very racially ambiguous and its obvious she has some white in her. I hate white men :mad:
You are clearly mistaken. I'm an escort and 99% of my clients are white.
I have been on SD sites as well and have been contacted by only white men - with money.
My stats 5'9 34-24-36 long black hair and light brown eyes. So many women are so quick to blame it
on race when the reason can be simple - they just don't find you attractive?
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GlamourRouge
Sugardaddies want the barbie look. Long fake hair, lots of makeup, big boobs. Race doesn't seem to matter, but many are white yeah. Single sugardaddies want eye candy and married "sugardaddies" usually just want a cheap or free escort TBH. You can get money out of them, but it takes wayyyyyy too long and you'll probably be going on a lot of free waste-of-time dates. You make way more just dancing.
I have all that but none of it is fake. I'm black. I have seen girls in my area with my look - sort of and they're the ones banking at the strip clubs. It urks me when people play the race card - it's annoying.
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PinkMinx
It's an age thing. Most older white men grew up in a segregated society and are uncomfortable with change. They don't understand urban music, style, and mixing with people of other races and backgrounds. I've seen this type of guy be interested in a wholesome looking white girl to be turned off because she danced to hip-hop music. Just today, a white haired man wanted to wait for a song to dance with me because he "didn't like that rap song". Well, it wasn't rap, it was R & B. He was thinking 'black music' not listening to the fact that it was a slow romantic song.
My father and Grandfather were like these types of men so I can see why you would be frustrated. Unfortunately, you may want to take a pass on these guys and focus on others who will appreciate you.
Uh and the adult industry gives them an OUT to get out of their comfort zone so this doesn't make much sense. Everyone isn't racist. I have wealthy clients that aren't into hip hop but will tell me ooh turn the player to whatever you like. These men are willig to accommodate US. Why? Sex sells. We make them do what we want with our looks/ways -- that's how it works and not the other way around. I feel that the majority of the posts on this thread is misleading. If you're ugly/unattractive, men of ALL races won't be into you. simple.
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Young white women are taboo
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Lovelyme
You are clearly mistaken. I'm an escort and 99% of my clients are white.
I have been on SD sites as well and have been contacted by only white men - with money.
My stats 5'9 34-24-36 long black hair and light brown eyes. So many women are so quick to blame it
on race when the reason can be simple - they just don't find you attractive?
No sweetie. I was the same size as you in my pics and i was cropped out from the neck up.
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Lovelyme
I have all that but none of it is fake. I'm black. I have seen girls in my area with my look - sort of and they're the ones banking at the strip clubs. It urks me when people play the race card - it's annoying.
Uh and the adult industry gives them an OUT to get out of their comfort zone so this doesn't make much sense. Everyone isn't racist. I have wealthy clients that aren't into hip hop but will tell me ooh turn the player to whatever you like. These men are willig to accommodate US. Why? Sex sells. We make them do what we want with our looks/ways -- that's how it works and not the other way around. I feel that the majority of the posts on this thread is misleading. If you're ugly/unattractive, men of ALL races won't be into you. simple.
Im sure you do have your own core of custies, I dont doubt that no white men on this earth are into black women, but the title of this thread makes it clear I said the majority are not. The numbers dont lie.
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BringOnTheMen
How is not being attracted to black girls racist? It's not like when she put up the pictures she got racial slurs. SD sites are all about looks and obviously her look wasn't selling. It's not any different from girls refusing to date guys shorter than them or significantly older or younger then them. Sometimes you just don't fit what people are looking for and there's nothing you can do about it.
Who said anything about being racist? Projection much?
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It could be a demographic thing. Maybe in the deep south or the midwest grainland (and I dont mean any of that in a bad way) where there isnt as much diversity and culture, "sticking to ones own kind" may be a kind of mindset that people may have. I will say, where I live here in Miami, I mostly get the attention of black and latino men, but over and far beyond all, European men. Older whilte wealthy European men adore me... When I did visit Europe and was in Switzerland and Germany, my ex joked that if I ever find myself destitute, I jsut need to get myself to Europe and I will have a man begging to take care of me before the plane even lands. :D
In the rest of the country though, I can honestly say...from the west coast to Chicago, to NY...Im really used to older white professional men hitting on me. Its something I dont even think of until someone says they dont like black women. Im black and they like me :D
I will also say though, these online dating sites/sugardaddy sites are crap. They are not a true representation of what is out there...logically it should be, since they are the same people walking around, youd think. But its not. I too have had ads up on regular and sugardaddy sites for *years* and it was a total waste of my time and money. I got next to no response... I have better luck just leaving my house. I look pretty, but I dont consider myself drop dead gorgeous, and I have several guys trying to get to know me... My favorite yet is one who drove up to me while I was pumping gas, and the next day I was on his yacht... Of course, that is Miami for you...the craziest stuff happens here. I dont think that would happen in Omaha :D
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Then maybe they just don't find you attractive? Yes I understand you said the majority.
I've heard one or two other black ladies complain about this but what I realized form those ladies is -- they weren't very attractive or they had the ghetto/onion booty that most white guys don't like.
Have you ever considered that they're not attracted to your look? You may be the same measurements as me but I'm sure our look isn't similar facially Or as blksharpie said the demographics could be the reason. I'm just saying because I've never ever felt this way and I've been in the adult industry along time. We all don't look alike ya know. Some looks work better than others and from my experience, I make more money up north than down south (though I still make a lot of money in the south). It's not about white this and white that. It's about preference and that's what BOTM was trying to explain to you.
You should just post a pic.
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vixenluv
No sweetie. I was the same size as you in my pics and i was cropped out from the neck up.
Im sure you do have your own core of custies, I dont doubt that no white men on this earth are into black women, but the title of this thread makes it clear I said the majority are not. The numbers dont lie.
Who said anything about being racist? Projection much?
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this honestly has never happened to me. the most relevant situation i can think of is when i was sitting in a customer and we were trying to find a dancer for hin and he wanted a tall skinny blonde. but white men love to give me their money.
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I wont go as far to say its racist to only find members of your own race attractive.
***Puts on anthropologist hat***
According many studies, People are more likely to date/marry within their own race & religion regardless of ethnic background. The reasons usually being social expectation and cultural identification. In westernized society, people also marry within their age bracket...second marriages are a bit different.
Young women of (any) color can seem more inaccessible to older white men. Culturally (and superficially), what does a 60 year old white male have in common with a 20 year old black/asian/hispanic female? Not much.
Throw in negative preconceived notions about today's black women (angry, ball-busting, fat, lazy, promiscuous) with the notions of yesterday's black women (maids, housekeepers, nannies). As children, many of these well-off white men had black domestic help. To spend time with a black women could be seen as "slumming it."
With that said, on dating sites users must make a quick judgement before moving on to the next profile. They are going to go with what is "safe" and popular.
The ladies who have chimed in saying, "wait, men DO love us!" were in REAL LIFE situations where there is time for low pressure interaction. On a dating site, that process simply doesn't happen.
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tabithacooks
With that said, on dating sites users must make a quick judgement before moving on to the next profile. They are going to go with what is "safe" and popular.
The ladies who have chimed in saying, "wait, men DO love us!" were in REAL LIFE situations where there is time for low pressure interaction. On a dating site, that process simply doesn't happen.
This I think is totally true... Online, guys are more or less "shopping" for a date. Skimming through profiles with an ideal of what they want most. In person, when they see someone attractive, they arent in a "shopping" mode, but more in a "ooh, I like that!" mode...
Another thing about online I have to say, many of the guys who did contact me, used the dreaded "Ive never been with a black woman before" line...very annoying!! Guys do think differently, and say things they never would when meeting someone face to face.
Besides, I think that there are better SD's to be found offline than online.
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Part of it has to do with how they were brought up. I was brought up in a very white neighborhood...we literally had like two black kids in my entire high school. I simply didn't have exposure to other races. Don't get me wrong--I wasn't a little white racist girl or anything like that. But when you have limited contact with other cultures, it becomes far easier to rely on stereotypes. Easier...not right.
College, stripping, and my current job have exposed me to far more races than I ever encountered during my entire childhood. Some white, older men never gain that kind of exposure though.
Also remember that it can be very easy to confirm stereotypes when you're working with a self-selecting population. Take stripping, for example. My experience is that 95% of black men who come into the club fit a very clear stereotype (I think everyone here knows what I'm talking about). So even if you know for a fact that educated, nice, drug-free black men exist, the fact is that if you don't come into contact with this population, then it becomes very difficult to get rid of that stereotype in your head. Same for older white men. In what situations do they encounter people of other races? And when they do encounter them, how likely is it that they're interacting with them in a way that defies stereotypes?
It's sad, and it isn't right, but it becomes obvious how this happens. :(
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Also keep in mind that this phenomenon is NOT restricted to race. Women with tattoos go through something very similar (I'm not directly comparing this to racial issues, but there are certainly similarities).
Do you think young blondes with obvious tattoos / piercings would be stereotyped similarly on SD sites?