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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
I think it depends on a number of factors. Most people tend to date within race. Then there are regional differences, class differences, and age differences. There is also among a lot of white men I know the idea that black women do NOT want white men.
That said my experience has been totally different. I am Black, I have long dread locks, and medium complexion. I'm almost 40. I can count on one hand the number of black men and women who have asked me out. My entire dating life is comprised of white men and asian or white women. When I was a pro-domme all of my clients were white. Even now on cam when I do cam to cam it's always a white guy. I have one known Af-Am customer.
I have asked Black guys I have known why I'm not date material to them. Frankly the answers I received were mind boggling, not to mention infuriating. The most common and irritating being that I have "white vibe" and I don't seem Black. Seriously the white vibe bit came from an Ivy League educated brother and that was the best he could do. *eyeroll* Apparently even my match.com profiles give a white vibe. So while my experience is anecdotal. I think it proves that attraction is a strange and varied thing.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
In my own experience, the look for the following.
1.The exotic vixen type
2.The natural. Natural hair dark brown skin.
3.The educated black woman with degrees and well cultured.
4. The passer you just do not know what she is.
5. The ghetto chick, (They never take her out in public really)
6. If the go after full figured women its for fetish reasons.
This is coming from a mixed chick. These have been my observation in the pass 3 years, Also talking to other women who are dancers,escorts,sugar babies.
I think we do have a better chance off-line if we go to art gallery openings, charity events, etc.
From looking at history white men have always desired us but sometimes it just behind closed doors only, Not all the time but some of the time
Now if you do some research you can see an era in history where in New Orleans Quadroon Balls where held just for this purpose. When the French fled Haiti they also Brought there mistresses with them. here are some facts to prove my theory.
Plaçage was a recognized extralegal system in which white French and Spanish and later Creole men entered into the equivalent of common-law marriages with women of African, Indian and white (European) Creole descent. The term comes from the French placer meaning "to place with". The women were not legally recognized as wives but were known as placées; their relationships were recognized among the free people of color as mariages de la main gauche or left-handed marriages. Many were often quarteronnes or quadroons, the offspring of a European and a mulatto, but plaçage did occur between whites and mulattoes and blacks. The system flourished throughout the French and Spanish colonial periods and apparently reached its zenith during the latter, between 1769 and 1803. It was not limited to Louisiana, but also flourished in the cities of Natchez and Biloxi, Mississippi; Mobile, Alabama; St. Augustine and Pensacola, Florida;[1] as well as Saint-Domingue (present-day Haiti). Plaçage, however, drew most of its fame, and notoriety, from its open application in New Orleans. Despite the prevalence of interracial encounters in the colony, not all Creole women of color were or became placées.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
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charlie61
Also keep in mind that this phenomenon is NOT restricted to race. Women with tattoos go through something very similar (I'm not directly comparing this to racial issues, but there are certainly similarities).
Do you think young blondes with obvious tattoos / piercings would be stereotyped similarly on SD sites?
Interesting point .... And I think you're right . Same like you don't see a rich old man with a goth chick on his arm ...... I guess we all gotta find our niche and slot in , rather than find a niche and squash in .
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
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tabithacooks
SD websites are major waste of time anyhow and you are better off meeting men at places where men congregate.
^she said it you obey.
Fuck what they like, anyway, we don't like them for their race, do we? We like their wallets.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
This applies to all women. Don't focus on men who don't want you. Whether it be for business or pleasure. Focus on the ones who want you. Don't waste your energy wondering why so & so doesn't like you. This kind of thinking doesn't help you. It's their lost. ;-)
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
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Vyanka
This applies to all women. Don't focus on men who don't want you. Whether it be for business or pleasure. Focus on the ones who want you. Don't waste your energy wondering why so & so doesn't like you. This kind of thinking doesn't help you. It's their lost. ;-)
This is the honest to goodness truth.
Just because one or two guys dont like you, doesnt make them a reflection of a race or class or what have you as a whole. They only speak for themselves so move on from them as a person, not them as a representative of people. And yes, who cares what someone who isnt interested in you think...understanding them isnt going to help in a relationship (of any sort) with someone who is interested.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
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vixenluv
No sweetie. I was the same size as you in my pics and i was cropped out from the neck up.
^^^I'm going to diverge from all of this race discussion to bring up this very important point^^^
Not showing your face/cropping off your head will DRASTICALLY reduce the interest in you. I think the fact that you had your head cropped off made more of a difference than your race.
IMO, all of the SD sites are a waste of time. Too much investment of time/energy for too little return. Most are looking for cheap/free escorts. Better to find a SD in the real world, as another poster suggested.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
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Originally Posted by
charlie61
Also keep in mind that this phenomenon is NOT restricted to race. Women with tattoos go through something very similar (I'm not directly comparing this to racial issues, but there are certainly similarities).
Do you think young blondes with obvious tattoos / piercings would be stereotyped similarly on SD sites?
Hee hee want me to make a dummy profile with my new wig?
OP, I dunno where you are sweetie but if you can, travel!!!!!!! You can meet some old farts IRL much easier. I handed out cards for my work today @ Starbucks and got 2 new customers. I waited and watched.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
I am an African American/black woman and I have NEVER dated an African American/black man. I am married now and my husband is Spanish/Latino. When I was single I attracted and dated American White men, European White men, Latinos, Asian men, and Middle Eastern men. I am very well educated. I carry myself with a great degree of class and sophistication. When I walk into a room all eyes are on me. Being with me is an experience. I have been told by men and women that they have never met anyone like me before. I do not try to be anyone else. I never have and I NEVER will. I believe that my uniqueness is what attracts men and women to me. My advice is to be yourself and you will attract people who are interested in what ONLY you have to offer. Remember that sex is a mental game. Master the art of the mind fuck and you will have anyone and everyone believing that you are the most desirable woman in the world.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
Amen to this post,
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EricaErotica
I am an African American/black woman and I have NEVER dated an African American/black man. I am married now and my husband is Spanish/Latino. When I was single I attracted and dated American White men, European White men, Latinos, Asian men, and Middle Eastern men. I am very well educated. I carry myself with a great degree of class and sophistication. When I walk into a room all eyes are on me. Being with me is an experience. I have been told by men and women that they have never met anyone like me before. I do not try to be anyone else. I never have and I NEVER will. I believe that my uniqueness is what attracts men and women to me. My advice is to be yourself and you will attract people who are interested in what ONLY you have to offer. Remember that sex is a mental game. Master the art of the mind fuck and you will have anyone and everyone believing that you are the most desirable woman in the world.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
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Vyanka
This applies to all women. Don't focus on men who don't want you. Whether it be for business or pleasure. Focus on the ones who want you. Don't waste your energy wondering why so & so doesn't like you. This kind of thinking doesn't help you. It's their lost. ;-)
Agreed. You can't force someone to like you. There's no magic potion for that. Be yourself and find your niche.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
I'm black and got more replies than I could handle when I tried those sugar sites. Also, I've had plenty of white loaded clients in brothel life in Nevada as well. In NV, I've been in brothel line ups where it was clear that the customer was choosing between me and a hot blonde. Often guys aren't all about race, but about a particular body style or something along those lines. Take it from someone who's been in line ups with mostly white women and watched the eyes of the guys as they choose. I've had girls say to me so often, "wow, I thought he only liked blonds", after I've received stacks from a house regular who they've never seen party with a black woman before. I don't say it to brag. I say it to show that assumptions are not the way to go. I know from experience.
Who chooses you depends more on how you market/present yourself and what you exude. I'm not light complected or anything like that. Also, I wear my hair natural (kinky-coily). I get hit on by white guys all the time, and have been since I was a young teenager. I've always joked that white men find me more attractive that black men seem to -- though maybe that 's just because there are more of them in the USA (where I live) than other men; though I would never limit myself to one "race" (nor one sex, actually -- yeah, pansexual here) when it comes to intimacy/romance.
Reason for edit: Clarification/Summary. I guess my point is that the OP statement/question is flawed; not based on a necessarily true statement.
BTW: race is in quotes because there is no biological evidence that it is real. Humans are of one race.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
Exactly! My experience has been similar.
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Originally Posted by
EricaErotica
I am an African American/black woman and I have NEVER dated an African American/black man. I am married now and my husband is Spanish/Latino. When I was single I attracted and dated American White men, European White men, Latinos, Asian men, and Middle Eastern men. I am very well educated. I carry myself with a great degree of class and sophistication. When I walk into a room all eyes are on me. Being with me is an experience. I have been told by men and women that they have never met anyone like me before. I do not try to be anyone else. I never have and I NEVER will. I believe that my uniqueness is what attracts men and women to me. My advice is to be yourself and you will attract people who are interested in what ONLY you have to offer. Remember that sex is a mental game. Master the art of the mind fuck and you will have anyone and everyone believing that you are the most desirable woman in the world.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
Sounds like a bunch of self-hatred is taking over this thread. Being NOT racist/prejudice is one thing.
All BLACKS (or people period, men and women) are not the same. And the fact that your own race isn't attracted to you says volumes. There are classless whites, blacks, Asians, Indians, etc. There are classy whites, blacks, Asians, Indians, etc. NOT A SINGLE ONE of your race finds some of you attractive???? Out of the VAST VARIETY?? Sounds like the problem is YOU.
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magicin1969
Sounds like a bunch of self-hatred is taking over this thread. Being NOT racist/prejudice is one thing.
All BLACKS (or people period, men and women) are not the same. And the fact that your own race isn't attracted to you says volumes. There are classless whites, blacks, Asians, Indians, etc. There are classy whites, blacks, Asians, Indians, etc. NOT A SINGLE ONE of your race finds some of you attractive???? Out of the VAST VARIETY?? Sounds like the problem is YOU.
I'm not sure if your post is addressing me or not, but to be clear I didn't say no one, or all. I said I can "count on one hand" an expression meaning the number is small. My reference to class differences was not class in the sense that one has or doesn't have it. Rather it was a reference to social class effecting the way people of ALL races intermingle. Not sure where the allegations of anger and self-hate are coming from.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
Yeah, Im confused where the angst comes from...
I think "demographics" is like my catch phrase lately, but really... it does play a role as well.
Im sure if I lived in Atlanta, I would have much more black males interested in me, if for no other reason than...there would be a lot more black males around to notice me. But I live where there are primarily latin americans, jews and europeans. So...the problem is me because I get more attention from the majority of guys, and not so much from the minority? I could even move 60 miles north and come across more black men. But I would rather stick forks in my eyes than live in Lauderdale. So...
The point of this thread anyway wasnt about black men, it was debunking the myth that wealthy white men have no interest in black women. From what many of us have said, that is not a true statement. And from many of us who debunked it said, it has nothing to do with a race of people, but a persons individual preference. Not sure how that comes across as self hatred but...okie dokie then.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
I mean I guess in OP's opinion it's totally cool to wonder gee why don't white men flock to me while ending a post with, "I hate white men" and the enraged smiley face. This kind of crap is ok but if a white man said "I hate black women" world war 3 would friggin erupt here! I don't condone racist comments at all, but have a little more tact when you rant and rave. Did you ever think perhaps you probject that attitude and THATs why white men steer clear? And please spare me the 'well them not liking me is why I hate them'. Reverse racism isn't ok either.
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HustlaBustla
I mean I guess in OP's opinion it's totally cool to wonder gee why don't white men flock to me while ending a post with, "I hate white men" and the enraged smiley face. This kind of crap is ok but if a white man said "I hate black women" world war 3 would friggin erupt here! I don't condone racist comments at all, but have a little more tact when you rant and rave. Did you ever think perhaps you probject that attitude and THATs why white men steer clear? And please spare me the 'well them not liking me is why I hate them'. Reverse racism isn't ok either.
Yeah, its not okay at all... I cant speak for anyone else but, I rarely erupt, unless its my ex-bf getting on my last exposed nerve :D Even though I didnt say it harshly, I do mean it...to not hold a persons actions against an entire race of people. You are spot on though, that when you carry an attitude towards people, the vibe alone is a major turn off.
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
Don't even get me started on ex boyfriends... Sounds like we may have dated the same d bag. Lol :)
Rereading my post I guess I sounded a bit harsh. It just really strikes a bitchy chord with me when people complain about others' stereotypes and then say a blatantly racist thing themselves! "I hate white men". No real way around that comment.. It's racist. Sorry. But I guess instead of me continuing to be debbi downer, I'll have to say that I agree with Vyanka's post about focusing on the positive, and focusing on clients who will appreciate YOU instead of trying to figure out the ones who don't. There's a pool of clients for every niche, so let's get em! :)
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
I didn't read the whole thread, but what I would say is that if you're looking for a sugar relationship (which are headaches in themselves trying to find a solid, good SD) you're going to have to go above and beyond what an 18 year old spinner (which to most guys I think reads as insanely malleable even if that's not necessarily true) does.
I would say, if you're into escorting, to put up different profiles-- do a high end exotic woman, and then try to attract those not looking for the "norm" by addressing fetishes like a domineering black woman, or play on the exotic stereotypes (hell, may as well make them work for you) of having a slightly taboo run-in with a woman of a different ethnicity.
What are your ads sounding like (if you're escorting and not SDing, which would be a whole profile)?
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
i also didn't read the entire thread...and i also can't say about a sugardaddy site because i've never been on one, but when i'm camming, older white guys love me, i've had them take me pvt and tell me how much they have always wanted to be with a black girl and how beautiful my skin color is, maybe it has nothing to do with color but body type, face, or anything else. btw, i'm a skinny african american brown chick with size 36B tits, and i guess i consider myself attractive
i'm not saying you're not attractive or anything because i've obviously never seen you, but, it doesn't matter, because guys know what they like and they have a certain type or fetish they go for. But i'm pretty sure you could probably play up your profile with different types of pictures of you in different position or different fetish type things, like for instance: i don't think that there's anything special about my feet but guys love them for some reason so i may take a picture of me kissing my feet or something like that. When you sell yourself like this, It helps with business, wide range of customers, and end the end more money! good luck!!
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
It's the way they were raised sometimes. They may not think their racist but if they were raised in a really racist family it might still be buried in their psyche. Childhood and family has a lot of influence on who we are, plus not everyone is attracted to every type of race. If u weren't attracted to Asian men for example, would that make u racist? Maybe....or maybe u just have ur type that u personally like, and u think nothing bad about Asians. Also why are older white men always portrayed as having money?? There's a lot of BROKE older white men, and rich men of other races out there....just sayin....
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
So you hate white men because you are yet to find one? That is rather over the top to write off a WHOLE race based on a few mishaps! You must be looking in the wrong places.
But I am keen to know. Do you just want a rich white Sugar Daddy because you are attracted to white guys or not.
For piece of mind there are famous OLDER white guys married/dating to black women: Robert De Niro, George Lucas and David Bowie, to name a few.
Watch this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M6oxp...eature=related
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Re: Why are so many wealthy white men not attracted to women of color?
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vixenluv
I hate white men :mad:
Perhaps this is the problem. LOL
Or perhaps you've developed an attitude/expectation that they aren't going to be interested and your lack of genuine interest is obvious in your messages to them.