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I've done this with men I met in the club. No big deal at all. Enjoy and make your money.
Look up dungeons in the area. Ask if they offer rentals for pro dommes, then get a tour. You will get so many ideas from looking at the equipment.
You can also try max fisch.com and see whats out there.
Try looking up erotic stories with bdsm themes.
Anne Rice's version of Sleeping Beauty is HOT!
Venus in furs
The Leatherman's handbook
The story of O
happy reading!
The safety buddy is a must - no matter how long you have seen a client it is always a good idea that someone Know where you are. I think the money is a little light but if he holds to the agreed upon 1or 2x per week then its ok. If he doesnt he should be paying more - in my opinion - at least 150.0 to 175.0 per hour.
Well considering I usually average $100/hour on my BEST nights stripping and I usually work 10-15 hours a week the money seems fine to me, especially since there are shopping trips included. It's basically $1080/weekly for ten hours.
Considering stripping involves nudity, sexual contact, and causes me emotional stress I think $100/hour is perfect. I'd always accept more, but I'm comfortable with the amount he's offered me. It's also "guaranteed money". I know that I will make $540 each time I see him, whereas stripping is hit or miss. For every night I've made $800 there's been a night I've made $200, and you're talking a 7-8 hour shift, not 5 hours.
Sorry sweety - wasnt trying to knock your deal - I was just giving you a comparison - if he were calling someone who does this on a regular basis he would probably be paying more - if he holds to his end of the bargain and calls multiple times a week and shopping then that rate seems reasonable - it doesnt matter as long as you are happy with what you are getting paid - I love these guys - if you get a real one they are very loyal - congrats
Does anyone have any tips about things I should do/say? Words of caution?
Read some of the suggested books / sites above. Most of these guys are kinda of individual in what they like. You can cheat a little and make him write you a fantasy letter each time . I instruct mine to be waiting at the door for me sitting up like a begging dog with the letter in their teeth. Since he has been doing this for awhile I'm sure he will share with you the scenarios he likes. Some but not all will get fixated on a paticular thing / scenario and want to do that over and over.
doggie suggestions
Prepare a meal or make him do it - even if just a sandwich - you eat at the table he has to eat from a bowl at your feet
only drink from his water bowl
dildo fetch - if he doesnt bring it back to you or isnt fast enough he has to use it on himself -
wear a collar while you are there
only pee outside
make him lick himself clean
he has to stay at your feet - not allowed on furniture
make him do tricks and reward him with kissing licking your feet
The options are limitless - just remember that you are in charge.
Try reading Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave training manual and SM 101 is must, both these books deal with the practicalities of BDSM. SM 101 is a basic how-to and it gives you very valuable safety advice. Also you might want go on fetlife.com and read some of the pro-domme groups.
PS If you have trouble finding Miss Abernathy's PM me. I have a digital copy.
Laurisa, COngrats. Please keep us updated and let us know how it goes.
attitude attitude attitude, If he wants to call you princess mistress goddess, etc Pick one and be that person. Make sure he always gets the title of YOUR CHOICE correct.
Maybe have him get some animal noses/headbands and if he's up to it you can get animal tail butt plugs too! This could be a time to get a free mani/pedi Have him do your fetts for you ;-) lotion massage nails etc
rolled up news papers, to smack him around with.
If he is a "slave" then slaves are there to serve. Have him wash and wax your car. Find things for him to do to benefit you!
tease him by shopping for fetishwear while you're using him as a foot stole. (if you like latex damask is awesome! and they have leather.)
another place for ideas is some of the phone sex/cam sites they have great descriptions of fantasies tons of femdom/humilation stuff. Fetlife might be another site to find fetish ideas too.
even if he's not into being hit with a crop having one in hand to point and slap on your new leather boots is a fun attention getter.
Maybe look up some hypnosis files on like i think warpmymind(or something really close to that) has a ton of free files. listen to a few then repeat them into a voice recorder and make your own just tweak it for him. probably won't do much too him by might turn him on. though that is sort of off the clock work for you.
If he's the right kind of lawyer haave him do your taxes or free work for you. (hahaha)
Short version just be creative.
I like everything you guys have said. Very helpful, I'll definitely post this weekend and let you know how it went.
I don't think I'd want to have him do my taxes because that requires too much personal information, and he's not that type of lawyer anyway.
He said Saturday we'd go get patent leather boots, and his only request is that I don't wear heavy eye make up (which I normally don't anyway) and that I paint my nails black or navy blue.
Also, I've heard of slaves turning dominant (topping from bottom). What are signs I should look out for and what should I do to correct this behavior? I do not want that to happen for personal and safety reasons.
Since I am almost licensed as an EMT I think that will help if we do wind up doing bondage or more serious BDSM because I know what to look for (skin signs, pupil reactions, heart rate, check blood pressure, etc) and how to treat an emergency situation.
Well, honestly, he should be expected to "top from the bottom". You never say this to him, but you are providing a service to him that he is paying for. It is his fantasy you are playing out, not yours. But of course, it all has to be done under the guise of you are doing what "you" want.
It's a little hard to explain, but another posters' idea of having him write down his fantasies, is an excellent way of finding out what he likes so that you may cater to it, while appearing to only cater to your own selfish desires.
Good luck and just have fun with it.
Remember that it is ok to laugh (both at him and with him) He is paying for entertainment, and that is what you are providing. The more fun you have with it, (always add your own *twists* to his scenarios) the more fun he will have as well. He will stop you and tell you if what you are doing isn't working. (at least in my experience they do)
Heading to his place now, will update when I get home. Wish me luck.
Yay! I can't wait to hear about it!!!
Everything went great, paid as agreed, no issues whatsoever. Everything he said he wanted was what happened, no nudity, etc.
Said he wants to do it again next Saturday.
Win.
Awesome!!
The most difficult thing (for me) is to consistently stay in character when I get closer (friends or whatever you want to call it) with the guys. I let my guard down and then don't seem as aloof and unobtainable somehow, so be careful of that.
Nice, Laurisa!!! Congrats!!! :D I'm jelly!
The guy seems to like to spend a lot of time talking.
He said I did great and that he would continue to 'teach' me how to dominate him the way he likes, which I'm glad. We had an open conversation about safety and a safe word, and I brought my EMS 'jump kit' in case he needed medical attention at any point. He said he isn't into edge play, whipping, restraints, or anything like that though so I doubt I'll need it.
I'm gald to hear he is working out for you
I am a pro domme. Since he is effectively training you the amount may be fair, but for an experienced domme it is way too little. Going rate in the DC area is 250-300 per hour.