When meeting people in the "real world"... Do you tell them your profession?
I don't usually have time to go out during the day or associate with people other than dancers, directors, and DJ's.
But summer is coming, and I am trying my best to get my butt out of bed and enjoy the sunlight. (Working until 4 am kind of limits this sort of thing)
I recently went out with a close friend, and was introduced to some of her co-workers.
She works at an office, where everyone seems to be very conservative. And I like to be
conservative myself, when outside of the club. I don't like to throw it out there right away that I am, in fact, a stripper.
And of course, after small talking with new people, the question "So, what do you do?" always comes up.
And I don't know what to say. I am not ashamed of dancing, but people DO make assumptions right off the batt when they meet you.
So, what do you say when asked this question?
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I just say I work in a bar, and if they ask doing what, I say bartender or I do promoting or whatever. I'm not ashamed of it at all, but people can be SO judgmental and I'd rather not deal with that from random people. If I got to know someone well and we became good friends, then I'd update them about what I *actually* do at the bar
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Miss_McKenna
I just say I work in a bar, and if they ask doing what, I say bartender or I do promoting or whatever. I'm not ashamed of it at all, but people can be SO judgmental and I'd rather not deal with that from random people. If I got to know someone well and we became good friends, then I'd update them about what I *actually* do at the bar
They really can! And it sucks :/ but that's a good one! I'll have to remember it! Thanks!
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I alternate between saying I'm looking for a job and saying that I'm a server at a bar. Yet another reason I prefer to have another part time job while dancing. Easy Peasy cover job solution for everyone!
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I say I do waitressing in a bar. I'm not ashamed either, in fact I enjoy this lovely job :)
But don't you hate it when they start going into detail about the bar industry, or start asking in depth, like about how much you earn? And then they'll be like, omg are they hiring new people? I want to work there too! I just always think.... Yeah... You.. Grinding that pole... Hahah... Hmm...
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Su Su
I say I do waitressing in a bar. I'm not ashamed either, in fact I enjoy this lovely job :)
But don't you hate it when they start going into detail about the bar industry, or start asking in depth, like about how much you earn? And then they'll be like, omg are they hiring new people? I want to work there too! I just always think.... Yeah... You.. Grinding that pole... Hahah... Hmm...
hahah! see yeah, I need to get my shit together when it comes to lying about my job haha :) Gotta have a legit cover story.
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I also say I waitess most of the time also, for the same reason the other girls said, don't want to deal with all the questions and so many people have a distorted view of the profession.
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I do tell them I am a dancer. I have noticed some people make a face and I could tell what they are assuming but if they are going to be that quick to judge someone they don't even know then those aren't the people I wanna hang out with anyways. They can stay out of my business and fuck off for all I care lol.
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In most circumstances im honest about what i do.I dont find that people are normally disaproving or judgemental but i do find that most people want to know EVERYTHING!!So I have to spend the next half hour answering questions.I dont really mond but it can get boring always talking about yourself...lol.I do prefer people to get to know me a little before they find out what i do.I dont really come off as a typical stripper so some people think im joking or something when i tell them.Generally most people are like "wow thats reallly cool".I guess im lucky i mix in fairly liberal circles
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I tell people I waitress at a bar, If I think theyll get too noisy I tell them Im a student, simple and easy.
I sometiems tell people out of jokes, random
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britchick85
In most circumstances im honest about what i do.I dont find that people are normally disaproving or judgemental but i do find that most people want to know EVERYTHING!!So I have to spend the next half hour answering questions.I dont really mond but it can get boring always talking about yourself...lol.I do prefer people to get to know me a little before they find out what i do.I dont really come off as a typical stripper so some people think im joking or something when i tell them.Generally most people are like "wow thats reallly cool".I guess im lucky i mix in fairly liberal circles
You do make a good point, people ask way too many questions and it gets annoying. I really really get tired of the question "how did I end up in Guam?" "Why Guam of all places?" and on and on. I loathe these questions after being asked about a million times by random people. I am not going into my whole story of how I ended up here so I make up something as a quick answer usually cause people can't get it through their heads why someone would want to movie across the world to strip so it just ends up bringing up more and more questions from these people, facepalm.
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Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Usually it depends on who I'm with at the time. I do have a part-time vanilla job, so for all anybody has to know, that's all I do. Usually when I'm out with my best friend, she can't help but bring up the fact that I'm a stripper (kinda annoying, but she's always been that way). When that happens, I just respond honestly and try to act like it's no big deal. Honestly, it's not even that I'm worried people will judge. I usually couldn't care less. It's just that I've noticed that a lot of people (men especially, go figure lol) get waaay too curious, and I don't like playing 20 or 30 or 40 questions all night long... When I just stripped and didn't have a vanilla job, I either said I worked as a night shift waitress or that I was between jobs.
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i do not tell men i do not know that i am a dancer. it has nothing to do with shame and everything to do with wanting to be left the fuck alone.
i am pretty open with women about dancing though, years ago, i mentioned to hairstylist being a dancer and she was so cold to me for the rest of the appointment that i have never gone back to a hair salon since.
masseuses, i tell i am a dancer and that's why i'm so damn sore, and they typically assume a different type of dancing, but what they assume is not my problem.
because i use dancing as a means to an end, i usually say what "else" i do, so the answer is usually "i'm an artist"
if i feel like being obnoxious or i'm around really conservative people who i think will be fun to make uncomfortable, i say "i am a sex worker".
but it all depends on my mood. "it's none of your fucking business" "i'm a dancer" "i move freebase" "i'm a derivatives trader"....these are all answers i've given within the last 12 months. whatever pops into my head. if you asked me right now, this instant, what i did for a livingg, i would tell you that i'm a candlemaker.
i think this is called habitual lying, but it's fun, and life was meant to be pleasant.
and if you do tell them you're a dancer and they say "what kind?" and you say, "THAT kind" and they are anything but respectful, you just saved yourself a shit ton of time. and time is the most valuable thing you have.
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Younger people I tell them exactly because it shows me what kind of a person they are. Some of them then automatically assume I'm super rich and will buy them stuff (wtf!!). I'd rather expose potential leeches than find out they're that kind of a person after I've developed a friendship with them. I've never seen anyone my age react negatively toward telling them I'm in the adult industry (camming and travel dance). It might just be my area though.
Older people like 35+ I just usually completely avoid the subject or lie because I don't want to deal with them assuming I'm a crazy slutty prostitute addicted to the cock playing russian roulette with AIDS... which sadly, tends to be exactly what they think. I don't care if they know, but I'd rather avoid the drama. Oh and I once told a 30-something guy who asked me and then he told everyone I made it up and was lying for attention LOL. I don't know if he really thought that or perhaps he wanted me to "prove" him otherwise or something, ewww. So there are always those types of crazies too.
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I never did, unless they wanted to hire me or pay me. It was nobody's biz.
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I am vague, bland and change the subject swiftly. I just say I work IN a bar/club, then ask what they do or whatever to change the subject.
I don't think I've been in many situations where I'm meeting friends of friends for this to arise. I don't mind telling people that are in my circles in some way- and it is good to see how they react. But largely it depends who it is and how I feel at that exact moment. If I don't feel right with them or can't be bothered with a load of follow up questions (pretty nosy anyway) I go with above.
If pushed for details I'll say the name of the bar (see if they know what kind of bar it is lol), any further I'd just say stripper cos I don't care enough to put effort into a cover story lol.
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I tend to vet who i am with as to what i say. Most of the time ill just say "i work in a club/in town/nights...." vague is key,
depending on which friends i am with and the situation it can go from being fairly hard to guess to pretty damn obvious what i/we do. For instance, going shopping with a couple of the girls from the club in the day time, fairly innocuous, we could work in any club, doing whatever, behind the bar, glass collector, cleaner. Meeting them before work for a chat and a glass of wine screams STRIPPEEEERRRSS to any passer-by: girls in scruffs, full hair, nails, tan and make up and "the bag". <--Men who approach at this time get ignored. Ladies get the "ill-smile-at-you-but-i-shall-not-converse-now-leave" look.
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god, i have so many jobs people think i do. a lot of my female friends have really incredible jobs (one works at langley) so i just say whatever lie feels most natural.
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I tell everyone I work in EMS now.
I do my clinicals (working in emergency dept and ambulance) so it is true I suppose, but I don't get paid yet because it's for school. I graduate May 3rd and then I'll be licensed and paid for my work.
The EMS explains the late night hours, long shifts, and fatigue.
It's great because no one can "show up" to say "hi/check in on me". If someone was like "oh my uncle got a call for the ambulance by xxx ambulance company in xxx city and you weren't there" it's easily explained away because there are multiple ambulances running at once. And patient confidentiality laws prevent me from discussing where I was/what I was doing on my shift.