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Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
So, I'm trying to start out, but I can't really take checks, mostly because I don't want the chance of my parents getting to them before me.
I live with them at the moment, and I might be able to cam and stuff, but I need to get paid somehow.
I'm thinking/planning on using payoneer, but I figure I'll need some kind of account to hold the money and preferably access it at times. If anyone wants to explain what all payoneer can do and how it does it, as well as giving advice on how to store said money, that'd be nice.
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Seriously?! Take the money from your first check, cash it and move out. Problem solved. You're a grown woman and if you're doing this work, you had better be able to own up to it. Having your own living space to work in and managing your own finances is a part of that responsibility. If you think hiding pay is a long-term solution, you have a lot of BS headed your way.
I'm sorry but cam girls, if you don't want your families knowing your business in the sex industry, STAY OUT of the industry or get a life of your own, outside of their realms and have some proper boundaries. If you're so ashamed of what you do, get a lil cafe job and work 40hrs a week, making minimum wage like everyone else who has to move in with their parents and get back on their feet. You're not entitled to this kind of financial lifestyle if you can't even maintain long enough to stay out of mommy an daddy's spare room. This is a REAL job.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
payoneer, get a po box and have mail shipped there, bank wire, just sit and wait at the door
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
The payoneer website might be a better bet for that kind of info - they have a great FAQ section.
Other than that - you may be able to hide cheques from your parents by getting payoneer, or a PO box. But do you really think that you can live at home and hide camming???? For one, they will probably wonder where you are suddenly getting all this money. You will have to explain why you suddenly need them to up their internet package. You will have to cam without sound, or try to find a way to explain to them why you are talking to yourself in your room all the time (not to mention the orgasm noise).
Fess up, or move out.
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OP make up a lie, say you got into customer service to cover why you're in your room talking all of the time, or you do affiliate marketing to cover why you're in your room all of the time. If you have a TV, turn that up while you work. Or turn up the stereo. Don't scream, moan or talk loud - as long as you have some decent walls in your house no one should hear you unless they are deliberately standing up against your door trying to listen.
Take Payoneer. Take GreenDot Moneypak cards if you're doing indy. Take FedEx payments, that way you know they come every Friday and you can sit out and wait for it. Or a PO Box is a good option.
Good luck.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
I don't think you should be concerned about it! Webcam companies don't blaster "cam girl" all over your check or mail.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
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Originally Posted by
vivianbear
Seriously?! Take the money from your first check, cash it and move out. Problem solved. You're a grown woman and if you're doing this work, you had better be able to own up to it. Having your own living space to work in and managing your own finances is a part of that responsibility. If you think hiding pay is a long-term solution, you have a lot of BS headed your way.
I'm sorry but cam girls, if you don't want your families knowing your business in the sex industry, STAY OUT of the industry or get a life of your own, outside of their realms and have some proper boundaries. If you're so ashamed of what you do, get a lil cafe job and work 40hrs a week, making minimum wage like everyone else who has to move in with their parents and get back on their feet. You're not entitled to this kind of financial lifestyle if you can't even maintain long enough to stay out of mommy an daddy's spare room. This is a REAL job.
I think you're being way too harsh.
You don't know the reasons why she's still living at home or why she has chosen to cam whilst still living at home, correct? Her living at home and / or keeping it from her parents doesn't in any way imply that she isn't taking this job seriously or doesn't plan on moving out.
Plenty of us camgirls don't want our parents to find out that we do this. Her parents wouldn't be the first to not take too kindly to their daughter being involved in sex work, and none of us know what the consequences could be of her disclosing her work information, but she is adult enough to make her own choices.
It's less about shame, more to do with protecting one's privacy; we don't have to disclose our work position to anyone; we're entitled to that.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
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Originally Posted by
Incantatious
I think you're being way too harsh.
You don't know the reasons why she's still living at home or why she has chosen to cam whilst still living at home, correct? Her living at home and / or keeping it from her parents doesn't in any way imply that she isn't taking this job seriously or doesn't plan on moving out.
Plenty of us camgirls don't want our parents to find out that we do this. Her parents wouldn't be the first to not take too kindly to their daughter being involved in sex work, and none of us know what the consequences could be of her disclosing her work information, but she is adult enough to make her own choices.
It's less about shame, more to do with protecting one's privacy; we don't have to disclose our work position to anyone; we're entitled to that.
Agreed.
OP doesn't have to give us a sob story. We don't need to know why she's where she's at.
Homegirl just asked how she could get her money. Tell her, damn. Haha. ;)
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
maybe sign up with daily pay, and get paid by alertpay checks, or use their bank transfer. the alertpay checks dont say anything about a camming website when you get them, they just say "alertpay" on them.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
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Originally Posted by
Marie Thorne
I'm thinking/planning on using payoneer, but I figure I'll need some kind of account to hold the money and preferably access it at times. If anyone wants to explain what all payoneer can do and how it does it, as well as giving advice on how to store said money, that'd be nice.
Money is stored at a bank in a bank account.
You can access it through your bank card.
Camsite sends $ to Payoneer, Payoneer deposits $ directly into your bank account.
If you don't already have a bank card/account, go to any bank and get them to set one up for you, you shouldn't need much more than a piece of ID.
If you do have a bank card/account BUT it is linked to your parents (meaning they can monitor your incoming funds) go to the bank and tell them you would like to open a seperate/private account. You will keep your same bankcard with this, you'll just have 2 accounts on it. OR - Go to an entirely different bank and open a brand new account there for your camming $, up to you.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
My only advice would be to sign up through payoneer, or if the site you work has direct deposit, even better. I was once in this same situation until my mother heard me and finally figured out what was going on....Long story short, she didn't kick me out but definitely prevented me from working. Which resulted in me moving out a week later...My advice would be to be very careful and save save save!!!
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Trust me, camming without sound sucks and you won't make as much. Right now it makes more sense for me to do this for side income (I have another, main income) for funsies, but I'd rather not have my roomate hear me moaning/dirty talking through the walls. But as a result I prob don't make nearly as much as I could.
On the other hand, this assumes your parents are home all the time. If you have long stretches of time to yourself at home, you can make all the noise you want. I would sign up with Daily Pay if I were you (check out the threads on here) and get the money into your bank account. Then you can move out once you have enough. There are lots of things you can say you're doing, either online type jobs, or leave in the evenings and say you got a job at a bar/restaurant/etc.
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Get a PO box or use direct deposit.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
Thanks everyone, you're all super helpful. Yeah, the reason I'm working on doing it at home at the moment is I don't really have the money to move out ATM, and I'd rather save up for a little bit working at night and when I can, you know? Once I have enough to feel a bit good I'll move out and go somewhere else interesting.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
I'm living with a roommate at the moment but I can cam whenever I want. Her room is not right next to mine! Best of luck to you and enjoy!
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Originally Posted by
Marie Thorne
Thanks everyone, you're all super helpful. Yeah, the reason I'm working on doing it at home at the moment is I don't really have the money to move out ATM, and I'd rather save up for a little bit working at night and when I can, you know? Once I have enough to feel a bit good I'll move out and go somewhere else interesting.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
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Originally Posted by
Marina Starr
I don't think you should be concerned about it! Webcam companies don't blaster "cam girl" all over your check or mail.
Streamate. Those morons put the site name on the goddamn envelope.
All it takes is google or a family member that's been on there (or one of their WLs) before.
It's how our landlords found out what I was doing. Really thin walls = me hearing one day:
"Mail for the girl downstairs. Looks like a cheque."
"Don't open the poor thing's mail!"
"I'm not opening it, but who's it from? It's not government."
*a few minutes later*
"Oh my goodness!"
"Maybe we should give the damn girl her mail."
I love how I went from "poor thing" to "damn girl" in the span of 5 minutes.
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^It's ridiculous that they (SM) do this. I mean, they should understand the need to be discrete. I wonder if we all emailed them en-mass if they would consider switching to a plain envelop.
ETA: This is actually one of the main reasons I switched to Daily Pay. I really don't want my landlords or mailman knowing what I do.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
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Originally Posted by
Decalyn
Streamate. Those morons put the site name on the goddamn envelope.
All it takes is google or a family member that's been on there (or one of their WLs) before.
It's how our landlords found out what I was doing. Really thin walls = me hearing one day:
"Mail for the girl downstairs. Looks like a cheque."
"Don't open the poor thing's mail!"
"I'm not opening it, but who's it from? It's not government."
*a few minutes later*
"Oh my goodness!"
"Maybe we should give the damn girl her mail."
I love how I went from "poor thing" to "damn girl" in the span of 5 minutes.
Damn, they're nosey!!! LMAOOOOO
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Originally Posted by
lolabunny
Damn, they're nosey!!! LMAOOOOO
Yeeeeah, it's an old newfie couple. Thank god we're leaving.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
This gives me the chuckles, LOL! People need to mind their own business! My roommate usually checks the mail. I'm sure she noticed Streamate on my mails but I really don't care! Fish's gotta swim and a bitch gotta eat :)
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Originally Posted by
Decalyn
Streamate. Those morons put the site name on the goddamn envelope.
All it takes is google or a family member that's been on there (or one of their WLs) before.
It's how our landlords found out what I was doing. Really thin walls = me hearing one day:
"Mail for the girl downstairs. Looks like a cheque."
"Don't open the poor thing's mail!"
"I'm not opening it, but who's it from? It's not government."
*a few minutes later*
"Oh my goodness!"
"Maybe we should give the damn girl her mail."
I love how I went from "poor thing" to "damn girl" in the span of 5 minutes.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
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Originally Posted by
Decalyn
Streamate. Those morons put the site name on the goddamn envelope.
All it takes is google or a family member that's been on there (or one of their WLs) before.
It's how our landlords found out what I was doing. Really thin walls = me hearing one day:
"Mail for the girl downstairs. Looks like a cheque."
"Don't open the poor thing's mail!"
"I'm not opening it, but who's it from? It's not government."
*a few minutes later*
"Oh my goodness!"
"Maybe we should give the damn girl her mail."
I love how I went from "poor thing" to "damn girl" in the span of 5 minutes.
Poor thing :(
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
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Originally Posted by
Incantatious
Plenty of us camgirls don't want our parents to find out that we do this. Her parents wouldn't be the first to not take too kindly to their daughter being involved in sex work, and none of us know what the consequences could be of her disclosing her work information, but she is adult enough to make her own choices.
It's less about shame, more to do with protecting one's privacy; we don't have to disclose our work position to anyone; we're entitled to that.
I'm so sick of seeing so many "live with my 'rents/hiding camming/too lazy to work & save" threads! Seriously, some chicks just need to put their big-girl panties on and face facts. If you want to live your own life on your own terms, grow up and get out from under your parent's roof. I do have sympathy for those who have to be discreet, when dealing with invasive landlords (someone opened a camgirl's mail?!) or the like. That's not fair and ultimately, it sounds illegal, as well. We shouldn't have to endure undue harassment, like that, in our own homes.
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Originally Posted by
lolabunny
I was once in this same situation until my mother heard me and finally figured out what was going on....Long story short, she didn't kick me out but definitely prevented me from working. Which resulted in me moving out a week later...My advice would be to be very careful and save save save!!!
This. Its an inevitability that you will be caught. If your 'rents do decide to kick/force you out, its going to be uncomfortable and you may be under-prepared. Anticipate this happening and save your very first check for moving costs. Look now for affordable places to go, that are secure for camming.
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Re: Gettin Paid : How(Hiding from Parents at home)
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Originally Posted by
vivianbear
I'm so sick of seeing so many "live with my 'rents/hiding camming/too lazy to work & save" threads!
Why is choosing to live with one's parents immediately perceived as a sign that a chica is lazy or wasteful with $$$?
I moved out when I was 17 cuz I absolutely detested living in the suburbs, but if my parents had lived in an area I actually enjoyed, I probably woulda stuck around for a few more years. I actually liked living with my parents, they're fun people and they never infringed upon my choices. That said, if I was a young twenty-something camming from my parent's home I can understand why that would be a really awkward situation for all parties involved. Keeping camming private doesn't necessarily translate into shame.
Further, some chicas here live at home because they live in an expensive city, or because in living at home they have access to child care that would be hella expensive if they were paying a stranger. Some chicas here are fairly new to camming, and (wisely, IMO) wish to discover the amount of $$$$ they can consistently expect to make before renting an apartment and becoming totally independent.
Finally, some chicas may choose to start camming while still living in their parent's home because they don't feel 100% ready to fly totally solo. Who am I (or anyone else) to judge that? My best friend was brought up in the foster system, and I sure as hell wish he hadn't been pushed out the door at age 18 with no supports of any kind.
I definitely agree with the idea that each one of us should save as much $$$$ as we can, regardless of whom we live with, and that since we're in this business, that we should each strive to maximize our earnings as much as we can. I'm a little lost on why either directly correlates to living arrangements, but I try not to judge the actions of others based solely upon my own lived experience.
peace and $$$$
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There's no need to be harsh. It's not like she posted a thread saying "I'm thinking about camming, so tell me what I gotta do!" (THOSE are the threads I'm tired of seeing). LOL.
And you don't need to tell people all your camming business, by the way. Say little about it, and maybe sugarcoat it, if you can. Don't come right out and say "I fuck my pussy on the internet for horny guys." LOL. We all know how judgemental people (especially women) can be.
Plus, I look at it like this...you tell guys that you're a cam girl, and they're like "Ooh, what's the name of the site? I wanna see!" and they won't shut up about it until you tell them the name of the site. So now you've got some dude who knows you IN REAL LIFE visiting your public chat, and you better pray he doesn't accidentally call you by your real name (and reveal other info about you) in your crowded chat room.
You tell women that you're a cam girl, and they're probably like "Oh...wow...how can you do that? Do you parents know?" *roll eyes* And the minute you get into an argument with someone, they'll probably be like "Well at least I'm not some whore who gets naked for strange men on the internet!" LMAO.