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Are you honest about being single/in relationship, kids/no kids?
Ive met cam girls that are honest about being in a relationship and having kids, and Ive met some that pretend they dont when they do. For those of you that are in a relationship or have kids, do you tell the viewers that? And if you tell the truth about having children or a bf do you think it affects your earning? When I was camming before I was honest about having a bf and a child, and sometimes Id get guys that didnt like that at all, some were even a bit rude saying camming is no place for a mother etc. Now its been getting close to a year since I have been on, and Im just getting all set up to start again, now this has me wondering if I should avoid those details.
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Try to figure out what they wanna hear. I have a daughter but I have never said I do on cam before, even if they ask.
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I don't have kids, but I am ALWAYS honest about being in a relationship.
I used to pretend to be single when I was dancing, but I think that the guys were a little less...obsessive..about meeting in real life. The guys I deal with on cam are so insistent about it - telling them that I have a bf does tend to calm that down a little bit. Although most of them just start asking about threesomes....
I also tell them because it makes my SO happier - he is always a little concerned about the really obsessive regulars actually coming after me, or getting scary with thinking that they are able to actually meet me or be with me. He likes knowing that I am being honest about being with someone.
And last, but not least, we are getting married in the next year or two, and I want wedding presents!! LOL!! Any excuse to get guys to buy me stuff!
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I usually say I'm in a relationship but if they ask questions more personal than that, I just laugh at them and say "does it matter?"
Too many inquiries annoy me.
Where do you live? Canada
What part? West Coast
Which city? refuse to answer..lol..I agree with Hayden..personal info is none of their business. It's a sex site so if they want to get to know someone I'll direct them to eharmony ;)
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I have mentioned in free chat that I have kids, but only because a lot of my regulars that spend time in my room every night already know I have kids from when I was doing my website, since that's the reason I quit shooting photos. I only talk about it now if someone asks, I'll say yah I have kids. Most of the time I will be honest about it because I like the "shock" of "WOW you have 3 kids?! WOW you had twins?!" :) And sometimes it really helps me to play the "single mother" card. ;)
In free chat if someone asks if I'm single, I'll say "do you want me to be" then they usually say "yes" and I'll say "ok, i'm single". In pvt chat I try to get a feel for the guy before answering either way. I don't feel like it effects my earnings in general to be honest about being married with kids. I do think it would effect my earnings if I was that honest with some of my whales who would love to meet me for real some day.
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I have a gf so they usually like hearing about my relationship, the pervs. I think you have to gauge what you're comfortable telling them.
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Originally Posted by
Holly_xoxo
I usually say I'm in a relationship but if they ask questions more personal than that, I just laugh at them and say "does it matter?"
Too many inquiries annoy me.
Where do you live? Canada
What part? West Coast
Which city? refuse to answer..lol..I agree with Hayden..personal info is none of their business. It's a sex site so if they want to get to know someone I'll direct them to eharmony ;)
Omg are you ME??? LOL!
I love the whole "pinpoint where you live" thing.....Where? "canada". Where? "west coast" Where? 'Oh, I'm lucky, I'm right on the coast" Where? "I don't give out my address!LOL"
Then they always say where THEY are, as though if they happen to be in the same general area, you will suddenly get excited and start talking about your favorite coffee shops...."OMG YOU live in Richmond? I live there tooo!!! OOoooh....now I can meet with you and suck your dick for free, seeing as you are SO CLOSE!!"
(Not to potential stalkers - I do NOT live in Richmond. I'm using it because it is an actual example from last week)
Threadjack done!
Back to the original point...I find that if guys are getting toooooo interested in my "man-beast" (the name I use for him in my professional life - its a cute little nickname that one of my best friends gave him....he calls everyone "beasts", and when we started dating, he started calling him the "man-beast"...aw!), I will just re-direct..usually to sex.
e.g. "do you have a bf?" Yup, I do. "So how does he feel about this/does he know about this/other moronic questions" "Oh he knows that I am always horny...we even bring home friends to "play" with....we were fucking my gorgeous girlfriend last weekend...I'll tell you all about it in pvt!"
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When guys ask I just straight up say 'I don't say either way, I don't really think it's relevant'. It doesn't seem to stop guys from getting privates, the ones who get all pissy about it are the freeloader types anyway. I've even had a couple of guys take me pvt for it coz they admire my sense of character :D
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lol... yeah I never gave out too much info, but if ppl asked if I had a child I always said yes, and if they asked more I always said this wasnt the place to talk about children. Never gave out my city or anything. Guess I'll rewrite my profile and take out anything too personal. I would rather leave my child out of it and seperate from my camming. The bf I will include though, since we occasionally work together, that might work in my advantage to get men from my solo to watching me when I do couples shows too. And like you guys said it gives the guys the possessive guys a reason to back off.
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Yeah, I tell them that I'm single with a kid (which is true).
Lately I'm getting a lot of guys asking "Do you escort?" and when I tell them no, they either say "That's a shame" and then leave abruptly, or they just leave without saying anything else. Dude, you're in the WRONG place if all you're looking for is some real-life pussy. *rolls eyes*
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I tell them that I am married but that I am allowed to "play" online with other guys/girls. So far, I haven't had any issues with that answer. I don't have any kids but if I did, I would more than likely not disclose that :)
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I am honest about being technically single but having a guy I'm totally into and wanna be with.
I play the sweetheart role, girl-next-door, wanting FRIENDS on the site.
never lead anyone to think i'd be anything more, and it works for me
but it's up to you what you wanna fib on and not, follow what works best for your cam persona
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i'm honest about having multiple partners and no kids. if i had kids, i wouldn't tell them. i often get asked if i want a 'third boyfriend' and i sort of laugh it off and say they have to take it up with the two i already have. it's deflected some of the 'meeting in real life' questions. i'm so sick and tired of being pressured to meet offline that i don't try to lead guys on...if they say something like "you should come visit me!" i say "that would be fun," but if they say "can we meet offline" or "will you come visit me" or "do you escort" or "can we fuck for real," i say no.
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I tell the truth to a point.
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I do tell them i am in a relationship usually my boyfriend is in the same room as me when i cam. Now as far as telling them i have kids. HELL NO. for all we know 90 percent of these men can be predators trying to find out if u have kids. This is dangerous. Even if they can see my visible stretch marks, my milf body. i would never admit to that. My childrens safety comes before any stupid internet chat.
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Its none of their bizness but I do say I have no bf which is true anyway. Some don't believe me when I say so though.
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Originally Posted by
CurvySweet
Its none of their bizness but I do say I have no bf which is true anyway. Some don't believe me when I say so though.
Oh I used to HATE those guys who would argue it if I said I was single (when I was...). All that "why would you be single? No, tell the truth, you have a bf, blah blah blah". So frustrating - some guys are impossible to please!
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When people ask me if I am single, I tell them that I am 'not into conventional relationships.'
This usually cools their jets because in my experience the people who ask me I was single were looking for something monogamous -- after I answered them they never asked any follow up questions.
I never mislead any of my customers into believing that I might date them someday. To me that is just dangerous territory I rather not deal with the consequences of.
I always tell people where I live, because I lie about where I live. I have found that majority of guys need this information to help with 'the girlfriend experience' so that they 'know something about me' and it makes me seem more real to them.
I am pretty sure that if I asked my customers for 'the truth' about their current financial situation and for them to show me their bank balance they would be pretty insulted and offended, so to me I don't owe any of my customers 'the truth' about who I am as a person.
I used to tell the truth all the time when I started camming and now that I have hindsight I am kicking myself over it.
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I'm honest. I'm single but involved (lol right?) and I have 2 kids. I thought about lying about having kids but you can take one look at me without a shirt and KNOW I've been pregnant. It's easier than concocting some tale about adoption <.< then answering their dumb questions like "why?"
plus it helps my regulars understand why now and then I mute the cam, say brb, and come back 15 minutes later...I have 2 kids under the age of 2. & they're usually really kool with it because they know I'm not ignoring them I just have little people that need me more at the moment.
I never give out info like their names, exact ages, etc. at the most it's "I have a one year old son and a daughter under 1" usually, no one cares to know more than that.
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My relationship situation is so complicated right now for a number of reasons, when asked I've said I'm in open relationship.
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Originally Posted by
TheBrownFox
Yeah, I tell them that I'm single with a kid (which is true).
Lately I'm getting a lot of guys asking "Do you escort?" and when I tell them no, they either say "That's a shame" and then leave abruptly, or they just leave without saying anything else. Dude, you're in the WRONG place if all you're looking for is some real-life pussy. *rolls eyes*
I actually heard a chick one time say straight up "Look me up on backpage. *wink wink*"
eta: I'm honest because right now I'm basically what they want: single, young party girl. I let them know my state because my state is pretty cool in their eyes, but that's about it. I lie about the city every other day, if I even feel like giving them a city. I'm even going to start being honest about my age because I feel like my previous persona age is too young even though it's by a couple of years.
At one time I did want to make up that I had a boyfriend because I was thinking "Hey, they might like the idea of me 'cheating' on my boyfriend."
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Lately I think I should be honest, cause since I started I don't remember where and what did I lie and to whom. lol
I didn't come up with some life story in time
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One time I left my wedding band while I was online, and then the guy was "oh bb, how bad I wanted a naughty housewife like you". So, I didn't even had the chance to lie.