I want to strip but husband HATES the idea...but he lets me cam??
Re: I want to strip but husband HATES the idea...but he lets me cam??
Stripping can be very hit or miss. You can walk out the club owing your house fee, make just enough to get by, make $100 every hour, or make no money for your entire shift until the last hour. It also greatly depends on your city, the club, your hustle, etc., etc. If you're working in a busy club or one with expensive dances/VIP rooms, I think $100/hour is doable. I've generally only worked in clubs with $20 dances and while I've certainly had shifts where my average was $100+/hour, I'd say I usually made more like $70-80/hour. However, again, it really really varies and there is no way of predicting how much you'll make. Similarly to camming!
Honestly, you cannot "convince" someone to be okay with you working as a stripper. Some men can handle it and others can't. Some may say they're okay with it but deep down they aren't, and those issues will eventually come to the surface. At some point, every stripper/wanna-be stripper has to decide what's more important: stripping or a relationship. By all means, sit your husband down and rationally explain why stripping would be good for you (although I warn you that many clubs allow you to set your own schedule, so I'm not sure if you'll find the structure you're looking for in the club) and your family. Offer to take him to the club you're looking to try out so he can see firsthand what sort of environment you'd be working in and what you'd be doing. He may change his mind, he may not.
Fact of the matter is, you have a family together, and that brings a whole new level of compromise to decision-making. I do think he needs to get off his ass and start contributing and I hope he'll be able to support you and your stripping, but when it comes down to it, what's more important to you? Like, are you struggling paying all the bills with just your camming income? Does he know that? Perhaps if you laid out your financial situation for him, point blank, he'd either shape up or accept your desire to strip. FWIW, I think it's more important to get him to get a fucking job already than to get him to let you strip so you can keep supporting his lazy ass.
Re: I want to strip but husband HATES the idea...but he lets me cam??
Thank you so much, that was really helpful! He does need a job, but for two kids a sitter it would be the same price as what he'd make. He does watch the kids while I work atleast. Wish he could be making 20+/hr but he didn't finish college. At the same time he could be creative...I've made decent money ($50+/hr) facepainting, balloon twisting, and random jobs like selling on etsy/ebay, etc. The reason I'm considering stripping is because I have to buy a new car (ours just broke down), our lease is over next month and I want a nice big house, we need a honeymoon (finally), I need to pay for a lawyer, I have alot of debt for my age, and I want to start school soon.
Maybe I overestimated how much the "average" stripper made and should just work more hours camming...I'm putting in a pathetic amount since having our baby. Arg...
Re: I want to strip but husband HATES the idea...but he lets me cam??
youre a grown ass woman with two kids, three if you include the husband- who pays for everything. he does nothing at all and you said yourself, he is lazy and not even looking- he has ZERO right to tell you where you can and cant work. about what he THINKS goes on in the club- YOU know what goes on, only you know youre not crossing the line.
and like shanna said, compromise. you want to increase the household earnings so you turn to dancing. if he disagrees, he should get out and get a job- any job- so he can match that growth income you are looking for. maybe you guys can even have an arrangement where you watch the kids during the day while he works and he watches the kids at night while you work or vice versa- so you dont have to pay for a babysitter. then even have a family day or something when both of you are off from work.
i understand that some men are uncomfortable with their wives in a strip club working but hell- he should DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
you two are suppose to be in a partnership. is he at least cooking and cleaning the house and taking care of the kids?? what is contributing besides his sperm? lazy person with a wife and kids? makes no sense to me. what kind of example is he for your children? love does NOT conquer all!
you have a life to lead, bills to pay, dreams to follow- and he is not helping you out! unfair.
Re: I want to strip but husband HATES the idea...but he lets me cam??
dump him and run your own life. Seriously, you're hot, young, and ambitious. Why the fuck are you enabling him and allowing him to dictate how you live your life???
Re: I want to strip but husband HATES the idea...but he lets me cam??
I work with some moms and (not saying this is the norm) but a) they are so tired from being a mom and a dancer b) they usually have to leave early because they might have to wake up the next morning with the kids - usually staying till the very end is the best way to get $1K nights.
I don't know much about camming but if I were a mom and I could cam and make $50 consistently from home Id rather that than leaving my house to be faced with alcohol, possibly drugs, grabby hands, and all the other shitty stuff in the club. Id cam.
Im not by any means dissing moms who dance... just thinking if you have an option to make $50/hour not in the club... most would take it. Heck Im not a mom and even I would consider it.
Re: I want to strip but husband HATES the idea...but he lets me cam??
I havent worked since having kids, but my friends always just worked opposite shifts to their hubby, to avoid babysitters. (ie he worked weekdays, she'd work thurs/fri/sat nights)
They always just worked those busy shifts, and slept all sunday I guess!