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some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around.
have any of you ladies had to deal with this and how did you deal with it. did you ignore them, call them out, laugh about it? im kind of doing a combination of all three. the thing is ive always been open with what i do for a living but i never give any details. even when i was a striper i never hid it. i dont believe in shaming someone for what they do for a living. the fact that these stuck up childish late 20-early 30 somethings think its so funny to pass around. they all spend way too much time at the bar, and i recently had a falling out with one of them which i think started this shit storm.
how do i deal with this. its really upsetting to me, but i dont want them to see that.i thought some of these people were my friend thats the most hurtful part.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
You gotta know that telling people what you do comes with these consequences. Most find sex related jobs dirty, slutty, and once they hear that you're in that line of work, they'll immediatly think narrow minded things about you.
I'm not ashamed of what I do, but I know people talk, so I try to keep it on the low
As for your so called friends, you've already found out if they really are your friends. Ditch them, your reactions will just fuel their shit talk.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
If you're close with them - like, if you actually spend time hanging out and things like that - then maybe just talk to them about it? Kinda call them out on it but in a way where you're focused on them? Like using "you" statements. "Why did you do that?" "What do you find so offensive about my job?" etc.
ORR if it's someone you know but aren't close with, like friends of friends or something, throw a "I don't care what you think about me, I don't think about you at all" at them. (seriously, one of my favourite quotes; it's so useful!)
So sorry that this is happening to you. If it happened to me I'd probably do a video log on my site (and talk about it and link to it on twitter) about these girls and then go on about how much I looooove my job, and my fans, and oooh look at the cute Guess purse one fan just bought me, and omg thanks so-and-so for paying my rent last month, you're the best! blahblahblah. I'd rub it in their faces. CUZ MY JOB IS AWESOME AND PETTY BITCHES HAVE SHITTY LIVES. ;)
That's just me though. If people are going to follow me around the internet when they know I don't want them to, I'm going to make damn sure they regret it and feel like a fuckup with their life.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
Risk that comes with the territory. There's a reason we get paid the amount that we do.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
i know i dont care if my friends find out where but this is a little clique of about 10 people hate me for no reason other then they are stuck up assholes and its sad becuase they are int heir late 20s early 30s. i wish this shit didnt hurt me but it does. im sensitive.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
That's just horrible and disgusting! People make me sick. I am so sorry you have to endure that but please remember that something can only affect you as much as you allow it. YOU get to decide of much of it can affect you! My attitude is, no
secrets, no shame!
Don't let jerks make you feel ashame!
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
People who arent happy with their lives are the ones that talk shit about other people. Gets them all excited to sit and gossip about you because they have nothing going on in their life that is worth talking about. Im sorry about them doing this to you (extremely childish) but I believe what goes around comes around and these people will get bitten in the ass at some point. Dont let it get you down for too long...they arent worth it
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
I may have missed this - but what are they doing?
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
I'd like to know exactly what you mean by "passing it around"? Whatever it is, its clear that it is upsetting you, and that sucks! It's horrible to feel picked on, no matter how old you are...
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
Tell them thank you for the free publicity and that ever since they started passing around your links, you are making even more money! (even if it's a lie) lol.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
I guarantee that more than one of them has already submitted HER OWN application to whatever site it is that she feels you're a slut for working on. ;-)
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
well one person found it and their sharing my twitter with all the others, which links to everything im associated with online. my blogs my sites my pics you know. ive always made it a point to never post anything too hardcore just tits and ass really, no hardcore pics for public viewing. but now im worried that one of them might pay for a cam show and record it and pass it around. i have no idea if they will ever do this but its my biggest fear. im a sensitive girl, people hurt my feelings easily despite what cover i put on. most people think of me as intimiadating and unapproachable but im really sensitive. it seems the longer ive been in the business the worse its gotten. you would think the opposite.
i havent been going to the bar that they all hang out lately, they dont really see me much and vice versa, but still. i just had to delete a bunch of them off my facebook. one of my guy friends on facebook said hes following me on tumbr now and i asked him how he found it, and he wouldnt tell me, i know one of our mutual friends who doesnt like me gave it to him. i want to delete him for being so shitty as to not tell me who told him where i was, its that whole bros before hoes mentality.
these people make me sick. they are elitist rich kid punk rockers who arent punk at all having all cam from money, at least most of them. now every time i do a show or log on i get worried if they ar going ti be there watching me in free chat (has anyone else notices streamates state blocking isnt working lately?)
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
If they are just passing it amongst themselves, I wouldn't worry. I know that that is really hard advice to follow, but why should it matter what a group of people (who you don't like anyway) are looking at? If they aren't threatening you, or threatening to "out" you (which would be impossible anyway, as you have said that you are always upfront about what you do), who cares?
And if they are just seeing you at your HOTTEST, doing what you do best, well, let 'em watch! Personally, I would much rather my worst enemy watched me on cam, where I look great and happy, than see me slumping to the grocery store in sweats and a hangover!
You talk like they are saying nasty things directly to you, and if that is the case, don't talk to them. Block them from twitter, block them from facebook. You don't need that in your life.
And even if they came in and PAID for a show, and recorded it, then you know what? THEY JUST PAID YOU!!! And should they pass it around, you get to slap them with a court order. Oopsie, I'm gonna sue you out of daddy's money now!! Shouldn't have illegally filmed and distributed my video...
But in all honesty, I'm guessing that they will probably pass it around, make a few snide remarks (while thinking to themselves, DAYUM - look how hot she looks! I wish I had the confidence to do that) and then get bored and move on.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
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crispy
well one person found it and their sharing my twitter with all the others, which links to everything im associated with online. my blogs my sites my pics you know. ive always made it a point to never post anything too hardcore just tits and ass really, no hardcore pics for public viewing. but now im worried that one of them might pay for a cam show and record it and pass it around. i have no idea if they will ever do this but its my biggest fear. im a sensitive girl, people hurt my feelings easily despite what cover i put on. most people think of me as intimiadating and unapproachable but im really sensitive. it seems the longer ive been in the business the worse its gotten. you would think the opposite.
i havent been going to the bar that they all hang out lately, they dont really see me much and vice versa, but still. i just had to delete a bunch of them off my facebook. one of my guy friends on facebook said hes following me on tumbr now and i asked him how he found it, and he wouldnt tell me, i know one of our mutual friends who doesnt like me gave it to him. i want to delete him for being so shitty as to not tell me who told him where i was, its that whole bros before hoes mentality.
these people make me sick. they are elitist rich kid punk rockers who arent punk at all having all cam from money, at least most of them. now every time i do a show or log on i get worried if they ar going ti be there watching me in free chat (has anyone else notices streamates state blocking isnt working lately?)
I'm verrrry new. So new I smell of fresh meat. But I have feared this SAME situation before actually making the plunge. Even though, yes, I fear my "local haters" will discover and exploit me, I have decided that it's just a risk this type of job entails. Im willing to take that risk, therefore if that ever happens to me, I am prepared with my "speech" about how I am not ashamed, this is me, this is my JOB and I enjoy what I do, etc etc.
Point is, if YOU are comfortable within yourself and brush this shit off your shoulders, that will piss off your haters and they will realized "damn.. what's the point of trying to humiliate her if she enjoys her job?" Because that's exactly what they are trying to do. Dont let them win. <3 <3 Chin up, ma!
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
Why don't you block the city or state you live in? I know streamate blocks by region if you choose that option
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
i did but it seems like the location blocking isnt working, at least on cammodels side. maybe its a glitch on my end i might have to contact support. but i can see my own profile and feed when im on on cammodels. i havent directly checked streamate ill do that now.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
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crispy
i did but it seems like the location blocking isnt working, at least on cammodels side. maybe its a glitch on my end i might have to contact support. but i can see my own profile and feed when im on on cammodels. i havent directly checked streamate ill do that now.
Aye it's not a glitch, blocking doesn't work with your cammodels site nor with the whitelabels(if I remember correctly as for the whitelabels). It does work on streamate itself thou, but not with the rest.
I have a friend there, I could not get around her country blocking with hide my ip or online proxys either, but I can check her feed on the cammodels link anytime whitout any tricks..
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
fuck and i promote that all the time for hope that i get some referral percents. sigh. well i guess im screwed no sense in not pormoting it now that they know it.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
I have no twitter anymore, no facebook, no myspace, no yahoo pages, no nothing. just the sites....
Hoping that someone signs up from my link thats linked here and there and the other place is not worth the aggravation.
$1000 extra a mo is not worth the aggravation ( for me).
thats the way I feel about it
sorry it happened to you...
People who have their lifes together, who are busy with their own carriers, family, kids, .... life... school..
do not have the time to worry and spread shit about what this and that person does.
So obviously whoever is doing this to u has no life.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
do you feel as if you lost business this way? i do pretty decent on indie, but ill admit, twitter doesnt seem to do much in the way of getting paying clientel...all i have is a blog a tumblr a twitter and my sites.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
just shows you that they arent true friends and you`re better off without them, they just jealous bitches. If your worried they may record you, watermark the screen. Don`t ever be ashamed of what you do for a living. These "friends" probably go out, get drunk and flash their tits and ass in public places for free every weekend , as well as shag any desperate Tom, Dick or Harry left propping the bar up. At least we get paid for it, now whose the more sensible one!!!!
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
they are actually all guys and were never really my friends just bar aquaintences.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
crispy, no , I dont feel Im loosing clientele this way... I might but I dont feel it.
these sites are taking 50-70% of the money WE bring in for them so the way I feel about it is let them do the advertising.
All we/I gotta do is to try our best to convert them...
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
good point to an extent but i really count on my indie income. i guess i can convert the people on SM, honestly i wish i knew how much of my business has come from twitter, i dont think that much. i wish there was a way to find out it seems that most people become clients then follow me.
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Re: some locals that dislike me found my online cam persona and are passing it around
How they feel about you is none of your concern..you pay your bills!!