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No one can tell you what to here hon. You need to think of what's best for you.
If you have an abortion, do you have a strong support group to help you cope?
If you keep it, how will you support the baby and yourself? How will you work/go to school? Who will watch the baby while you're doing those things? Really think about that stuff.
What about adoption; is that an option?
I don't mean to push you in any particular direction, I just want to point out different options and things to consider. I know what I would do in this situation, but I know I am not meant to be a mother. I've had friends who have had abortions, and others who have kept their kids, and both can be very hard.
I think you should not have the baby because your post summarized is pretty much "I'm not ready to have a baby." You said yourself, that you want to finish school and more. Plus, you won't be getting any support from your boyfriend. He said he is not ready, and you're undecided. Plus I personally don't think it is fair to him if you have the baby against his own will and then try to pin him down for child support. Some may disagree with me but I think it's unfair when women do that to men.
I believe in taking care of yourself first so in the future when you have a baby, you have something to offer your child. There are a lot of people with children trying to make ends meet, trying to juggle college and parenthood at the same time- I don't know from personal experience but I know it's not easy. Plus the cost of babysitters- etc your parents live too far for that kind of support and your "boyfriend" won't even be in the picture. You have a choice so make that choice while you still can before it's too late.
I may sound selfish to some but it's the truth. I think it's even more selfish to have a baby you're not ready for, therefore the baby doesn't have the quality life it deserves. I'm not telling you that the right choice is to have an abortion, I'm only saying this because it sounds like you don't want to and it sounds like you're thinking ahead. You have a whole life ahead of you to make more babies when you're ready.
I'm not judging young mothers either, because some young ones were ready and are great moms but again, you sound like you want to finish school first.
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