First Private Party. Nervous as f*ck. HELP!
i know these questions are probably in a thread somewhere but i cant find it and my eyes hurt!
ok so... i have the opportunity to do a private party for a close friend this Saturday. his friend hosts it in a house and my boy and his other friend does security. its a weekly thing (kinda like a club but just in a big house) and im really nervous. ive seen the environment itself its a spacious, comfortable and very clean (the guys r neat freaks). but ive heard some stories..
bad enough that rape scene in the Playas club movie has scarred me for LIFE.:scared:. but even worse since now i want to dance , i know anything can happen. i know the girls that dance there regularly are all over the place.. real bitchy, most of them legit have pimps, and all do some kinda drug, but thats expected so im not so worried about them. but my biggest issue is, much like the clubs they have a VIP room for private dances. apparently 9 times out of 10.. there's no dancing going on (well not the regular kind) and that's how most of the girls make their money and the guys expect it. nothing against those who do "extras" but its just not for me no matter how much the money is id rather take that loss:no:.
i know from other threads its about the hustle.. but how can i hustle in an environment where the guys almost expect you to give it up. is there anything i can do or say to appeal to a customer who may approach me with extra requests without doing them and still make money? like give sexy alternatives they may like? my dance skills and looks can only do so much! :flirt: i already came up with like 2 little simple rules for the customer to go by but what if hes like uhh its either u givin it up or im outta here!:-\
any suggestions or stories?
Re: First Private Party. Nervous as f*ck. HELP!
IMO, when you go do a party where the guys are used to having "extras" done. It's not going to change. If you're already worried about being in that situation I would not go.
Re: First Private Party. Nervous as f*ck. HELP!
Re: First Private Party. Nervous as f*ck. HELP!
This seems like a no-brainer, and it seems like you know it but only subconsciously. Open your eyes! Or this industry will eat you alive.
It sounds like a lose-lose for you any way you spin it. I definitely would NOT go. At worst, you get raped. At best, you spend the whole night fending off hands and tongues just for a bit of cash, and no one will be there to help you enforce your rules.
Re: First Private Party. Nervous as f*ck. HELP!
I don't see why you would go if you know you'll be pressured for sexual favors. No reason to do that.
Re: First Private Party. Nervous as f*ck. HELP!
I have been doing private parties for years and parties where they expect favors are parties I generally avoided. Most of the time the men will expect that you will offer extras and yes might even rape you to get it. If you don't do parties you may not even make money.
I did parties where there were girls providing extras but they weren't strippers. They tended to come in after I finished dancing and were getting ready when I was leaving.
Btw, when I hear things like "the dancers have pimps" I run like hell because dancers never have pimps, but hookers do.
Re: First Private Party. Nervous as f*ck. HELP!
By reading about it, it seems that this isn't a "safe" place with people doing drugs and a VIP room where"dancers" have sex with guys. Honestly it sounds like your friends are trying to pimp you out. That's from my perspective. Idk, sounds shady. There's really no way to get around it. You already know what it's about.
Re: First Private Party. Nervous as f*ck. HELP!
went as a customer to accompany my friend and turned out to be completely opposite of what i anticipated. totally professional... maybe more organized and professional than some actual clubs. the location actually was setup like a club minus the poles (full bar, dj, couches, chairs, even BBQ food in the backyard) i dont know what went on in the VIP room and dont know if the girls had their pimps there... but i couldnt tell so that could be a good thing. by the time i felt comfortable enough to do something (which was probably 85% through the party) it was already getting too late. maybe ill do it next week and feel it out
Re: First Private Party. Nervous as f*ck. HELP!
I would recommend you actually start stripping, like, at a club. Before you try to do private parties.
Re: First Private Party. Nervous as f*ck. HELP!
I agree that dancing in a club first may help.
Re: First Private Party. Nervous as f*ck. HELP!
They know you're new, they know you don't really know what's going on, and they are offering you the position because they think you'll go along with whatever.
I mean come on. They do this weekly and they don't even have a pole? Do you really want this to be the first experience of your possible career? You weren't even comfortable doing ANYTHING for 85% of the party. If you're not comfortable walking in there in a sexy outfit in the first place and getting up on.. whatever dance area they have.. that should be a clear indicator that it's not a good gig.
I suspect that the girls who ARE doing whatever it is they want you to do, are doing it because they can't hold a steady position in an actual club. Don't group yourself with them.