Boyfriend as security/driver for private parties through agency?
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BringOnTheMen
But then again, I honestly think that a lot of guys might have problems with fake intimacy but wouldn't actually mind some heavy contact. I think my bf would have more of a problem with the guys that get hours with me and just want to hug me while I'm naked on their lap than a guy just touching my boobs during a normal LD. So since none of that weird fake intimacy would happen at the parties, he might not have a problem with the contact.
This x385972424. I was dating my DJ for a while and the only times he complained about what I did was when a customer was hugging me for a long time, we were cuddling, etc. That fake intimacy. He didn't give a shit that they were grabbing my tits or ass, but I don't think he could grasp the idea that the intimacy wasn't totally fake.
Re: Boyfriend as security/driver for private parties through agency?
Re: Boyfriend as security/driver for private parties through agency?
Re: Boyfriend as security/driver for private parties through agency?
I tried this. Apparently my boyfriend didnt realize that there was some touching that DOES go on and on more than one occasion went over to the guys and said NO TOUCHING. I had to tell him to back off its fine. SO then he gets all bent out of shape and says he doesnt understand my boundaries.
I could go on and on. He was over protective, insecure and thought he was part of the show *headscratch*
IMO bad, bad idea
Re: Boyfriend as security/driver for private parties through agency?
I tried this. Apparently my boyfriend didnt realize that there was some touching that DOES go on and on more than one occasion went over to the guys and said NO TOUCHING. I had to tell him to back off its fine. SO then he gets all bent out of shape and says he doesnt understand my boundaries.
I could go on and on. He was over protective, insecure and at one point thought he was part of the show *headscratch*
IMO bad, bad idea
Re: Boyfriend as security/driver for private parties through agency?
Re: Boyfriend as security/driver for private parties through agency?
Here's my philosophy. Because my boyfriend is a decent DJ and he could also make a decent security, but I would not be inclined to invite him to work with me.
THE WORK SIDE: Do you really want your boyfriend to come to work with you? If it were any other job would you want him to come to work with you? Obviously you have certain boundaries and he's okay with your boundaries as you've explained them to him. And you've stated it may be a different story if he witnesses the treatment you get in person. As he should! A good boyfriend is most definitely meant to hold a certain role as a protector. Even if it's not all the time or not always apparent. That protective feeling is good. But the nature of being an "adult entertainer" is that we handle a lot more inappropriate treatment (not necessarily rape or violence or the like, but certainly if you weren't expecting the guy to beg to suck your nipple it would be odd) than most other people would be okay with.
If he were to drive other girls, it would allow him to meet other people who are doing what you do, give him a chance to become used to the sort of goings-on you deal with, but in a way that he isn't interfering with YOU. The fact that his girlfriend is also in this business like whatever girls he's assisting, will work to his advantage in the sense that he will take good care of these girls and have a certain amount of empathy for those girls as well as for you. You'll have to trust that they'll tip him well because it's not actually your responsibility to manipulate his financial situation- he's a grown man.
PERSONAL SIDE: If he's going to work with you on the regular, that's ALOT of time spent together and your time spent with him outside of working hours may become less special. You'll have less to talk about because he's just witnessed your whole work day already. Anything that potentially happens at a gig, that otherwise you could turn into a funny story, he will witness with his eyes and may not see it as very funny anymore.
Re: Boyfriend as security/driver for private parties through agency?
Re: Boyfriend as security/driver for private parties through agency?
I would maybe just try it out, unless he's never ever seen you in this capacity, it's not likely going to be a end of the world damaging thing if the one "try-out" doesn't go well. Is there any way you can double book security for the trial? Just so if he starts feeling uncomfortable they can do a swap before anything really happens?