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I'm being blackmailed. Please help!
Someone came into my room and PMed me. They know my real name and where I live. They said they uploaded the video to youtube, but it requires a password.
Anyway, they're saying they will delete it if I give them a skype show. If not, then he's going to post it everywhere.
What should I do? If he's willing to blackmail me, I really doubt he's going to delete the video...
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Re: I'm being blackmailed. Please help!
don't give in to the blackmail. If you can get police involved I would, but I don't know much about that. All I know is if you do a show for him he'll probably record you again and continue the blackmail.
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Oh god babe :(
If i was in that situation, i think i would ask him exactly what he wants in that show, so if you agree to do it he cant keep you there for hours etc, then i'd maybe do the show...... however he could then keep doing this and it would be a big circle of piss.
maybe report him?
xx
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Did they just say they knew your real name and location without giving it? Or did they flat out tell you "HEY (your real name from XXXX place)" and you're 100% sure they know exactly who you are and where you're from?
If it's option #1, they are full of shit and trying to get a freebie. If it's option #2, that's scary and that sucks, BUT do not do anything for this asshole.
My advice, no matter which one it is, tell him you don't give a fuck and block his ass. Don't let him know this worries you and definitely don't do a show or anything for his ass.
Even if he has a recording, he can't post an explicit/nude one on youtube, it will be removed/denied right away... so the worst thing he could really put up on youtube is a video of you (clothed) sitting in freechat.
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Originally Posted by
Peachesxo
Did they just say they knew your real name and location without giving it? Or did they flat out tell you "HEY (your real name from XXXX place)" and you're 100% sure they know exactly who you are and where you're from?
If it's option #1, they are full of shit and trying to get a freebie. If it's option #2, that's scary and that sucks, BUT do not do anything for this asshole.
My advice, no matter which one it is, tell him you don't give a fuck and block his ass. Don't let him know this worries you and definitely don't do a show or anything for his ass.
Even if he has a recording, he can't post an explicit/nude one on youtube, it will be removed/denied right away... so the worst thing he could really put up on youtube is a video of you (clothed) sitting in freechat.
Option 2. I'm scanning both of my computers just in case he somehow got a trojan on one. It just scares me so much you know?
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I'd be very scared too. i'm angry for you too! cu*nt!
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I'll also add deny, deny, deny! Oh that's funny that you think I'm so and so, cause I'm totally not even from there, never even heard of that place.
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I'd be shitting all the colours of the rainbow if that would happen to me, however
I'd be a cool bitch about it and ask him to put my cam url on it if he's going to work as a promo bitch for free.
Give him the impression than you couldn't care less so there is no fun in it for him.
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Originally Posted by
Rosannaxox
Oh god babe :(
If i was in that situation, i think i would ask him exactly what he wants in that show, so if you agree to do it he cant keep you there for hours etc, then i'd maybe do the show...... however he could then keep doing this and it would be a big circle of piss.
maybe report him?
xx
please tell me youre kidding
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^^^ she MUST be new.
You can not comply to threats or it will ruin YOU as well as your business.
From ones as serious as the case of the OP to ones as simple as "show your ass first and i'll go private"
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Originally Posted by
Peachesxo
^^^ she MUST be new.
You can not comply to threats or it will ruin YOU as well as your business.
From ones as serious as the case of the OP to ones as simple as "show your ass first and i'll go private"
Lol, its more to just being new... its now about common sense and being that naive.
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tell him to come to your door since he knows where u live... and put a gun to his head!
that and a good beating........
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Have you tried doing a comprehensive* of his screen name (or skype name if he gave it to you)? If he's doing this to you, he probably has done it to others and there may be traces of his past behavior or even his identity elsewhere? That isnt mega-useful advice if the trail leads nowhere but you can cross it off of your list?
*various search engines (not just google), searching his SN and adding popular email address domains to the end, searching his name and relevant search terms if his SN is very common (like name of the site he found you on), wishlists, gift registries, etc?
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I'd tell him to go ahead and post it. It is so easy to have things removed from U-Tube. I had a stream from Chaturbate (clothed, live chat) get ripped off and put on there and I just DMCA'd it and it was totally gone. I just won't work for that site, ever again. Contact U-Tube directly, if you find it and act accordingly. Other than that, I'd just block him and ignore the threat. Sounds pretty empty, to me.
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If he found you on a bigbox site, he didnt send a trojan horse to you. He just didnt. Here is an instance of a customer pretending like he was a hacker but all he did was read SW and bother a model in freechat http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/arc.../t-155075.html , if that's any consolation? Most "hacks" ... arent hacks at all?
If youre not too freaked out - forget doing a computer scan and try to see if there are any identifying trails to your cam profile and your real identity and try to plug them. This can mean something as innocent as using one pic on your cam profile that you use on Facebook or Model Mayhem. Calling a customer from a landline or your real phone but forgetting to block your number. Oversharing on twitter. or even if there is any acquaintances you have who you could see doing this? that kind of thing?
Trying to figure out how he got this info may make this feel more manageable and less terrifying? It gives you back some control?
But I also agree about his threat being a bit hollow - not to say he wouldnt do it but: my understanding is you recently started camming? and cam part time? IDK this sounds halfcocked assholery of guys who prey on new models. He wants something that is instant gratification (porn) while his leverage is something that requires time, effort, and patience. It doesnt sound like he has those. Posting videos/personal info of someone.... I mean, not to downplay this but video views and SEO takes a fair amount of time to actually be damaging? There are millions of videos on the internet and you can get them taken down if youre vigilant enough? If he knows you personally then I feel like he wouldve named ppl in your life he would tell or send things too as well, not just say he'll post it on a huge porn-free video portal, you know?
Seriously: he wont spend every hour of his day posting it everywhere he can - he just wants to get off on your fear and your sexual performance. That's sociopathy. Thankfully most internet sociopaths are sloppy in their planning. Because if he did invest tons of time posting your stuff online- his leverage is gone? BC you definitely wont do a freeshow then? He cant retract what he posts if he posts them, the internet is too porous for that.
He needs your fear and your terror to keep you performing and to keep him aroused. If you give into his instant gratifications needs, he'll just want more. Your power is in patiently thinking through his strategy bc he wants you to be frazzled and upset. Which it has got to be really hard to be calm right now... but if we can talk you down in any way, let us know?
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I wouldn't give two shits if someone put up a video and threatened to out me. I'm not going to tell my family, but if I get outed to them, it won't be the end of the world.
Asking the question that someone else asked, are you sure he knows who you are? Did he SAY your name, or just say "I know your real name"? I've had guys come in and tell me they know who I am, and they were all bullshitting. The best was a guy who came in and actually said a name (I don't remember; Lauren or something that's definitely not my name), and claimed that I was from a town that actually is pretty close, but not the town I'm from. I had a lot of fun with him.
If he didn't say your name or town, and hasn't proved that he knows you, then he's bullshitting. Don't give into him, and report him to the site. If you have a blog, maybe post a blog talking about it, and make sure to mention him by name. Camgirls research people who do crap like that, and you might help someone out in the future. ^-^
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Well how have you responded to them so far?
Did they tell you your full name and mailing address or just the state you live in? I ask that because if youre trying to figure out who it is or how it might have happened you have to look for 'holes' in your security. Do you have wishlists set up? Did you read the thread about wishlist safety? If you received items any of the senders could be the blackmailer. Take any paypal payments? If so add them to the suspect list. Sign up and submit your id to any not so well known indy sites listings lately? It could also very well be someone you know in real life. And that sucks.
The best thing to do is to ban them. If they are in your real life they will reveal themselves to you at some point. If theyre an online stalker/harasser they'll continue to harass you until they get bored so prepare to get familiar with filing DMCAs, keep an eye on whos in your chat and refuse shows if something dosent feel right.
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At this point, I'm like whatever. My husband explained that he probably knows next to nothing, and assured me that nothing's going to happen.
So yeah. I'm camming right now just to prove to myself that I'm not going to give in to terrorist threats. Fuck that noise.
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So wait, you started out by saying 'someone came into free chat saying 'they know my real name and where I live' and when Peaches asked "Did they just say they knew your real name and location without giving it? Or did they flat out tell you "HEY (your real name from XXXX place)" You said it was the latter.
Now according to your husband the blackmailer knows next to nothing?? Am I misunderstanding? Isnt your name and address something?
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He meant he didn't know where we live. That's what I was afraid of. He only knew what city I live in.
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it's a loser trying to get you give a free show. Ignore ALL such comments/ emails/ statements in chat. They're freeloaders full of bullshit.
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Originally Posted by
TheVixen
He meant he didn't know where we live. That's what I was afraid of. He only knew what city I live in.
All he needs to know is your real name and city to find out where you live!!!
Haven't you seen The Terminator???
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2wNTIPaBbPI
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Haha! Who actually has a real land line anymore. My kids laughed when we watched a movie from the 90 and the cordless house phone was huge, remember the ones with the metal antenna? I told them we actually had that phone and that was high tech when we got it. Seriously though phone book scene is hilarious! I guess it really would depend on A. If he only knows your first name, that's really not much to go on, and B. the size of the city you live in, 5000 people vs. 500,000.
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OK, quick OT:
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Originally Posted by
Milaa
I'd be shitting all the colours of the rainbow if that would happen to me
This phrase is so wonderful LOL
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Did you get a screen shot of this conversation? If so, first, report to the site you're on. Then, let that dirtbag know that if you ever find a video of yourself anywhere, you will post a link to the very chat which portrays him as a piece of shit who is basically trying to Internet rape you. WITH commentary. I would tell him I will make my own website called www.you'reafuckingdouche.com, which contains nothing but the chat log, with specific notes about how much of a God damn loser he is. Finally, I would e-mail this link to every single friend and family member you could track down, so they know that this guy is a loser Internet rapist. NEVER EVER EVER give him what he wants, ever.