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ohh and right before NYE some guy took me private, "toy in motion" ,he supposedly doesn't have a cam, I'm just about to hit a wicked orgasm and bam this dude starts typing out all of this crap about A 3 day weekend together blah blah and types his phone number in. I was like ok back to "fake it mode". geeze. I used to be honest but eh now I'm just going to boldly lie. Ooh sure I'm going to call you, can't wait. Then just drag out that I'm too busy and more $$$$$$. No matter what you say to these guys they act like they don't hear you. I've now adopted this fake high pitched laugh that makes me want to stab myself in the throat with a rusty fork. It's terrible.
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cherryblossomsinspring
oo matter what you say to these guys they act like they don't hear you. I've now adopted this fake high pitched laugh that makes me want to stab myself in the throat with a rusty fork. It's terrible.
Baaahahaha! Total threadjack, but I have one of those laughs too!!! And every time I hear it, I want to punch myself in the face.....HOW can guys stand it? I sound like minnie mouse on crack...
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I swear every guy that say "we don't have to have sex" is really either thinking one of two things.
1. She'll either fall in love with me or think I'm hot and want to fuck me (this is usually the high maintenance ones)
2. She's so horny on cam she'll have to have sex with me
either way....I'm good, thanks anyways! I was also offered $3000 on MFC to meet and spend a weekend with a guy. I had to take my face off cam because I started snickering.......oh yeah, sure baby let me pack up my 4 babies and the hubby and I'll be right over! ;) lol
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I strongly advise against it. If he's offering you money just to meet him in the back of his mind he's thinking you will double as an escort but he's saying no sex to make you feel comfortable. Don't do it. If yu're already suspicious of him then that is your gut saying this is a bad idea. I would listen to it.
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I've met a few and there was never sex involved but there was some sort of femdom fetish activity going on. I'm very selective about who I meet and cautious about how I do it. I'm not even considering meeting every dickhead who waves a few bucks at me.
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If he really had the money he would have found an escort already. If he can find a cam room then he can most definitely find an escort directory. Most of these guys that want to meet never go private or are very poor customers (read: they don't have as much money as they say they do). If the guy was dead serious and could wire me 1/2 the money up front I would do it. He would have to come to Toronto and get a hotel though. I have escorted and am very experienced in the matter.
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I've met a few customers IRL before, and not one of them paid me for it.It all just happened. Yeah, I got some free food out of them but it wasn't "Okay here's $100 now hang out with me please we don't have to have sex", it was more like "oh you're band is playing in my town? Would it be okay if I came to the show?" and then afterwards he'd hang out with me and my dudes. I would never put myself in a situation where it was just me accepting money to meet him by myself, anywhere. I don't buy the whole "no sex" thing.
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One time I was at a mall, I was parking my car, and I noticed this guy circling his car around and staring at me. I got out, and I started walking into the mall. I could feel his presence behind me and I started walking faster, he did too, I could hear his footsteps behind me. Finally I stopped to look at some clothes and he approached me shaking all over. And says,"I just have to tell you, you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen". I said,"Thanks" and bolted into the store. Freaked my shit out so bad, I stayed in the store forever, while he was at the front of the store pacing back and forth! I finally had the girls call security to walk me back to my car. This is in the middle of the day, mind you. WTF just happened there?
I told my husband about it and he says to me, "I'll bet you he's one of your online fans" Hmmmm, He was probably right. Still creepy though.
Semi thread jack, but OMG, I had a similar thing happen to me.
So I'm walking in a crowded mall, and I notice there is this guy following me through macy's. I thought maybe it was just in my mind, so I did some zigzags, and sure enough he was closing in. I quickly moved toward a cosmetics counter with a clerk and he walks up next to me and says "Sorry you must think I'm following you. (I chuckle) But I am, however I now see the ring on your finger so I'm sorry for bothering you." The fucked up part... I was only 15 at the time!!! I didn't look marriage age worthy, and the ring was a sterling silver piece my mom gave me. I am a small girl, and he could of easily snatched me up from that mall and I would of been on the back of a milk carton. This dude creeped the fuck out of me in a large busy mall. I found my mommy and high tailed it out of there quick!
sorry, now back on topic.
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Semi thread jack, but OMG, I had a similar thing happen to me.
So I'm walking in a crowded mall, and I notice there is this guy following me through macy's. I thought maybe it was just in my mind, so I did some zigzags, and sure enough he was closing in. I quickly moved toward a cosmetics counter with a clerk and he walks up next to me and says "Sorry you must think I'm following you. (I chuckle) But I am, however I now see the ring on your finger so I'm sorry for bothering you." The fucked up part... I was only 15 at the time!!! I didn't look marriage age worthy, and the ring was a sterling silver piece my mom gave me. I am a small girl, and he could of easily snatched me up from that mall and I would of been on the back of a milk carton. This dude creeped the fuck out of me in a large busy mall. I found my mommy and high tailed it out of there quick!
sorry, now back on topic.
A few years ago I was doing Christmas shopping at the mall. I was alone and it was about 9:30 PM so there weren't many people around. This dude started following me. Like you, I made some zigzags and went into really random stores and stuff just to dodge him but he kept finding me. Eventually I literally ran downstairs to a store where my friend worked and hid in the break room for 20 minutes.
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yep! Had an hour long lunch at a lovely crowded restaurant with a regular off MGF. He was a complete gentleman and handed me $600 in a tennis bracelet jewelry box afterward, walked me to my car in a busy parking lot and then left. I didn't drive straight home, I went grocery shopping and ran errands for like 2 hours first. He went the other direction, didn't follow me, nothing creepy.
Can't just assume all guys are psychotic rapists because they aren't.
Sometimes if you act like a Goddess, they treat you like one. IJS
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A few years ago I was doing Christmas shopping at the mall. I was alone and it was about 9:30 PM so there weren't many people around. This dude started following me. Like you, I made some zigzags and went into really random stores and stuff just to dodge him but he kept finding me. Eventually I literally ran downstairs to a store where my friend worked and hid in the break room for 20 minutes.
IMO psychos are like wild animals, they can smell fear and they get off on it.
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LilRedRidinGood
yep! Had an hour long lunch at a lovely crowded restaurant with a regular off MGF. He was a complete gentleman and handed me $600 in a tennis bracelet jewelry box afterward, walked me to my car in a busy parking lot and then left. I didn't drive straight home, I went grocery shopping and ran errands for like 2 hours first. He went the other direction, didn't follow me, nothing creepy.
Can't just assume all guys are psychotic rapists because they aren't.
Sometimes if you act like a Goddess, they treat you like one. IJS
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LilRedRidinGood
IMO psychos are like wild animals, they can smell fear and they get off on it.
Ted Bundy was attractive and smart. He also had a good job, would have had decent money, and was enrolled in law school. Who is to say one of these guys couldn't be the modern day Ted Bundy?
The real scary psychos are the ones who blend in the best.
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I hope anyone who would even consider meeting someone from a camsite screens them properly if they decide to go through with it. Intuition is the first step, but never rely on intuition alone.
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I've ran into customers at fetish events, and at the local fetish store, or at rope tying classes. These have mainly guys from Niteflirt. Most approach me respectfully ask if I'm Mistress _______. I say yes and they say I'm slave y from Niteflirt and I just wanted to say hello. A few have paid for whatever I was purchasing at the time. One I ran into at a high protocol event and I let him rub my feet.
So no not all guys are psycho, but as someone who has been stalked, not by a client by the way, but by the man who owned the incense shop I lived a block away from, and shopped at regularly. You can never be too careful. The most dangerous ones are the ones you don't see coming.
Use your instincts and err on the side of caution. This applies to that nice guy you meet at Starbucks too. If you decide to meet him screen, and go with security.
In general I think it benefits every woman to learn some form of basic self defense. I would also suggest learning to use a weapon if you are comfortable with it. That's not just advice for cam girls that's advice for all women.
As a PS a guy who I was casually acquainted with in college, I knew his roommate, turned out to be a serial rapist and murderer. He committed at least one of his crimes while living with my friend. You can never be too careful. There are no guarantees. As to acting like a goddess true to a point. There has been at least one case of a sub murdering a domme. Not here to scare anyone I just want us all to be as safe as we can be.
My father has a saying he told it to me when I first started dating and said my bf would never do xyz. My father said " Remember what one man can do, all men are capable of doing." Now I have lots of guy friends and god knows I like my men, but I never forget my father's saying.
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Meeting or hooking up with a guy on the side as a stripper is a bit different then doing it as a camgirl because as a stripper they already have a bit of information about you. They know where you are located physically, they know what car you drive, they might have followed you home one night, they know 'your friends' from work'.
Camgirl fans tend to be of the 'creepily obsessive' variety. Any girl that gets a I want to meet you request and is seriously considering it should ask herself if I do this then what happens next. Like I mentioned-its not going to stop at one meeting.
For camgirls privacy online is a number one concern. So basically for the rate of 1k an hour or whatever it is your charging him to meet you- thats what your selling, your privacy. Because once you give that away you can never get it back. You cant control what he does with it. You cant stop him from turning on you. You cant stop him from coming into your free chat one day and announcing youre a whore who lives in Boston that drives a green mazda that met him at the starbucks on first ave because you wont meet him again, you cant stop him from blogging about it about it or posting your videos on tube sites either. All you can do is ban him, file DMCAs and hope that no one was in your chat thats dangerous that heard him or stumbled on to the information hes spreading about you some other way.
I mean everyone is free to do as they wish. Ive had many offers to meet and Ive never taken any up. First you have to swallow the whole BS line they dont want anything sexual. mmm okay. Then you have to consider the safety aspects. Then even even if you agree to meet at a location an hour from where you reside theres still that whole what happens next question that I cant get past.
(IMO the only safe meetings is like TheBrownFox mentioned at Expo events)
THIS.
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LilRedRidinGood
IMO psychos are like wild animals, they can smell fear and they get off on it.
Between this and your above post, it almost seems like you have the attitude of blaming the victim..and I don't like that. I don't think if I'd let that guy approach me and then be like AHEM YOU NEED TO ASK PERMISSION TO STALK MISTRESS JAANA. APOLOGIZE, YOU LITTLE BUG! anything would have changed. I'm 4'10 and sometimes walk with a visible limp - I'm still an easy target in situations like that.
It doesn't matter how careful you are, bad stuff can still happen. Just because yu had a positive experiance acting as a Goddess doesn't make it a fool-proof way to meet someone. Also, you may wanna edit out the part about meeting someone IRL from MGF...
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Just want to point out that if he walked you to your car he saw your plates. You can get a lot of info from that. I'm not saying this guy will, but it's something to keep in my mind, for the future.
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LilRedRidinGood
yep! Had an hour long lunch at a lovely crowded restaurant with a regular off MGF. He was a complete gentleman and handed me $600 in a tennis bracelet jewelry box afterward, walked me to my car in a busy parking lot and then left. I didn't drive straight home, I went grocery shopping and ran errands for like 2 hours first. He went the other direction, didn't follow me, nothing creepy.
Can't just assume all guys are psychotic rapists because they aren't.
Sometimes if you act like a Goddess, they treat you like one. IJS
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I have a particular whale, that found me off site awhile back.
He tried to push that route, until I reminded him that it was just business.
The best part is, he sat back and took it. Now, he has no problem with it.
I often talk to him by Skype or by a throw away phone for this kind of thing, but nothing more.
The throw away phone was rather hard for me to do, but being that he knows some personal info and not enough to get anything with, and the majority of it is BS, I am alright with it.
Best judgement only but ZERO tolerance for meeting. He knew that from jump. I stuck to my guns and he stuck around to pay me directly without the site cut. win win.