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What do you tell your kids you do for work?
I have a separate camming room that is kept locked when I'm not in it. My little one was previously allowed in there before I started camming and now I tell her its my office and off limits, while this works now it will not always fly I'm sure. She asks why I am putting makeup on at night and I tell her I do web meetings with clients and that they think I'm in an office so I need to look presentable.
I hate lying about it to her because in 5 years when she's 13 shes going to figure out somethings up.
How do you all handle camming with kids? I think if I broke down the room "office" and hiding all things sex related at the end of my shift and stopped making the room off limits, maybe she'd ask less questions or wonder less what I'm doing but it still looks a bit off - bed nicely decorated with pillows, tripod and lots of lights - hmmmm not your typical "office". Not to mention I'm so lazy and hate rearranging lights, tripod ect at the beginning of my shift.
So anyways how do you all do it? What do you tell your kids you do for work. I'm not THAT worried now its as she gets a bit older.
Is anyone camming with preteens in the house?
Thanks ladies ;)
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My daughter is 12 and she knows what I do...having a small place just made it inevitable but it is a heck of a lot easier that she does know! I've always been open with her about sex and she knows I wanted to work from home so that I could look after her before and after school, and not have problems taking time off work when she's home ill.
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I have a smaller house, and wasn't sure what I was going to do when summer or holidays came up. I have wondered if I should just lock myself in the basement and then not use sound.. but I think for you,if you don't want to say anything, and want less questions, I would clean up the toys and put things away, and let her in the room. I have my area in our basement, and I have a large bag for toys and panties that I use for caming, I throw everything in the bag and hide the bag.. I do a final sweep of the room before leaving it and make sure I didn't forget something laying somewhere.. So far it has worked :) (but I only cam when they are not home)
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I think that it would have to depend on how long you intend to do this for, and whether you ever intend to tell her.
If you are doing this on a short-term basis, and intend to keep it secret from everyone, then I think that you have an appropriate lie going.
However, if you are doing this either for the long haul, or even just want to be open about it, then I would be honest. You'll know to what extent your daughter is aware of sex sites and the industry - work around what she already knows, and make it very clear that there is nothing wrong with women that do these jobs, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. However, if you are not open to everyone else in your life, I would definitely stress that it is personal, and she shouldn't tell everyone- that not everyone realises that there is nothing wrong with sex, etc etc.
Personally, I would really love to see young women taught that there is nothing wrong with working in the sex industry - I would like to see a change in societal norms...but I know that that is a long way off. Every little helps, though.
Ultimately, it is going to be up to you - only you know your daughter, how you have already presented sex, whether you feel that she would tell people, and whether that would go down well or not in your own community. While you are deciding - I would put a lock on that door. Kids can be curious, and you do not want her getting into your work stuff.
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i have a 5 year old and i dont tell him what i do..and he's never asked altho to my dismay yesterday he said " you gotta go to work where you dance naked?" idk who told him that, but I'm not sure what to say! arggh
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simone87
i have a 5 year old and i dont tell him what i do..and he's never asked altho to my dismay yesterday he said " you gotta go to work where you dance naked?" idk who told him that, but I'm not sure what to say! arggh
Does he go to school? Just curious. I have a fear of my daughter being in school in the future and other kids telling her what I do because their parents told them. Some people know what I do.
A girl I went to high school with stripped for a long time and she ended up giving it up after some kids said something to her daughter in school about it. People are assholes.
My daughter is four and I work upstairs away from where she sleeps. She doesn't know what I do I don't think it would make much difference to her at this age. But she does know that I work at night and from home. I'm planning to move into a little apartment soon and hope she doesn't hear me better. I'm rambling.
I'd like to be open with her about it one day. I don't plan to cam forever, but I'll do it as long as I need to to maintain my income. I'm currently going to school working on a career change.
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I have a 9 year old and she doesn't know what I do exactly but she's getting to the age where she's curious. All she knows is that I work from home in my room, but I work when she's at school and asleep for the most part..I just plan to be honest with her once she gets a little older, but that is definitely something we as mothers need to think about....how we would approach it. Right now it's like a top secret thing, all she knows is she's not allowed in when I'm in "my room" working, but that's about it for now. Once she asked me what I did because I think she heard me talking on cam... I told her I talk to people about their problems on the computer...then quickly changed the subject. (I know lame huh) lol...but honestly it was one of those moments where I was at a loss for words lol
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I don't think its a good idea to hide it from your children (I'm talking like 11 years+ bc before that, they probably won't understand anyway) or they will think the reason why you are hiding it is because its wrong. So I would personally tell them, and tell them everything and the reasons why you are not out about it. Because, unless you live in a giant house, or only work when they are gone, they will hear you. They will put their ear on the door, hide under the bed, listen in. That's the kind of thing I always did as a child/teen, and so did all the other children/teens I knew. So they'll figure it out, they will probably just not say anything to you about it and assume the reason you don't talk about it is because its wrong. So I would much rather just be open about it. But you also have to take into account the personality of the child.
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Cat may not be old enough yet, but both my policy and m hubby's is that "if they're old enough to ask, they're old enough for the truth".
She'll prolly know what I do early on and to think of it as something completely normal.
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I read this article a while back and found it pretty interesting.
http://offbeatmama.com/2012/10/telli...e-a-sex-worker
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Juliette25
Does he go to school? Just curious. I have a fear of my daughter being in school in the future and other kids telling her what I do because their parents told them. Some people know what I do.
A girl I went to high school with stripped for a long time and she ended up giving it up after some kids said something to her daughter in school about it. People are assholes.
My daughter is four and I work upstairs away from where she sleeps. She doesn't know what I do I don't think it would make much difference to her at this age. But she does know that I work at night and from home. I'm planning to move into a little apartment soon and hope she doesn't hear me better. I'm rambling.
I'd like to be open with her about it one day. I don't plan to cam forever, but I'll do it as long as I need to to maintain my income. I'm currently going to school working on a career change.
no he was born in november so he's a year behind..i was just worrying about what his friends would say today because people really are bullying assholes ..i dont want to lie to him, but would that be white lie? idk, he's really way too young to understand fully, and i want him to have the great childhood i never had
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If anyone has told their kids....what exactly did you say? Did you say that you strip or something to that effect?
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I was wondered how people managed around this. Honestly, I dont have kids myself but looking at parents/kid relationship wise, I find that being honest and truthful about it is better because then you can handle how they react to it. Example: My and my mother always hid everything from eachother : going out, when she started dating after divorce, friends, activites, because we felt the other wouldnt understand. She had this bad stereotype in her head that clubs were for guys not girls and i would keep it from her when i went out. Eventually i just told her upfront, im going to a party tonight (not movie which was always excuse), oh i didnt come back cause i drank and didnt want to drive.
Basically when I hid it from her,I made it seem like it was something bad enough to hide. Same thing with her, she would hide she was talking to someone cause she thought it was bad for me to know. once your open about it, your basically showing its nothing that you think its extremely awful you must keep secret, just that your an adult and you make these choices. Better your kids hear from you and you explain the reason why in a mature manner than some B**** out there telling your kids oh your mom does this and that blah blah and turning it negatively. hope this made sense :D
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I was wondered how people managed around this. Honestly, I dont have kids myself but looking at parents/kid relationship wise, I find that being honest and truthful about it is better because then you can handle how they react to it. Example: My and my mother always hid everything from eachother : going out, when she started dating after divorce, friends, activites, because we felt the other wouldnt understand. She had this bad stereotype in her head that clubs were for guys not girls and i would keep it from her when i went out. Eventually i just told her upfront, im going to a party tonight (not movie which was always excuse), oh i didnt come back cause i drank and didnt want to drive.
Basically when I hid it from her,I made it seem like it was something bad enough to hide. Same thing with her, she would hide she was talking to someone cause she thought it was bad for me to know. once your open about it, your basically showing its nothing that you think its extremely awful you must keep secret, just that your an adult and you make these choices. Better your kids hear from you and you explain the reason why in a mature manner than some B**** out there telling your kids oh your mom does this and that blah blah and turning it negatively. hope this made sense :D
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GracieBlue
If anyone has told their kids....what exactly did you say? Did you say that you strip or something to that effect?
I told my daughter that I did other work online but she found one of my movies on my laptop and asked me if I had to do my work naked...so I then explained what I do. She thought it sounded strange and unfortunately she was just about to go to stay with my mother for a while and she told her...my mother told her that I was doing the lowest thing possible. My mother doesn't talk to me about it, I tell her I do something else on line still but she does keep asking me how my work is going. I had to reassure my daughter that what I was doing was not terrible, and explained why I was doing it and the benefits.
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My son is 6 (as of yesterday YAY!) I've been telling his friends parents I work in online sales from home. I need to get dressed and put n make up for virtual meetings. My son hasn't asked yet but he's herd this explanation a few times. Online sales is what I did before camming, so I know enough about the industry to fake it until someone sees me online. Honestly though, I dont care if people. I work from home while he is at school and am a great stay at home mom. I provide for him and make his childhood happy. Thats what matters most to me.
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Classy_Katy, my mom would be the same way, she is very old fashion, doesn't even think that you should live together before getting married lol I started texting about 5 yrs ago, someone told her that it was sex chat, and she was disappointed in me..When I tell her I'm working, she just say, you work a lot of hours don't you lol and nothing more. I tell my kids I work for a dating company, and that's what I tell others too. I do data entry. I am not ready to tell my daughter yet. she is 12, but I want to be as honest as I can be with her, she doesn't need to know everything in full detail.
Every child grows at different speeds, Kids grow up so fast now a days anyway. For my daughter, I will wait until I feel she is mature enough to know and to handle it
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IsobelWren
Yes! Same article I was about to post.
"Sexuality educator Cory Silverberg, author of the children's book What Makes a Baby?, doesn't think it's inherently confusing to grow up with a parent who's a sex worker. "It's confusing for adults to talk to a kid about sex work, because our associations with sexuality are so complicated, but very young children don't have those associations yet," he says. "There's a way to talk about any kind of sex work to a kid. You might say, 'Mommy spends time with people and makes them feel good, and they give her money.' That's more than enough for any four-year-old." He makes the point that most parents don't tell their kids details about their jobs, especially if those details could be confusing or upsetting."
That excerpt is something I've kept in the back of my head for future reference for when I have children. I think when your child is younger that is perfectly acceptable for what to tell them. I don't have kids just yet so I don't have much advice to give you or anyone else, but I would highly recommend reading that article if you have children and are in the sex industry.
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Kids are kids and we as mothers should help them remain kids. You shouldn't fuck with their heads by introducing them to the sex industry at such an early age. I read through this thread and I can't believe that ANYONE would suggest that it's hurting a kid to by NOT telling them that you play with yourself/ fuck your vagina with a dildo on camera for the world to watch - for money. Do you tell your kids about how you like to be fucked to? Do you tell them about the different positions you like? Do you understand this is child abuse? Do you understand this could potentially affect how they grow up? Do you know this could affect their future relationships? Even if you want to tell them, why not wait till they are of age? Someone here said her daughter is 12 years old and she knows what camming is and the other said her daughter is 5. I mean do you really think you deserve a high five for this? This is not healthy for them at all. Yes honesty is the best policy but keep your UNDERAGE children out of this. I'm sorry but this is shameful ... very shameful that there are people out there doing this. I really hope that your kids to do go to school and starts to blab about how her/his mom plays with her lady parts on the computer for money. I guess I'm different. I prefer to live a very private life. I'm taking this to my grave. If my daughter finds out, I will hope to GOD that she is at least 18 when I have to explain ANY of this to her. That is ALL.
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Classy_Katy
I told my daughter that I did other work online but she found one of my movies on my laptop and asked me if I had to do my work naked...so I then explained what I do. She thought it sounded strange and unfortunately she was just about to go to stay with my mother for a while and she told her...my mother told her that I was doing the lowest thing possible. My mother doesn't talk to me about it, I tell her I do something else on line still but she does keep asking me how my work is going. I had to reassure my daughter that what I was doing was not terrible, and explained why I was doing it and the benefits.
This is how most moms would react. If my mom saw my videos, her reaction would be much worse.
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KirksGirl
My son is 6 (as of yesterday YAY!) I've been telling his friends parents I work in online sales from home. I need to get dressed and put n make up for virtual meetings. My son hasn't asked yet but he's herd this explanation a few times. Online sales is what I did before camming, so I know enough about the industry to fake it until someone sees me online. Honestly though, I dont care if people. I work from home while he is at school and am a great stay at home mom. I provide for him and make his childhood happy. Thats what matters most to me.
That's very smart.
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xxtinamariexx
Classy_Katy, my mom would be the same way, she is very old fashion, doesn't even think that you should live together before getting married lol I started texting about 5 yrs ago, someone told her that it was sex chat, and she was disappointed in me..When I tell her I'm working, she just say, you work a lot of hours don't you lol and nothing more. I tell my kids I work for a dating company, and that's what I tell others too. I do data entry. I am not ready to tell my daughter yet. she is 12, but I want to be as honest as I can be with her, she doesn't need to know everything in full detail.
Every child grows at different speeds, Kids grow up so fast now a days anyway. For my daughter, I will wait until I feel she is mature enough to know and to handle it
This!
I respect all of you that have waited till your kids are of age to let them know.
Telling an underage child about sex work isn't something I would expect from a mother.
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Lovelyme
Kids are kids and we as mothers should help them remain kids. You shouldn't fuck with their heads by introducing them to the sex industry at such an early age. I read through this thread and I can't believe that ANYONE would suggest that it's hurting a kid to by NOT telling them that you play with yourself/ fuck your vagina with a dildo on camera for the world to watch - for money. Do you tell your kids about how you like to be fucked to? Do you tell them about the different positions you like? Do you understand this is child abuse? Do you understand this could potentially affect how they grow up? Do you know this could affect their future relationships? Even if you want to tell them, why not wait till they are of age? Someone here said her daughter is 12 years old and she knows what camming is and the other said her daughter is 5. I mean do you really think you deserve a high five for this? This is not healthy for them at all. Yes honesty is the best policy but keep your UNDERAGE children out of this. I'm sorry but this is shameful ... very shameful that there are people out there doing this. I really hope that your kids to do go to school and starts to blab about how her/his mom plays with her lady parts on the computer for money. I guess I'm different. I prefer to live a very private life. I'm taking this to my grave. If my daughter finds out, I will hope to GOD that she is at least 18 when I have to explain ANY of this to her. That is ALL.
Wow, that's a bit of an overreaction don't you think? Yeah I'm sure every mother in this thread is telling their kids that they loved to be fucked in the ass with a dildo. Where the hell did you get that from?
Sex is not inherently bad or evil, and knowing about sex and sex work won't fuck your kid up mentally. Society views us negatively, but you can still raise your kids to have healthy positive attitudes. I highly doubt anyone in this thread goes into FULL DETAIL with their kids when they tell them about camming. Merely being honest with your children is not child abuse.
I wonder, why are you even in the sex industry if you're sooooo ASHAMED that you'd prefer to go to your grave without your daughter ever finding out? I personally don't think there is anything shameful in what we do... I mean I'm not gonna go tell my grandmother all about it, but I won't lie to my children for their entire lives either.
As for me, my son is only 4... all he knows is that mommy works on the computer, in the bedroom with the door closed. I once asked him what I do specifically and he said "typing". That's good enough for me. I'm not sure what I'll tell him when he gets older.
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Yeah, I have to say, personally, I feel there is a difference between honesty and full disclosure.
Ive been doing this since she was 4...shes 15 now. When she was smaller, if asked she just said mum works on computers.
Now that shes older, she knows I design websites, programming, and personal assistance.
Even if I didnt work freelance, its still something I do for my own purposes. Not a lie, but not more than she needs to know either.
I just believe that children have no place in the adult industry. Sex education is a completely different topic.
Now if she were to come with me with a question about something, or flat out ask me if I do what I do
I would definitely talk with her about it. But I am *not* going to be the one to introduce her to the adult industry.
On another note...as far as privacy goes....we have an understanding in our home to respect each others privacy
We have our common areas, and our private areas...she doesnt own the place and Im not obligated to let her go through my things.
And yeah, I dont go through her things either. As a parent, if I felt the need to, I would....its within my right as a parent, but I dont.
Also on the subject of privacy, my home is like Vegas, what goes on here...stays here.
If *I* choose to tell someone *my* business...I will. Its not up to her.
I know that I can talk to her about things, and she will not go and tell the world
And in turn, she knows she can talk to me about things, and it will stay between us.
But telling my daughter every detail about myself, what I do, where, when and with whom...
Thats not happening... Besides, ever since she hit pre-teen years... like your average teenager
She pretty much figures all adults are weird and not all too interested in anything Im doing.
As long as theres food, internet connection, and she can hang out with friends, shes pretty content.
And like an average child, the idea of seeing a parent in any sexual way is pretty creepy.
Job or not, who really wants the imagery in their head of guys jacking off watching mom masturbate?
Most people dont even want to think about what mom and dad do in bed together,
more less mom and hundreds of random strangers. Not a fair thing to do to a kid.
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Wow, that's a bit of an overreaction don't you think? Yeah I'm sure every mother in this thread is telling their kids that they loved to be fucked in the ass with a dildo. Where the hell did you get that from?
Nope... I believe if one is genius enough to tell an underage child about sex then they are capable of telling the child what positions they enjoy. Both are equally disburbing. And my post is not an overreaction. Telling an UNDERAGE child about this work/sex (which could possible ruin their childhood) is disgusting.
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Sex is not inherently bad or evil, and knowing about sex and sex work won't fuck your kid up mentally. Society views us negatively, but you can still raise your kids to have healthy positive attitudes. I highly doubt anyone in this thread goes into FULL DETAIL with their kids when they tell them about camming. Merely being honest with your children is not child abuse.
Did I say sex was bad? Did I say sex was evil? NO I did NOT. A mother here in Charlotte was arrested for watching porn with her 5 year old daughter just a few months ago - I'm sure you don't thing there's anything wrong with that but new flash - it's disgusting and disturbing. And you say you doubt anyone here is going into full detail about camming.. how do you know what anyone here goes behind closed doors? Are you next door roommates with them ? No. These people are willing to teach their underage kids about sex work - which means they are willing to expose their underage children about porn. I mean you're a mother - I'm sure you know that kids are curious and will investigate on their own.
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I wonder, why are you even in the sex industry if you're sooooo ASHAMED that you'd prefer to go to your grave without your daughter ever finding out? I personally don't think there is anything shameful in what we do... I mean I'm not gonna go tell my grandmother all about it, but I won't lie to my children for their entire lives either.
As for me, my son is only 4... all he knows is that mommy works on the computer, in the bedroom with the door closed. I once asked him what I do specifically and he said "typing". That's good enough for me. I'm not sure what I'll tell him when he gets older.
My daughter is 4 years old. She is VERY smart. Anything I tell her she runs with it. There was a time my boyfriend sent me flowers and the next thing you know my nanny knew my boyfriend sent me flowers. KIDS talk and when they talk they are unfiltered. Why? They talk about things you as a parent tell/teach them. Kids are "monkey see monkey do" - they like to imitate their parents. Any fit mother knows this. How dare you ask me why I am in the sex industry? How dare you tell me that I am ashamed of the sex industry because I am not willing to expose my 4 year old daughter to pornography? Smurfette, I think you are a very smart woman and I agree with you on most issues but on this issue, I disagree. If I were ashamed of the sex industry why would I suggest that mothers wait till their kids are at least 18 to tell them? Does that make any sense? Why are YOU in the sex industry? Give me a break.
I don't see how this topic will do good. It will only cause conflicts. Some of you think everyone is supposed to think like you - well news flash: THAT is not how the world works. I hope that you go back and read my posts again. I didn't say NOT to tell the kids. I said to wait till they are LEGAL.
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