Mistress Responses to Greetings?
I'm trying to get the hang of things and many times a custies will greet me by saying hello Mistress while I'm in free chat but as a cam girl who does all kinds of roles and shows, I'm not sure what is an appropriate response from a mistress to that initial greeting. I usually say hello sweetie or hello baby but I figure that is not what they want to hear as some will instantly click off out of my room when I give that type of initial response greeting, so any ideas or advice please on how to respond to hello mistress in open chat?
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I usually say "Ooh, looks like someone knows how to treat a woman...I like that! Now what are you doing out here - lets get into exclusive where no one else can hear..."
Sometimes I will say "Oh, you have to EARN the right to be considered one of my stable....for now you may call me Goddess.."
Really, it is something that recognizes that they are looking for a dom situation, but doesn't give them anything for free or make assumptions as to the kind of fetish they have.
Honestly, most of the best subs don't expect or need you to be like "ONLY SPEAK WHEN SPOKEN TO YOU WORM" on the first meeting - they want to say a "normal" hello, and then talk a little about what they want. Given that "dom" covers SO much, calling you "mistress" doesn't really narrow down what they are after - and without knowing that, you can't really tailor a response.
After you've had a show, you will get the hang of what they want to be called, and use that when they come back, but on first meeting, I wouldn't worry too much about how to respond to it.
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Yes alot of different subs out there, I get alot of submissive guys in my room and I actually have a nice and cheerful disposition, so when they come in I say hi and all but Im very short with them and I always ask how do you plan to introduce and serve yourself to Goddess, with either a tip or pvt. Most will respond with one or the other, and then some leave bc they are probably trying to get free roleplay.
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I just say Hello (customer name) what are you going to do to make me happy today? It's gives them a chance to stay what they are looking for and at that point it's private time.
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Ive only been camming a few mths now,so i dont have a ton of experience yet but wanted to throw my two cents in regardless.Ive found that no matter what my response,most will just sit there in free and tell me how theyre at my beck and call but will then log out the second i mention going exclusive.Ive been abrupt,cool,rude,total cunt,sweet,polite,neutral,etc pretty much any type of response you can think of and almost all of them still act the same regardless.I used to think that i would need to sound "authoritative" and "controlling" when they came in,but honestly they were just getting off on me being a bitch to them and it didnt help get them into exclusive at all.Most of the time im just polite and do not treat them any different "sure id love to do that bb,but youll have to take me exclusive!i cant wait!" or ill just straight ignore them and not give them any attention if i start to lose my patience from previous subs that day,in the hopes that they will take me private trying to earn it.i really love fetish and domination,but my true subs have been few and far between,SO FAR :-\ (havent been at it long enough to know for sure)
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Yeah, I would avoid the baby, sweetie, etc.. if they call you Mistress, you already have your obvious hint that they dont want to be your tender lover. I agree that starting vague will be best...not all guys are into the whole humiliation/pig/etc thing, or even the bitchy domme thing.. so its best to stay neutral and see what their vibes is. Most all will let you know right away though.
My standard greeting no matter what is "Well hello there..." Because I get a really good mix of vanilla and sub guys, I just never know. Their name could be a huge hint too though...if their name is something to do with say...tinydicktim, then I have all I need "well hello there tiny tim...nice to see you took a break from looking for your dick long enough to say hi." same for if he has like...pantypete or underyourass or watever.. the name may tell you a lot. then be a bit more demanding in exclusive, instead of asking them if they want to, tell them you want them to take you private. "take me exc so I can amuse myself with you" blah blah with whatever fits.
Handle them like any other timewaster if they talk too much and not taking you private.
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Yeah, I would avoid the baby, sweetie, etc.. if they call you Mistress, you already have your obvious hint that they dont want to be your tender lover. I agree that starting vague will be best...not all guys are into the whole humiliation/pig/etc thing, or even the bitchy domme thing.. so its best to stay neutral and see what their vibes is. Most all will let you know right away though.
My standard greeting no matter what is "Well hello there..." Because I get a really good mix of vanilla and sub guys, I just never know. Their name could be a huge hint too though...if their name is something to do with say...tinydicktim, then I have all I need "well hello there tiny tim...nice to see you took a break from looking for your dick long enough to say hi." same for if he has like...pantypete or underyourass or watever.. the name may tell you a lot. then be a bit more demanding in exclusive, instead of asking them if they want to, tell them you want them to take you private. "take me exc so I can amuse myself with you" blah blah with whatever fits.
Handle them like any other timewaster if they talk too much and not taking you private.
i actually NEVER use terms of endearment like bb with them,sometimes ill be polite but its always on the "cool" side.The bb i put in the last post was a force of habit lol!I actually demand/tell them to take me private/exclusive,pretty much "well if youre my slave then why isnt your ass in fucking exclusive already?!" worded differently here and there.didnt work,theyd log off.im a fuckin bitch irl,on here im silly and i joke alot but thats only bc i feel like im among friends where i can relax,let my hair down and not be so serious.so i know im not "pretending" and giving off a fake vibe when i say it either,it just comes naturally.I tried and tried to not say it too forcefully in case it was making them get off,when that didnt work,id try super bitch,etc etc i should have made myself more clear in the last post-i always look at their name to see if i can figure out who im dealing with here-my SPH guys,90% of them take me exclusive when they log in.i absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE them.the sissies/slaves,not so much-out of the hundreds that have logged in,only a handful have taken me exclusive,the rest will continually try to get it all for free and then bounce once i bring it to their attention/tell them to take me exclusive.maybe i just have shitty luck with sissies,def not saying that everyone has the same experience OP,im just saying that personally for me,most of the sissies/slaves that come into my room are extremely cheap and usually not worth my time,although im always excited when one actually does take me private.Ive come down much much harder on my kick/ban policies lately-now i take absolutely no shit off of any guy whatsoever,even if theyre just chatting for longer than normal.those needy bitches sucked me dry in just a cple mths,i have absolutely no tolerance for any of them anymore.sorry,didnt mean to thread jack!ive just have had alot of frustration and ups and downs with sissies/slaves-i posted the same exact questions when i first started and got right around the same answers,but so far none of them have been able to really work for me,im sure ill get the hang of it eventually!good luck doing the same FunnyMoney,I sure hope you can figure it out quicker than i have LOL!
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"get your fuckin' ass in to private right now ya loser" is usually my response. If they don't go private I simply ignore them after that.
I know that's very direct and some slaves don't like being called names or women who swear, but hell that's me. And a true submissive knows his place and does not try to dictate to me how I should compose myself. And it works for me ;)
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It definitely depends on your style...the closer you are to your own personality the better...like the ladies here who are more dominant and forceful, some guys really love that...they dont like me so much :D but I clearly state on my profile that Im a seductive dominant. I rarely lift my voice, dont really swear, sharp witted and amused...guys have told me that the way I describe myself is why they wanted to see me. There are many more forceful dommes around than gentle ones...and there are many guys who want the strong dominant woman, but not humiliated, yelled at or called names. So just do what youre comfortable with, because whatever your style, there will be a market for it.
And oh yes, SPH guys are great lol I focus my adv towards them because my style really fits well with that fetish...I mainly get those, and then body worship guys. Other guys though have to keep prompting me to yell at them, tell me what names to call them etc...they have to drag that out of me lol They usually dont come back and see me, or cut the session short...way better suited for a more fierce style.
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Their name could be a huge hint too though...if their name is something to do with say...tinydicktim, then I have all I need "well hello there tiny tim...nice to see you took a break from looking for your dick long enough to say hi." same for if he has like...pantypete or underyourass or watever.. the name may tell you a lot.
This is kinda off topic from the OP but it reminded me of something. Has anyone else ever had guys come in with names that are sooo submissive/slutty/ready to be dominated (can't remember any examples right now) and then you get into talking like that fetish and come to find out they are just a really naive vanilla guy???! lol!!!
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I always tell them they haven't yet earned the privilege to call Me that. Then I go from there lol.
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This is kinda off topic from the OP but it reminded me of something. Has anyone else ever had guys come in with names that are sooo submissive/slutty/ready to be dominated (can't remember any examples right now) and then you get into talking like that fetish and come to find out they are just a really naive vanilla guy???! lol!!!
Two out of the three 1's ive received have come from guys exactly like this-one wanted a forced bi then decided he didnt like it after 12 min and took it out on me and another was one who wanted to be treated like a slave but wasnt down for a single thing i said or ordered him to do.
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limecoconut
This is kinda off topic from the OP but it reminded me of something. Has anyone else ever had guys come in with names that are sooo submissive/slutty/ready to be dominated (can't remember any examples right now) and then you get into talking like that fetish and come to find out they are just a really naive vanilla guy???! lol!!!
Yup. And not just the super-sub names, but the super-fetishy names, like StockingLover, PantyMan, Sneeze4Me...I think that even the guys that usually enjoy fetish shows often enjoy some vanilla, or other fetishes too....which is why, for the most part, I don't assume anything about what a custy wants. If they have an SPH related name, I will mention it because I LOVE SPH and I am actually really sad if an sph-sounding guy leaves my room without a show! But even then, it is - "Ooh, I love that you call yourself TinyDickTim....gets me all excited for my favorite fetish!!" hint. HINT.
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Love those SPH guys LoL they are so lucky, because they are the most fun and amusing to session with hehe!
Yeah, I would say that with many guys, they have this dark fantasy, and then once they get off, instantly feel bad about whatever that fantasy is. Thats why a lot of times they will quickly log off, Ive had it happen too where the guy turned around and got wierd and angry with me (didnt bother me, I know it was him feeling bad that he got off on the fantasy) and Ive also had guys apologize to me and meekly say thanks for indulging them before leaving.
So it may not be a matter of theyre name contradicts their interest, but that they are a bit shy/embarressed/even upset with themselves for enjoying whatever the fetish is.