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How much is a good "thanks but no thanks" tip?
If you aren't interested in a particular woman's time again, how much do you tip her? If you tip 0% then you can make enemies. If you tip too much then she might come back for more when you are more interested in other woman.
What's the middle ground here?
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depends how much of her time you take up. i hate when a guy will lead me on and then tip me nothing..but then again its my fault for sitting there and wasting my own time without trying to sell and getting a yes or no. i'd be upfront if you really aren't interested..but be polite. im not offended if a man tells me he is waiting for somebody else and doesn't tip. but if i have talked to him awhile a small tip is appreciated, definitely
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The fact that you're tipping at all in this case is great, so I wouldn't fret too much about the cost - especially if you aren't leading the girl on by saying you might get dances later or wasting her time by not telling you aren't interested as soon as you know you don't want to go for dances with her. Assuming dances cost $20 where you visit, a $10 tip would probably suffice. To keep the dancer from coming back from her, tell her you've enjoyed her company but aren't interested in dances and wish her a pleasant evening. Polite but direct.
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I've gotten a few $20 "please leave" tips. I ask them who/what they are looking for and if I can help them I send someone else their way.
any less and I tell other girls to avoid that table.
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I truly believe that a "thanks but no thanks" tip is NOT necessary. It is not fair at all that a customer has to dig in their pockets for something/someone they do not want- esp if the dancer is the one who approached him.Make enemies? If a dancer gets all butt-hurt over rejection esp without a tip- it is time for her to either grow up or get a new job.
My opinion.
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^I think he was implying that he had already spent a significant amount of time with the girl or already gotten dances. if a guy wants to hang out, enjoys his time, then feels tapped out of her and gives her $5 or really likes talking to her for 15 min but rejects a dance, then I think $20+ is definitely necessary. if she approaches, he instantly knows hes not interested and tells her so, then no I dont think a tip is necessary. that being said, I still stick by what I said that if it was the 2nd situation but he still gave me $20 I will ask who/what he wants and throughout the night tell other girls to talk to him.
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Unless you occupy a good piece of her time, nothing should be required or even expected. If merely asking you is a guarantee of $5, you'"ll have non-stop parade of girls coming by looking for a five, especially if and when its not busy. That neing said, if a girl provides you company for, say 10 or 15 minutes, she ought to get something, a drink or a comparable tip.
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That reminds me of this time back around July, August, I was at the strip club and up comes this cute litte stripper, aww she was so adorable with the litte pigtails and all, and she says to me 'how would you like a lap dance?' And I said 'Well, what all you do?' She did grinding, over the pants hand job, over the pants blow job, boobs in the face... and I said I'll take a boobs in the face, how much will that be? And she said... I need about tree fiddy.
Tree fiddy.
Well, it was about that time I noticed this stripper was about eight stories tall and a crustacean from the paleozoic era! The Loch Ness Monster!! I said 'Dammit monster, get off my lap! I ain't givin you no tree fiddy!!'
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If you're not interested, don't give her anything. They're like stray cats - start tipping them (no matter how little) and they'll keep coming back.
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To clear things up. I meant specifically right after a dance.
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There's really no standard for post-dance tips. Any tip is a good tip and the more the better!
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20% like any other service and tell her that that is all you'd like so she should leave.
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Originally Posted by
youngandoverworked
If you aren't interested in a particular woman's time again, how much do you tip her? If you tip 0% then you can make enemies. If you tip too much then she might come back for more when you are more interested in other woman.
What's the middle ground here?
Huh? You bought a dance from her. You don't want to buy anymore. Why are you tipping her again?
If you tip her she'll be back every time she sees you alone in the club.
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Originally Posted by
Doc Holliday
That reminds me of this time back around July, August, I was at the strip club and up comes this cute litte stripper, aww she was so adorable with the litte pigtails and all, and she says to me 'how would you like a lap dance?' And I said 'Well, what all you do?' She did grinding, over the pants hand job, over the pants blow job, boobs in the face... and I said I'll take a boobs in the face, how much will that be? And she said... I need about tree fiddy.
Tree fiddy.
Well, it was about that time I noticed this stripper was about eight stories tall and a crustacean from the paleozoic era! The Loch Ness Monster!! I said 'Dammit monster, get off my lap! I ain't givin you no tree fiddy!!'
AHAHA! This joke is best joke! I read this shortly before going to sleep last night and had a dream revolving around this joke BECAUSE OF THIS!! Thanks, Doc!
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Originally Posted by
charlotte.
I've gotten a few $20 "please leave" tips. I ask them who/what they are looking for and if I can help them I send someone else their way.
any less and I tell other girls to avoid that table.
If a dance costs $20, why would I want to give someone $20 as a way of saying "no thanks"?
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I would say, tell her right when she walks up that you are not interested and don't tip her anything. If you just don't want dances but you want company, tip her a lot, continually. You could also tip her like $20 and say "hey you're not my type, but if you see any blondes/brunettes/thick/big butt/whatever girls please send them my way" or something that would be okay since they could help out their friend. I have seen the last one happen many times.
Strippers like: 1.) not wasting time, 2.) men who are upfront & honest, and 3.) making money.
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Winky
If a dance costs $20, why would I want to give someone $20 as a way of saying "no thanks"?
if you wasted her time by dominating the conversation or buying her drinks that she doesnt get comped for. drinks take a long time to get, and if someone buys me a drink I expect $$ at the end in the form of tips or dances. if at the end of the drink you refuse a dance, then yes, if I dont get at least a $20 tip I will tell all other dancers to avoid your table.
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The key is ti let her know ASAP you don't intend to buy a dance from her. If you do that, its on her whether she sticks around or not.
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If you already paid her for a dance and simply did not want more, then you met your obligation. She keeps most or all of the dance price anyway. Tipping is not mandatory, particularly if the dance was lousy. Now if the dance was good then a tip wouldn't be a bad idea, but often "one and done" dances occur because a guy did not enjoy the experience.
Now I was specifically responding to the question of how much to tip her "right after the dance." My opinions assume that you did not lead her on or otherwise burn a lot of her time before the dance. If you did keep her on the hook by promising to "take care of her" or in some other way, then you could have at least bought a few dances or tipped her well for her efforts.
IMHO there is a balance involved in interacting with dancers in a strip club. You should never feel like you must buy something that you don't want or pay above the quoted price, but you also want to be fair to the girls that spend a lot of time with you and/or provide a great experience.
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Yeah if you don't want any more dances from her a tip isn't really necessary. But why then did you get the dance in the first place?? Did she look good to you but then the dance was disappointing for some reason?
Though if you have a whole lot of money to blow, tipping her to help you find a girl you might like better isn't all that bad an idea...maybe. Except a lot of dancers will bring you their friends to help them make money and not really pay attention to what kind of girl you really want, so this kind of situation can also wind up being a waste of time and money and potentially annoying if the new girl doesn't leave you alone.
I don't know you or your club or this girl you wanted to tip even though you didn't want any more dances, but my gut feeling from reading this thread is that you are being too nice. I sure wish there were more genuinely nice guys in the clubs, but you have to understand it's about as predatory a business as you can get.
Be very careful of this in the clubs, it's like a lamb bleating for its mother in the middle of a pack of wolves.
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rickdugan
If you already paid her for a dance and simply did not want more, then you met your obligation. She keeps most or all of the dance price anyway.
This isn't really true. Most of the clubs in my area keep 100% of the dance price, so the only way the girls will make money doing lap dances is if the customer tips.
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^They keep 100% in your area?! How do you make a living? Do you get an hourly wage with no fees? How much do they charge for a lapdance?
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firemaiden04
This isn't really true. Most of the clubs in my area keep 100% of the dance price, so the only way the girls will make money doing lap dances is if the customer tips.
Wow, that is pretty unusual fire. In most places that I visit, the club takes a piece of each dance. In some places, such as Queens, NY, the guy pays an upfront charge to enter the LD room and the girl keeps the LD $$.
The closest that I have seen to what you are dealing with is a few clubs where the guy pays for a ticket for the first dance and then pays the girl directly for each dance after the first, but even then the girl usually gets a cut. Ruby II in Bridgeport, CT, is an example of this, where the guy pays for a $20 ticket at the bar, which covers the first dance, and the dancer gets $10 of it.
I guess that in those rare places where the girl earns little or nothing from the first dance, she is less than thrilled if she only sells one and doesn't receive a tip. But IME this is not the norm and my statement holds true in the vast majority of U.S. clubs.
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firemaiden04
This isn't really true. Most of the clubs in my area keep 100% of the dance price, so the only way the girls will make money doing lap dances is if the customer tips.
That is all kinds of fucked up.
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Originally Posted by
firemaiden04
This isn't really true. Most of the clubs in my area keep 100% of the dance price, so the only way the girls will make money doing lap dances is if the customer tips.
How much is a lap dance? Are the dancers on the books and paid by the club?