Re: Camming Through Heartbreak/Loss/Generally Crappy Times
The problem with camming is unlike "normal" jobs, it's not just enough to show up and go through the motions. When our heart's not in it, it doesn't go well. I've had a shitty stressfull week after getting some earth shattering news, and funnily enough it was showing on cam, and I just wasn't making money (when I WAS online at all). Yesterday I finally got my head around it, and had a good day on cam. Sometimes you just need a few cam free days, but sometimes that's a luxury. Hugs to all who are having a hard time. xxxx
Re: Camming Through Heartbreak/Loss/Generally Crappy Times
Bumping this thread. There are some really good tips on here that hopefully I will start following tomorrow. I just can not get out of this funk and log on and it sucks. I need the money and yet I can't get off the couch. I went thru bad stuff over the summer and can not for the life of me snap out of it. I have even tried looking up all the positive you tube stuff and it will start to motivate me and then I decide f it and go back to sleep. Anyway, great thread. I really need someone to just come kick my fn ass. I have let FD up relationship bullshit take over my life , my thoughts , and my money and I want to change ! Sorry for the rant guys !
Re: Camming Through Heartbreak/Loss/Generally Crappy Times
This thread deserves to be seen once again! Re-reading it is giving me a necessary boost. Many thanks to the ladies who have contributed FANTASTIC advice in this thread and in the rest of the forum time and time again. I'm glad there are so many amazing people willing to share their experiences and expertise. You've all saved my butt. :-*
Re: Camming Through Heartbreak/Loss/Generally Crappy Times
I'm giving this thread a bump. My fiance just broke up with me. Just plain old told me he'd had enough and can't do it anymore.
I have officially mastered the ugly cry and haven't been able to cam or eat in a while. I need to suck it up and work because I have a daughter and bills and rent still need to be paid! And I sure don't have any money saved.
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Thank u so much for this thread. I just found out last night that my dad has cancer, I had to log off and couldn't work. I read this today and it's helping me get ready to log on. I need money I need to work. So thank u.
Re: Camming Through Heartbreak/Loss/Generally Crappy Times
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SavannahLynnn
I'm giving this thread a bump. My fiance just broke up with me. Just plain old told me he'd had enough and can't do it anymore.
I have officially mastered the ugly cry and haven't been able to cam or eat in a while. I need to suck it up and work because I have a daughter and bills and rent still need to be paid! And I sure don't have any money saved.
Aww bb I'm so sorry. If you need someone to talk to or even just to vent feel free to PM me. I have Kik if you want my Kik username to chat. I have been there. It gets better but I know how hard it is right now. If there is anything I can do to help please let me know. Take care of yourself sweetie. ❤️
Re: Camming Through Heartbreak/Loss/Generally Crappy Times
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TattooedBBW
Thank u so much for this thread. I just found out last night that my dad has cancer, I had to log off and couldn't work. I read this today and it's helping me get ready to log on. I need money I need to work. So thank u.
I've been through that & know how stressful it can be. One day at a time, and go easy on yourself if you can. :)
Camming Through Heartbreak & Grief
I just went through a really rough patch. had black mold poisoning, which fucked my immune system and once i was finally on the up and up (ie able to cam again) my dog got poisoned by a neighbor on accident and i spent a few grand on her recovery. I am very grateful for camming and the people/ fans i've met along the way. combined, they gift rocket'd me out of debt. I thought i was fine finally until yesterday. the bf and i split after nearly a year together and instead of letting it get to me, i think im just going to bury myself in screw drivers and camming. I like to make it my get away.
Camming Through Heartbreak & Grief
I really need this because i am feeling a down lately (Broken Hearted)
I haven't been able to go online well for weeks now... But still i need to go online.
Sometimes i really treat my online friends/customers bad and just tell them "sorry i am in a bad mood today" I am just glad they understand.
Camming Through Heartbreak & Grief
I know is this is an old thread but I searched "heart broken"' and found it. This is a really great thread, thank you. I'm having a really rough time with my girlfriend and I am so hurt and heartbroken. Of course me camming is getting blamed and that makes it even worse. I shouldn't have to choose. I am so sad. I had a hotel room booked for our anniversary this weekend. It's already paid for via Priceline. I guess I'll be alone in the room, crying and trying to process my feelings.
Camming Through Heartbreak & Grief
*BUMP*
Been trying to get on for 4 days... This is helpful
Camming Through Heartbreak & Grief
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JackAlexander
*BUMP*
Been trying to get on for 4 days... This is helpful
I recently lost my grandmother to covid and then had to plan a memorial service under certain guidelines. It was next to impossible. Ive also had experiences surrounding grief and camming. What is it that you're going through?
Re: Camming Through Heartbreak & Grief
I recently ended an 8 month long relationship. It hurt so bad. I took 2 full days to grieve then set low goals for myself. I found myself in the $250+ week challenge til I could get up to $500+ challenge, etc.
I just tried my best & put in time. I'm usually the STFO girl who can do 8 hrs on SM. I found myself just doing the best I could & sometimes that was just 4 hrs, but I did them.
I practice a lot of self-love & meditation so when my mood dipped I took a break to meditate then got back on.
Shit like this is tough. Getting up, having tea, showering, then getting on is monumental during times of grief. I think the key to success is knowing that enough is good enough.
Xoxo
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I actually found out about my grandmothers passing while working. Had some decent regulars in my room, I actually tried to stay on for awhile after, didn’t work out well. Grief with the combination of not being able to do anything was an ass kicker, I gave myself a couple days before going back but it is different for everyone. One thing in terms of work that was helpful was to take a few moments everyday to think of her and to sit with it. Happy or sad I let her remain with me for that time. Helped with my concentration while online
As for heartbreak, I usually do great after a break up, nice for the ego boost too. This last breakup I credit my grandmother/covid for in some weird way, helped me refocus on my goals and dropped some real regressive dating patterns.
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kamiliam
I actually found out about my grandmothers passing while working. Had some decent regulars in my room, I actually tried to stay on for awhile after, didn’t work out well.
I was on a pso call when a realtive called on a different line. I knew what the call was about but I decided to finish up for another 5 mins. I completely forgot about that until you said this. I took a few days off but Ive been able to get back to work pretty quickly. Mostly because I was starting to feel very angry about the circumstances.
Re: Camming Through Heartbreak & Grief
Amazing thread! Sometimes it is really difficult, and that's what helps me:
1. Fake it till you make it. Really try to smile and dance a bit, but that takes a lot of effort at start. But when $$ come, they usually boost the mood:}
2. This one is contrast to p.1. Completely relax and don't worry too much about the goals. Just hang out there and don't do much tease etc. I call it 'Buddha mode' haha
Good music helps a lot too. Especially something sultry which makes you feel sexy.
Re: Camming Through Heartbreak & Grief
Got news this morning that my grandmother passed away peacefully in her sleep. Thankfully she was at my aunts place and was just released from the hospital yesterday. I really didn't think it would hit this hard.
Taking the day off to be with family and just take things one moment at a time because that is all I can do.
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Esixxx
Got news this morning that my grandmother passed away peacefully in her sleep. Thankfully she was at my aunts place and was just released from the hospital yesterday. I really didn't think it would hit this hard.
Taking the day off to be with family and just take things one moment at a time because that is all I can do.
Oh no :( I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I know you loved her so. Sending healing vibes. I hope you get good quality time with family so you all can grieve together.
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Esixxx
Got news this morning that my grandmother passed away peacefully in her sleep. Thankfully she was at my aunts place and was just released from the hospital yesterday. I really didn't think it would hit this hard.
Taking the day off to be with family and just take things one moment at a time because that is all I can do.
I'm so very sorry to hear that. I'm glad that you get to be with your family at this difficult time.
Hugs!
Re: Camming Through Heartbreak & Grief
Thank you ladies. She knew she her time was coming up soon- she thanked my aunt yesterday for being a "good secretary'' and for keeping her in touch with "her people." She had my aunt get a spiral bound notebook for all of her visitors to sign. (My grandmother was full of sass)
It was good to be with family today. We cried, we laughed, we hugged (most of my family is vaccinated now and I really needed those damn hugs!) and shared stories around the fire.
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Esixxx
Thank you ladies. She knew she her time was coming up soon- she thanked my aunt yesterday for being a "good secretary'' and for keeping her in touch with "her people." She had my aunt get a spiral bound notebook for all of her visitors to sign. (My grandmother was full of sass)
It was good to be with family today. We cried, we laughed, we hugged (most of my family is vaccinated now and I really needed those damn hugs!) and shared stories around the fire.
I wish I could give you a big ol hug! You can never have too many. ❤️
Re: Camming Through Heartbreak & Grief
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Esixxx
Got news this morning that my grandmother passed away peacefully in her sleep. Thankfully she was at my aunts place and was just released from the hospital yesterday. I really didn't think it would hit this hard.
Taking the day off to be with family and just take things one moment at a time because that is all I can do.
I am so sorry for your loss darling, condolences! Sending you much love!