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I am sorry Marina you feel upset about this. No offense to your sister nor anyone else, but I don't understand why people can't take courage of their own judgements/opinions and blame them to Jesus.
I am sure that with time your sister will understand that it's a job and a safe one too (compared to others in the adult industry), I think that it would be a shock for anyone, even for the most open minded person in the world because this is still taboo :D Plus familiars tend to see us as innocent and not connected to sexuality at all.
Let us know how things go, a big hug :3
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Marina, I would just like to tell you that I love you and I am so glad you came out to your sister, and so sorry she doesn't understand that you're not doing anything detrimental or harmful. You are beautiful, and I for one admire you for taking care of yourself and living life on your own terms, and whether or not your sister approves you know you are loved beyond measure and that's all that matters my dear.
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you're so brave for coming out. I wish people were more accepting. Oh well if sex work wasn't "taboo" more people would do it and we wouldn't make so much. There's a bright side to everything.
haha I love your icon trannies do it better.
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hugs Marina
I'm atheist so her perspective is kinda lost on me, but I do find it presumptuous of religious people to decide unilaterally what their god wants for/from others.
I'm sorry she responded the way she did. All I can say is good for you for living your own life on your own terms. That takes courage, be really proud of that too
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Sending an e-hug your way. My sister reacted much the same way (She recently converted to Islam and is very very militant about it). I just told her that I still love her, but she doesn't have to agree with everything I do. I don't talk to her very often anymore (because she tends to lecture me about morals, etc), which is sad, but I know we still love each other, and that's the important thing. "You're so much better than this," is something she often says to me, but I just try to keep my cool and remember that we're very different people. Some people just aren't as accepting as others.
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I'm sorry, Marina. :( It sucks to see such a good person like you being treated like that. I think the most important thing is that YOU enjoy what you do and feel no shame. If your loved ones can't be accepting, then that's their problem.
I don't plan on having a conversation with family members about camming, because they're just a little too holier-than-thou for me. Every time I read some of their Facebook statuses, it's something Biblical, and my granddad flipped out one time when I mentioned the word 'Halloween' around him (he says it's "the devil's holiday"...*rolls eyes*)...and he will not shut up about how disappointed he is that Obama supports gay marriage. I love my family, but I feel like I can relax better when I'm not around them.
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Aw Marina I'm sorry :( You're a wonderful, strong woman and I hope your sister comes round after she's had some time to process the shock *hugs*
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Congrads to coming out and I hope your Sis comes around. I've never understood why ppl bring religion into these types of situations or say it as a rebuttal/reasoning. Its like everyone assumes that you believe in god or that your a christian. It always makes me want to ask these ppl well, what if I don't believe in Jesus? What if I'm an atheist or follow a religion where there is no Jesus? Religion is suppose to be personal but I'll be dam if ppl don't try to force it on you or make it their business in every situation.
Why does everyone have to work a 9-5 or follow the path that society has branded into our souls? Not everyone wants to work a 9-5 or follow the yellow brick road. Ppl would rather have you sell your body through wage labor then sell sex. Which is quite funny because 1.)sex sells (been selling since Jesus) and 2.) Sex is everywhere...on tv shows, in movies, in music, in commercials, and there's even subliminal messages in cartoons and children's movies. Even though sex is everywhere its like everyone is expected to ignore it or act like it doesn't exist. It makes no sense to me.
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Marina your sister will love you even more tomorrow, just give her some time. xoxo
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So if you can't sell your body (you're not doing it literally anyway, only a fake thing through a computer screen) for a large amount per hour, ...then why is it okay for other people to sell their body (labor) for a few dollars an hour? Those jobs typically have *look pretty* grooming standards too. The logic will never become clear to me.
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Thank you everyone for reaching out and showing me so much support. I truly appreciate it. It's an amazing feeling to be able to live your life freely and openly.
It gives me great comfort in knowing I live my life on my OWN terms.
One Love :)
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+1 Blovely
(((hugs))) marina
the "your better than this" i take offense to when ppl tell me that. we're just using another part of our bodies to generate an income, labor to make a living but unfortunately most dont see it that way "your selling your body" like we are selling our souls or something. its not like most dont do that in other industries. the world is threatened by sex but yet revels in it. i will never get it.
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We love you Marina! You can have us as your family of choice. I think it was totally shitty for your sister to say that. I wish people would stop using Jesus as an excuse for being narrow minded, bigoted assholes. Plus, you're not selling your body, you're selling your image. People need to get that one straight. I can understand how it feels worse when you expect someone to be supportive, but they're not. You're just blind sided! Happened to me, too.
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Marina, i love you!
Here, this will make you smile. It always works for me.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1YzbINJMDyQ
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my sister reacted like that when I came out to my family.
It was VERY odd because I had told her in confidence a few months before and she has been very supportive..but as soon as the whole family knew and was rather accepting she turned and started talking to me about how I was disrespecting my body and blah blah...I feel like she's just jealous of me in a weird way for finding a way to make what she does without having to waste time and money on schooling... [shrug]
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OMG! My sister told me that she felt jealous and inadequate when she's around me. I know not to take it to heart because she's going through some rough times at the moment so I feel by her saying all those things, it's a way for her to gain "control" and "power".
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my sister reacted like that when I came out to my family.
It was VERY odd because I had told her in confidence a few months before and she has been very supportive..but as soon as the whole family knew and was rather accepting she turned and started talking to me about how I was disrespecting my body and blah blah...I feel like she's just jealous of me in a weird way for finding a way to make what she does without having to waste time and money on schooling... [shrug]
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I think in the long run she will just be happy you were open to her about it. Don't worry, she'll get over it. Wow you are really brave and strong to do that and you must really love her if you told her about it. It's hard not to care about what the people you love think of you, but only you know what's best for you! That's awesome and sweet that you are close to your sis, I am close to my sisters too- I think it's really important to stay close with your family (in most situations :p)
Be proud of yourself for being so strong :D
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OMG! My sister told me that she felt jealous and inadequate when she's around me. I know not to take it to heart because she's going through some rough times at the moment so I feel by her saying all those things, it's a way for her to gain "control" and "power".
Hmm that always sucks, when your sibling is jealous of you.
My older sister was always jealous of my body and when I got a boob job she really got jealous. She told me she was jealous. To me it's so weird.. I could never be jealous of my sisters (when I was a kid, yeah) but I'm not in competition with them. I dunno, seems odd.
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Marina you're so brave and this will hopefully blow over soon! you're a strong ass woman and getting money your own way and that's all that matters! Unfortunately my mother told my sister about my webcamming and my sister already hates me- so now she slut shames me for it on the regular. :(
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Hmm that always sucks, when your sibling is jealous of you.
My older sister was always jealous of my body and when I got a boob job she really got jealous. She told me she was jealous. To me it's so weird.. I could never be jealous of my sisters (when I was a kid, yeah) but I'm not in competition with them. I dunno, seems odd.
hahaha ya I know. y sister is younger than I but she's always loked up to me [apparently] and is pretty competitve... I'm not really at all..never have been..eh!
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I feel ya. Recently my boyfriends sister found out about what we do, and we got the whole "You could do so much with your live you're so talented and smart, you could do anything you want to!!" she was crying and so upset.
I hate that people think that this is such a shameful thing to do, and I hate that people assume you're doing it out of desperation, and not that it's something you WANT to do!
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my sister reacted like that when I came out to my family.
It was VERY odd because I had told her in confidence a few months before and she has been very supportive..but as soon as the whole family knew and was rather accepting she turned and started talking to me about how I was disrespecting my body and blah blah...I feel like she's just jealous of me in a weird way for finding a way to make what she does without having to waste time and money on schooling... [shrug]
This^!
Sorry that happened to you, hun. HUGS.
You know, I consider myself religious..however, I so try not to be judgmental. & it doesn't clash w/me either (about camming/sex work), I'd rather being doing something else, by choice, but I am trying to make a living, support myself so whatever
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My attitude is, if Jesus thinks what I am doing is wrong or sinful, then He will come and tell me Himself. So until then, let we all live and let live.
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This^!
Sorry that happened to you, hun. HUGS.
You know, I consider myself religious..however, I so try not to be judgmental. & it doesn't clash w/me either (about camming/sex work), I'd rather being doing something else, by choice, but I am trying to make a living, support myself so whatever
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and started talking to me about how I was disrespecting my body and blah blah...I feel like she's just jealous of me in a weird way for finding a way to make what she does without having to waste time and money on schooling... [shrug]
People love love love to tell themselves anything they can in order to justify why someone else they see as undeserving, gets something they want (usually money). Just like how poor or middle class people look at children of wealthy families and automatically deem them to be less hard-working than they are, therefore making themselves feel better. And just how the rich or privileged look at the poor and deem them all lazy. When, in reality, neither are true, though can be.
And actually, most people go out of their way to do the opposite of what they are stereotyped to be just because they hate being stereotyped like that.