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Re: Asking for tips after a lap dance?
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My rule of thumb is that if the guy has regular potential and isn't a whale (i.e. a guy who's shelling out $20s like they're $1s), I won't ask for a tip. If a guy has regular potential and is a whale, he has probably already tipped me. And if I'm pretty sure I'll never see the guy again, I will ask for a tip (and after a five-minute conversation with a guy, you generally know if he lives in town or not, if this is something he does regularly or not, etc.).
This also depends on how expensive the dances are. If you're doing table dances and gave a killer dance that only costs $5-$10, and he doesn't want to spend more time with you, hell yeah ask for a tip. If you gave the same dance and he does want to spend more time with you, don't ask for a tip.
My advice is regional, of course. But my read on customers is that most of them consider asking for a tip on dances to be "greedy." Whether this actually makes you greedy or not doesn't matter - it's a customer perception thing. Hence your wanting to be careful about asking for one (if regular potential, no. if customer doesn't want more time with you, yes. if customer does want more time with you but won't be a regular, no.).
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I always ask for a tip at the end of every dance or VIPs that I do, I'm not afraid to come off as greedy , they should tip us regardless ,in fact we shouldn't even have to ask, it's called respect. I've always gotten my tip , but I usually wait until we are finished with the entire session before I ask :)
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^I remember you're the traveling dancer. Your approach is probably good for dancers who don't stay in one club for long enough to establish long-term regulars. If you can get away with being perceived as greedy, then you may as well!
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^ I don't find it greedy at all to ask or expect a tip from a customer after I have provided my services to them, I'm also not the "regulars" kind of dancer either, in my experience when I did have them all they wanted was much more than I was willing to give so I don't believe in having regulars to make my money. Besides when I did work in several clubs that got a few regulars they all seemed to get bored with the same girls & stopped giving them money. I've managed very well over the years from tourists & other random customers that I never needed regulars wherever I went.
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xxxGothBarbie
^ I don't find it greedy at all to ask or expect a tip from a customer after I have provided my services to them, I'm also not the "regulars" kind of dancer either, in my experience when I did have them all they wanted was much more than I was willing to give so I don't believe in having regulars to make my money. Besides when I did work in several clubs that got a few regulars they all seemed to get bored with the same girls & stopped giving them money. I've managed very well over the years from tourists & other random customers that I never needed regulars wherever I went.
I agree that it isn't necessarily greedy. My point was that many customers feel that it is.
And I agree with you - regulars can suck the life out of ya. I've been there. They were the reason I was pulling in $500+ a night during the recession while working in a dive. But they were also the reason I could only work one night a week without burning out!
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Some of the girls at my club coerce the customers into giving them more money after a lap dance by threatening to tell the bouncers that the customer touched them inappropriately (in a "no contact" club where hard grinding is actually the norm), it's fucked up, but it works for them and it's kind of hilarious.
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^^ I used to pull one of these on customers but some didn't care & ran out & some actually paid me
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xcatxbrownx
Some of the girls at my club coerce the customers into giving them more money after a lap dance by threatening to tell the bouncers that the customer touched them inappropriately (in a "no contact" club where hard grinding is actually the norm), it's fucked up, but it works for them and it's kind of hilarious.
I think that's awful and eventually the respectful guys will rightfully just stop coming.
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lynn2009
I think that's awful and eventually the respectful guys will rightfully just stop coming.
I think it's awful, too. That said, I could see my heavily burnt out self (circa 2010) doing something like this if I had been working in a club that got a high enough volume of new customers that they never caught on. Not saying that I have or that I would, but I can understand the feeling of being so pissed off at a grabby client base, and so pressed for money by high house fees, that you're willing to do stuff like this just to walk out with some cash. It ain't right, but it's real.
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I find that when I "assume" the tip I get it more often. So at the end of a dance I say the cost of the dance plus a tip. i think it does put some guys off but I get more this way.
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I do agree with it being a situational thing. That being said, what's the worst that can happen when you ask? They say no. You still have the same amount as before. If they do hand you a tip, that's $5 you wouldn't have made if you didn't simply ask. It adds up quick too. One weekend I tried it with non regulars. "Tip if I get an A for Effort" while pulling out the side of my thong. I'd say at least half will tip. I just don't ask regularly because it isn't part of my routine. Maybe I should make it part of my routine...
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^^I agree, I need to make it part of my routine as well, I go in saying to myself I will do this after every dance but then forget, ugh. I better do it tonight!
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^ My gf would always say gratuity's not included but greatly appreciated. Works well for her. I do it on rooms were they take a big cut since I feel getting 180 for a half hour is ridiculous. The waitress is suppose to immediately tell them the average tip to me on a half hour is 200 and ask if he wants to run his club for dollars( this is just one club I've been working over the summer) since I work at so many it's different everywhere. Lately these waitresses haven't so I take it apon myself. Sometimes it works sometimes not. Though the couple I had I told them every club I work charges double for couples so minimum tip is 200-300. He gave me 300, which was nice.
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^ Also some clubs I work dances are 40-60. I don't expect a tip on those but when I go to a club where it's 20 it kills me and I tell the guys " where's my tip" all snide and bitch/sexy look. Since I'm bitchy anyways( it works) and I tell all of them I get 40-60 at every other club I work!
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On this Wisconsin stripper forum I used to belong to, a lot of guys on there said if a dancer asked for a tip after a lapdance, they would never buy a dance from her again. It's a turnoff to a lot of guys because then you come across as being all about the money. However, I think it would be okay to hint at it and say something like "Dances are $20 minimum, tips are appreciated but not expected if you enjoyed the dance."
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^ Yeah I only say it selectively to guys if the dance is 20. I think my friends saying is good" gratuity is not included but greatly appreciated. I make good money and don't feel the need to ask. Unless they are super grabby at a 20 dance club or the rooms are cheap and high contact like the club I've been working in this summer.
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blondhottie
On this Wisconsin stripper forum I used to belong to, a lot of guys on there said if a dancer asked for a tip after a lapdance, they would never buy a dance from her again. It's a turnoff to a lot of guys because then you come across as being all about the money. However, I think it would be okay to hint at it and say something like "Dances are $20 minimum, tips are appreciated but not expected if you enjoyed the dance."
I really like your phrasing - "tips are appreciated but not expected." That approach is fantastic for Midwestern clubs, blue-collar clubs, and dives.
I think if I were working in a place like Vegas or even San Francisco, I'd adopt a much more aggressive approach to getting tips. I mean if you work in a place that has a super high customer turnover and few regulars, why not? Those tips realllllly do add up, and in this economic climate, there aren't many of us who give a shit about being perceived as 'greedy' if it means going home with an extra $100 every night!
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tips are tips, no exception, we strictly work on tips & tips alone, regardless of the LD money we recieve AFTER the club's cut. If they are going to feel that way about tipping us then why tip their server at a restaurant??? For the service we provide it should be universal, blue collar or not.
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Nope,you're right on , not alot of "us" give two fucks about being percieved as greedy. I'm going home with money at night regardless if it costs me a customer or two that night, I refuse to be a Miss Goody Two~Shoes & not ask for a tip. I could care less what these guys think & I'm sure others on here will agree with me that they are here to PAY US, not hold back & afraid to ask for $$$. Nine times out of ten I've gotten a $20-$60 tip from a $25 - $60 LD without contact!....Just sayin~
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I agree GothBarbie, but the city where I live, men are cheap and spoiled by no cover charge and low cover charges. LOL :)
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When guys ask how much I sweetly say "Dances are $30 plus whatever you wanna tip sweetheart!" with a smile and I almost always get 40 if not at least a couple extra bucks.
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If the clubs didn't take like half our money we wouldn't even have to contemplate this. example my last night of my trip I went home with like 1100 I tipped 75 to club 40 dj, 25 to bar and I cashed in 850 in funny money which I would have gotten around 1600 in funny money if I got the whole amount charged to the room.
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michele11
If the clubs didn't take like half our money we wouldn't even have to contemplate this. example my last night of my trip I went home with like 1100 I tipped 75 to club 40 dj, 25 to bar and I cashed in 850 in funny money which I would have gotten around 1600 in funny money if I got the whole amount charged to the room.
^^ I agree , alot of clubs these days are taking waaay too much of our money from LD I'm assuming to make up for the shitty economy.... It sucks no doubt! Sometimes I'll have to be extra sneaky about getting them to tip more during the dance by being flirty like telling them that they can undress me but only if they're putting $5's, or a stack of $1's in my garter, usually works.
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I turn it into a joke - "So that's $x plus a MILLION DOLLAR TIP!" - we both laugh, I've made asking for the money a "fun" moment rather than a "fun's over, pay up" moment. I find that turning it into a joke makes it seem a little less....grasping - even if they don't want to give me a tip, they usually aren't offended or anything.
I will ask almost every time - if it is someone that I know will tip, I won't bother making a point of asking, or if they have serious potential and I can tell that they have a complex about "greedy girls".
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^^ hmm, good one, I have never thought of this before or done it but it sounds like it would work, i am so going to use this next week at work, thanks girl! :)