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How to cam, and stay un-horny in real life?
Lol, I thought this would be an interesting topic to discuss between all of us.
Today was my first afternoon of camming again, after a 4 or 5 month hiatus. I really need the money, and I just moved, so I now have the space to cam and the time to dedicate to it. Everything was just like old times, with the added knowledge of SW research and past experience under my belt. I cammed for an hour or so (I have things to do, so I'm going back on later tonight).
So I'm sitting here, doing computer stuff, when all of a sudden I realized--I'm really horny. I literally have not been this sexually inclined for months. This whole time I thought that it was my birth control causing my diminished libido. I also lost a "skilled" partner around the same time I stopped camming, so I thought that that might have been the reason too--no one around to lust after.
...But nope. Camming makes me horny afterward. It's only natural--even though you are "acting", your body is going through the motions, and sends signals of general desire to your brain. This is a big problem for me, though. Being horny has been such a huge distraction for me in the past--I straight up fall in love with someone's genitals, lose my focus, and my finances suffer a LOT. I'm already suffering in a world where a good lover is nowhere to be found, because no one I've been interested in for the past year wants to fuck with someone who has a young child. So my Scorpio-esque fantasies are usually about past lovers lost...But I digress, and I'm not writing this for pity-party responses. I just think that there has to be some camgirls (especially single ones) who feel the same way I do about this. So--how do you cope and stay un-horny in your non-camming life?
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Re: How to cam, and stay un-horny in real life?
Sadly, I have no idea how to not be horny. In fact, camming makes me less horny, because it actually takes some of the edge off....
But I know what you mean. When there is no one available to fuck, the constant horny is awesome, because it means that I start working all. the. time. However, when someone comes along that I want, and I can have them, I just completely lose all focus and spend my life finding ways to fuck them. Le sigh.
I would actually try two things: First, try to make a really solid schedule and force yourself to stick to it!!
Second, how about actually getting into it when you cam? Instead of just going through the motions and faking it, and getting your body all worked up...go for it! Get really into your shows, make yourself cum, and see if that helps...
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Yeah I've actually found the camming makes me less horny also. When your fucking yourself for hours a day you just lose the desire to do it on your down time lol at least for me anyway. I've always been pretty sexual in my outside life- watch porn, masturbate once a day at least- but with camming not the case at all lol. When I watch porn now its for 'research' and there is no sexual desire- and the only time I masturbate is in shows. Sure I DO sometimes get off during a show. Its bound to happen sometimes. I had a private with a very hot guy the other night with a huge cock and it did turn me on, and I did get off. But once I shut off the cam that's usually it for me. I also don't have anyone in my life right now to fullfill me sexually- luckily because my sex drive is non existent when camming lol.
That's actually one of the downfalls for camming for me, it kills my sex drive.
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Fallenangel2904
Yeah I've actually found the camming makes me less horny also. When your fucking yourself for hours a day you just lose the desire to do it on your down time lol at least for me anyway. I've always been pretty sexual in my outside life- watch porn, masturbate once a day at least- but with camming not the case at all lol. When I watch porn now its for 'research' and there is no sexual desire- and the only time I masturbate is in shows. Sure I DO sometimes get off during a show. Its bound to happen sometimes. I had a private with a very hot guy the other night with a huge cock and it did turn me on, and I did get off. But once I shut off the cam that's usually it for me. I also don't have anyone in my life right now to fullfill me sexually- luckily because my sex drive is non existent when camming lol.
That's actually one of the downfalls for camming for me, it kills my sex drive.
Nah, I never used to find myself horny during my show, but hours later, when I'm by myself and my mind drifts inward, it would get pretty bad. But maybe I just need to cam a little more and get used to this change in my life again, and I'll be able to settle down... I hope so.
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Horny in real life? Huh? What's that? ;-)
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Camming has tremendously dropped my libido. I don't feel as horny as before I started camming. I am also on Hormones Replacement Therapy since I am a Transsexual (MTF) so my sex drive is very low and I prefer it that way.
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Yeah I'm one of the not horny ones, so I don't know how to help you. Even though I try to actually use my junk as little as possible while on cam, I'm still using it a lot in a 4-6 hr shift. After that long (even if I had a good time) it gets sore and I don't want RP to even look at it, let alone touch it. We have sex about once a week, and then it's because I want to feel his body against mine, since I love him, less because I'm horny. This actually works out for us, because he has a very low libido. If I wasn't camming, I could have it 2 or 3 times a day. He's perfectly happy with once a week, so camming, "takes the edge off" as was mentioned above. LOL, keeps me from being turned down as much as I was getting turned down before I started camming! Getting turned down 7 out of 10 times is a real ego crusher! Especially when you know you're young and hot and great in bed!
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IsobelWren
If I wasn't camming, I could have it 2 or 3 times a day. He's perfectly happy with once a week, so camming, "takes the edge off" as was mentioned above. LOL, keeps me from being turned down as much as I was getting turned down before I started camming! Getting turned down 7 out of 10 times is a real ego crusher! Especially when you know you're young and hot and great in bed!
I KNOW, right?? LOL
I honestly have such a high sex drive - if I go a few days without camming, I am still masturbating at least once off cam...and even then, I can actually feel the horny build up, like I'm being spring-loaded. I joke around on cam all the time about always being horny, and that I have to do this job, because otherwise I wouldn't have time for all the sex I need....I'm sure that a lot of them think that I am just playing it out for their benefit....but yeah.
Especially since I decided to end my relationship, and kind of released the sexually repressed beast, because I actually CAN have sex again. Suddenly I'm back to being horny 24/7, and wondering how the heck other people do it!!
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Generally when I'm broadcasting, I spend so much time worrying about if the customer/customers can see everything, if the lighting is good, and what they're saying in chat or asking for that I rarely notice there is a cock in me.
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oCURIOUSo
Generally when I'm broadcasting, I spend so much time worrying about if the customer/customers can see everything, if the lighting is good, and what they're saying in chat or asking for that I rarely notice there is a cock in me.
Same here. I'm there to make THEM cum and that's it. It never affects my own drive one way or another unless I just too tired to have sex from overwork.
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its weird but im so not horny on cam at all. mainly because i have developed a sincere hatred of men. everything they say and do annoys and infuriates me. whilst camming i tend to watch you-tube clips on silent of my favorite 'tv-hunks' the only guys i actually like are fictional fucking characters, and i find myself aroused by the clips and then log off and have a go on my hitatchi.. then i go back and put up with the morons again. so i can kind of see your dilemma. perhaps having a massive orgasm before camming would help you?
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Damn :)
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teenageannie
its weird but im so not horny on cam at all. Mainly because i have developed a sincere hatred of men. Everything they say and do annoys and infuriates me. whilst camming i tend to watch you-tube clips on silent of my favorite 'tv-hunks' the only guys i actually like are fictional fucking characters, and i find myself aroused by the clips and then log off and have a go on my hitatchi.. Then i go back and put up with the morons again. So i can kind of see your dilemma. Perhaps having a massive orgasm before camming would help you?
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you could try herbs. Offhand, I think Chasteberry is one to look into.
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So I'm on cam right now, doing decently. It's definitely quite a bit of acting work to flirt and be constantly exuberant/energetic, and when doing sexy things I have to force myself to smile and giggle. In reality, I'm indifferent to these customers--definitely not horny. But I know that when I get into bed tonight, I'll be restless and want to get off. (And I probably will) It's never the same as fucking a guy though =/
Maybe I'll try getting off BEFORE I cam next time, as TeenageAnnie suggested. However, I usually like taking post-orgasm naps. Not good for sticking to a rigid camming schedule!
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^ I used to be the same way when I danced in a club all the time.
I always liked masturbating before or after work-- sometimes both. Didn't really bother me not to have a man
since a lot of times they aren't as good as me and my fantasies. Even now I have a mate who's great in bed
but sometimes masturbating's still awesome.
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Im one of the horny ones. I was before I started camming. Strangely though in my 20's and early thirties I did not have any libido, and HATED any guy stareing at me, it revolted me! Then in my mid thirties I turned into a pervert ;-) All of a sudden it turned me on for guys to look at me and watch me.
Even though I cam I still am horny, maybe more so off camera. I even look at guys on the street differently now and always seem to be thinking of them sexually...even the ugly ones.
As it was suggested above, it helps if you go all out on cam, and orgasm.
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I cam once or twice every 2 weeks, but I ve always masturbated (when in privacy) at least 3 times a day, moatly close to one another. Lately i m off birth control and yesteerday 7 times. I am a bit obsessed but i like it.
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Ah, the hormonoal pitfalls of being a woman! I think I used to be horniest when I still menstruated. I don't anymore since I had a hysterectomy, but I still can get somewhat horny and no problem on having orgasms. However, I pretty much never feel that "throbbing sensation" down there where I just need to get it on. If only for 24 hours, I had a cock between my legs, just to feel the difference in libido. I'd probably go in to seclusion and watch porn and play with it all day long, then post ads on websites trying to get some real pussy.
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moonjade6
So I'm on cam right now, doing decently. It's definitely quite a bit of acting work to flirt and be constantly exuberant/energetic, and when doing sexy things I have to force myself to smile and giggle. In reality, I'm indifferent to these customers--definitely not horny. But I know that when I get into bed tonight, I'll be restless and want to get off. (And I probably will) It's never the same as fucking a guy though =/
Maybe I'll try getting off BEFORE I cam next time, as TeenageAnnie suggested. However, I usually like taking post-orgasm naps. Not good for sticking to a rigid camming schedule!
That's actually the easiest part for me. Talking to customers and hanging out, having fun and being generally entertaining is the best part. I spent like 3 hours yesterday being an idiot nurse and giggling at everything they said and they ate it the fuck up. Like, part of me actually felt like I was giving them unreal expectations for their future mates (assuming there are any?) because NO ONE is that stupid and THAT excited to hear about their pre-cum. It's when we get to a gold show and someone who put in the minimum at the last second runs his mouth the whole time about what I should be doing. It's a group show dude, sit back and enjoy it, or put in enough gold to get noticed, cause this guy over here dropped over $100 and asked that I not do anal.
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FiendishGyrator
^ I used to be the same way when I danced in a club all the time.
I always liked masturbating before or after work-- sometimes both. Didn't really bother me not to have a man
since a lot of times they aren't as good as me and my fantasies. Even now I have a mate who's great in bed
but sometimes masturbating's still awesome.
My husband is great in bed, but that feeling from the hitatchi is like no other.. it's like a different brand of orgasm that no man can ever give.
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i have a totally different O while i m with my man and alone feels good but sorta incomplete. with my man i feel like my pussy wraps around him and ugh i wanna explode. it is a completely different sensation. but even with that i like that my own fantasies can be as i like and i still feel the need to masturbate
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The only way for me to stay un-horny is for me to masturbate a lot. I'm going through a loooooong dry spell so it's the only way to give myself any relief. Sometimes I'll do it right before, after, or even during my cam shift. Like if I've had a couple of shows that end too soon and I'm all worked up, I'll log out, watch some porn, finish myself off, and then go back on cam. Luckily I don't have a problem achieving real orgasms during my cam shows as long as the customer gives me enough time and doesn't make requests that don't do it for me, so that helps as well. But yeah, I'm pretty much perpetually horny and I vote just satisfying yourself. If you take away the feelings of love and intimacy, sex with yourself is usually soooo much better than sex with a partner, anyway.
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I am usually WAY too tired and achy to be horny at the end of camming, yet there is one toy I bought right before the holidays that makes me want to come~ I only pull it out for custies that have given me 5 stars, because it's the type of rabbit that thrusts, has beads rotating, and has a clit vibration. It's so intense to use!
I NEVER have a real orgasm with it on cam,(although i do get close and I make it look like I do, but it makes me want one when i log off and am alone.)
The size of the thruster is much larger than the dildos I cam with, but the 'soreness' after is worth it!
Even though I have always been in love with my Hitachi it doesn't work well for me while camming, as most of the young dudes need to see penetration, and the hitachi confuses them. I see a lot of ladies use them for hours, but I know my clit would be too numb, and I'd be pissed if a guy logged off of prvt., before I could come, so I save it for personal use if i want a quick orgasm.