Have You Ever Been Outted?
Hello BB! I need your voice of reason. I think I've been outted as a cam girl because in the past two weeks, I've been getting some weird stares and funny looks when I'm out and about. The town I live in is not very small yet it's not a big place either. We have a lot of great story tellers here. I am prepared that it could happen sooner or later. I just don't know if I'm being too paranoid but I could feel something is up. Have any of you ever been outted and how do you cope? Thanks!
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Yes I have. Its inevitable if you get to the top of a site.
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A lot of cam sites let you block your own state (actually, you can block any state you want) if this is something you're concerned about.
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blondhottie
A lot of cam sites let you block your own state (actually, you can block any state you want) if this is something you're concerned about.
Geoblock doesn't really work. I used it and was still outed. Someone even asked if I was from my location, and I had my entire state blocked. I also got guys in my room from all over my state, and I knew they weren't lying because they would bring up events or places all the time. Or their usernames would be like LA_GUY_69 and stuff like that.
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RE Geoblocking
Using the advanced search function, tutorial here:
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...earch-function
I searched for "geoblock" and found these threads among the search results:
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=geoblock
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=geoblock
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=geoblock
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=geoblock
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=geoblock
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=geoblock
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=geoblock
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=geoblock
Some really good stuff in there about both geoblocking and being outed.
Marina I'm so so sorry that you got outed! There's some awesome stuff on outing and what to do here and in verified (I think you're a member but I don't remember) I'd do a search on "outed" and "what to do" I'd search for it myself right now but I'm on a deadline on this paper I'm working on! I know I chimed in on an outed thread that was really good in general, so you might could search "outed" as a keyword and my username as "in the thread"
Basically, act like it's a cop show. Don't volunteer any information unless confronted with evidence. Don't answer leading questions. If confronted with proof, hold your head high and make sure they know you didn't do anything wrong and you're proud of what you do.
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No, but two idiots I know IRL found me on MFC and blurted out stuff they didn't need to blurt out in public chat.
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Marina, didn't you recently tell your sister about what you do? Do you think for any reason maybe she was the one that told others?
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Yep.....
My bestfriend's boyfriend found out.
So did my boyfriends brother...
Basically two of the guys in my life who I didn't want to find out.
My boyfriend's brother is a gentleman about it and my best friend and her boyfriend think I'm loaded now although her boyfriend thinks its perfectly okay to make inappropriate dumbass jokes towards me now...you know turn everything sexual because he probably just sees me as a whore now, he's just that kind of special douchebag.....I guess it could be worse.
I'm moving back to my home town in a few months...its not small but people definitely know one another and know how to talk so I'm sure within a few months I'll be completely outted to everyone..
Time to get my concealed weapons permit...just incase the crazies find me. Lol
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GlamourRouge
Geoblock doesn't really work. I used it and was still outed. Someone even asked if I was from my location, and I had my entire state blocked. I also got guys in my room from all over my state, and I knew they weren't lying because they would bring up events or places all the time. Or their usernames would be like LA_GUY_69 and stuff like that.
Yep....it doesn't work.
I got a reg who lives 30 minutes from me...and he got his first show with me while I was using geo-blocking!
After that I just quit with the geo-blocking....it hurt my traffic and didn't work so it wasn't worth the money I was potentially losing.
Remember with a proxy it is SO easy to get around geo-blocking....and a lot of the guys I know who are tech savvy always use IP anonimizers, VPNs...(and whole bunch of other things I don't understand) while doing normal web browsing....I can't imagine the steps to hide their identity the take when browsing porn lol.
PS - sorry for the double post :)
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I'd like to think otherwise but it could be!
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Marina, didn't you recently tell your sister about what you do? Do you think for any reason maybe she was the one that told others?
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Everyone in my life basically knows already, except for my leasing agent in my apartment complex. But this one time, my drunk ass out of control neighbor came over to my place (uninvited) and she saw the dildos I hid under my pillow. Don't ask why she was snooping under my pillows, because I have no idea. She's just crazy. So I told her yeah, one of the things I do to make money is cam online. I am (WAS) really friendly with her and her husband, they are middle aged, no drama except in their own relationship so I didn't really care if she knew. Well about a week later this drunk female went kind of crazy and I was trying to get her back to her own apartment because she was bothering the neighbors, who were threatening to call the cops on her for trying to break into their apartment. And for some reason God only knows why, she decided to tell them I am a webcam model. The neighbors are two gangster looking guys, by the way. Oh, and when I finally had enough and went to her apartment to get her husband do go deal with her drunk ass because I'd had enough, apparently she gave my phone number to the guys while I was gone. And cursed me out for ruining her fun when her husband came to drag her home. Suffice to say I got a very disturbing phone call from those guys about how they wanted to come over, or for me to go over there (they only lived three apartments over from me) for some nasty sexual encounter. I told them I don't do that, I don't care what my drunk neighbor told them because she is obviously out of her damn mind, and I would appreciate it if they leave me alone and never contact me again. Things were awkward for a while, I'd get these awful looks from them when I would see them in passing but they eventually moved out and the whole thing blew over.
As messed up as the situation was at the time, and as violated as a felt that my neighbor/friend would betray my trust like that, I can actually laugh about it now. No harm no foul.
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Yes Ive been "outed"...I did care, it made me upset...
but then...
I thought FUCK IT, :finger:
Advice in my own words ...
"This is what I do, if your gunna judge me or try to bring me down about it, then thats your opinion.
I know who I am, what type of person I am and I am happy with it. :) "
The people who really matter in life wont ridicule or judge you.
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Someone I went to school with found me and my state was blocked on that site. I also have guys saying they go to my state for business, or pleasure etc, and ask if Im going to go to certain concerts and stuff here all the time. I honestly dont care anymore. It comes with the job. Everyone gets outted at some point, it just takes some years versus a few months for others
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This is something I think of quite often. I went into camming after talking to my family. Most of the ones I hold closest in my heart know. The only ones I have any concerns about are other parents in our area. Not for me...but I worry about my children and things being said to them. Then I think if they find me on a porn site..then they are online looking at it. So let them judge me. They don't pay my bills and they don't provide for my children. My kids know, they were the first ones I talked to about it. We are a open family and me camming wasn't just about me..it was about them as well. I wanted to make sure they were okay with my choice. If they weren't, then I would have never turned on that cam for the first time. My children are open minded, and are perfectly okay what what I do. It pays the bills, buys their food, supports the sports they are in and provides money for holidays and the extras I buy them. To each there own...but I really feel that if you go into sex work like this...you need to find a way to make sure your loved ones know. Or just handle it with dignity and pride if someone finds out. That's just my feelings on it. I do know there are reasons why some of us ladies don't share the career they are in..and I do understand that. Each one of us have different circumstances...only thing that we all have in common is looking beautiful on cam for pervs ;)
Marina....I think maybe MissSassyPickles might be right. Seems odd that you noticed that after you shared with your sis. Hopefully she didn't do that to you :( if so..that makes me sad. I was once down in Cleveland, Ohio at a night club and this man approached me and said this " aren't you on the internet" Not even thinking I just said " UMmm No" LOL I went back to my seat after dancing to take my shot of tequila only to realize that he had to have been talking about camming. LOL I was like "OMG" That is how different my camgirl world is from my real life. I didn't even think that this man was talking about that. To me I'm two different people :) I just told my hubby after he came back to the table that I was recognized for the first time. It didn't bother me in the least..but this was a guy that I didn't know, so I didn't care.
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Thank you everyone for chiming in. I truly appreciate it.
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I forgot to include my outted story!
I was outted as an escort. My parents also called the cops on me. Not fun...
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MissSassyPickles
I forgot to include my outted story!
I was outted as an escort. My parents also called the cops on me. Not fun...
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To answer your question, I've never been outed (as far as I know). I'm sure it will happen eventually, it would be naiive of me to think that it won't.
*hugs* Marina. You know I <3 you bb.
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To answer your question, I've never been outed (as far as I know). I'm sure it will happen eventually, it would be naiive of me to think that it won't.
*hugs* Marina. You know I <3 you bb.
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Didnt you say that your sister was the only one you have ever come out to,in the thread you wrote about her? If shes the only one in your life that you know FOR SURE knows,then most likely it was her - especially since you JUST came out to her,thats almost just too coincidental..Of course you want to think otherwise bb,no one wants to think family/close friends would hurt them like that!
But ya also have to keep in mind that they normally rarely realize just how serious it is for us to be outed if we are keeping it a secret.They arent living this life and usually just dont realize how serious of a betrayal that is and how much the repercussions of being outed can be.Im not at all insinuating that she did it maliciously - she didnt have the reaction you wanted when you told her and shes having to come to terms with everything.She may be really struggling to accept what you do and it could be weighing on her mind alot- if its troubling her,she could have easily told a close friend or her man, just trying to seek advice on what they would do and how she should proceed.We want others opinions when we are dealing with "shocking" news and dilemmas etc and she may have just been reaching out to someone close for help.
Unfortunately,even if you made her extremely aware of how important it is for her to NEVER tell anyone else and how horrible it could get for you if everyone ever found out,if she told someone else THEY probably dont realize this.They probably never even thought about how it could compromise your safety and the whole slew of other consequences that go with being outed-most likely they just were excited and bursting with the new juicy secret that was confided in them,and couldnt keep it to themselves either.Classic chain reaction.Just one person knowing is all we need for the whole thing to come crumbling down.Or else they may not have cared,you know how it goes "oh shes a total paid whore,i dont give a fuck what happens to her!dont be a prostitute if you dont wanna get hurt" type of thinking.
Ive been with my husband for 13 yrs and I trust him more than anyone else in my life but theres times when I wonder if even he will ever out me on accident.All it takes is just a quick slip of the tongue- I can so see something like "Hey dude,good to see ya,wheres Briadda?" and him not thinking just responding with " Oh shes at home camming,I meant at home ca-aaaa-mm...PING..?" lol
We cant even fully trust ourselves to not accidentally slip like that ourselves one of these days,especially with a few drinks in us lol. I rarely drink in front of others now just so that I dont out myself lol!
Youve said many times that you already get stared at since youve been outed as a transsexual so fuck em bb,theyre already staring and whispering anyways.Just hold your head up high and put on your fierce face - give them something to talk about.Oh,I can just imagine how the loins of the men in your town will be aching now - Im sure most secretly wanted you before and now with this new info?..Girl,you better wear a goggles so you dont get flying jizz in your eye every time you step out on the street lol
In all seriousness,I know its not what you want and that there are many more repercussions that just tons of boners everywhere you go- If it was your sister,my heart aches for you.If it wasnt her,it still hurts for you honey.Its hard living as a "mystery" camgirl so try looking at it in a positive way - atleast the secret is about to be off of your chest and the weight off of your shoulders.I know living in a small town can be a bitch once youve been outed,but you may have some people surprise you and stick up for you.Everything always happens for a reason,I dont believe in coincidences or accidents,it all falls into place eventually.Its just hard as hell to see why and to live through it but hindsight always provides the answer later.I <3 you :hug:
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The first week i was doing cam someone came into my room and said my real name. I just ignored them and blocked them. This still happens from time to time and I just do the same. I remain calm and have a poker face. This way no one knows that is my real name. I have a lot of other men come in my room and call out names to me. Its like they live to do this. FYI. One of my high paying clients ,who is a firemen, told me that the guys in the firehouse have nothing else to do so they sit around and harass the cam models. Almost all men look at porn if they are techy. I used to care ,,,,, now I could care less. I know who I am and I pay my bills and have a future. A lot of people in my town... dont have cars, jobs or lives. Hence why they come on the net and harass women. They are jealous of me. Jealous of the fact I can eat, have a car and pay my bills. It is sad to me. Sad that they hate themselves that much that they cant just allow others to live their lives and be happy. I hope things subside for you soon. Know we are all in this together.
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Youve said many times that you already get stared at since youve been outed as a transsexual so fuck em bb,theyre already staring and whispering anyways.Just hold your head up high and put on your fierce face - give them something to talk about.Oh,I can just imagine how the loins of the men in your town will be aching now - Im sure most secretly wanted you before and now with this new info?..Girl,you better wear a goggles so you dont get flying jizz in your eye every time you step out on the street lol
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Someone has mentioned my full name and bought gold shows from me. I decided I dont care and please spend more money on me and continue complimenting me lol
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I just recently got so paranoid regarding this subject Marina~I connected with someone from an online social group I just joined. ( it's not a dating site, just a common interest site).When I spoke to one of the guy members, and he asked about my dating situation, I said that I am not interested in dating, just making new friends with common interests. he said that he was looking for a friend also. Then, 20 minutes after our phone convo, he texted me to say that my pics on my profile are too sexy to be a person who works a corporate job. I immediatley got spooked, and will not communicate with him. He is a retired guy, and It will just be a matter of time before he finds me on the camming sites.
Also, I think a maintenance guy from my sublease, suspects me of camming,(or having a lot of sex), because last week, I was coming home after running a short errand(had left my radio on to make it sound like somebody was home), and I caught this guy sweeping the carpet in front of my door!) When he saw me, he scurried off. I live in a hi-rise with 30 floors, so wtf was he doing? I cam from just inside my door,so I guess I'm going to have to move to my tiny closet or something. Geez!! Trust no one! Wish I lived in a house.
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I think I read in one of your previous posts that no matter how discreet we can try to be, sooner or later, some people can pick up on that something isn't "right". I think we also can feel it when we think they know. I'm only concern when people know for safety reason like I don't want some random guy to sexually assault me. It's mainly for safety reasons.
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I just recently got so paranoid regarding this subject Marina~I connected with someone from an online social group I just joined. ( it's not a dating site, just a common interest site).When I spoke to one of the guy members, and he asked about my dating situation, I said that I am not interested in dating, just making new friends with common interests. he said that he was looking for a friend also. Then, 20 minutes after our phone convo, he texted me to say that my pics on my profile are too sexy to be a person who works a corporate job. I immediatley got spooked, and will not communicate with him. He is a retired guy, and It will just be a matter of time before he finds me on the camming sites.
Also, I think a maintenance guy from my sublease, suspects me of camming,(or having a lot of sex), because last week, I was coming home after running a short errand(had left my radio on to make it sound like somebody was home), and I caught this guy sweeping the carpet in front of my door!) When he saw me, he scurried off. I live in a hi-rise with 30 floors, so wtf was he doing? I cam from just inside my door,so I guess I'm going to have to move to my tiny closet or something. Geez!! Trust no one! Wish I lived in a house.