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Help Somewhat Busted. Mom is pressuring me for documents/info.
I'm 19 I live at home and I go at school. (please don't be harsh on me for that I know alot of people move out earlier but that's my situation)
My parents let me stay with them as long as I'm in school but they don't help me out financially in any way. The way I was able to get in school is through money from camming.
I was smart about it and pretended to be broke the whole time but it's no longer working since she recently found out I'm not receiving financial aid for school. My mom has become very suspicious that I'm able to pay for school don't have to ask her for money. And she said that there will be no secrets in her house. She said for all she knows what I'm doing could be illegal.
She has no idea that I'm camming but she wants to know where my money is coming from. She sat me in front of the computer and literally yelled at me for 3 hours straight trying to force me to open my online baking account so she could look at it. I didn't open it though. I was also kicked out the house for some time.
She is not one of those parents that believe a good cover story. She wants to see documented proof for whatever I happen to tell her. She knows nothing about my camming but if I want to stay at home I have to show her my bank info and my secret will be revealed. I know camming sites don't use their official name for payments but she'd figure it out. My mother is very savvy.
She said I either tell her where my money is coming from or I have to move out soon. I don't think it be worth it to tell her so I've decided to move.
What kills me the most is that she fussed at me get in school or you have to leave so I found a way to do it. If she's not willing to help me financially in anyway she should be happy I'm taking care of things myself. She's sure not paying for it. I just wish she would believe my cover story of having a online business. (she wants to see the site)
A friend will let me have my own room for $150 a month so that is a good deal. I can easily make the rent but I feel I might wind up stuck their forever. I'm not polished enough with camming to know if I could support myself fully in my own apartment.
I was thinking about moving out and start stripping. The idea of it doesn't bother me at all. I've heard stories from so many girls that were able to fix what was going on in their lives (get car, own place to stay,school etc) You never know until you try but I know the money isn't as good as it used to be. I just don't want to move out and fail since I have nothing else to fall back on.
Is it the smart thing to do just to move out and not show my account info/documents and just leave so she'll never find out about my camming? Or should I cave? I know if I do cave she'll probably just take my computer say I'm a disgrace yet still not help me. To me what is disgraceful is not being able to stay in school. It may not be worth telling her.
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I think it's always best not to lie to your parents, and to do your dirt under your own roof. I would move out, 150 a month is absurdly cheap and you could work towards getting your own place. You should be able to swing that and save if you danced and/or cammed.
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Well I don't know your situation so I don't know what I would do if I were you, but if I were in that situation I'd tell her. But, my mother is very liberal when it comes to sex work. When I was in college I was living at home and had to take a second part time job on top of my full time job and full time course work, so I became a phone sex operator. I told my mom and she was fine with it. It hasn't negatively impacted our relationship at all. If your mother is ultra-conservative I would worry that coming out might make her judge you if you care about your relationship with her.
I'm not a mother but if I was, I would want to know what my child was doing, especially if they were still living under my roof. You bring up a good point, you could be selling drugs or running illegal scams for all she knows, I don't blame her for being concerned about where all of this money is coming from. She's probably afraid that you are doing something harmful or illegal which is why she's pressuring you to 'fess up. She might just surprise you and be okay with you camming. You've already said that you've lied to her, she might just feel better if you are honest, she can see you're not doing anything illegal, and the whole thing might blow over. If you tell her, what's teh worst that can happen, she'll kick you out? Well you've already found an affordable place to stay so what do you really have to lose?
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first i would tell her, so she knows it isn't illegal. and then if shit hits the fan, move out on your own! that sounds like a very good deal ( the room). stripping is faster money ( when you are starting out) so i'd do both if you can't support yourself from just camming. good luck!!
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Re: Help Somewhat Busted. Mom is pressuring me for documents/info.
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CourtneyRaine
Well I don't know your situation so I don't know what I would do if I were you, but if I were in that situation I'd tell her. But, my mother is very liberal when it comes to sex work. When I was in college I was living at home and had to take a second part time job on top of my full time job and full time course work, so I became a phone sex operator. I told my mom and she was fine with it. It hasn't negatively impacted our relationship at all. If your mother is ultra-conservative I would worry that coming out might make her judge you if you care about your relationship with her.
I'm not a mother but if I was, I would want to know what my child was doing, especially if they were still living under my roof. You bring up a good point, you could be selling drugs or running illegal scams for all she knows, I don't blame her for being concerned about where all of this money is coming from. She's probably afraid that you are doing something harmful or illegal which is why she's pressuring you to 'fess up. She might just surprise you and be okay with you camming. You've already said that you've lied to her, she might just feel better if you are honest, she can see you're not doing anything illegal, and the whole thing might blow over. If you tell her, what's teh worst that can happen, she'll kick you out? Well you've already found an affordable place to stay so what do you really have to lose?
I wish my mom was like yours but she isn't. I don't think it'd be worth the hell and chaos to tell her. She's very religious and would never get over it. I'd just be broke without a computer and further under her control with no future.
I've always wanted to move and think this might be the perfect opportunity to take it. I never wanted to make her sad and just leave but now she wants me too and I have a good reason.
I think blkschoolgirl's idea is good. Maybe leaving is the best idea. I really love camming and if I want to do it. I can't do it under her roof. $150 is dirt cheap. I could save up continue doing what I love and not have every aspect of my life controlled.
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simone87
first i would tell her, so she knows it isn't illegal. and then if shit hits the fan, move out on your own! that sounds like a very good deal ( the room). stripping is faster money ( when you are starting out) so i'd do both if you can't support yourself from just camming. good luck!!
Thank you :)
Moving and doing both seems like a very good choice.
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Camming isn't worth ruining your relationship with your mother. You decided to be a grown up and get into porn, time to put some big girl panties on and fess up. If you really think you will be able to hide this from her - or anyone - for very long you are in for a surprise.
I think this is like the third thread recently of 18-19 year olds thinking they can hide this from parents while living at home. Don't be so naive.
Hopefully she doesn't still claim you on her taxes or she's in for a possible audit.
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SarahTime
Hopefully she doesn't still claim you on her taxes or she's in for a possible audit.
VERY good point which I didn't even think of! You really need to tell her. Chances are she's claimed you on her taxes, she has every right to if you are living with her, even if you are a college student and paying your own way. Taxes bring a whole new level of sticky to this situation.
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Originally Posted by
SarahTime
Camming isn't worth ruining your relationship with your mother. You decided to be a grown up and get into porn, time to put some big girl panties on and fess up. If you really think you will be able to hide this from her - or anyone - for very long you are in for a surprise.
I think this is like the third thread recently of 18-19 year olds thinking they can hide this from parents while living at home. Don't be so naive.
Hopefully she doesn't still claim you on her taxes or she's in for a possible audit.
You are right. If I'm doing this sort of thing I should be out on my own.
I will tell her I just want to tell her while I'm still in her house. I couldn't stand to tell her now. She'd probably take my computer I wouldn't be able to communicate with my friend who has the room or tie up some other loose ends before I move. I just don't want to screw myself before I leave.
My school is cheap since I go to community college. I haven't reached the independent status yet but I do plan on telling her since I don't want her to claim me and get in trouble.
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I didn't make enough last year for her not to be able to claim for her taxes filed this year. I had some money saved in the bank and used some camming money to pay for my very cheap community college. I'm very aware of the taxes thing. And I don't want her to get into trouble.
I also sell stuff on ebay and amazon to offset the costs. I keep track of how much money I've made camming and I don't want it to cross a certain level.
If I move out I wouldn't have to worry about that.
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Originally Posted by
worriedgirl
You are right. If I'm doing this sort of thing I should be out on my own.
I will tell her I just want to tell her while I'm still in her house. I couldn't stand to tell her now. She'd probably take my computer I wouldn't be able to communicate with my friend who has the room or tie up some other loose ends before I move. I just don't want to screw myself before I leave.
My school is cheap since I go to community college. I haven't reached the independent status yet but I do plan on telling her since I don't want her to claim me and get in trouble.
If you made money camming in 2012 then you have put your mother into a heap of potential trouble. Taxes are due in half a month. She probably ALREADY filed her taxes, most people with vanilla careers don't wait to file.
Did you consider any of this before you started camming? I often wonder when people get into these situations if they just thought they could earn lots of fun monopoly money and not pay taxes, mommy and daddy won't find out, and the world will be full of sunshine and rainbows.
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You have pretty much got your mind made up that maybe moving would be best. If your mom is mega conservative and also really wants to know what you are up to, you might wanna move. $150 is a sweet deal and if your friend is offering you this decent solution, I would say go for it. I am not you but from what you have said, moving makes a lot of sense for you.
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worriedgirl
I didn't make enough last year for her not to be able to claim for her taxes filed this year.
That's exactly the problem. She needed to have claimed your income on her return and she didn't since she did not know about it. The cam sites send 1099s to the IRS so they are expecting your income to be reported and it wasn't.
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SarahTime
If you made money camming in 2012 then you have put your mother into a heap of potential trouble. Taxes are due in half a month. She probably ALREADY filed her taxes, most people with vanilla careers don't wait to file.
Did you consider any of this before you started camming? I often wonder when people get into these situations if they just thought they could earn lots of fun monopoly money and not pay taxes, mommy and daddy won't find out, and the world will be full of sunshine and rainbows.
I was very careful. I wasn't trying to rack up as much money as possible and think there wasn't going to be any consequences. I had a few hundred saved in the bank made a few hundred from selling old textbooks online.
I didn't cam to rack up money only to make up the difference I needed to stay in school which wasn't much since my school is very cheap. Since I don't pay rent to stay there's very little that I need.
Trust me she won't be in any trouble for 2012. Once I had the money for school combined with all the money from the other sources I stopped camming that year. I only raised like 200.
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"I keep track of how much money I've made camming and I don't want it to cross a certain level." Just keep in mind, if you make over $400 you HAVE to file.
ETA: Never mind, I didn't see your post right above mine.
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SarahTime
That's exactly the problem. She needed to have claimed your income on her return and she didn't since she did not know about it. The cam sites send 1099s to the IRS so they are expecting your income to be reported and it wasn't.
Maybe I worded that poorly. I meant that I made so little she is able to claim me for her taxes last year.
She didn't have to at all. If she did she would have told me. I think theres a post about a mom pressuring because of tax info. But my mom is pressuring is because she's worried I'm doing something illegal.
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worriedgirl
I was very careful. I wasn't trying to rack up as much money as possible and think there wasn't going to be any consequences. I had a few hundred saved in the bank made a few hundred from selling old textbooks online.
I didn't cam to rack up money only to make up the difference I needed to stay in school which wasn't much since my school is very cheap. Since I don't pay rent to stay there's very little that I need.
Trust me she won't be in any trouble for 2012. Once I had the money for school combined with all the money from the other sources I stopped camming that year. I only raised like 200.
So you made $200 camming?
Have you considered that in the equation of it being worth it to move out?
You really don't want to burn a bridge with your mom and then move out assuming off your experience in camming, having only made $200, that you are going to be able to support yourself.
I'm just trying to get you to see this in a realistic light. You don't want to end up broke and mom won't take you back because of you refusing to be honest with her.
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Originally Posted by
SarahTime
So you made $200 camming?
Have you considered that in the equation of it being worth it to move out?
You really don't want to burn a bridge with your mom and then move out assuming off your experience in camming, having only made $200, that you are going to be able to support yourself.
I'm just trying to get you to see this in a realistic light. You don't want to end up broke and mom won't take you back because of you refusing to be honest with her.
Yes I know you want me to consider the smartest choice.
I won't end up broke I was just careful last year. I was holding back not to cross a certain level. This year I wasn't careful at all since last year is over (so I will have to tell her). I also have other ways to make money. I have some money saved. $150 is cheap and I know I can swing that.
I think its worth it yes because if I move out I won't have to stop camming. And I could devote more time to camming to make more money. I also want to strip so that's in the equation. I wouldn't even mind having a square job in combination with one of the other too.
I just want to tell her in my own way on my own terms while I'm not in her house. Wimpy yes but that's the situation.
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I would die inside if I had to tell her now. (Something i should of considered beforehand)
My friend said it'd be 150 or even less depending on my situation. I know I could swing that if I was determined. I have enough money for a few months rent. On a square job part time you make $100 a week. Worse case scenario I could get a square job and cam on the side or strip.
All utilities are included. As of now I ration my food and only spend $40/month (since I cook it myself)
With utilities included and a place to stay and money for food. I don't really need all that much. I'm willing to do whatever it takes and with the rent being so low I don't think its as risky as say moving into a more expensive place (using saved money) and hoping that things will come together to sustain that.
150 or less seems sustainable.
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I would try to still go to school and look for either part-time regular job on the side and look at some clubs to try out. Cam on the other times and if you can move out that's good too. Probably should do your own taxes this year anyway you might get in trouble if she claims you this year. Its the IRS so who knows? Maybe not but she probably shouldn't claim you I don't know what the minimum is you have to make it varies on each person and their location/circumstances etc. Good luck. I told my mom I made money online talking to guys and flirting on cam lol. I also went to school and danced on weekends. I currently still cam/dance but live alone and file taxes independent.
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I didn't read the above comments yet, so I may be repetitive. But, if I was in your situation, I'd tell her AND move out. She may be trying to take care of you and be sure you're not doing anything illegal, but being menacing and threaten you to be homeless and even kicking you out at some point is no way to do so. You have to find yourself in a safe place to keep doing your job and going on with your studies, even if she's ok with what you do. If she was the one who pressed you to go to school and now she's threatening you because you found your way of doing it, what else will she press you to do in order for you to do things the way she wants to?
You have to be safe. No one should live under threats, especially when they come from your mother...
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Originally Posted by
worriedgirl
I would die inside if I had to tell her now. (Something i should of considered beforehand)
My friend said it'd be 150 or even less depending on my situation. I know I could swing that if I was determined. I have enough money for a few months rent. On a square job part time you make $100 a week. Worse case scenario I could get a square job and cam on the side or strip.
All utilities are included. As of now I ration my food and only spend $40/month (since I cook it myself)
With utilities included and a place to stay and money for food. I don't really need all that much. I'm willing to do whatever it takes and with the rent being so low I don't think its as risky as say moving into a more expensive place (using saved money) and hoping that things will come together to sustain that.
150 or less seems sustainable.
Well you sound like a smart girl, so you should be fine. :)
I just hate to see people get into problems with family. When it's all said and done family is all (most people) have. I assume you have already tried telling her the money all came from eBay/amazon sales? If you really don't want to tell her about camming I would suggest telling her it was all from selling on eBay/amazon and that you are not doing anything illegal and you won't show her your bank account because you are an adult and deserve privacy.
Whatever way it works out, you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Saving money is one of the hardest things for most people to do so keep on saving while you have low expenses and you will be good to go.
Also read around here for tips on making money camming once you get moved. There's lots of great advice here. :)
Good luck!
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LavishLivia
If she was the one who pressed you to go to school and now she's threatening you because you found your way of doing it, what else will she press you to do in order for you to do things the way she wants to?
^ That scares the hell out of me.
That's what scares me the most about living with her. Even before I started camming she's always used threats. And do things a certain way no matter what it is. I I don't do everything her way she will show me the door. Even on minuscule stuff (like how I cook food its that petty). I' worry every day even when things are going perfect if I will get kicked out.
I think now is the right time to leave.
I think taking the chance on this cheap rent is worth it. I'd rather not be kicked out with zero options.
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worriedgirl, you sound like you got a great head on your shoulders and a great plan. you know your mom and you know how she will react. i understand it being dangerous telling her now could ruin your chances of freedom. get yourself together, just do what you gotta do. she isn't even helping you out but she wants to control you. i know these types my foster mother was exactly the same way. just believe in yourself that you can make it on your own. you will be fine.
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SarahTime
Well you sound like a smart girl, so you should be fine. :)
I just hate to see people get into problems with family. When it's all said and done family is all (most people) have. I assume you have already tried telling her the money all came from eBay/amazon sales? If you really don't want to tell her about camming I would suggest telling her it was all from selling on eBay/amazon and that you are not doing anything illegal and you won't show her your bank account because you are an adult and deserve privacy.
Whatever way it works out, you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Saving money is one of the hardest things for most people to do so keep on saving while you have low expenses and you will be good to go.
Also read around here for tips on making money camming once you get moved. There's lots of great advice here. :)
Good luck!
Thank you :)
I don't want to burn bridges but they say absence makes the heart grow fonder so maybe after I leave we could get along better. Perhaps we don't belong in the same house together anymore.
I've tried to tell her that I sell on ebay and amazon which is very believable since I really do sell alot of stuff on there. But not as much as I used to recently and she'd want to see my paypal for ebay to prove it or for amazon she'd want to see my amazon account.
Selling on ebay was my original coverup story but when she grilled me she pulled up the paypal site and wanted to see all my records. And of course there wasn't any larger amounts made recently. I refused to show it to her though.
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SarahTime
and you won't show her your bank account because you are an adult and deserve privacy.
I told her that exact same thing. That I felt she was treating me like baby and I rather not show her my records because I'm taking care of my school stuff without her help. She didn't go for that though. She said I was being disrespectful and that's when she had to restrain herself from hitting me and I got kicked out of the house for a few hours. She is never going to yield on that she's been arguing that with me on that point for the past few days. She says I don't deserve respect/privacy living with her. So I think that's a sign to leave.
However she said if I decide to leave she'll give me a month from today.
I'll be sure to keep reading on here.