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Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
So last night was my first night ever stripping. The girls were nice and though I'd heard that you're supposed to keep to yourself, I naturally tried to be friendly. Some girls WERENt having it though and they kept to themselves making their money and dancing beautifully. The stripper who was helping me went on sage with me a few times and danced with me. She was great but I sucked. A guy gave me pitty tips, but guys were throwing their money at her. I feel poopy cause I made only about 11 dollars that night and I had to tip the dj and stuff and ugh. Another of my concerns is my body. I'm thick like I have nice curves but my waist could be trimmer. Oh gosh and I'm horrible at talking to guys. I'd just go up and sit next to them bad wait for them to talk. I have this fear of rejection which also keeps me from dancing alone. I'm trying to figure out how to get guys to want to pay me for dances and top me on stage. I just didn't bank and it's a drive to that club and I want to make a good investment.
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
If your afraid of rejection dancing may not be for you if you cannot get over it cause I am rejected every time I dance by at least one person. Also, going up to guys and saying "wanna dance" is better than just sitting there...your self consciousness will show if your that self-conscious and that sets you up for custies taking advantage of it or other girls. Just fake confidence till you get it!
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
what kind of club is it that you started at? are there a lot of girls, are there high house fees, etc? when i first started, i had no idea what i was doing but i started out at a smaller club with not many girls and was able to learn quickly and build up the confidence before i moved on to bigger clubs. being your first day, it probably is a lot different than what you expected. it takes some time to get used to, but the more you work, the more comfortable you become. this is a job where you can not be afraid of rejection because everyone deals with it. pay attention to the things the other girls do on stage, how they approach customers, etc to see what works and what doesn't
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
It's a small club with many girls, 15, ad not a lot of customers most nights. I just wish I had that shtick that made guys open up to me. I watched this very skinny black girl dance and get lots of money and when I couldn't find a guy to spend money on me I felt like it had something to do with my weight. I looked so awkward going up to awkward guys and just sitting next to them not saying a word. But what is the key to getting that guy who'll be interested in spending on you?
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
I cant say how helpful it is to watch other girls while their onstage!! You will learn so much from them, that will make you better dancer. WHenever I danced with another person on stage I always would stop to watch them DONT DO THAT, when you give another girl your attention all the guys will think that she must be doing something spectacular and stop payying you attentioin. Fake it till ya make it girly thats what being an stripper is all about. To be honest theres always that one guy who can make or break your whole entire evening. Dont worry if you arent cashing out in the beginning cause it will get better. Have you tried taking a beginner pole class? It could reall help your confidence onstage and do wonders for your self esteem
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
Oh kraize what was it like your first time dancing? How did that night go?
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1) Don't waste your time talking to other girls... being friendly in the DR if they speak to you is one thing, but saying they "weren't having it" is implying to me that you were wasting time chatting up the girls instead of customers. Not to sound rude, but most of the dancers I know will be friendly and answer a question here and there, but we don't want to physically help you on the floor... it cuts into our own profiting time. Also, if money is thin on the ground, they may be seeing you as another mouth to feed, in which case you had really best leave them be.
2) There are whole lists in Hustle Hut of things to say and do when sitting with customers. My basic hustle is this: First of all, ask if they want some company; a lot of guys know this is code for "She's going to ask me for a dance eventually" and will say no if you're not their type, and I also find that 90% of those who say sure will get a dance. Ask their name, introduce yourself. Small talk. "What brings you in today? Trying to relax from work? Oh, what do you do?" and act interested in it. Dudes love to talk about themselves. Sometimes you can do something silly and unique like asking them to tell you a joke or funny story; then when you laugh at it, bingo, you've stroked his ego. Keep that up for a couple songs. Then ask if they'd like a dance, or say something like "Are you ready to have some fun?" Make sure you sound confident and upbeat when you ask. Bam.
3) If you were hot enough to get hired, you are fine. We all get rejected. I'm going to sound like a conceited bitch now, but I don't go a single day without getting hit on in real life, and if I dumped my man I'd have 10 other dudes chomping at the bit to take his place, yet I have had days at work where I get rejected 3 or 4 times in a row. I've had guys look me up and down with a dung-under-the-nose expression and just shake their head when I walk up. You won't be everyone's ideal girl. Move onto the next customer and be glad you didn't waste 10 minutes chatting up the guy who was too polite to dismiss you immediately.
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
There's a fairly steep learning curve with dancing, much more so than most new girls expect, so it may be worthwhile to stick it out a few more shifts. It's a new environment and you're probably totally out of your element, so a big part of it is just getting used to the club and actually talking to the customers. You'll likely get more comfortable over time, so just remember that every dancer was in your place at one point: insecure, awkward, and unsure.
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
@selina, when i said the girls weren.t having it i was meaning, these girls didn't even bother to talk. They were so good with the customers and I just want to kill it. but i know everything comes with time. my only concern is the 50 mile drive there. i want to make at lease 150 to somehow profit from this.
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
That's essentially what I meant.. they didn't want to talk.
Try setting a quota of "I'll approach at least one guy in between each stage set". It'll help you get over your nerves and of course the more you approach, the more likely you are to get a yes and make money.
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
selina, how did it start out for you. When you was first starting i mean.
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
And when any of you first started how did you start making money. What epiphanies did you have or what breakthroughs occurred. Was it gradual or did you just start making money one day. And however it happened what did you do to make it happen?
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
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Selina M
Try setting a quota of "I'll approach at least one guy in between each stage set". It'll help you get over your nerves and of course the more you approach, the more likely you are to get a yes and make money.
This is great advice. It's much less daunting to thinking about speaking to x amount of people than selling x amount of dances, so it's a good way to start getting comfortable. You just really have to get over your issue of not even being able to speak to the customer. They're not scary people - most are quite socially awkward and just waiting for a pretty dancer to strike up a conversation. Sometimes it helps to put it into perspective that way.
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
I put up a picture of myself, and also yeah i guess i need to stop over thinking the people and anticipating their reactions and stuff
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
50 miles? Is there somewhere closer you can work? That seems like an awfully long drive. But anyway...
Don't give up! Everyone has bad nights, and you're brand new. You can't expect to just come in and "get it" right away. If it was that easy, there would be no need for StripperWeb. :)
Just try to work as many shifts as you can to start with. The more you practice, the easier it will become to approach and talk to guys, and your confidence will grow. Also, try some different days and shifts if you can. I keep a notebook at home and use it to record the days I worked for each month, the shifts I worked, and how much I made. That way you can start to look for patterns to see the days and shifts that you typically don't do well, and choose not to work at those times.
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
Not everyone has a good first night-you are new to this and learning, so don't be too hard on yourself! As for your dancing, you'll pick it up in time, everyone looks a bit funny at first. Remember to move slowly and sensually at first, watch the other dancers and maybe even learn a few moves from you tube etc.
Other than that, read up on hustle hut to learn how to approach/what to say-having a set "script" is easier ;).
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
There are close place I just don't want to run the risk of running into someone I know. My city is very small and the drive doesn't bother me as long as I can start to profit and today and yesterday I developed the worst pain in my thighs. I was going to go work today but now it's like I can't even bend down without screaming. What do any of you guys do for pain? How do you dance?
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
The pain is caused by small tears in your muscles that occur when you stretch them into new positions. Over time, these tears heal and new tissue is formed. Therefore, the pain stops and you get stronger. If you work out (dance, run, lift, anything) and you're not sore the next day, you didn't work hard enough. Advil or your favorite over the counter NSAID drug will ease the inflammation and make you feel better immediately. Warm up and cool down stretches will reduce soreness in general (look on Youtube for some basic thigh and full body stretches). There are some natural vitamin, mineral and herbal supplements that also assist in muscle and joint health, but it's getting more complicated at that point and I don't know your medical history so I can't safely suggest anything else. Just start with Advil, stretches, and daily exercise. You'll feel better. :)
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
I try taking my shoes off when i do dances so the strain on the legs isn't as bad. Its only a factor when I have to do air dances all night, couch or bed dances are great cause then your not sore the next day. Alcohol helps me not think about the pain.lol
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
They say we have to wear shoes when dancing on the stage though :(, could I wear boots?
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Yea you can get the stripper boots. I forget how sore I used to get as a beginner. Its horrible for a while but u get used to it. Maybe ry not to even go on the stage if you can avoid it as $ comes from privates, not stage anyways. If stage is whats makin you sore its just not worth it.
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
K Ava, I meant biker boots and it's my second night so how do I score these private dances. I'm so awkward and the night I was there nobody was getting private dances.
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Re: Just started stripping last night and I did horribly..HELP
WELL IDK about biker boots. Stripper ones are better. Just like I said fake your confidence, practice a walk, a confident look and if nothing else, go up to everyone with hey how are you and feed off them or like I said anything is better than just sitting there so just say "wanna dance?" that should get you more than nothing...youll get the hang of it after a while
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They say we have to wear shoes when dancing on the stage though :(, could I wear boots?
Wear stripper shoes on stage. It's only a couple of songs, and as long as you move slowly, you shouldn't be too sore the next day. Take the shoes off for private dances though, because that's where you'll get the real work out on those thighs.
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selina, how did it start out for you. When you was first starting i mean.
I started out at 18, so I was not, IMHO, mature enough at the time for the mental aspect. But I pushed through, with the same advice I just gave you. Getting up the nerve to talk to strangers was the hard part. I also started at a very seedy club, which made it harder. I recently came back to the biz and switched to a gown club, where I fit in better. So that's an aspect too; if you don't click with the clientele, it will suck. I do best with old educated white dudes; I am miserable around day laborers and college kids. Find your niche.