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Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
About three months ago I went to a strip club for the very first time. The first night was lame but the second I met this girl who I really ended up falling for. In the three months we've known each other I have never gotten a dance from another dancer. Our conversations are always lively, I can get her to laugh genuinely, she always hugs me when I get there and before I leave. It seems like she really likes me. She recently even gave me her real name and offered to add me on facebook, and I took her up on that offer. Why would she do that if she wasn't interested in me?
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
She may really like you. Or she may just want you to buy more dances.
Guess which my £ is on.
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
Your money is on she really likes me right? Cause I'm such a charming fella?
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
Save both of you a lot of trouble and just give her your credit card.
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
Instead of asking here, why not just ask her out? How old are you, you don't sound very experienced?
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
We should change this sections name from "Customer Conversation" to "Does She Like Me..?"
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
Show up to the club one night and tell her you just stopped by to ask her out to dinner, not to buy any dances. Report back here and let us know how it went...
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
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Originally Posted by
yoda57us
Show up to the club one night and tell her you just stopped by to ask her out to dinner, not to buy any dances. Report back here and let us know how it went...
That's actually a really good idea and I will consider it. I'd rather ask on a night I'm getting dances though. I fear if I didn't it would not bode well for me.
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
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Originally Posted by
safado
Instead of asking here, why not just ask her out? How old are you, you don't sound very experienced?
I'm 24 but I've never had a girlfriend so you hit the nail on the head on my inexperience.
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
Chances are she sees you as a good regular. She'll treat you better than the transient customer, and you can definitely establish a friendship with her, but I wouldn't assume she's romantically interested. I like my regulars as people, but to be blunt -- it's business. I'm going to treat them better because they treat me better, financially and otherwise.
To second the others who posted this, it'd be best to just ask her out and see what she says.
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
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Originally Posted by
nathoonder
Our conversations are always lively, I can get her to laugh genuinely, she always hugs me when I get there and before I leave. It seems like she really likes me.
^This is what ALL of us are like with our regulars ::). She is doing her job, and well. It is a business relationship, but that doesn't mean she doesn't like you as a person or enjoy your company and appreciate you spending money on her. But, this doesn’t necessarily mean she is looking for anything other than a customer-dancer relationship.
She may be genuinely interested in you. Or, she has given you her "work" face book page/ "fake real name” in order to keep in touch with you and let you know when she's working so that you can come in and spend time with her ITC. I do know some dancers that do give out their actual personal information instead of having a work phone, email etc (but it’s frankly stupid and not common).
Either way, enjoy your time with her and don’t push/hope for anything more. If she does want more, then she will let you know.
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Originally Posted by
OliveJardin
^This is what ALL of us are like with our regulars ::). She is doing her job, and well. It is a business relationship, but that doesn't mean she doesn't like you as a person or enjoy your company and appreciate you spending money on her. But, this doesn’t necessarily mean she is looking for anything other than a customer-dancer relationship.
She may be genuinely interested in you. Or, she has given you her "work" face book page/ "fake real name” in order to keep in touch with you and let you know when she's working so that you can come in and spend time with her ITC. I do know some dancers that do give out their actual personal information instead of having a work phone, email etc (but it’s frankly stupid and not common).
Either way, enjoy your time with her and don’t push/hope for anything more. If she does want more, then she will let you know.
Turns out we have mutual friends, not to mention she has pictures of her daughters on her fb so it's not a fake or work facebook page as that notion already crossed my mind lol.
I'll continue to enjoy our time together and hope for something more but will not and have never pushed for more, she extended the facebook friend request and I was glad to accept it. Thanks for the advice.
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Normally, I'd say how about not making this awkward and keep the relationship as it is because you two maybe enjoy each others company but this is her work. It's not like you are wasting your money or that she is using you for money, she's earning it. If you try to pursue further, the great relationship you two have right now can be destroyed.
But what gets me is her involving you with her very personal life via facebook. I never thought it was a good idea to add regulars to a place where you share intimate moments with friends and family...
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
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Originally Posted by
nathoonder
That's actually a really good idea and I will consider it. I'd rather ask on a night I'm getting dances though. I fear if I didn't it would not bode well for me.
if you feel it has to do with money then she sees you as a good customer
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
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Originally Posted by
JoJoX
Normally, I'd say how about not making this awkward and keep the relationship as it is because you two maybe enjoy each others company but this is her work. It's not like you are wasting your money or that she is using you for money, she's earning it. If you try to pursue further, the great relationship you two have right now can be destroyed.
But what gets me is her involving you with her very personal life via facebook. I never thought it was a good idea to add regulars to a place where you share intimate moments with friends and family...
Yeah, I fear that by asking her out it would ruin what we have too and that if she wants to do something outside the club I should leave it to her to suggest just like she did with her facebook...Another thing I find odd about her is while she was dancing on stage once, I went to tip her a five dollar bill to which she responded "Oh my god! What are you doing? Just give me one or two it's only a stage dance."
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
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Originally Posted by
nathoonder
"Oh my god! What are you doing? Just give me one or two it's only a stage dance."
^That is just “bad stripper-ing":O (unless it was a lil’ “anti-hustle” and you had already spent A LOT on her and she didn't want to appear too "greedy"-so you would continue to do so next time/:O). But still, comments like this are uncommon. Is she a relatively new dancer? Because if she is, this would explain the unprofessional relationship that has developed between the two of you and why she naively gave you, a customer, access to her personal facebook page::).
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The facebook thing seems to be something that quite a few girls do for some reason. I get friend requests from customers, sometimes ones that I don't even know/talk to, because we have mutual friends (dancers) and they recognize me in the 'People you may know' section. I just leave them pending in the box, but I find it really annoying that they know my name now. Off Topic but is there a way to make it so that I won't appear over there?
To answer the question,.. seems like maybe you're a customer she likes, but that's it.
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
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Originally Posted by
OliveJardin
^That is just “bad stripper-ing":O (unless it was a lil’ “anti-hustle” and you had already spent A LOT on her and she didn't want to appear too "greedy"-so you would continue to do so next time/:O). But still, comments like this are uncommon. Is she a relatively new dancer? Because if she is, this would explain the unprofessional relationship that has developed between the two of you and why she naively gave you, a customer, access to her personal facebook page::).
Yeah, turning down a stage tip is just plain dumb-and unnecessary. Whatever hustle she is cultivating there is ultimately costing her money.
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Addison
but I find it really annoying that they know my name now. Off Topic but is there a way to make it so that I won't appear over there?
As far as I know there is not and I know a few dancers and escorts who won't establish FB accounts for just that reason. I am FB friends with a few dancers and ex dancers and, while reading their updates, I have seen the names and faces of other girls that I know from the club. I never initiate a FB friend request to these girls and honestly, I think it's bad form to do so.
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
At the time she turned down my tip she had been dancing for about five months and when she gave me access to her facebook it had been about seven.
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
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Originally Posted by
nathoonder
Another thing I find odd about her is while she was dancing on stage once, I went to tip her a five dollar bill to which she responded "Oh my god! What are you doing? Just give me one or two it's only a stage dance."
LOL. This is the definition of a mindfuck... or a dumb stripper. It's a toss up.
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
The definitive test as to whether a dancer likes you would be:- Has she met you outside of the club yet?
Pretty simple my man. /:O
!TheOne
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
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nathoonder
she always hugs me when I get there and before I leave.
no fucking way!
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
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!TheOne
The definitive test as to whether a dancer likes you would be:- Has she met you outside of the club yet?
Pretty simple my man. /:O
!TheOne
There are dancers who see customers outside of the club all the time as part of their hustle. Quite often it includes a shopping trip or some other sort of P4P time. It doesn't mean she "likes" him. It's not as simple as that.
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
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Originally Posted by
yoda57us
There are dancers who see customers outside of the club all the time as part of their hustle. Quite often it includes a shopping trip or some other sort of P4P time. It doesn't mean she "likes" him. It's not as simple as that.
Yep, yep, yep, and YEP again!
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Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?
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Originally Posted by
nathoonder
About three months ago I went to a strip club for the very first time. The first night was lame but the second I met this girl who I really ended up falling for. In the three months we've known each other I have never gotten a dance from another dancer. Our conversations are always lively, I can get her to laugh genuinely, she always hugs me when I get there and before I leave. It seems like she really likes me. She recently even gave me her real name and offered to add me on facebook, and I took her up on that offer. Why would she do that if she wasn't interested in me?
I think she likes you as friend or close personal customer. Even though she might have given you her real name and FB page. She does enjoy your company, and your time together along with your money. She will probably keep giving you more personal info every now and then, but I think that is more to keep you coming to see her. And for you think that there might be a chance. If she wanted to get more romantically involved with you OTC, she would have gone our of her way to make you see that she is truly interested by now. After 3 month I have hard time believing she see you more then a friend or a good personal customer.
I think you should follow Yoda advice and go the club and just ask her if she would like to go on a date or dinner sometime, and see what she say. but be aware that if she say "yes" she might still call you later and tell you she cant make it, but she love it if you came to club. If she does this more then two times, I think you know your answer.
We have all been there on way or another, and we want so much to believe, even though the chance of it being true is small. but miracles do happened sometimes, It did for me:)
You being 24 and you have never had a GF!, off course makes me ROOT more for you. I think most of us here are;D)for you and that you will have success with her.
Pleas let us know how it all goes, we will try to help you best we can, and it seems you have the girls and the other reg here your sympathy, and that is always a good.