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I am attracting crazy men? o_O
Soooo....I have been camming / selling content for 3 weeks now.
Do you guys seem to notice every few guys are so...are a little INSANE?!
I have noticed one guy, that looked at my profile like...a few times a day / week.....but NEVER say anything to me. So I messaged him one day, and he wrote this LONG email about how I look like an ex lover of his from his youth....
he just emailed me, AGAIN today and was talking about how like....he has been getting a ~feeling~ the last few days from my profile that something is "wrong" or "not well" with me, and he is worried.
Like...WHAT?! I have not been camming for 3 days now, and have hardly been online....
WHERE are you getting this from? You spoke to me in exactly TWO emails, to which I only replied to ONE....and....now you feel there is some sort of connection between us where you can sense things about me or my wellbeing?
WHY am I attracting crazy people? Now the reality of the dangers of this hobby/ job are starting to show themselves :(
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Re: I am attracting crazy men? o_O
You will get guys like that everywhere. Weirdos over populate this world. You could be a waitress and get the same thing. There are plenty of good guys too!
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The Internet brings out the crazy. Combine it with camming and... well, yeah.
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Welcome to camming. More importantly, welcome to free chat.
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It takes allllll types tp keep this camming boat afloat. Even the crazies.
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Not u, this is totally normal. Some of these men maybe dont have too much of a social life so they become a little attached to cyber ladies. I used to get this annoying guy on mfc who would sit hrs in my room no tipping, just watching. I banned him, 2 days later got an email saying, if only you were as nice as the bunch of tattoos you have. Automatically he thought that I want to be nice to everyone and I want to make loooots of friends hehe.
Its so normal that the thread of "stupid annoying shit Ive heard on cam" keeps growing. You will get the bipolars, the douches, the ones who fall in love, and so on.
Its just something thats included w the cam world.
Good luck :)
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Get use to it, girl. This is our life.
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Welcome to MyGirlFund, where half of the guys think it's a dating site.
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Originally Posted by
Special_K
Not u, this is totally normal. Some of these men maybe dont have too much of a social life so they become a little attached to cyber ladies. I used to get this annoying guy on mfc who would sit hrs in my room no tipping, just watching. I banned him, 2 days later got an email saying, if only you were as nice as the bunch of tattoos you have. Automatically he thought that I want to be nice to everyone and I want to make loooots of friends hehe.
Its so normal that the thread of "stupid annoying shit Ive heard on cam" keeps growing. You will get the bipolars, the douches, the ones who fall in love, and so on.
Its just something thats included w the cam world.
Good luck :)
Thanks for the indepth response!
and I suppose I am just a little surprised at the level of attachment I am getting.
I mean, I am nice and everything...but I figured....MGF is clearly a site that was MADE to talk to "amateur girl next door~~~" types....so....we are there for $$$. They are a lot older than me most of the time....like in their 40s-50s....
I have no problems with older men, but like...come on...I am in my early 20s and I talk to several men every day in the same context...they must know they are pushing my boundries when I tell them "no"...they just don't care :(
I have this one guy stalking my account now and MGF support completely ignored my email to them about it...very frustraited.
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Originally Posted by
Jaana
Welcome to MyGirlFund, where half of the guys think it's a dating site.
Do they really think it is one though? ....I am starting to think they do now....
I talked to someone the other day, and he was ABSOULUTLY blown out of the water when I tried to explain to him that...MOST cam girls, during a cam show...are FAKING THEIR ORGASM...
he like, couldn't believe it, at all.
I was thinking...seriously??? some girls are on cam like...for 6 hours, in and out of Pvts all day....you think they "cum" like that....for 6 hours, within 5~15 minutes?
Men SERIOUSLY know nothing about cam girls half of the time...even if they are on cam site like MGF for hours and hours every single day.
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Something that has helped me weed out the crazies/time wasters on no-chat and free chat sites alike, has been to compile a series of form letters for cut/paste responses. Does MGF still offer pay-per-response mail? I'd put in my profile that I only respond to pay-mail and then devise a few different cut/paste options for literally every one. Whatever says "Thanks for checking me out! Let's get to know each other! Buy my hot stuff! Get a cam show! Thanks!" will work.
Also, please delete every weird message you get from each guy as soon as it comes your way. Just trash it. If it's not about how he's making time to schedule a cam show or trying to buy something, it's not worth your time or attention. As soon as messages evoke an "EW" response from me, I press delete and they're gone. Never respond. Again, if I can't apply a simple cut/paste "BUY NOW"-style response, it's obviously not going to make me any money.
Good luck.
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^^^^ Lol nope. sorry Vivian, but please dont listen to that advice. I had guys start out nicely talking about weather, work, whatever and their paid messages build up in thousands of $. Some buy, some dont. Mgf cant be hustled like any other cam site because it isnt. Guys go on Streamate thinking they can find a fuck buddy, guys come to mgf thinking they can find a girl. Thank goodness they only have 3 free messages and all the rest they gotta pay. Also test waters - guys who may seem "weird" are just shy or socially awkward. Give them a try and if you feel uncomfy just give it up. And dont go telling men some girls fake it will hurt your business lol
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oh and dont. hustle. guys. to buy. dont. when they message you they spend a freaking dollar so hustle them in chat or if they clearly want sexual stuff. wait for them to ask about content.
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CarmenF
And dont go telling men some girls fake it will hurt your business lol
Well, I can see telling a guy this if he's in your room talking nonsense like "Why don't you squirt? Most cam girls do." LOL. This 'I'm gonna compare you to other cam girls' bullshit needs to stop.
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^^^ I agree on that ahaha I just meant don't pop the bubble for nice ones!
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crazy men? is there another kind??
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TheBrownFox
Well, I can see telling a guy this if he's in your room talking nonsense like "Why don't you squirt? Most cam girls do." LOL. This 'I'm gonna compare you to other cam girls' bullshit needs to stop.
"Hey guy, why don't you tip? Most guys do" :D
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CarmenF
^^^^ Lol nope. sorry Vivian, but please dont listen to that advice. I had guys start out nicely talking about weather, work, whatever and their paid messages build up in thousands of $. Some buy, some dont. Mgf cant be hustled like any other cam site because it isnt. Guys go on Streamate thinking they can find a fuck buddy, guys come to mgf thinking they can find a girl. Thank goodness they only have 3 free messages and all the rest they gotta pay. Also test waters - guys who may seem "weird" are just shy or socially awkward. Give them a try and if you feel uncomfy just give it up. And dont go telling men some girls fake it will hurt your business lol
Yeah, if a guy messages me on there....I always respond with at LEAST a paragraph (if we have messaged back and forth for a while it's more likely to be about 3 or 4)....
Since I know I WANT to keep them messaging me back and forth....I always throw in a funny story about my week or something like that, or a story related to the topic we're discussing....I give them some sort of information that makes them feel like their 65 cent contribution to me is WORTH it each time they do it....
I want them to keep up the back and forth, as it starts to add up after a while.
Some guys I have only ever been like a "pen pal" too on there with the messaging....with the odd live chat. I get guys messaging me if I am away for a day or two, asking if I am doing alright or how has my week been....they know they're spending the dollar to send me the message....but they WANT to, because I reply with such in-depth responses, and they enjoy reading my emails.
So far on MGF (despite the fact my messaging wasn't paying me for a week or so...it is still glitchy)...I have made $103 JUST in messaging back and forth with guys on there...that IS pretty decent, in my opinion...for about 2 weeks of replying back and forth to guys and chatting.
I always appretiate your insight Carmen ^_^
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Originally Posted by
qurl
Ding ding ding ding ding, we have a winner!!!!!
Seriously Op this is how camming is. This is how the guys on MGF are. If you want to continue in the industry you're just going to have to find a way to get used to it. Telling guys you're faking it is probably going to hurt your business, and as someone who does not fake my orgasms on cam I think it's really insulting to imply that I also do because "MOST" camgirls do, and that just makes it harder for girls like me to prove that we are being authentic. A guy asking you if a are a squirter or a creamer is a very normal question for someone thinking of buying a show with you, they want to know what kind of show you give. If you think that's gross or nasty then I really feel like you're going to have a hard time adjusting to this industry. And saying that someone is gross because he is older and wants to cam to cam with you? All I can say is, guys can tell when you are disgusted by them and are just faking it for their money. Being judgmental because a guy likes things that you don't or is not the kind of guy you'd be interested in off site is going to do you more harm than good. Guys pay cam girls so much compared to those subscription porn sites because they like our personalities. Because we DON'T judge them for being different or awkward or not living up to the contemporary idea of handsome. It sounds like your expectations of camming is very different from the reality of camming.
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Oh and as far as what kinds of messages to send (buy now vs. let's be friends) I agree with both Vivian and Carmen. I think it goes back to what kind of men you want to attract, and what your goals for the site are. If MGF is a small egg in your basket and you just want to make a couple hundred a month extra while you focus on other sites, Vivian's approach of being quick and straight to the point is going to work best for that. If you want to focus on long-term income and use MGF as your primary site and don't mind not getting immediate contributions in favor of bigger ones down the line, Carmen's approach would work best. In my opinion of course, having used both strategies. I don't think there's a right or wrong, it just depends on your own unique situation and goals, which is the beauty of camming. But yes, how you present yourself really does attract a certain type of guy to you.
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messages make 23-30% of my whole income :):)
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Originally Posted by
CourtneyRaine
Ding ding ding ding ding, we have a winner!!!!!
Seriously Op this is how camming is. This is how the guys on MGF are. If you want to continue in the industry you're just going to have to find a way to get used to it. Telling guys you're faking it is probably going to hurt your business, and as someone who does not fake my orgasms on cam I think it's really insulting to imply that I also do because "MOST" camgirls do, and that just makes it harder for girls like me to prove that we are being authentic. A guy asking you if a are a squirter or a creamer is a very normal question for someone thinking of buying a show with you, they want to know what kind of show you give. If you think that's gross or nasty then I really feel like you're going to have a hard time adjusting to this industry. And saying that someone is gross because he is older and wants to cam to cam with you? All I can say is, guys can tell when you are disgusted by them and are just faking it for their money. Being judgmental because a guy likes things that you don't or is not the kind of guy you'd be interested in off site is going to do you more harm than good. Guys pay cam girls so much compared to those subscription porn sites because they like our personalities. Because we DON'T judge them for being different or awkward or not living up to the contemporary idea of handsome. It sounds like your expectations of camming is very different from the reality of camming.
It wasn't necessarily his age - it was how he was talking and acting with me that turned me off, his age just didn't help. He was acting like just because OTHER girls on MGF will cam for $2 a minute and do things like anal, toys, cam2cam - that I was "too spendy" by asking for more. I don't like being expected to charge less just because girls are cheap on MGF for camming....
People encourage you to raise your rates on here -so I did, and it's just been guys like that acting like all of their expectations should be met for 2 bucks a minute? To do a fantasy role play where I am his girlfriend, talking to him like he is a 65 year old boyfriend of mine, while I watch him jerk off on cam, AND screw myself with different toys at his direction? Nu uh.
THAT is what turned me off. I have cammed with older guys before...his age just made it gross because here he is married, talking about his wife, and then talking to me like asking for $3/4 bucks a minute is expensive. Not bloodly going to happen with some old man that can't respect me and what I feel I am worth for what he was asking for.
as for the conversation I had with someone about "faking it" - it was in regards to his own interpretation of some chicks cam show and that he felt it was robotic and scripted and she was just repeating it the same way each time he cammed with her.....but then she got a new "toy" and had some videos up which he purchased, and her behaviour with the toy was different (the orgasm). So I explained that most of the time, on Cam...girls don't necessarily have enough time to "cum"....depending on what they are asked to do, how long they have been working, their mood,etc.....
Why do I feel like I am on the defensive everytime I post on stripperweb?
Been working 3 weeks, I should be allowed to feel certain ways or think certain ways and learn on my own without being told I am doing it wrong or that I should feel this way or that way.
I was just venting, I shouldn't need to defend every single little thing I say in a moment of frustration. You all were new once too and I am POSITIVE you have experienced the same bad night/day/person and all you wanted to do was stomp your feet and bitch about it to someone - but you can't because you're a cam girl.
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hahahha feel free to vent. I hope you join verified soon so you can vent even more freely and we can all vent together.