Private Parties!!! (PART 1)
Now there will always be different discussions on doing private parties (bachelor parties, divorce parties, club events etc.) In a way, one must understand the basics of doing a private party before she just hops down with the first person that hits her up. I decided to start this thread because I have been dancing for almost 8 years now and received a private message from Optimnist about it so here you go. (Part 1) Of those 8 years only 1.5 were actually working for a club. The rest were all private parties whether they were parties I was requested to appear at or parties I put together myself. The most important thing about private parties is to ALWWAYS KNOW YOUR WORTH AND ALWAYS KNOW YOUR LIMIT.....
*KNOW YOUR WORTH*
Well that means dont do a party for less than what you feel you deserve. If you have a $$ goal you want to reach and don't want to feel like you have to do all kind of stunts and tricks to reach that goal then keep a set price that you will not do a show less than. (Let's say no less than $100) thats a good startin point for the newbies out there. Its not always about your look. Because you can be the baddest sexiest female dancer there is but if your attitude and personality suck believe me you wont dance for long because word travels fast.
*KNOW YOUR LIMIT*
That means, know what you are willing to do and what you are not wayyy before the show. Don't be scared to ask what they are expectin g. Most of the times, the person who is requesting your services is waiting on that question to be asked. Otherwise you set yourself up by assuming they know what you will and wont do. Its much better and safer to get your guidelines and their request straight upfront.
When it comes to deciding whether or not to do a private party or how to go about finding them. Now thats the easy tricky part. Yes! I said EASY/TRICKY part. Its easy because just like you can go online and find strippers or an office job, you can go online and find someone who wants to hire 2-4 maybe even 5+ female dancers for different kind of parties. But it can be tricky to know if someone is trying get a sexual relation out of it or they really want the entertainment from you. Use your better judgement. Find out all the details, what kind of party, when is it, what date/time/location, how many expected people to be at the party, how many girls requested, etc.
When I decided to start doing private parties, I chose to put my own personal BUSINESS together called EXOTIC LADIES ENTERTAINMENT. I got together a few (4-5) other dancers that I danced in other clubs with and as our own bosses we began traveling doing private parties. To get us out there, I threw my own female dancers party. "A NIGHT OUT FOR THE FELLAS" is what i called it. I promoted/advertised it on myspace, Facebook, and Tagged. I offered advance tickets for $5 - $10 and charged a fee at the door. At that party me and my fellow dancers in less than 2hrs racked up over $900 just from tips (each) and that didn't include what money I was able to make from the door and the money they made from selling their tickets. In that night itself I made over $3000 in less than 2 hours and have been hooked on private parties since. Why you ask? Because at that point I realize what possiblities were out there. I could get paid to come somewhere, plus tips, everything I made was mine, and I didn't have to pay someone at the end of the night. When you work in a club you work the schedule the set, by their rules, and pay them at the end of the night. In some places you have to pay a house fee/floor fee, tip the bartender and tip the dj.... Call it business or call it greedy... it just wasn't adding up to me.
If you think you are ready to start doing private parties, here are a few tips:
1. Get yourself out there. I printed business cards for myself with a simple picture on it that I left at barbershops, tuxedo shops, gave to club owners. I created a separate page on FB and Myspace, and Tagged just to promote that. Saying things like, "Do you need some sexy females entertainment for your next bachelor party, birthday party, or club event, well me and my ladies are here for you and we do travel", simple things like that started getting responses. People asking how much and at that point, that is a door opening for you to start getting business, start getting income. All it takes is 1 private party and you are off. But just like a job interview, first impression is everything.
2. When you get your first PP, be yourself, have fun, don't make them feel this is just another job or that this is work for you. Although this might be work or your main means of getting money, these people are here to have fun and I promise you that you will get another call from them if they felt you came to have fun not to work. Hell, it doesn't hurt to use my motto when i do private parties. "I may have a time frame of how long i expect to be there, but that doesn't mean they have to, I make them feel like they are all that matters, If I charge a flat fee upfront, then I tell them Me and my girls are here as long as the money is here. So when we feel the money is slowing up, we begin to leave." That pumps the guys up so that they have their money ready and they already know that once the money is gone, so are we. Alot of guys don't want to pay alot for female dancers as women would pay for male dancers, why idk, it just is that way. But if you can look at every private party as a private party and you are the guest of honor and just have fun, then you will definitely see the benefit.
3. Decide if the party is worth charging a flat fee or per hour rate? Some private parties are worth charging a flat fee because you know the money is gonna be there so you don't want to seem pushy because more than likely if being charged per hour rate theyy will pay for an hour maybe 2, maybe 2 tops and thats it when if you charge a flat fee and take ALL THE REST OF THE MONEY AS TIPS... you have a better chance in taking them for EVERYTHING!
4. Get together with other dancers, locally and in other states. This is how you begin to network. Dancers in other states can give you the heads up on parties in their area and the same vis versa. Some cities, the request for a dancer through a dancer is done because they are tired of seeing the same dancers. You have to be able to network. A dancer you dance with all the time locally may be unavailable for a show but a dancer you keep in touch with in another city/state may be available you never know.
5. Get a routine or act or a selection of songs you like to dance to as well as find out if they have any request when they contact you to do a private party. It is ALWAYS best to know what they like but if you have something special lined up, a trick, a flip, a special dance, ummmm candle wax, etc then it brings excitement to the show. Don't just let your shows be nothing but booty shaking. They called you because they can go to stripclub and see booty shaking, they wanted a show and to have fun. Create your own games. I created a small game called "Lighten up the Party". Once everyone has arrived to the party I make everybody take a shot with me. Just to loosen them up. You have to be creative.
I'm gonna stop here because I coiuld go on and on but its starting to look like a novel.
I will write the 2nd half tomorrow.
If you have any comments, please do or if you want to create a group from here and start networking by all means please inbox me.
Again my favorite thing to say is... " Be SAFE, Have FUN, and Make MONEY" Until the next time!!
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Sorry this showed up so long.....
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good info, just is kinda hard to read without paragraphs but thank you
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I love what you Read , please Inbox im thinking about making my own l private dances
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It would be cool if you could do an outline first and then we know what topics to read.