um my flatmate has convienced me that striping is ok, am over been a poor student, and living away from home town now, just wondering if many have big regretts about been a stripper
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um my flatmate has convienced me that striping is ok, am over been a poor student, and living away from home town now, just wondering if many have big regretts about been a stripper
I don't have a lot of regrets about it, I chose it, I knew it entailed certain things. There are certain things that have happened to me recently that BOTHER me....a lot...but I kind of expected to be approached by it at one point or another, I don't have regrets about how I handled it, I tried the best I could. I would say.... It depends on your personality, what ideas you have about the industry coming into it....
Its a job, its work, and requires focus and thick skin....some of which I don't have all the time...But its not enough for me to have regrets about it.
At the end of the day, its YOUR decision not your flatmate, because you will be the one stripping....if you have too many hang ups about it, do something else. If you are curious, start off as a waitress ....
Figure out if that environment is for you first....I know some people that went in that day and left the same day because they knew they couldnt handle it.
It all depends on you. You shouldn't do something that you'll have a million regrets about because then all the money in the world wont cure your depression
i have been and watched her dance, and been back stage, and am looking to try soon, am just thinking of what may be i well regret, i know i won't mind having no student loan, and some luxury's again, i want a new phone, just wondering if others have regrets i havn't thought about, but i just can't see any big negatives to it
I regret not starting SOONER! I wish I had started when I was 19 instead of wasting several years living paycheck to paycheck, working full time, and going to school full time.
I also regret not doing any sort of volunteer work, or an internship, or getting a part time "regular job" while I was dancing and going to school. I don't regret stripping, I just wish I had something to put on my resume.
I regret not saving more money over the years.
I regret quitting, I took a few years break and went back-I shouldn't have done that.
I regret not making it more of a career, travelling more to strip and stuff, not working more often.
I regret not saving more money-I didn't predict the recession.
But I do not regret stripping, or anything it resulted in or anything about itself, at all.
You're asking a board filled with people who are either interested in stripping or who are obviously on this board because they enjoy stripping and its a good fit. So no one is going to say they regret it, on this board.
thanks for replys, i can't wait to start now, no more procrastinating, time to just do :)
I don't regret a thing. I've been dancing for 8 years now, and will continue to do so for as long as I can!
I only have regret around 2:05AM, when I'm still awake at home and my anxiety has kept me from going in and making money. Good luck on your first day!
Sure I have regrets about it but that is true of any job I have ever had. Probably my biggest regret with dancing is how I didn't save as much as I wished I had.
stripping is not for everyone like olive said. it takes a very thick skin, a lot of endurance and perserverance, and boundaries that you don't break. its not just a job you pick up to get rich quick and buy the things you want, just like that. there will *probably* be days you will feel you've been sexually assaulted ( hopefully not), days you won't earn anything and maybe even leave owing, days your body will and mind will be so tired you just want to sleep forever, days where people insult you and look down on you for being in the adult industry, and plenty of other shit. im just saying go into this with your eyes wide open. im not knocking stripping, but i don't recommend it to every girl who just wants a quick way to make a lotta fast cash. its not easy, although it may be quick. be sure that you WANT to strip, and its not something you endure for the money. every girl is going to have a different experience.
i personally regret not saving more ( like everybody else)
not starting sooner
being too shy
letting customers get away with too much which fucked with my head a lot
and letting it make me feel that looks are paramount
other than that, i really really adore it, if i could do it forever i would.
idk, the way you worded it.." she CONVINCED me it was OK"..kind leads me to believe you didn't ever want to do it until she kind of well, convinced you to, and you aren't too crazy about the idea. try it, you may love it..but if you don't, it will show. if you don't feel right about it yourself, nvm your bill and your roommate, then don't do it
^^^
On the mark. It is definitely not for most and one needs a thick skin and confidence. Even the most beautiful girl will be mentally abused, some more than others of course. The worst by far is being told I was ugly, fat etc and then leaving with little money or no money at all.
Like everyone else I regret not saving more money. I regret not paying my taxes the first "year"( only five months really but most of my tax deductible stuff was in those first few months).
I regret being timid and not approaching people I should of 'cause I was nervous, I know better now.
I regret not locking up my stuff and having things taken from me.
I regret not getting lash extensions sooner.
I regret ever telling my boss I thought "he was handsome".
I regret not tipping the DJ more when I first started.
I regret buying regular heels to dance in when I first started. DON'T DO IT. Buy Pleaser or Ellie shoes, PERIOD.
Needless to say there will be plenty of things you will regret in life but ya know what? You'll learn from it and be a better person from it after. ^__^
I also regret taking that 5 hour energy shot too early. I am wide awake now. Gaah.
I regret not saving money. I regret not working more. I regret thinking I was better than the other girls. I regret not having another job on my resume. I regret spending money on my ex and his kids. I regret a lot of things. I don't regret dancing. I gives me independence and oppurtunities. You do have to have an extremely tough skin, like a fucking Rhino in this industry. Only you can go out there and decide if it's for you.
No regrets at all. I have paid all my debt on my first year of college. I have 7k in the bank saved towards my second year at my dream school. I don't worry about paying for groceries ever. I have been dealing with some medical issues and have been able to afford going to a good doctor and all of my medication. I have more time to focus on painting, drawing,& glass blowing. I have more time to see the people who are important to me. Because of the flexibility of the job, I was recently able to help a friend move to another state. These are all things I have accomplished because of dancing and being smart with my earnings. I would not be where I am today if I didn't dance. I would be struggling to afford my education, and skimping on my physical and mental health.
And yes, it does take a toll on you. But so does every job. Honestly putting in 40-50 hours a week at McDonald's was sooo much harder for me than this and I made a lot less. Its all about balance. If you draw clear lines with groping customers you wont feel like you may have compromised yourself.
All in all, dancing is what you make of it. Don't take shit from customers or seedy management. You have to be headstrong and know yourself to succeed in this industry. Do not let rude customers, people in your personal life etc. look down on you. There is a stigma that comes with this job so if you want to keep it to yourself, that's fine. If you want to tell people, more power to you. But I don't think you should live your life worrying that you may have regrets. I think the biggest regrets come from not knowing what you could have had.
Regrets? Sure.
I regret not being smarter with my time and money. I regret getting go-go-head and blowing my cash on expensive food, spa trips, drinks, rather than saving up. I regret not working more when the money was great. I regret not treating it like a career, and being a bit of a half-assed stripper. I regret not paying my taxes, because now I don't have a credit rating that reflects my earnings for the past ten years. I regret not investing in property.
But I love stripping, and it suits me and my lifestyle.
The way that you worded your original post worries me, tbh. Someone else convinced you it was "ok". Not a good idea, not great, but you took convincing just to think it was "ok"? I may be reading too much into it, but I have seen a lot of women who are FILLED with regrets.
Some of the most common ones?:
- Regretting not having an exit strategy or back up plan. What happens when you are trying to explain that giant gap in your resume two years in?
- Regretting going in without really thinking about it.
- Regretting not setting boundaries, and finding that they have gone way past their comfort zone.
- Getting into drugs, or heavy drinking.
- Wasting all their money
And the biggest one? Some women DO go into it, and quit after feeling dirty, or slutty, or having people find out and consider them slutty or nasty. Some women can't handle the judgement, and the insult, and I have heard more than one person miserable and saying that they feel like they can never take it back, and they will always have been a stripper.
The thing is, as someone has already said, those people aren't going to be on stripper forum. The people who work briefly, and actually regret doing it are the ones that usually pretend it never happened. They don't talk about it, they want to forget about it.
lazy sunday, hung over and online shopping, am loving the money
BLOWING way too much money and not saving it. And not starting sooner.
I have a few regrets related to stripping, but not on the whole. Saving money, being to scared to venture into the top clubs, drinking too much, not working on the days I should have, etc.
No regrets but I would say you need to be a strong, smart person with boundries that are set before you start dancing. Dont go into it if your lax on boundaries or dont know what you will or wont allow cuz a custie will do whatever u let them do. Also, if you plan on working in the future at a vanilla job especially a nurse or something dont work at clubs with 1099s or get liscenses in your name cause those can show up if an employer does a background check on you. Also, know the laws of where your at, I didnt know that strippers could be arrested just for dancing to close to a guy in most places of the usa. That arrest may look like a prostitution charge so just go in with knowledge, not blind and dont be the easy new girl all the custies can take advantage of, they try all the new girls and you allowing too much will effect other pple's $$ which can not lead to good things for you.
I am fresh out of the industry after being in over 4 years. And I can say that I regret letting dancing get the best of me emotionally on some occasions (ex; having mental breakdowns after some horrible nights, being friends with the wrong girls and getting hurt, etc). I also regret letting some customers (and even dancers) push my boundaries beyond my comfort very early on in my dancing career. To this day I still very much regret these things, and wish I could take them back.
However; dancing has made me more social in professional settings, more confident in myself, more focused on what I want out of life, and overall made me realize who I am at heart and who I want to continue to grow into. Not every job or life situation is perfect, but you have to use your best judgement, learn from your mistakes, and turn the bad stuff into something good. And be grateful for what is good!!! :)
Hmmmm..........I regret staying at clubs where customers or girls made me feel unsafe for so long. I only did that because I lacked confidence to go to higher end clubs, though I eventually did. I regret working at a super strict club where the money wasn't enough to make it worth it. I really regret telling people where I live, I ended up being a cab and was too nice to stop it. I have funnier regrets, but this is a serious thread.
I have the same regrets as the ladies who posted above. I'd like to say that the money was worth it, but sometimes I wonder if a more modest lifestyle with much less drama and a higher quality of life would have been a better direction. But in the same breath, I'm addicted and drawn towards alternative people and lifestyles. I always have a story to tell, and I always have money in the bank, which keeps me independent. Dangerous freedom over peaceful slavery has always been a tug of war with me.