How do I get rid of a stalker?
Okay so I have been only camming for about 2 months now but know the ropes pretty well thanks to this site. I made it a personal rule that I wouldn't date anyone because I like being single and I don't want any drama now. I have this client when I webcam who has a thing for virgins ("not sexually" he claims ::)). He says he wants to "help me make more money" and "get to know me". He had got me a premium quailty webcam gift to replace the cheap one I first got. And he pays to skype me frequently. I thought I might as well give him my cell number in return.
So now as we were talking and "getting to know" each other. He starts talking about catching a bus to come all the was to were I live. Suggesting that he have sex or some sort of relationship with him. He even said, "I would never make you quit webcamming. I'm not controlling like that." Really, who does this guy think he is? lol
He also said that I would need to be "open minded" to be with him because he has issues. The last conversation on skype we kind of gave me a hint that he had STD's :O. And he said something else that kinda pissed me off so I ended to call early. He has been blowing up my phone with texts (like he always does) and even tried to call me several times a day. I don't wanna talk to him. I was just being nice before. Now I just wanna milk this loser for every cent he has lol
So, it seems he won't stop cyber stalking me. I want to know how to get him to spend as much as he can on me until he finds out what I'm doing and then leave me alone.
Re: How do I get rid of a stalker?
Don't give out your phone number. Or give a work only # that you can turn off. Change your #.
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I'm not a webcammer, but I'm not sure if you would be able to milk him of more money without things escalating from where it is. If you try and milk him for all he's worth and he realizes he's been had, it might really aggravate him and he might do something unpredictable, especially if he has your number and finds out where you live. He already sounds like a nut job, I don't think it's worth taking the risk. Lol, he says he's not controlling and yet he calls and texts you constantly, a sign of controlling behavior. I had an ex like this, he did it for weeks.
If you want to get this guy off your back, first thing is to never respond to him. Don't. Any response, even a small one, will get a rise out of the guy and then he will try and blow up your phone all over again. After I broke up with my ex, he would call my phone literally every five to ten minutes for days, and he did it less and less after that. He still called and text me for weeks, but I did not respond at all. Then there was a period of silence, and then one day he sent me a text out of the blue. I responded with one word and then the whole cycle started all over again, he started calling and texting non-stop for another period of weeks.
Also change your online routines if possible or try to have less of an online presence. Maybe switch camming sites for a little while until things cool down? I don't know much about webcamming so maybe someone else has better input in this area.
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Sansonnet
I'm not a webcammer, but I'm not sure if you would be able to milk him of more money without things escalating from where it is. If you try and milk him for all he's worth and he realizes he's been had, it might really aggravate him and he might do something unpredictable, especially if he has your number and finds out where you live. He already sounds like a nut job, I don't think it's worth taking the risk. Lol, he says he's not controlling and yet he calls and texts you constantly, a sign of controlling behavior. I had an ex like this, he did it for weeks.
If you want to get this guy off your back, first thing is to never respond to him. Don't. Any response, even a small one, will get a rise out of the guy and then he will try and blow up your phone all over again. After I broke up with my ex, he would call my phone literally every five to ten minutes for days, and he did it less and less after that. He still called and text me for weeks, but I did not respond at all. Then there was a period of silence, and then one day he sent me a text out of the blue. I responded with one word and then the whole cycle started all over again, he started calling and texting non-stop for another period of weeks.
Also change your online routines if possible or try to have less of an online presence. Maybe switch camming sites for a little while until things cool down? I don't know much about webcamming so maybe someone else has better input in this area.
Thanks so much for the advice. I will try blocking him on the cam site and on Skype and ignoring all his texts and calls. I wish there was a way to block numbers on cell phones too. Oh well. (also I love that show panty and stocking!)
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You're welcome, going to second GlamourRouge that changing your number sounds like a good idea if possible. I don't know how some people can trace an address from a cell phone number, but I know it's possible.
Yeah PS&G is cool show, Panty is my stripper idol.
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You should be able to block his phone number. I've had to do this once with an MFC member who had a temper tantrum just because the birthday phone call I promised him wasn't early in the morning like he wanted. *rolls eyes* Yeah, I'm dead serious. I thought it was nice of me to even be offering to call him on his birthday...I had stuff to do that morning, and he got pissed when he hadn't gotten a call from me that morning. *facepalm* He went off and started sending me hateful text messages, so I logged into my Sprint account online and added him to my blocked numbers list. I think I had also called the Sprint phone number too, to make sure the block goes through. And I never got anymore texts from him after that. And really, I shouldn't have been using my real number in the first place. Lesson learned.
Also, cam girls who do Skype shows should look into getting one of those programs that hide your IP address. I use HotSpot Shield.
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Get online one day and be like "im so happy" "i met a really nice guy last night" "we r dating" "im in love" talk constantly about how sexy, nice, charming, rich and good in bed he is. Watch stalker move on.
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I think you've probably milked this one for all it's going to be...
Ignore him, block him, change your number.
Next time you'll have to play it out a little better...
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Going forward....
I give everyone Im sure/unsure of my Google Voice number. It works right from your regular cell phone and its FREE with a FREE app.
You can block guys in a click. Plus, I NEVER have to change my personal phone number. You can also change your Google Voice number right online if you want. No customer service needed.I love it.
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BellaK
Going forward....
I give everyone Im sure/unsure of my Google Voice number. It works right from your regular cell phone and its FREE with a FREE app.
You can block guys in a click. Plus, I NEVER have to change my personal phone number. You can also change your Google Voice number right online if you want. No customer service needed.I love it.
That's one of the great things about Google Voice. No matter what happens (even if you do have to cut off some crazy dude completely), you don't have to do something as drastic as changing your cell phone number. I've had the same cell phone number for a long time now, and I'll be damned if I gotta suddenly change it because of some idiot who doesn't know when to quit...not to mention having to let everyone IRL know about the new number. That sucks.
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TheBrownFox
You should be able to block his phone number. I've had to do this once with an MFC member who had a temper tantrum just because the birthday phone call I promised him wasn't early in the morning like he wanted. *rolls eyes* Yeah, I'm dead serious. I thought it was nice of me to even be offering to call him on his birthday...I had stuff to do that morning, and he got pissed when he hadn't gotten a call from me that morning. *facepalm* He went off and started sending me hateful text messages, so I logged into my Sprint account online and added him to my blocked numbers list. I think I had also called the Sprint phone number too, to make sure the block goes through. And I never got anymore texts from him after that. And really, I shouldn't have been using my real number in the first place. Lesson learned.
Also, cam girls who do Skype shows should look into getting one of those programs that hide your IP address. I use HotSpot Shield.
Yeah I almost forgot about my online phone account. Didn't know I could block phone numbers with it. I'll try it out.
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VirginCutiePie
Thanks so much for the advice. I will try blocking him on the cam site and on Skype and ignoring all his texts and calls. I wish there was a way to block numbers on cell phones too. Oh well. (also I love that show panty and stocking!)
I think you might be able to block his number if you call your cell provider? Or you could always change your number. Whenever I get a guy in chat asking for my number I just ignore it because if they have # they can easily find out anything and everything about you. If it gets to out of hand go to the police and get a protection order. Don't ignore your gut feeling, there are some serious creeps out there.
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When I briefly was selling my number, I just got a throwaway Boost Mobile phone like a drug dealer lol. Registered it to my stage name, with an out of state area code. Keep it safe, OP.
But I would also like to say that if a member gets to a point where they are getting creepy- fuck trying to milk them. There are some things that you shouldn't deal with for money. One of them is a stalker. That's your safety you're gambling with there, and if you keep trying to milk them, you're basically egging them on. Nip that shit in the bud.
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umm get rid of him.. his money is NOT worth it.. and seriously?? std's and he takes a bus and can't afford a plane ticket?...LOL.. you are better than that.
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VirginCutiePie
Okay so I have been only camming for about 2 months now but know the ropes pretty well thanks to this site. I made it a personal rule that I wouldn't date anyone because I like being single and I don't want any drama now. I have this client when I webcam who has a thing for virgins ("not sexually" he claims ::)). He says he wants to "help me make more money" and "get to know me". He had got me a premium quailty webcam gift to replace the cheap one I first got. And he pays to skype me frequently. I thought I might as well give him my cell number in return.
So now as we were talking and "getting to know" each other. He starts talking about catching a bus to come all the was to were I live. Suggesting that he have sex or some sort of relationship with him. He even said, "I would never make you quit webcamming. I'm not controlling like that." Really, who does this guy think he is? lol
He also said that I would need to be "open minded" to be with him because he has issues. The last conversation on skype we kind of gave me a hint that he had STD's :O. And he said something else that kinda pissed me off so I ended to call early. He has been blowing up my phone with texts (like he always does) and even tried to call me several times a day. I don't wanna talk to him. I was just being nice before. Now I just wanna milk this loser for every cent he has lol
So, it seems he won't stop cyber stalking me. I want to know how to get him to spend as much as he can on me until he finds out what I'm doing and then leave me alone.
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If he has to take a bus to come see you there probably isn't much 'milk' to be had anyway. I agree with the others, better to change your number completely at this point and end communication. It's a pain in the ass but your safety is worth it.
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anonymous camgirl
umm get rid of him.. his money is NOT worth it.. and seriously?? std's and he takes a bus and can't afford a plane ticket?...LOL.. you are better than that.
I was never actually going to let him come up to where I live. He doesn't even have a job, got fired for "challenging his boss". That probably really means hes uncooperative. He seems to think he is so right and all knowing.
Yesterday, I've even told him we are not in a relationship and we where not real friends but he just doesn't get it. Well, time to hit that handy block button.
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If you don't want to pay your cell phone carrier extra to block the numbers or to change it,but you want to keep him as a customer, then tell him you are getting a new cell number and to use the NEW one from now on. Turn off your personal cell phone voicemail greeting so it's generic and stop answering his texts and calls on your personal number. .Open a gmail account, sign up for a google voice number (it's free) and give him that number (you can pick a number within your area code)...In the event he gets really out of control you can block him permanently and it won't cost you extra. . I think you need to put your foot down though..Say I DO NOT MEET EVER or just cut him off completely.. He is overstepping the boundaries and being very pushy.
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Block his ass from everything lol Some men are so delusional.