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Porn and your Relationship
So I'm curious as to what your girls beliefs are with your boyfriend/husband/partner watching porn while in a relationship with you. Do you get jealous? Mad? Don't care at all? Do it with him?
Not sure if a post has been written about this, and I apologize if it has.
Kisses xoxoxoxo
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I see no reason to get jealous, I'm pretty confident in my bedroom abilities and I know those girls have fantastic makeup artists and lighting and whatnot. I don't compare myself to them.
Porn's pretty damn great! I feel sad for the guys whose girlfriends/wives tell them they're not allowed to watch it.
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I see nothing wrong, unless the guy expects his wife or girlfriend to do some thing because it was in the video.
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Yes, I would be bothered by it, but this is due to some bad experiences in two relationships, my partners were addicted to porn.
Years ago I was naive to pornography, having never actually watched myself and I figured most men watched it. My first relationship was with a guy who unbeknownst to me at the time was into some of the weirder stuff, namely Japanese hentai pornography. So when it came down to business, he had a hard time getting it up or had difficulty staying hard since I did not look like a cartoon character.
Needless to say things did not end well.
The second guy I got into a relationship with was also addicted to porn, I think he watched different types. His expectations were totally different from reality. There were a few occasions where he downright insulted me and said "why can't you be more like the girls from porn." He was also lackluster in bed and at one point insisted that he go to his computer to watch porn in between to function again.
Since I started dating men who are not very much into pornography, things have been relatively normal and their dicks worked properly.
I'm not sure if I would be totally against it though, I'll have to try watching one with my man one of these days. More of an erotic movie though, nothing too tacky.
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I don't mind that my husband watches porn every now and then. I watch porn myself but only girl-girl porn. Aside from the sexual aspect of porn, my husband and I both respect/admire/appreciate sexy beautiful people :)
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My two last girlfriends (only had 2 total in my life....fuck thats not enough) didnt like me watching pron. Well the first one didn't mine if we watched it together. The second one didn't want me watching it at all...regardless if she was there.
Personally I was willing to accept the first ones demands...but the second one was a bit strict for my taste.
Pron is good...its healthy and fulfilling. As long as it does not ruin quality of life for the negative...then enjoy it.
Like if my girlfriend (if I had one) wanted to have toys...its all good. I want her to enjoy herself...because heck I masturbate 6-10 times a day. Twice in the morning when I wake up....the rest in the afternoon/evening hours. I do it because I am horny and I read it prevents prostate cancer so win/win.
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I've always assumed that the people I date watch porn. It's never bothered me, and it's never been detrimental to my relationships. I think most people can consume it in a healthy, moderate fashion. I know I do. I guess it would be like anything. If you let it overtake your life and affect your real-life judgments, then it's a problem, otherwise, why not?
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I don't mind (even if I don't see it, we all know hat our SO's watch and enjoy it ::)) and I have watched it with partners in the past and watch it by myself.
IMO, it depends how often they watch it, what they are watching (i.e. I think most women wouldn't approve of certain fetishes like "snuff" porn, stimulated rape and underage porn for example) and whether or not they "pass up" sexual interactions with you in order to save it for the computer screen ::).
It can be addictive and create unhealthy expectations of women; it can become a problem when men don't realise that it's "entertainment" and not all women can do xyz or enjoy being treated like the star of their favourite film in the bedroom. That's due to ignorance and immaturity though.
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Kellydancer
I see nothing wrong, unless the guy expects his wife or girlfriend to do some thing because it was in the video.
I don't expect her to do it because it was in the video; I expect her to do it because she loves me. Sorry but if you don't let me fist you while I facefuck you while blindfolded, then where's the trust in the relationship?
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i don't care, but i don't want them watching it behind my back or that being the only way they can cum or get aroused. it can be a fun thing to do as a couple though.
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The Six
I don't expect her to do it because it was in the video; I expect her to do it because she loves me. Sorry but if you don't let me fist you while I facefuck you while blindfolded, then where's the trust in the relationship?
^I'll take that as sarcasm...or consensual fetish play between two compatible, like minded adults ::).
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My ex fiance was addicted to porn and sex toys. My current bf is 5 years younger than me and I popped his cherry.
He doesn't watch much porn. :)
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The Six
I don't expect her to do it because it was in the video; I expect her to do it because she loves me. Sorry but if you don't let me fist you while I facefuck you while blindfolded, then where's the trust in the relationship?
You blindfolded, or her? I'd prefer the guy to be able to see what he's doing while he fists and face fucks me. Sorry but I don't trust your aim ;)
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I don't mind. I think it's hot. :)
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I naturally assume any guy I'm dating is watching porn.. It seems strange if he doesn't. I'm not really the jealous type, I especially don't care about porn, which is harmless.. If he'd rather spend his nights with his hand and a video, then we aren't compatible and I move on, but if he spends his alone time with it, or watches it with me then cool.
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OliveJardin
IMO, it depends how often they watch it, what they are watching (i.e. I think most women wouldn't approve of certain fetishes like "snuff" porn, stimulated rape and underage porn for example) and whether or not they "pass up" sexual interactions with you in order to save it for the computer screen ::). .
This!
If my bf was into hentai or a particular fetish I probably wouldn't enjoy it. But I love watching it with and without him although it takes A LONG TIME of us sifting threw videos to find 1 we actually want to watch, then once it starts we lose interest and would rather do things our own way ;D
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It's okay to watch it as a couple and only if it's visually pleasing and tasteful for both to enjoy.
For me: No to porn that degrades women or too extreme & porn addicts
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MissAdriana
This!
If my bf was into hentai or a particular fetish I probably wouldn't enjoy it.
So girls are against this so-called "hentai?" How unfortunate. Y'all need to recognize.
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The Six
So girls are against this so-called "hentai?" How unfortunate. Y'all need to recognize.
Y'know how men will look at a pair of shoes and say "those are black shoes," and women will look at the same exact pair of shoes and say "those peep-toe jimmy choo distressed patent leather raven-black platforms are adorable!"
Well, I think this is the same thing right here. My guess is "hentai" to them means tentacle rape porn, or something like that. While to men (and not being a hentai fan I can't properly convey what I want to here) it's more like "oh I love [some famous Japanese artist's] latest issue of [insert adult graphic novel here] and how [popular comic con cosplay girl who dresses sexy here] did [something sexy] while battling the forces of Omicron Perseii 8. I think it's like that.
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I think it’s ok as long as the guy doesn’t pressure or try to force you to act out certain things he’s seen. That’s when I think porn is bad, other than that it could be fun.
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Porn - don't give a fuck, but I also watch a lot of porn too lol
Camgirls - bothers me, live interaction, more intimate, etc... might be hypocritical since I'm a camgirl but that's how I feel
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That's exactly how I feel, Misssassypickles.
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I'd rather the guy I'm dating be inside, watching porn, than outside, talking to bitches.
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Joanna_Kaary
I'd rather the guy I'm dating be inside, watching porn, than outside, talking to bitches.
Or outside watching porn.