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If you are wanting to stick it out at your club, just make it a point to not say anything negative about another girl. Don't bring up other girls in your conversations. If a customer brings a girl up or asks something about her, give her a compliment or say you don't really know her (no matter if you like her or not). If the customer keeps bringing up another girl suggest (in a cute way) "Lets not talk about so and so, why don't we go in back and spend some time together." or offer to get the girl he asking about for him because if he's asking about HER and not YOU, he probably isn't interested.
I have a regular that has no filter. He says what he thinks about a dancer (and other customers) no matter how mean or stupid it sounds. Even if I'm thinking the same thing, I look at him and say "You are such an ass" and point out a positive about her. Her hair, outfit, flexibility, etc.
I know sometimes guys go to clubs just to start drama between dancers. It sucks that its happened 2 weeks in a row. You just have to always make sure nothing but positive words come out of your mouth when at work. Other than that, just keep your mind off the past weekends and look to the new one.
I deleted this cause I got kind of shy about about making it public...especially being in a summer hot spot I didn't really want anyone to put it together and figure out who I am and at what club. But thank you very much for responding. I do already do everything you said in your first paragraph, which is why I am feeling really confused/frustrated.
I'll try to just forget about it though...thanks :)
Deflect. Change the subject. Focus on the customer. Or shift the focus back on to you. Laugh and switch subjects quick.
Yep. We had a similar thread not to long ago, can't remember the title though. Anyway, I once worked @ 2 clubs @ the same time, & someone from the new place came in when I was working at the other club..he asked me a whole bunch of ?'s about some mgr./head dancer there..I stupidly answered, but I swear I didn't say anything bad. However he twisted everything around, made me look really bad, & she called me up & went off on me. So yeah better to say nothing/change subject
I learned early on never to become involved with drama with anyone at the club. I learned never to talk bad about managers, other dancers etc even if other dancers are doing so. I once got fired because a manager heard from a dancer that I called him an asshole (he was, btw).
Okay....I really have NEVER said anything bad about another dancer to a customer. There's no one at my current club I even dislike that much and at previous clubs I kept my opinions to myself or changed the subject when a customer was being rude about a girl. What is going on currently is the last two weeks there have been customer complaints (first to the managers, most recently to another girl directly) that I have been "talking shit" about my coworkers. It's not true at all. I have never initiated a rude comment or thought about a coworker or gone along with it when a customer made a rude comment. I have no idea what is going on at all and I told my managers as much. I think talking shit about other girls is trashy and desperate, neither of which I am/will ever be. This whole thing is making me very uncomfortable as I feel like some theoretical customer is going out of his way to create problems for me, and I have no idea how I've acquired so much negative concentration/attention from one person. And Im afraid the other girls dont believe me and if this continues the managers won't either. I'm in a very touristy area and I can't even imagine having the same guy come in two weekends in a row (much less why someone would make up such a ridiculous lie about me twice in a row).
Yup, some customers like to do this. I think it's sick and twisted. I didn't get to read your experience before you deleted it, but sorry you're going through this. Just stick to your guns, keep your head up, and don't give anyone any reason to think that you're that kind of person. Be impeccable with your word. People will eventually see that you're not that type of person by your example, and it will all blow over.
I've learned that in most smaller clubs that the "house" girls that have been there a long time & that don't try & make their $$$, they're usually the ones trying to start drama bc their bored/ or just miserable with themselves & some may take it to a higher level by either involving the mngrs or other customers. My old club was like this, sooo annoying which is alot of the reason that I quit. There was a guy that used to come in every couple of weeks & talk to most of the girls working there, he wouldn't buy dances unless he was gonna get "extras" (which he informed me when I tried hustling him) anyways he would always try & ask me questions about other girls there & I'd always say I didn't know X very well & just left it at that. It just goes to show you that some people just have no lives & get off on starting drama. I took a break once from there for a few weeks & when I came back one of the mngrs asked me if I went to jail & I said no, I was on vacation & his reply was oh ok some of the girls said you went to jail. It pissed me off bc it wasn't true so I ended up just making my $$$ & quitting there shortly after. Make your $$$ & don't involve yourself with anyone there.
haha it's almost as if the people not making $$$ are trying to fill that "void" with drama to make themselves feel better about their shitty disposition as a non hustler in the club. I never under stood why girls would come to the club if they aren't even going to try to work. I've also found this site very helpful when it comes to dealing with these never ending "popcorn" situations in the clubs, so THANK YOU SW!!!! <3
This's the thread I was talking about:
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...-other-dancers
Thanks everyone...I am going to try to just not worry about it for now. I actually BSed an excuse to not work last Saturday, I was feeling really worn out to start with and the thought of having 20+girls hating on me was too much. Hopefully it will blow over, if not I guess I will deal.
Aside from pissing me off though its kind of hilarious. My last club manager told me he thought i was great because I was like a ninja, came to work on time, did her job drama-free and left.