Did I do something wrong?
Okay, I just finished my second shift at a new club.
I was at a table with a gentleman when I noticed that a few tables behind me, a gentleman was giving girls $20 a piece to have a glass of Dom with him (he went through 4 bottles by the end of it). I ignore the guy since I'm more after money than booze, but every time I look over, he waves at me. I smile and continue with my business, but the next time I look over he waves and motions for me to come over. I giggle and wave back, still not wanting to go over. Finally, the guy I'm with irritates the hell out of me, so I look over and he again motions for me to come to his table, so I take my leave and sit with him.
All of a sudden, the other girls (one in particular) are blatantly pissed. We are polite and make small talk until he excuses himself for a cigarette. At that point, one of the girls decides to correct me on my behavior, saying that when she is with a customer, I am not to come by.
Yeah, I get it. And in any other situation, I wouldn't have sat down, but he repeatedly motioned for me to come by. I make her aware of this, and she calls me a liar and says that she was watching him the whole time and no such thing happened.
The rest of our shift she spoke in an unsatisfactory manner about me to the rest of the girls (who I am trying to make a good impression on since I'm "new"), and just being a full-on bitch to me. Example: she was after me on stage. The girl leaving stage walks the girl entering stage to the pole. She literally turned her nose up to me and refused my hand.
What the fuck?
I'm not new at this, dude. I would never deliberately do this, and this is the first time in 6 years that someone has accused me (to my knowledge) about this.
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I don't think you did anything wrong. I've been the new girl at several clubs, and sometimes there's just one girl who is set on trying to mark "her" territory. Chances are, the girls who have been working with her already know she's a drama-happy bitch. I would just ignore her to the best of my abilities.
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Nope, you did not. Did he pay you AND continue to pay her? Cause if so,she has no reason to be upset. It's not like she's not making money. She's just being a cunt. You're a better woman than me cause I'd be damned before I walk a grown woman to a pole lol to dance naked on. .
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The customer wanted your company if he REPEATEDLY waved you over. It's obvious that she doesn't care that some gentlemen like to spend time with and spoil more than one lady at a time. As Tuesday said, she is trying to mark her territory since you're new (and probably hotter) competition in "her" club. It sounds like she's the drama girl.
I hope you will be able to avoid her and be able to conduct business as usual.
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I dont think u were wrong at all, you didnt see her and he was waiving u over so he clearly wasnt into her anyaways and therefore probably wouldn't have spent his $$ on her anyways. I find girls get quite catty when there isnt enough $$ to go around, maybe that was the issue. If he was sitting with her you wouldve noticed cause they wouldve been closer and he wouldve been payin her all the attention not staring at u and waiving to u every chance u looked. I have been accused of this as well. A girl I didnt even know was sitting w a guy but when she went to stage or something he waved me over and spent $$ on me. Girls never forget this and will hold a grudge forever but oh well u dont have time to sit in the club and watch every girl and who they talk to.
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When I sat down, there were 4 other girls at the table. Each received a $20, possibly $40. At one point, there were 7 girls at the table.
He ended up getting funny money and having me distribute to his faves (one girl got $200, a couple of others got $60), but the girl with the attitude left within 15 minutes of me sitting down, after she got the hint that I wasn't leaving.
The guy proclaimed over and over how we were getting married tomorrow, and I ended up with something in the four digit range. :)
BUT, I'm upset that:
A: it looks like they're trying to run me out.
B. this chick is a super cunt, even when I tried to CALMLY explain the situation and still be polite.
C. she is trying to damage my relationship with other girls that I haven't even really met yet.
D. She didn't take my hand for me to walk her to the pole. That's just super unprofessional and in front of the whole club.
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You didn't do anything wrong!
I would think they would understand that he asked you to come over based on the favor he showed towards you. I don't think that really matters, though. All that matters is that a NEW girl came over to "their table" and made a ton of money off of "their guy." Since you made four digits and most of them left with $60 (and maybe an expensive buzz), it's inevitable that you're gonna have some angry, bitter strippers on your hands for a while.
But, hey, what can you do? We all know how to handle stripper drama. Unless it escalates, try not to let it bother you, don't bring up the situation, continue being cordial to the other girls, and stay focused on working.
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Tsepmet1
The guy proclaimed over and over how we were getting married tomorrow, and I ended up with something in the four digit range. :)
BUT, I'm upset that:
D. She didn't take my hand for me to walk her to the pole. That's just super unprofessional and in front of the whole club.
The above happened to me..it was the style, one girl gets off stage, the next steps up, & girl onstage offers her hand to girl going up..
in my case both of us had been sitting at a table w/2 guys. I was new (to the biz & club) & she made more $..fine no prob. But she gave me the same 'tude as what you got..I just said, "Oh, aren't we superior"? or something similar.
Sounds like you are doing good otherwise, don't let them throw you off. Hope you make lots o' $ there
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You were invited over, so she's got no business getting territorial in this case. She can go $hit in her hat, w/ an attitude like hers it might be an improvement.
Don't acknowledge the fact that she snubbed you on stage, when you're getting up there to perform. Just go abt your show w/ a smile, & your professionalism will be sure to leave a good impression on sm1.
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What a bitch.
It's not like you just plopped yourself down uninvited. Tell her to get the fuck over it. Don't let them run you out.
Also, we have the same rules at my club about walking the next girl to the pole, and the DJ would have called her ass out on that.
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Oh, well you made much more than them. THat's the problem haha. She's just jealous you walked away with all the moneyz. Good for you ! ;)
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Everything this girl has done makes her look bad, not you. Don't sweat it and don't let her push you around!
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Nah, this was at Christie's in Canton, Ohio.
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Seems like she had her ego bruised, but maybe that's something she had coming her way...?
I've been in your position before, bullied and talked down to for being the new girl making good money.
I have to confess that I have been in the other girl's position before, too- upset about other girls suddenly appearing in the equation and "taking" "my" money- not often- only on one or two occasions when I was tired/ PMSing/ feeling down and desperate.
Having a customer really like me, but then *change their mind* and choose another girl over me used to hurt, but it was a necessary thing I had to go through a few times before I could get to a mental place where I don't take it personally, and don't let it get in the way of my own hustle. Hopefully this girl will learn something, get over it, not hold anything against you, and avoid future drama.
Good luck with working there!
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From moment that he invited you honey, i think it was all about your choice whether you wanted to sit by or not. The other girl was definitely jealous on your beauty so don't get too emotional because she's a slutty egoistic b***
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You dd nothing wrong at all because he called you over. She just sounds like a jealous bitch. She's probably that way to other dancers so I would ignore her.
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I have seen an idiot like that as well. This girl followed me, like a stalker for a year. She was completely obsessed with me. It's hilarious how much time she wasted trying to taunt me and convince customers not to like me. One day I actually counted how much money I made while she stalked and fumed and turned guys off of her with her shit talk about me.....I'd made $300 in those 2 hours and she'd made nothing. Remember that if you flush that wacko from your mind and stay focused on connecting with your customers, you'll be fine. The other girls will tire of her bs and refocus on their money and she'll be alone in CrazyTown.
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You did nothing wrong. There were already multiple girls there, he waved you over. You were ok to do that, end of story.
When this kind of crap happens, I like to remind myself that customers are there (usually) to have fun and get AWAY from drama and crazy women. They want us to be happy, easy to be around, entertaining, sympathetic, and generally create a positive atmosphere. When they see girls flouncing around with a resting bitchface, most of the time, they don't want anything to do with them. Being a bitch is bad for money - so when you take the high road, stay calm, and stay positive - you look even more desireable as a result.
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I'm going in again today. I really don't want to deal with her, but if she's there, ill hold my head high and ignore her.
I kinda knew that I didn't do anything wrong, maybe this post was for reaffirmation and venting.
I love all my sw hoes! :)
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Originally Posted by
Tsepmet1
I'm going in again today. I really don't want to deal with her, but if she's there, ill hold my head high and ignore her.
I kinda knew that I didn't do anything wrong, maybe this post was for reaffirmation and venting.
I love all my sw hoes! :)
Knock 'em dead, You!:)
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He invited you over, you wouldn't have been doing your job very well if you hadn't come to sit with a customer who was beckoning you over. She probably knows that he in fact was beckoning you over and is apparently jealous. She may have made a little off him. You ended up with someone in the four figure range. You win, she loses.
I would continue to do my job as if nothing is wrong with her attitude; have a good attitude, smile in her presence. It will kill her more than anything but she won't be able to do anything about it. I never start drama with girls but in the few times that girls have tried to start shit with me, I remain professional and keep a strong mindset and smile as I make money while they hate on me for it. It's their fault for being too focused on jealousy and less focused on their job.
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I've been in this situation as well and you aren't in the wrong. When this happens to me, I will approach saying something like, "I saw you wave me over, did you want me to join you both?" or directly to the other dancer (especially if you don't know them that well), "Your friend just waved me over, is it ok if I join you? I don't want to crash the party". If she gives you an unimpressed look, just say you had something to do or somewhere to be anyway and leave-it's not worth the drama.
We ALL know NEVER to approach a customer if he is already being entertained by a dancer, it's basic etiquette-but if the customer wants you there as well, the other girl has no choice. She obviously saw him wave to you, but, won't admit it. Is she one of those, "I've been here forever, I own the club" kind of girls who start rumours about others and who are generally a pain in the butt lol?