stray fingers in private dance booth
ok so i jumped on a guy during a private dance, and he went to catch me, in the process of catching by the bum, 1 finger kinda touch what it shouldn't, he acted all surprised and sorry. so am unsure if a accident or not, but how do you know
i told another girl i work with, she said ask for a extra 100 and let them have a touch, and she showed me how she had a small bottle of hand sanitiser and lube in her purse she takes with her,
not sure i could hussle like that, is this common to do?
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What the girl you talked to was suggesting is generally considered an "extra". Is it common? Depends on the club. Don't feel that you have to do this, it is possible to make money without providing extras.
From what you describe, it sounds like it was an accident. Did he try and touch where he shouldn't besides that? IME, you can usually tell when a guy is doing it on purpose vs by accident. They are usually more persistent about it, and you can almost see it coming sometimes because their hand will start creeping closer and closer.
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Sounds like an accident to me too, especially given how he reacted. Sierra is right that it's generally obvious if the guy is trying to get more on purpose. Doesn't make it okay for him to touch, but hands slip when people move in unexpected ways, and I wouldn't bite his head off over it. I also wouldn't offer that sort of contact for any amount of money in the club, but I'm both uncomfortable with that and don't want to break the rules of the club and risk my job. I can make clean money with no regrets the following morning, so that's what I do.
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If the guy apologized I think it was definitely an accident. I wouldn't recommend listening to that girl though...if you are new to dancing depending on where you are you might get a lot of girls telling you to do extras to make more money because that's what they do, a lot of new girls think that because all the other dancers at their club are sucking dick they have to as well. If your club has really heavy extras consider switching clubs or travelling. If this is something you're considering doing on the other hand, no judgments (I work in an extras heavy city, see it all the time), however, be aware of your local laws defining lap dancing vs prostitution, and your club rules as well as the penalties for breaking them. Know that if you chose to engage in extras you likely risk being arrested and getting a criminal record that will not only make it virtually impossible for you to dance anywhere you require a license, but also need to be disclosed to any and all future employers...so it's not a choice I would encourage.
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Act really offended/physically wounded and demand more money. This is my go-to for the butthole sneak-attacks.
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It's common depending on where you're working. IMO $100 is CHEAP and not worth the trauma. Dirty girls always tend to have a short shelf life. The girl you talked to could be one incident away from getting busted or mentally breaking down. I'm sure she thinks it's easier do extras, when really IME it's just as easy to find another john.
If a guy tries doing something you're not comfortable with just tell him to stop. If he continues:
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Act really offended/physically wounded and demand more money.
I wouldn't give an amount to charge for extras because the simple fact of agreeing to it (or even saying you will just to get him into private, but never intending to do so), can result in an arrest for solicitation. The customer could be an undercover cop, owner or auditor. It's a risk you have to think about.
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If it's unsolicited, it's an assault. If you tell them to give u money to compensate for discomfort or to not have him kicked out as opposed to agreeing to an amount for a predetermined service is pretty safe, esp if you've already made it clear where u don't want to be touched.