I dont know how old u are original poster but i feel u not mature enough even u are a mom of two kids so maybe thats why ur husband treat u like a kid?! Also ur messages dont fully make sense, u write chaotic giving pieces of infoes that wont fully connect.
From all i read here u not fully aware of all consequences of what it means to cam given ur family situation and all, u sound like a teenager that is asking her dad for money to go party. I wish NOT for u to be in the situation to cam IN NEED if ur relation breaks and u have to raise ur kids on ur own. Yes the guy has his issues but maybe he knows better why he behaves like this, we only know ur part of story.
Sorry if my comment sounds harsh but u maybe need to be told these things so u understand some facts.

