Dating a Computer specialist while camming? How Much Info can he get about me?
I met someone the other day who asked me out:couple::couple: I am very attracted to him, both physically and mentally, but I'm worried that he can find out I'm camming. He has some sophisticated computer business, (which I don't understand, because I don't know much about the computer world). Plus, he lives in my building!! I gave him my personal e-mail, first name and phone number only, (I didn't tell him which unit I'm in either because I never have any interest in having anyone over to my small unit.) (I live in a high-rise, with over 40 floors, so he can't ever know). Yet... I wonder how much he can obtain about me. If the building I'm living in finds out that I cam from home, then that could be a real problem. Would love Your feedback ladies, as I know that You probably know more about the tech world than I do, and have come across this situation when dating. I haven't dated in about 2 years, since camming and being a hermit is my life now.:boxedin: I would like to change that, and go out like I used to, and actually have person to person communication, instead of reading words on a screen all day and night while camming,etc. thanks so much in advance for your advice! Glam:-*
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I really doubt it.
Honestly though, I think it is a good test of a man.
I would never tell right away, but when I see he may work out as a serious relationship I have gone ahead and told him about my job.
(Very very rare though, as most guys I dated I ended up not being interested in. I have only reached that point with two men in my life, one reacted well but the relationship ended amicably for other reasons [he decided he wanted a ton of kids] and one I am still with and he is very secure and understanding).
Some won't react well, but who needs an insecure man?
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As much infos as you would tell him! Have the 'lets wait and see' attitude, learn more about him before you reveal any personal infos. A classy, worthwhile man wouldn't go digging up personal information that wasn't voluntarily disclosed. Just as when I go on dates, I don't tell men that I am a Transsexual woman right off the bat. It's for safety reasons.
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^^ Oh, I would NEVER tell him that I cam,because I am not looking for another husband, or a longterm boyfriend, because I have commitment issues.( But that's another story).
I am more concerned with him telling the condo board, or other neighbors what I do, if he gets obsessed or something.....Oh, nevermind, I just thought of something to do if he gets obsessed with me- i'll just 'lay there during sex!' lol!
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Do you mean hardware as in actual computers or --- Honestly, it depends on what he does in IT honestly - it is a massive and super diverse wide world, truly.
Really all it means is there is more of a likelihood that he is more entrenched in internet culture, gadgets and communities than your average guy. That is probably the only guarantee. Someone into internet culture probably is more familiar with camgirls than your average guy, and are more likely to know about/use proxies, VPNs (for work) or mobile technology so risk of discovery is probably higher if you use georestrictions.
Im pro-camgirls dating people in IT, they buy needlessly expensive gadgets that you can borrow or just use once they move on to the latest version, fix your computers, speed up your CPU, and help you with websites and automated scripts, apps, and shit lol.... or just date twistedprincess, idk.
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^^^ Roast that's what I was thinking also! He asked if I had a tablet, or smartphone, and when I said no, he said I should because that's where tech is heading.(I believe him given the amount of custies watching me from those devices!)
Without giving specifics, he's invented something (a kind of steve jobs mindset), and it will revolutionize the education system) (that's all I want to say right now).. he moved up here from DC, so.....? When he gave me his card, I googled him just to see if he is who he says he is, (and he is that and more), so just how much he can get about me is what is bothering me. I am a very private person IRL, and don't let neighbors get close to me-EVER! So just wondering...
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I once dated an IT guy who found me out. He was able to track my keystrokes from my computer. It was a complete disaster. He was very upset. Not so much that I was camming, but because I lied to him about my job. But he was spying on me, so who was in the wrong?
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Anything really. Coming from someone who's hubs is a certified hacker and works for the NSA... trust me, if they want they can find out but I think unless you tell him it's NUNYA beezwax.
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Thanks Ladies for Your input! I'm going to pass on dating him. The old adage of 'never crap where You sleep always comes to mind'.
I had a bad experience when I first started camming, and was dancing. I met a guy. We started dating, and almost right away, he found me on cam! He demanded a free show in person! YUCK!! So Sleazy of him! :crazy:(I hadn't slept with him yet, and he knew where I was living and had lots of friends there). Of course I said no, and he told all of his friends at my apt. complex about me! I was working at a studio at the time, so there was no threat of getting in trouble because I didn't cam at home, but I was so pissed, and embarassed with lots of tenants knowing. Plus, he found out the club that I was working at, (he must have followed me there one night), and it felt so invasive! He was one of those young 'trust fund dudes' that felt entitled, and it really freaked me out!
Since then, I have pretty much had no interest in dating, or sex for that matter. To me, dating seems like too much work anyway, and feels like having another job!
There's too much risk factor, for so little in return it seems!:-\
Besides, the last thing I want is for him to find out my unit number, and listen at the door to .................god knows what!! I'm a huge dirty talker on cam, so ...
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Someone please correct me if I'm wrong but isn't illegal though?
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BellaBonatella
I once dated an IT guy who found me out. He was able to track my keystrokes from my computer. It was a complete disaster. He was very upset. Not so much that I was camming, but because I lied to him about my job. But he was spying on me, so who was in the wrong?