I just read an article on dating while being a sex worker-- and although being on cam I don't actually have sex with anyone I felt like it applied. Thought some others might like it as well http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2013/0...-pretty-woman/
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I just read an article on dating while being a sex worker-- and although being on cam I don't actually have sex with anyone I felt like it applied. Thought some others might like it as well http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2013/0...-pretty-woman/
I really needed that right now! I just recently outed myself to a new guy that I'd been seeing for a little bit and was starting to really like. He initially seemed ok and said he could see how it was my "business," and asked intelligent questions and I felt like that conversation went really well. Even saw him once more afterward. But then I left town with promises between us to keep in touch while I was gone for a few weeks, annnnd poof. Gone. Went from texting me almost every day to not at all, and wouldn't even respond to a text I sent almost a week ago. I mean, it's good to know sooner rather than later I guess, but it still sucks.
Aurora, that sucks, though better to know now than later. Dan Savage has written quite a bit about this subject, I'm afraid I don't have links handy but if you google "Dan Savage Sex Work Dating" you'll probably turn a bunch of it up.
OP, thank you for sharing the article!
Before reading this article, I tried to practice no sex before he knows what I do. But we have to still even be careful because even after telling them the truth, they may play you as if they're cool with it, fuck you because you're hot, then dump you when they're ready for someone serious because they never took you and your adult job seriously. I speak from, unfortunately, few personal experiences.
i like this article ! good advice. that is, if you even want to have anything to do with a male after working in the sex industry long enough :(
This is why I can only date artistic types or very open minded counterculture guys. I think that is the only situation in which you will not have a problem.
There is also this blog post as well http://christianbvega.blogspot.ca/20...ex-worker.html
What a great link! Thank you for sharing!
That's a great post, minnie!
Amazing post!
I told my boyfriend on our first date. He thought he won the lottery as his ex was sexually uptight (his words). It has caused us some problems such as:
"Why do you do that with him and not me?"
"Because it's not my personal preference and he's paying me."
"But... please!"
etc.
But honesty is ABSOLUTELY the best policy.
Minnie - FANTASTIC post - I was sitting shouting "YES" at my screen while reading!
This is something that gets brought up a lot - in many ways, I am luckier than most sex workers (and yes, I would absolutely consider camgirls sex workers - you don't have to be physically present or touching their naked dick.). I met my last boyfriend and current bf in a social circle who already know what I do, and I am totally open with everyone in my life about what I do. It makes things a LOT easier - but I still have to deal with the occasional "well, lets not tell my mom" or that weirdness that comes out whenever you have a bad day..."If you don't like it, you should quit.". Yeah...sod off.
Honestly, I find that being in an open relationship makes it a lot easier - if a guy is already ok with you sleeping with other guys, he is far less likely to care if you are having phone sex for four hours a day. It also allows you to talk about the job more openly, without having to worry about jealousy of a sexy client, or a show that you really enjoyed.
"It’s the Madonna/Whore complex, only with literal whores." Loved this. Thanks for posting.
I second the Dan Savage recommendation.
Basically, the guys I like aren't the type who give a shit. It is true that even a guy who is pro sex work or understands that it can be empowering IN THEORY can still get jealous. My boyfriend is super nonconformist and also a hardcore feminist who would never tell me what to do with my body. However, he does get upset sometimes when I'm camming but not having sex with him... I've explained that I don't actually get off 99.999% of the time and that it's different than sex and he listens and is agreeable but I know it still bugs him.