BBBJ/OWO: I'm losing so many bookings not doing them!
I'm new to the SW game, and am losing so many bookings because I won't do oral without a condom.
Having looked up the risks, coupled with the fact that my gums are super sensitive and bleed often (my dentist says, that's just the way it goes sometimes...!), and that I have a variety of sexual partners in my social life, it's just not worth it to me.
It seems though that in London, where I live, most providers are offering it, and almost everyone who tries to book me cancels because I won't do it. I even had a guy on the phone trying to talk me into it saying there was absolutely no risk whatsoever to my health.
I know he's full of bullshit, but how do I manage to get bookings without doing it? Help!
Re: BBBJ/OWO: I'm losing so many bookings not doing them!
How are you marketing yourself? Around here, a lot of the ladies who won't provide those services advertise as 'safe.' That cuts out the potential clients inquiring about them since it's a generally understood term. It also speaks to the potential clients who are looking for a safer experience like that. When the majority of the market is offering a service you aren't, the onus is on you to make that known so you don't keep having your time wasted like that.
Re: BBBJ/OWO: I'm losing so many bookings not doing them!
At first I had it on my AdultWork profile that I wasn't offering it, but I took it off as I wasn't getting many messages: I guess that was a bad idea, as all my messages now are begging for it... oops.
Re: BBBJ/OWO: I'm losing so many bookings not doing them!
I'm a safe (across the board) provider myself, and I've worked this way from day one. This is very clearly stated so anyone who insists on otherwise doesn't waste their time contacting me. Sometimes I'll have the odd client here and there ask but they know going in it isn't going to happen. Would I have a lot more business if I weren't a safe provider? Yes, undoubtedly, but I'm also low volume by design and I'm thinking long-term.
The extra $ isn't going to be worth much if I catch something, and it only takes one. I also don't want to unknowingly pass anything on, and even with regular testing something can be missed as incubation times vary. Despite all the precautions the risks are there. In the end I'd rather enjoy the appointment with less anxiety and with clients who respect my boundaries. When I'm happy, I'm also better at making my client happy. :)
Re: BBBJ/OWO: I'm losing so many bookings not doing them!
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Aether
I'm a safe (across the board) provider myself, and I've worked this way from day one. This is very clearly stated so anyone who insists on otherwise doesn't waste their time contacting me. Sometimes I'll have the odd client here and there ask but they know going in it isn't going to happen. Would I have a lot more business if I weren't a safe provider? Yes, undoubtedly, but I'm also low volume by design and I'm thinking long-term. The extra $ isn't going to be worth much if I catch something, and it only takes one. I also don't want to unknowingly pass anything on, and even with regular testing something can be missed as incubation times vary. Despite all the precautions the risks are there. In the end I'd rather enjoy the appointment with less anxiety and with clients who respect my boundaries. When I'm happy, I'm also better at making my client happy. :)
I think my main problem is that even when I've made it clear (in a message or on my profile) 99% of the messages I get are requesting it, or didn't read carefully, arrange everything and then say "Oh just realised you don't do it, not going to book with you" and cancel at the last minute.
I don't think it's worth my while to do it, but having no bookings and no money is really bad too.
How do I find clients who don't want it/aren't going to push me for it?
Re: BBBJ/OWO: I'm losing so many bookings not doing them!
Post this question on www.saafe.info
You need feedback from british girls who do this. In the states covered is half normal. In the UK girls advertise BB everything for 60GBP.
Re: BBBJ/OWO: I'm losing so many bookings not doing them!
I agree with heading to SAAFE to get some marketing advice for the UK region... Will say too, don't reconsider doing anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or gives you the feeling you are compromising your personal safety, because then it will wear away at your morale and feelings about doing this job. And we need all the morale we can get to be able to do this job! :)
Re: BBBJ/OWO: I'm losing so many bookings not doing them!
Maybe you should consider how you are marketing yourself in a "big picture" kind of way. Clients that prefer cbj are probably somewhat different to the clients who prefer bbbbj. They have different bounderies at the least. What is the cbj-preferred client like? What kind of escort does he seek out? What kind of experience is he looking for? Where does he search for escorts online?
If your target client can find you easily and see that you offer him the experiences he's looking for, you should be able to get bookings with the type of client you want.
Amanda Brooks, who wrote "the internet escort's handbook" states that she was completely safe. She also marketed herself as a high mid-end escort and offered what I would describe as the safe "professional girlfriend" experience, offering discounts on multiple rates and presenting herself as a "full-package" lady. I don't know if that is necessary to get the kind of client you are looking for, but it's what came to mind when I read your post.