Overcoming Objections, Cam Style
We all have things that we don't do on cam. Maybe you don't do toys, or anal, or a certain type of roleplay, or maybe you just don't do under $x/minute. Some guys will just use these as excuses to not buy a show with you and will never get a show no matter what you say, but some guys just need the right encouragement. What are your techniques for closing the sale?
I'll start off: I don't use toys. If they ask in a pvt that's no problem, I've never had anyone leave, but if they ask in free chat that's trickier because it can be a dealbreaker. What I like to do is say I only use my fingers (in the sexiest way I can manage) and suck on the tips for a few seconds. It takes the mood from "welp, this one doesn't do what I want, next!" to "ooh, mental image of hot chick finger fucking herself and sucking on her fingers, I still want her". I'd say it works about 1/3 of the time, and considering the high percentage of timewasters who would never buy a show anyway that's not too shabby.
What about you? How do you turn a potential "no" into a "yes"?
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I'm in and out of private fairly regularly, so it's common for someone to take me private right in the middle of some other guy bitching that I don't have maroon polka dot underpants.
If he's still there, when I come out I always say with a cheshire cat grin: 'Well ...he didn't seem to mind'. I am shocked at how often that works...
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When I first started camming, I was desperate for cash and had a hard time with doing things I didn't feel comfortable doing, but did them anyways. I've since realized that I can be steadfast in doing only things I'm comfortable with, and not only that, but doing things I genuinely enjoy. The great thing about camming is we are our OWN bosses. Yes, we want to make the money but we never have to do anything we are uncomfortable with to do so.
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I have a much easier time pushing boundaries with people I am comfortable with, both in cam life and irl. A few (3-4) customers, I am able to push my comfort levels with, because they are genuinely kind-hearted, sensitive men, who respect when I say, 'sorry, buy no', or just direct away from the topic they want. The more the respect for one another builds, the more I am comfortable doing things I don't necessarily enjoy on a physical level for a 'partner'.
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If there's something I don't do, I simply tell them and explain why I don't do it. Admittedly, there are not many things I don't do, but I have good reasons. Honesty = downtoearthness = turn on.
I bet these guys are wondering why you don't use toys (I frequently wonder the same thing about camgirls who don't use toys, no offense).
Is your answer "cause they don't get me off" or is it "cause that makes me feel uncomfortable/weird/it's just for me and my bf?" The latter would be a mood killer.
A good explaination goes a long way.
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luvnrockets
If there's something I don't do, I simply tell them and explain why I don't do it. Admittedly, there are not many things I don't do, but I have good reasons. Honesty = downtoearthness = turn on.
I bet these guys are wondering why you don't use toys (I frequently wonder the same thing about camgirls who don't use toys, no offense).
Is your answer "cause they don't get me off" or is it "cause that makes me feel uncomfortable/weird/it's just for me and my bf?" The latter would be a mood killer.
A good explaination goes a long way.
That's slightly disrespectful of you. So what if it's a "mood killer"? I don't have to do things I'm not comfortable with. You know what's a real mood killer? Looking at a girl trying to pretend getting off doing something which she clearly does not enjoy.
I don't use toys because it really, really hurts me. I have trouble with penetration with my partner, too; it takes a lot of time and patience, so I don't see myself doing it for any cam costumer. When they ask why I don't use toys, I simply say that that's my decision, or reply honestly, that it hurts me. It depends.
It doesn't make my a bad camgirl. I actually think the opposite is true, because the most important thing to me is to stay loyal to myself and to never do something I'm not comfortable with. The costumers that INSIST I use toys are not the costumers I'd like to have for myself anyway, because it shows they really don't care about me.
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I don't use toys, I don't do anal and I don't do nude at all....under any circumstances.
(I am a domme though so that's pretty normal for a domme)
But when I was working on MFC and I wasn't including my domme self in that I still remained non nude with no toys or anything. I simply did not tell the guys that I'm not nude (it doesn't take an idiot to figure it out) so when I was asked questions like "Can get get those panties off?" or "Whens naked time" I would either ignore the question if it was a busy room of answer it with a funny sarcastic comment like ohhh naked time is for the shower.
If I was a nude model and didn't use toys and I was being asked in free chat do you use toys or whatever I would just come back with "yeah I have a barbie, some teddies and a whole load of other toys" and then laugh it off. That way your making them laugh a little and they will get to know you a little more and are much more likely to still take you private regardless....because they like you.
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Nina_Den
That's slightly disrespectful of you. So what if it's a "mood killer"? I don't have to do things I'm not comfortable with. You know what's a real mood killer? Looking at a girl trying to pretend getting off doing something which she clearly does not enjoy.
I don't use toys because it really, really hurts me. I have trouble with penetration with my partner, too; it takes a lot of time and patience, so I don't see myself doing it for any cam costumer. When they ask why I don't use toys, I simply say that that's my decision, or reply honestly, that it hurts me. It depends.
It doesn't make my a bad camgirl. I actually think the opposite is true, because the most important thing to me is to stay loyal to myself and to never do something I'm not comfortable with. The costumers that INSIST I use toys are not the costumers I'd like to have for myself anyway, because it shows they really don't care about me.
Sorry, did not mean to disrespect AT ALL! There is absolutely nothing wrong with not using toys. I simply think that a lot of men want it, so therefore I wonder how camgirls who don't use toys manage to make good $$. Also, I was not referring to "toys" as purely insertables. When guys ask about my toy selection, I tell them about the dildos and butt plugs, but offer to list the BDSM toys I have as well. When you advertise that you don't use toys at all, you're closing a lot of doors.
I never said it makes one a bad camgirl to not use toys...
However, I do believe that a smile and "oh, I get off way better when I rub my clit thinking of you flicking it with your tongue" would work way better than "oh, I don't like penetration, sorry." I'm just saying that the way you explain your decisions is very important to keep them in the mood. The topic of this thread is about making sure you keep them interested after telling them you're not going to do something they want. So it's very important not to kill the mood unless you wanna lose the potential customer.
I'm all for not doing things you don't want to do on cam...I was replying to the thread, not making a general statement about whether or not you should do what customers want.
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I am gonna have to disagree with your honesty and down to earthness.. that truly only works when you HAVE them in private.. in free chat.. NO GO....
I am not into convincing guys to go to pvt.. the more you convince them the more they are getting off in free chat .. and if they ever do make it to private the less time they are spending there because they are already about to pop.. I am INTO making the most out of your privates.. once you gotta guy you do everything in your power not to let him go.. I have actually found a new talent.. bring on the assholes in pvt they are now my favorite customers.. you would not believe how long an asshole will sit there while you are showing absolutely nothing.. I have taken all control out of their hands and put it in mine.. it is a pretty skilled talent that I think i am on the verge of mastering now.. one guy sat in my private for 5 mins bitching and whining about wanting to see my ass.. cursing at me.. i wondered how long he would stay.. i remained pleasant and kind and that just irritated him more...LOL...he got nothing.. I win he loses...LOL..... that's i guess how you win with the serious ASSHOLES. .. they were my highest paying clients yesterday.. one stayed 12 mins yesterday for NOTHING cuz he was no longer in control..haha.. i guess you can call it financial domination.. I even got 2 $50 tips yesterday on 2 different sites...LOL
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luvnrockets
If there's something I don't do, I simply tell them and explain why I don't do it. Admittedly, there are not many things I don't do, but I have good reasons. Honesty = downtoearthness = turn on.
I bet these guys are wondering why you don't use toys (I frequently wonder the same thing about camgirls who don't use toys, no offense).
Is your answer "cause they don't get me off" or is it "cause that makes me feel uncomfortable/weird/it's just for me and my bf?" The latter would be a mood killer.
A good explaination goes a long way.