I think I'm being harassed?
So, I had this user tipping me two tokens at a time and expecting me to give them all this undivided attention. I banned them after they had tipped me eight tokens, because it was getting annoying, and people need to read my profile. They came back a few days later, and started complaining that my standards were too high. (Actually, my standards are kind of low, and I'm working on raising them a little.) After I was done arguing about it, I banned them again, and ignored them when they private messaged me. This person is also following me on twitter, and was there when I logged in tonight, so I gave them a 60-day ban, because I was feeling a bit weirded out.
So, their friend (or so this person said) came into the chat tonight.
someusername: hello, my friend was wondering why you banned her, even though she was tipping you?
Someusername: i have no sound
Someusername: if she tips you can you please unban her
Someusername: hello?, i have no sound
Someusername: please unban (banned username.)
I did explain, but I'm so used to talking on cam that I forgot to type it. At any rate, this user kept bothering me until I muted basics, and even claimed that the banned user was my biggest fan, which I know is a damn lie, because I have other fans who would argue that. Also, I have a feeling that the two users are one and the same.
So, I'm wondering what I can do, because I feel like this is bordering on harassment.
~Amethyst
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I would keep refreshing the ban after the 60 days are up if you can. Also, ban the "friend" as well. A person who believes you aren't worth what you ask for, isn't worth keeping around...and they are annoying.
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just ban/block them and anyone associated with them and forget about them :) they don't deserve you and they sound insanely pathetic
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They both were banned. Also, apparently they were contacting other users in the chat. That's not ok. Also I'm pretty sure that it was just one person, not a person and their friend. They said I'm their favourite, but seeing as I didn't have much memorable conversation with this person, I'm sure they'll be able to find a new "favourite" soon enough.
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People who say that you are their favorite and havent spent shit, isn't.
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they get bored and move on when you don't feed them. :)
trust, it won't actually hurt anything. 8 whole tokens = you're my favorite. lol
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Don't EVER let trolls get you down!! Just cos a guy tipped a few times does not mean he suddenly has the right to pretend you're his property. I HATE when that happens and ban right away. Wasting your time talking to these kinds of guys is dumb. You usually get upset and it wrecks your mood ergo they win since you're thinking about THEM. Don't ever feel bad if a guy tips for something and doesn't read your bio/ goal and expects something for what he thinks it's worth. He does not get to decide what you are worth you do. If he doesn't like it he should spend his tokens more wisely and READ. I find guys who do this are just trying to get a really cheap flash/attention and are really devaluing you by saying you're worth less than you have specified. Fuck them!
I usually laugh it off when someone tips me a token and tries to ask for something ridiculous or tries to get my undivided attention. If you're uncomfy with being a ban bitch like me you could try skillfully explaining to him what you're worth in a way that says you're no nonsense but gets the point across. It's not your fault he didn't read. You could also offer to unban this guy if he, say, offline tips you a significant amount [or, how much tokens you need to devote justify a specific span of time and attention to just him] That way you're guilt free if he can't pay for what you;re worth AND it's possible he actually MIGHT [ so make sure its a big enough tip to deal with it if that's the route you choose!!]
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If they gave you an upset or any bad feeling block them and their "friends" on any site they are following you on. I drop anyone that makes me feel bad online or in my personal life. It's not worth it. If they cause problems once they'll cause problems again in the future. Drop them and make room and time for all of the good people. ;)
Have a beautiful day!! :)
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Thanks for all your replies. It's nice to know that there's a space I can go to if I have questions or concerns. Honestly, I don't want their money. Money is money, and there are people who give me more of it, and are more respectful. I hope that I can block them on twitter, because I don't want them following me from camsite to camsite.