Reconciling "real life" & "stripper life"
I danced for 10 years off & on & when I wasn't doing that I gogo danced in Vegas. Never really had a straight edge job until now. I teach English to really adorable 2nd graders which I love.
And I really like the people I work with. Turns out industry people live up to a lot of their stereotypes.
No one nows I was a dancer before, but I still feel like a fish out of water sometimes. I know I've built up pretty thick skin over the years so I I'm just wondering if I come across as callous or strippery to a bunch of really nice primary school teachers….
It was such a big part of who I was for so long =/
We all know those girls that play the part of stripper to the T, but are completely oblivious to how they come across…..or maybe its something only dancers recognize….
Thoughts?
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I'm interested in hearing about this as well, I have a friend in a similar situation. It gives her a lot of anxiety.
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I started a vanilla job recently, & one of its facets is sales. I told them during the interviews that I have sales experience (w/o going into much detail) but I've found myself wishing that if anyone ever did ask 'What were you selling?' I could just honestly, bluntly, conversationally, answer 'Lapdances!' & watch them :ill: or :spit:
My roommate/ex-bf works in the same office, & he knows of course that I was a dancer. He picks up on my occasional double-entendres & also knows when I'm :censor:ing myself, so sm times it's a bit like an inside joke.
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what do you mean by "strippery" exactly? or playing the part of a stripper to a T in regular life? little confused. don't think just because you stripped that you are "nothing but a stripper now" you are you, and yes every job and experience will affect you it can either be positive or negative depending on what you take away from it. you are a person, just like them, don't let that a job define who you are, or get too worried. yes you are probably different from them in your experiences but trust me, building a thick skin is in no way a bad thing! enjoy your new job, don't get into office politics ( or school politics,whatever it is lol), and i feel like you'll probably be fine. and congrats on your new job! i always wanted to be a kindergarten teacher but can't :(
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In my xp, (during my internship prior to graduating), I found the office/cubicle setting to resemble the dressing room, but on a lesser level. Like sim said, the thick skin was a HUGE advantage; also, I believe being a stripper has helped me read people to a "T".
My anxiety actually lessened while NOT stripping, but I have anxiety issues to begin with. I find the most anxiety to occur literally before every shift.
I'm sure you're a great teacher; focus on your talents and those cute kiddies! :) You've got nothing to be ashamed of, and everything to gain!
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Wow! Thanks for all the positive feedback everybody!!! Yea I guess no one I work with will have the same level asa intuition bat people us dancers have lol
By strippery by the way…I have a funny example (you all know someone like this)…A girl I worked with at Spearmint Rhino Vegas told me once,
"people always guess Im a stripper,idk how!!"
She looked the part right. Bleach Blond hair extensions, super skinny, orange spray tan & gigantic fake boobs right….But it was her demeanor!!!!
She talked in a high pitched baby voice, had a certain kind of walk (you know!!!), batted her eyelashes a ton!!!
I just always think about her & wonder what she might have looked like say….picking up groceries!!! or doing anything outside the club lol
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Mememememe!!! I live and work in (probably) the most right-wing, Christian republican conservative part of the entire world. I've been at the same vanilla office job for 7 years, and I have a very visible presence there.
My success at that job, just as much as at the club, depends on the image I portray, so much of it is acting.
At vanilla job, I must always be cheerful, friendly, professional, conservative lady. At strip club, well... you know what I must be. ;)
Most people I work with at vanilla job who would be just *horrified* if they knew what I do on Saturdays, and would lose all respect for me, and that would really hurt, because I really have grown to love many of them.
A handful would be *delighted*, and I might be delighted too, if only I could trust them to keep their mouths shut and spend... but, several of them have big mouths and can't afford to really visit a strip club at all... they'd just want to perv for free.
I hate having to keep the secret, and that does gnaw at me a bit. It bothers me that I can't just be myself at my "real" job,where I could reasonably expect realness to be encouraged.
Lying about who I am at the strip club is something I expect, and to some degree, even enjoy. It's acting. It's (the most important?) part of the job.
What really gets to me is lying about who I am at the job where I'm supposed to be... *who I am*.
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Mememememe!!! I live and work in (probably) the most right-wing, Christian republican conservative part of the entire world. I've been at the same vanilla office job for 7 years, and I have a very visible presence there.
My success at that job, just as much as at the club, depends on the image I portray, so much of it is acting.
At vanilla job, I must always be cheerful, friendly, professional, conservative lady. At strip club, well... you know what I must be. ;)
Most people I work with at vanilla job would be just *horrified* if they knew what I do on Saturdays, and would lose all respect for me, and that would really hurt, because I really have grown to love many of them.
A handful would be *delighted*, and I might be delighted too, if only I could trust them to keep their mouths shut and spend... but, several of them have big mouths and can't afford to really visit a strip club at all... they'd just want to perv for free.
I hate having to keep the secret, and that does gnaw at me a bit. It bothers me that I can't just be myself at my "real" job,where I could reasonably expect realness to be encouraged.
Lying about who I am at the strip club is something I expect, and to some degree, even enjoy. It's acting. It's (the most important?) part of the job.
What really gets to me is lying about who I am at the job where I'm supposed to be... *who I am*.
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I had a guy try to tell me I spend too much time with my stripper friends and have lost my mind when it comes to spending money. He said I "bought too much food." I got him really fucked up and took pictures in revenge. Seriously, food? I wear chucks, not louboutins. Do you have any stripper habits you can't shed? Mine's eating like a body builder and tearing through baby wipes. I love when I buy them at the store and people say in that adorable Louisiana accent, "you got a BABY?!"
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Ahahaha!!! I LOVE to buy underwear, refuse to buy my own drinks at a bar!!! And Im really good in bed (obviously) lol
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I'm a little confused on what you mean as well... how does stripper life tie in with real life? Can they tell you were a stripper? *scratches head*
Personally, I think I can come off as callous in general.. I don't sugarcoat anything and am generally very sarcastic. That was always there before stripping around close friends, but now it's kind of a permanent personality fixture to strangers even. People seem to find it refreshing and funny at least.
I don't take any shit, especially not from guys, and will roll my eyes and leave if someone pisses me off.
I'm a lot more outgoing now - I'll joke with and tease strangers, and write silly comments on school assignments, and I can keep a conversation going forever if necessary. It's good for rapport with people.
I don't think people can necessarily say "She's a stripper!" based on your attitude, but often when I tell someone, they go "Ohhh I can totally see it". The people that get accused of being strippers from their appearance are usually not, cause let's be honest, I think most of us walk around in jeans, t-shirts and no makeup off the clock.
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^ exactly dude, before stripping i'd wear sexier clothes and thongs alll the time, but after stripping for a few years i wear boy shorts and baggy comfy shit because i get all the sexy/skimpy out of my system at work! so unless you are going around wearing clear heels and lycra g strings and offering your co-workers lap dances i think you'll be safe..
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so unless you are going around wearing clear heels and lycra g strings and offering your co-workers lap dances i think you'll be safe..
:rotfl:
"Improve office morale! Stripper Mondays!"
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:rotfl:
"Improve office morale! Stripper Mondays!"
Sigh... if only. Jesus, I'd be a buh-jillionairess.
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I know what she means. I have known many strippers who act like strippers even when not dancing. I tried to avoid those because they are annoying. I manage to hide my past because if you saw me you'd never guess that was my past. I dress and act very conservative. Strangely one former coworker did guess it after I talked about a "friend" who had been a stripper and she asked if I was one. I denied it and she never brought it up again (and quit not long after).
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NatalyIrene
I danced for 10 years off & on & when I wasn't doing that I gogo danced in Vegas. Never really had a straight edge job until now. I teach English to really adorable 2nd graders which I love.
And I really like the people I work with. Turns out industry people live up to a lot of their stereotypes.
No one nows I was a dancer before, but I still feel like a fish out of water sometimes. I know I've built up pretty thick skin over the years so I I'm just wondering if I come across as callous or strippery to a bunch of really nice primary school teachers….
It was such a big part of who I was for so long =/
We all know those girls that play the part of stripper to the T, but are completely oblivious to how they come across…..or maybe its something only dancers recognize….
Thoughts?
I get triggered by certain things which brings in my jaded attitude from dancing sometimes.
Yeah I am great with customer service politeness but anyone working with me saw the nasty side of me. I'd be pissed off in the dressing room mad/talking crap/angry about customer BS and waltz out like a pure angel. One girl commented on it (who I did doubles with) when I was talking to her regular HAHA. That was my hint from god to leave dancing.
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NatalyIrene
I danced for 10 years off & on & when I wasn't doing that I gogo danced in Vegas. Never really had a straight edge job until now. I teach English to really adorable 2nd graders which I love.
And I really like the people I work with. Turns out industry people live up to a lot of their stereotypes.
No one nows I was a dancer before, but I still feel like a fish out of water sometimes. I know I've built up pretty thick skin over the years so I I'm just wondering if I come across as callous or strippery to a bunch of really nice primary school teachers….
It was such a big part of who I was for so long =/
We all know those girls that play the part of stripper to the T, but are completely oblivious to how they come across…..or maybe its something only dancers recognize….
Thoughts?
We have many parts of the ourselves. I think you are over identifying as a stripper instead of seeing it as a part of you.
Sex workers are about as diverse as any other group of people.
Everyone is a sexual being and has that part of themselves. It’s just most women are too sexually repressed to acknowledge it.
I’m sure some of those “nice teachers” probably had sex, smoked, or drank in college. Everyone wears a mask in a professional setting. You don’t really know who they are in their personal life.
You just wear different hats in different places.
https://swopusa.org/blog/2018/05/24/...x-work-ritual/
In Germany, some of the politicians are open about their sexuality. America is a WEIRD place when it comes to sex we have such a warped understanding of nudity and sexuality.
If you taught in a progressive country no one would think less of you or think any different because you use to party.
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I went from stripping to working in an office, a business casual office. That was the first weird thing. One of my co-workers asked me if I was a lesbian because I always wore khakis, a dress blouse and dress shoes to work. Which lead me to wonder just what business casual meant to most people as I didn't really think I dressed that severely. Although I did change my hairstyle to a relatively short look when I went to the office. Fast forward to now, I do tend to dress much more formally now. I usually wear a suit, unless safety dictates otherwise. Then, I wear jeans, a work shirt, helmet, eye protection and steel toed boots. (Talk about looking butch!) Because so many women tend to wear black dress clothes, I prefer gray or blue, just to be different. BF has noted I only own one black suit, what I call my funeral suit. Sometimes, I will wear a dress, just to look different, but not often. Even now, working mostly from home, I get dressed for work. But, you just can't take the stripper out of the girl, I prefer thongs. :-)
XOXO
Z
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Just enjoy your new life. :)
You made your money. That’s the main thing. No one needs a full background of your last 10 years haha.
If you are pretty they will already assume you “ had life easy “ hahaha.
I bet you’ll even meet some other entertainers in school haha. I know a girl who both teaches and dances currently.
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I enjoy telling my tales of my glittered past haha
My life then as a dancer & now has always kinda meshed into one another so to speak. I partied on my nights off & sometimes when I worked.