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Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
Hey ladies.
I'm new to camming and it has made me think a lot about relationships.
Is a man calling other women for phone/cam sex considered cheating?
For those of you in relationships how would you feel if he did so? Its the people requesting for extreme age play that gets to me the most.
These are seemingly well to do men wanting to wank over fucking kids.:(
I dont want to even think about the day I tell a future partner about what I do and for some of you whos boyfriends accept it, good on you.
Having said that however if I was to enter a serious relationship I would stop camming. I just wouldnt feel comfortable.
I also feel that men who don't mind their women/wives selling themselves (which is exactly what youre're doing) is either because of financial reasons or have a certain outlook on women in general. I'm not saying that you dont find genuine men who simply see it as a vocation but the amount of girls I speak to telling me how theyre supporting their bfs or doing it to keep their family afloat makes me wonder if partners are putting their financial stability before their true feelings.
I understand the above views are rather controversial but they're mine. You dont have to agree but you should respect them :-*
Also the amount of husbands that call saying how much they hate their wives, or that shes too fat, too ugly as I type theres a man who emailed saying how he has a fantasy of raping his wife because she doesnt sleep with him anymore.
Its deplorable.
Its really worrying how many people are dissatisfied with their sex lives. What if such was to happen to me? God.
I know youre probably thinking why do you care this is how you make your money but still. I am a woman, and hopefully a future wife and mother before I am a webcam model.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
I've considered this often.
The only thing I can do is put myself in the place of the girlfriend/wife/whatev.....were I in their shoes, would I be bothered? If so, at what point is the line "crossed?"
I don't think it's cheating to watch cams/strippers/porn. Often times it is a way to avoid cheating....actual physical contact, that is. However, were I the significant other, once the dude starts PAYING for interaction and such, then it veers into cheating territory. (I dunno, I just think about this one guy whose kid has cancer and he is spending money on cam stuff....I'm sure his wife would take issue with his online spending).
It's a convoluted view, I know. I'm saddened to find soooooooo many people who stay in unhappy relationships.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
This has been covered pretty extensively in a few threads, most notably this one:
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...-for-us-*poll*
But I do have to reply to this:
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Originally Posted by
nubienneAW
I also feel that men who don't mind their women/wives selling themselves (which is exactly what youre're doing)
While obviously you have the right to think about your work however you like, you don't have the right to define what I or others do. No, I do not "sell myself". I am not a commodity, my body is not an object that can be used up, and my customers don't get to "buy" me as a person.
Also, keep in mind that the more time you spend as a camgirl the more experiences you'll accumulate, which are likely to affect your feelings and opinions. A year from now you might be a very different person (I know I am!)
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
There is a big stigma about this type of job in our society, but it is still a JOB, like toilet washing is a job too. Some people are not going to like, that their partner is washing toilets for example for a job, and put them down for it. Some people would not marry someone if they don't have a certain type of job. I'm a teacher, that a medical doctor would not marry, because i was ONLY a teacher. I'm ultimately married to a guy that has a position that is considered higher than being a teacher in our society, but guess what? He married ME, not my job.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
Fridays posted an interesting poll on this a while back.
I think the general consensus is, if one or both parties in a particular relationship think it's cheating, it's cheating. If both parties in a particular relationship think it's okay, it's okay. I already wrote my thoughts on the cheating issue in the above thread if anyone cares to read it.
What I will say is, I don't think there is ANYTHING wrong with one's partner accepting and respecting the fact that you do sex work. I am not selling myself, Jesus Christ, how can you tell me that I am? If you feel that way about yourself by being in this line of work that's fine, but don't tell me I am "selling myself." Last I checked my soul is still my own, and I've never physically given my body to anyone for money. Men pay to watch me masturbate and engage with me online in various fantasies. That's not selling myself, that's doing a job, and I'd be more offended by a man who wanted me to quit my job to make him happy than by a man who is okay with me being in this line of work.
I wouldn't give two shits if I was dating a guy who was a webcam model. Know why? Because I'm mature enough to know that his job does not define who he is as a person. It's just a way to make money. Nothing more.
ETA: what Procrasturbator said. I wrote this post before reading hers. Glad to see I'm not the only one who feels the way I do :)
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
I think you are not okay of what you do for a job,and take it way too seriously. Don't believe anything a customer tells you. We are enablers of sick perverted fantasies sometimes, and thats why they come to us, and pay us for it. Then they go kiss their wife/ girlfriend goodnight and cuddle up to them.
This is a job. Accept as is. There s no cheating going on on here on either party in my mind. If you think this job is cheating than you shouldn't "cheat"/work this job.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
I do not like when men bad mouth their wives to me, but very few do that. But, I also think it's laughable when they tell me they are "happily married" and yet here they are chatting it up with a girl that is 20 years younger than his wife on the internet.
The "I am happily married" guys mostly say that shit because they think it makes them sound like less of a loser. "I am a happily married man and I am not like the rest of the losers on this website" is often something I see on a guys profile on MGF (lol).
I don't feel guilty if they're doing it behind their wives back, though.
- I didn't ask them to sign up to a sex website and contact me.
- I didn't approach them first
- I am not trying to "steal their man" or ruin their marriage
- I am not in control or responsible for this mans behaviour or his marriage
My only rule is I don't tolerate them bad mouthing their wife to me, because putting down another woman in attempts to give me a compliment, is not a compliment.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
For example, i have a perverted customer online who most of us would consider sick. He pays well, we play out his sick perverted fantasy, he climaxes, then guess what happens? we talk about the weather, recipes, normal stuff, like normal people. He GETS IT, why i,m there and why he is there.
There is no cheating: i provide a service, and we both know it. Those who want to cross the line and expect more, than providing a service, we don't entertain anyway, at least serious cam models don't.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
But to answer your question if being a camgirl has altered my definition on "cheating" i can say yes, it did. I learned a lot from being a cam girl. I look at porn, and men differently: as i indulge my SO in his fantasies, i'm ok of him watching it, and i inquire more about his secret likes, then i did if i didn't have a camgirl experience. Luckily he prefers me, the real thing over porn to indulge in his fantasies, but he knows i,m OKAY if he wants some porn sometimes. Looking is not cheating for us, touching would be.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
Is a man calling other women for phone/cam sex cheating? Probably, but not necessarily. There is no universal code for "cheating," much as our society tries to make us believe there is. Some couples think flirting is cheating, some think watching porn is cheating.
My situation is different than the norm-- my husband and I are polyamorous, however we do consider anything sexual done behind the others' back to be cheating. So if my husband hooked up with a camgirl, I'd be hurt and wonder why he did it behind my back. People cheat because they are missing something in their relationship and want to fulfill that need elsewhere. If he was a return customer with a camgirl, I'd know something was seriously wrong-- he wants a relationship with this girl.
I do have to say though, it's really not cool for you to say that men who mind their women being sex workers have a negative outlook on women. That is simply untrue, at least in my situation. Maybe you've had some bad experiences with guys, but look-- men buy sex. Women don't. There's no equation between men and women in the world of sex work, but that doesn't mean there's something wrong with people who view it as an opportunity. My husband and I love the idea of extra money, but we by all means do not need the extra income. Camming is relatively easy for me because I enjoy it. Who doesn't want a job they enjoy?
I agree that nobody should be forced into sex work or feel degraded about it. For me, it's empowering. And for my husband too-- he likes showing me off.
The man who wants to rape his wife is fucked up-- unless he's referring to a consensual rape PLAY sort of thing-- in which case, I hope he can get that with his wife, or decide where to take the relationship, or to end it.
Cheating is not cool by any means, but it does open people's eyes to their true feelings. Sometimes people in a relationship need that sort of thing to shake up the monotone and force them to make a decision about either saving their relationship or moving on when they are really unhappy. I get a feeling a lot of the guys who complain about their wives are just too afraid to get divorced. It's so common, and I hope that we at least serve as a catalyst for change in their relationships and lives.
I am many things before I am a webcam model. Some people are obsessed with their jobs-- I'm not one of them. I am a wife, a slavegirl, a sister, a daughter, a friend. And then I'm a webcam model. And a "professional student" lol, because I like school.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
In regards to cheating, I agree with the sentiment, if you both think it's cheating, it's cheating, if you both agree it's not, it's not. Every relationship has different parameters and boundaries, but anything done without conversation and consent behind your partner's back is cheating.
In regards to the whole "quitting if you started dating someone" thing, I feel the need to tell my personal story, since this kind of came to a tipping point recently: I started dating my last boyfriend while I was stripping. Making great money until the summer hit (which was only about a month after we started dating), and I couldn't handle how slow it was anymore so I quit that club. Took a couple months off work, then started camming to make up for the lost dancing money. Computer issues kinda screwed me over so at this point I had to get a vanilla job cuz I was running low on funds. Aside from hopping on cam every once in a great while (not really enough to make more than a little extra money over a few months), I pretty much stayed out of the adult industry for 2 years while I was with him. Toward the end, I went back to dancing at a different club, but was fired for some bullshit reason only 2 months in. When I was fired, I was devastated, because I REALLY needed that money and had thought I was finally on my way back to a better financial situation. My boyfriend.... was not supportive in the least. He didn't encourage me to go try another club or figure out a way to work out a cam schedule around my roommate - he told me to lower my standards and go get a job at Chili's....
From that point on, I slowly started to realize that even though he had no room to talk about me being in the adult industry as he had met me as a stripper, and even though he had never specifically said anything about prohibiting me (since he knew he had no room to talk), his general attitude and those around us had made me feel guilty about it. Not only could I recall a few wayward comments he had made over time that pointed to his discomfort with me dancing, but I remember being constantly bombarded by friends asking me "how does he feel about that?" when I told them I had a bf but was still dancing, or when I was going back to dancing. It had unconsciously made me feel that it wasn't "right" for me to be in this industry while dating someone, regardless of what my logical thoughts were on the matter and all the stuff I tell girls with the same issues on here about what I think of the matter.
Meanwhile, I was going further and further into debt with my shitty vanilla job that my bf never seemed to have a problem with even though it was making my life hell and me miserable. Not that this was our only problem, but I would be lying if I didn't say that part of the reason I finally broke up with him was because I wanted to start escorting and travel dancing to dig myself out of debt and I knew he would never approve. The other night, I was going over how much debt I had, how long it was taking me to pay it off, and started calculating how much further along I would be had I just started these projects when I very first thought of it and wanted to... and also taking stock of how much happier I was with everything in my life, including my work and personal feelings of success NOW as opposed to when I was trying to be "normal and respectable", and I got mad. Really mad. I couldn't believe that I was in such a shit hole financially and had been sooo unhappy professionally for 2 years just because of this idea that this relationship, which was bound to end anyway, had seemed more important to salvage than my independence and personal happiness.
Ever since then, I made the decision that I will never quit the industry for a relationship ever again. It is not worth it. What happens when it ends? You just wasted a bunch of time that you could've been doing something you liked and were good at and made good money in, and for what? Some guy? Forget it. I'll either bag one of those mystical guys who isn't all insecure and can be logical and understand this is a job, or I'll be single until I find something else to do.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
Do I feel guilty about making money & not depending on anyone but me? NO
I don't let a man or what men think dictate my life. Even Judge Judy says "Men are just little boys with jobs, they never grow up." Why would I give a fuck?
If this make you or your significant other question each other loyalty then maybe this isn't the job for you. I worry about upping how much I can make in a day not whether or not it is cheating.
Smooches,
Sam
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
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Originally Posted by
Sam38g
Do I feel guilty about making money & not depending on anyone but me? NO
I don't let a man or what men think dictate my life. Even Judge Judy says "Men are just little boys with jobs, they never grow up." Why would I give a fuck?
If this make you or your significant other question each other loyalty then maybe this isn't the job for you. I worry about upping how much I can make in a day not whether or not it is cheating.
Smooches,
Sam
Erm youre talking as if I have a significant other in the first place. I dont. I merely asked a question to you ladies if being in the adult industry has flipped your perception in any way. Thats all. MY personal actions of quitting in a serious relationship is exactly that, my personal opinion. It isnt a benchmark I'm trying to impose on anyone.
Its not in your place to say whether this job is for me or not because you have nothing to back such an assumption.
Smoochies,
Nubienne
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
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Originally Posted by
Aurora_Sunset
In regards to cheating, I agree with the sentiment, if you both think it's cheating, it's cheating, if you both agree it's not, it's not. Every relationship has different parameters and boundaries, but anything done without conversation and consent behind your partner's back is cheating.
In regards to the whole "quitting if you started dating someone" thing, I feel the need to tell my personal story, since this kind of came to a tipping point recently: I started dating my last boyfriend while I was stripping. Making great money until the summer hit (which was only about a month after we started dating), and I couldn't handle how slow it was anymore so I quit that club. Took a couple months off work, then started camming to make up for the lost dancing money. Computer issues kinda screwed me over so at this point I had to get a vanilla job cuz I was running low on funds. Aside from hopping on cam every once in a great while (not really enough to make more than a little extra money over a few months), I pretty much stayed out of the adult industry for 2 years while I was with him. Toward the end, I went back to dancing at a different club, but was fired for some bullshit reason only 2 months in. When I was fired, I was devastated, because I REALLY needed that money and had thought I was finally on my way back to a better financial situation. My boyfriend.... was not supportive in the least. He didn't encourage me to go try another club or figure out a way to work out a cam schedule around my roommate - he told me to lower my standards and go get a job at Chili's....
From that point on, I slowly started to realize that even though he had no room to talk about me being in the adult industry as he had met me as a stripper, and even though he had never specifically said anything about prohibiting me (since he knew he had no room to talk), his general attitude and those around us had made me feel guilty about it. Not only could I recall a few wayward comments he had made over time that pointed to his discomfort with me dancing, but I remember being constantly bombarded by friends asking me "how does he feel about that?" when I told them I had a bf but was still dancing, or when I was going back to dancing. It had unconsciously made me feel that it wasn't "right" for me to be in this industry while dating someone, regardless of what my logical thoughts were on the matter and all the stuff I tell girls with the same issues on here about what I think of the matter.
Meanwhile, I was going further and further into debt with my shitty vanilla job that my bf never seemed to have a problem with even though it was making my life hell and me miserable. Not that this was our only problem, but I would be lying if I didn't say that part of the reason I finally broke up with him was because I wanted to start escorting and travel dancing to dig myself out of debt and I knew he would never approve. The other night, I was going over how much debt I had, how long it was taking me to pay it off, and started calculating how much further along I would be had I just started these projects when I very first thought of it and wanted to... and also taking stock of how much happier I was with everything in my life, including my work and personal feelings of success NOW as opposed to when I was trying to be "normal and respectable", and I got mad. Really mad. I couldn't believe that I was in such a shit hole financially and had been sooo unhappy professionally for 2 years just because of this idea that this relationship, which was bound to end anyway, had seemed more important to salvage than my independence and personal happiness.
Ever since then, I made the decision that I will never quit the industry for a relationship ever again. It is not worth it. What happens when it ends? You just wasted a bunch of time that you could've been doing something you liked and were good at and made good money in, and for what? Some guy? Forget it. I'll either bag one of those mystical guys who isn't all insecure and can be logical and understand this is a job, or I'll be single until I find something else to do.
Thanks for such a detailed response. Its nice to her real life insight.
Having said that, after reading it, it has further reinforced my sentiments.
If you were not financially struggling, had nice savings when you met your partner do you think you would have wanted to escort whilst still being with him?
If the financial stress in your relationship was removed I think you would be a lot more understanding of your partners reservations and your friends unspoken qualms.
And yes he can "talk" about not liking what you do just because he met you as a stripper.
I'm assuming he did not pick you up from the pole and declare his undying love for you. If you met in "vanilla" circumstances at a club/book store and mentioned your job he would have been like "mmm yeah shes a stripper but i really like her man" once you had started getting more serious his distaste would have started becoming more apparent, which it did.
You see this as a job and nothing more, which it is but men have bigger egos and pride than they would care to admit. You're in a relationship and youre getting naked for men every other night and popping your pussy on cam, this doesnt sit well with most men in this world.
I'm sure it wouldnt have lasted with this guy anyway, as money played a part in its ending. however the source of your anger was the money lost whilst you were with him and not the time and emotional attachment wasted. Doesnt that bother you?
By the way I'm not trying to berate or offend you xoxox
I'm happy you took practical steps in coming out of your rut and I hope everything is going well for you now x
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
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Originally Posted by
Busygirl
I think you are not okay of what you do for a job,and take it way too seriously. Don't believe anything a customer tells you. We are enablers of sick perverted fantasies sometimes, and thats why they come to us, and pay us for it. Then they go kiss their wife/ girlfriend goodnight and cuddle up to them.
This is a job. Accept as is. There s no cheating going on on here on either party in my mind. If you think this job is cheating than you shouldn't "cheat"/work this job.
Youre just chatting a lot of bollocks if I'm honest. Did I once say I was helping them cheat or feel responsible? I'm asking what your thoughts are if youre in a relationship and your man is calling other girls and has the industry changed perceptions. Why youre making personal comments about my business I have no idea.
And yes I do take this job seriously as I assume you do to if youre making any real money.
I'm not a robot, I have feelings, camming isnt like stacking shelves at Walmart you're interacting with real life people on a day to day basis where you observe occurrences.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
Can people fucking read my thread properly and refrain from patronizing assumptions which arent any of your business or dont comment at all. Thanks
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
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Originally Posted by
nubienneAW
If you were not financially struggling, had nice savings when you met your partner do you think you would have wanted to escort whilst still being with him?
Clearly I can't answer for the person this is directed towards, and I have never escorted because I'm too afraid of LE, but as a cam girl, if I had a nice savings and a partner and didn't "need" the money, would I still cam? Hell yes. I would not put in the hours I do now, and I would be more selective in which types of shows I would do, but if being an independent contractor for the past 3.5 years has taught me anything it's the money can dry up just as quickly as it flows. I could lose my vanilla job, an emergency could come up that would drain my savings, and then where would I be? At the end of the day camming works for me and I would keep doing shows with my favorite regs because it's wise to have a back up source of income in case something goes wrong. And, I genuinely ENJOY what I do.
I look at it like this. If I'm going to paint my toenails anyway I could go ahead and do it, or I could record myself doing it and sell the video to my foot fetish guys. Why would I give up that money just because I'm in a relationship? I have a high sex drive. I masturbate frequently. If I have a partner but get aroused when he's not around or not interested I could go masturbate with no one watching, or go record myself doing it and sell the clip. If I'm doing this stuff anyway why NOT get paid?!
Some guys wouldn't be comfortable with dating a sex worker, and that is fine and I respect that. But I wouldn't date one of those guys. I would respect his time enough to not pursue something with a guy like that, as I would respect myself to not change for any man. And some guys, believe it or not, are actually proud to date a sex worker. They look at it like, here's my hot girlfriend/wife having men throwing money at her because she is so beautiful and sexy, but at the end of the day she's giving me all of her attention and affection. Some guys see it as an ego boost rather than a threat.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
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Originally Posted by
nubienneAW
Thanks for such a detailed response. Its nice to her real life insight.
Having said that, after reading it, it has further reinforced my sentiments.
If you were not financially struggling, had nice savings when you met your partner do you think you would have wanted to escort whilst still being with him?
If the financial stress in your relationship was removed I think you would be a lot more understanding of your partners reservations and your friends unspoken qualms.
And yes he can "talk" about not liking what you do just because he met you as a stripper.
I'm assuming he did not pick you up from the pole and declare his undying love for you. If you met in "vanilla" circumstances at a club/book store and mentioned your job he would have been like "mmm yeah shes a stripper but i really like her man" once you had started getting more serious his distaste would have started becoming more apparent, which it did.
You see this as a job and nothing more, which it is but men have bigger egos and pride than they would care to admit. You're in a relationship and youre getting naked for men every other night and popping your pussy on cam, this doesnt sit well with most men in this world.
I'm sure it wouldnt have lasted with this guy anyway, as money played a part in its ending. however the source of your anger was the money lost whilst you were with him and not the time and emotional attachment wasted. Doesnt that bother you?
By the way I'm not trying to berate or offend you xoxox
I'm happy you took practical steps in coming out of your rut and I hope everything is going well for you now x
But it wasn't JUST about the financial aspects. Like I said, I was miserable is the "normal, respectable" life I was just trying to live in order to be with him and appease everyone else. Now, I am much happier. Would I still want to escort even if I wasn't in debt? Yeah, probably. The main draw of the job is that I can make so much money per hour that I am able to only work a few hours per month on my schedule and still be doing wonderfully without stress. Does part of that have to do with me being comfortable financially? Sure. But why do finances take a backseat to anything else? Why is it understandable to value other things over appeasing a man but not money? Why is wanting to be stable financially and not struggling to buy off the dollar menu seen as "less than" or "greedy" compared to anything else?
But really, the number one reason I am drawn to sex work is because of the opportunities it gives to spend more time and work around the schedules of loved ones. Maybe I don't have a boyfriend at the moment because of our various issues but if I did, I would value the freedom and time to give to the relationship over working a time-consuming vanilla job for any "societal" standard of a "loving relationship."
Ultimately, you do you. I knew a girl who worked at the same local SC as me for awhile, and she quit cuz she felt it was a form of cheating on her bf. Well... if that's how she felt, and it made her uncomfortable, then she shouldn't do it. Everyone's intimate relationship is different. To me, I wouldn't feel that me escorting is cheating cuz, trust me, nothing is further from intimacy for me than sex with a paying client. But, I have a good friend who won't even watch Magic Mike because she feels it is disrespectful to her boyfriend. Lol, I guess whatever floats your boat.
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I guess, just, when you reach that place and you know it was because of your relationship and that relationship didn't work out, you're like AAARRRRGH! FUCK, WHYYYY!?
Had it worked out... maybe it woulda been worth it? But as it stands, I just figure the majority of relationships that start don't last, so I'm just gonna do me and not worry about fitting some ideal of a relationship right now while I'm working on other things.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
Do not start a thread if you don't want the comments. Comments are coming from everywhere around the world here.
Bless your heart, none of us think alike and all opinions / comments are based on the OP
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nubienneAW
Can people fucking read my thread properly and refrain from patronizing assumptions which arent any of your business or dont comment at all. Thanks
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Originally Posted by
nubienneAW
Hey ladies.
I'm new to camming and it has made me think a lot about relationships.
I am a woman, and hopefully a future wife and mother before I am a webcam model.
^^^ Prob why you are being referenced.. don't put yourself on front street if you don't want to get ran over.
Sometimes SOME men don't want to eat chicken every meal, they want a side dish.. spice up the plate kwim?
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I have only read the first post, but I feel I need to put in my two cents as soon as possible.
Cheating is where you violate the boundaries of a relationship. Cheating is not being honest with your partner. Cheating is being disrespectful. For some, this means dating someone after you've agreed to see each other exclusively. Or, if you're in an open relationship, it may mean that you aren't truthful with your partner about who else you're seeing. Cheating depends on the relationship, and what you want out of said relationship. If you want to date someone, then date someone who is ok with you being a webcam model, and discuss it with them--what they are and are not ok with. It may mean that you will have to weed out a lot of people who don't understand the profession and/or are complete assholes about it, but trust me. You'll be happier in the longrun.
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ps: Webcamming hasn't altered my definition of cheating. Discovering that monogamy isn't a requirement and that a poly relationship can also be healthy is what altered my definition of cheating.
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
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temptingmodel
Do not start a thread if you don't want the comments. Comments are coming from everywhere around the world here.
Bless your heart, none of us think alike and all opinions / comments are based on the OP
^^^ Prob why you are being referenced.. don't put yourself on front street if you don't want to get ran over.
Sometimes SOME men don't want to eat chicken every meal, they want a side dish.. spice up the plate kwim?
Oh stfu.
Did I say I didnt want comments? I asked a question so ofc Im expecting them as it is what I wanted. I knew it would cause a bit of controversy and I clearly stated so. I just dont like how people are making assumptions that im not happy/fit for what I do.
Nice metaphor, make that up yourself?
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?
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Originally Posted by
Aurora_Sunset
I guess, just, when you reach that place and you know it was because of your relationship and that relationship didn't work out, you're like AAARRRRGH! FUCK, WHYYYY!?
Had it worked out... maybe it woulda been worth it? But as it stands, I just figure the majority of relationships that start don't last, so I'm just gonna do me and not worry about fitting some ideal of a relationship right now while I'm working on other things.
So true. Same here. Another thing to take in consideration is that some cam girls dont really have much prospects/motivation to do anything else so it wouldnt make practical sense for them to leave camming. so even if they were in a relationship and didnt feel comfortable or whatever they would continue anyway
that is by no means the case for me and ultimately its having an effect on my perceptions
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Re: Relationships:Has being a camgirl altered your definition of "cheating"? Guilt?