I think I am into women...
I have always been attracted to women but I've never been with one. I really love looking at beautiful women and often, when I play with myself I am fantasizing about a woman... I like men too, I love sex but whenever I have sex with a man, I always feel unsatisfied and cannot really explain why... I've never had an orgasm with a partner.
But I am really shy when I talk to a woman... I've had a guy tell me once that it may be a sign I am more into women than men... I am really comfortable around men though and my sexuality...
There is a girl I've been working with for a couple of years already, I find her extremely seductive and I really like her personality. We were fooling around at work yesterday and I really love the way she was caressing my body, she was giving me goose bumps lol. We ended up kissing and it was amazing, I was like oh my god!!!!! (I never felt this way when kissing a guy before, in my entire life). It didn't go any farther, she has a boyfriend.
I want to experience being with another woman so badly but I am nervous and worried I wouldn't be able to please her, as it would be my first time.... I don't really where would be the best place to meet somebody either.... Are online websites recommended? :S Have anybody ever felt the same way? How did you get through this phase?
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I've been going through this kinda thing for the past year or so.i find women to be so sensual and goddess-like that in my bedroom experiences with them, I'm completely frozen and in shock! Lmao..like a high school boy during his first sexual encounter. I've had ladies go down on me, but I'm always too scared to return the favor BC i don't know if i can please her! I'm so intimidated & intrigued by certain ladies,i fear that one little try and, bam, I'm madly in love!
Just go with the flow and i think a lady will find u and take control if u wish, esp if u explain ur situation.make friends with a lesbian from work, go bar hopping, and you'll be amazed at all the people you'll meet! The right type of lady will be much more accommodating and passionate than you could ever believe.
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I've been going through this kinda thing for the past year or so.i find women to be so sensual and goddess-like that in my bedroom experiences with them, I'm completely frozen and in shock! Lmao..like a high school boy during his first sexual encounter. I've had ladies go down on me, but I'm always too scared to return the favor BC i don't know if i can please her! I'm so intimidated & intrigued by certain ladies,i fear that one little try and, bam, I'm madly in love!
Just go with the flow and i think a lady will find u and take control if u wish, esp if u explain ur situation.make friends with a lesbian from work, go bar hopping, and you'll be amazed at all the people you'll meet! The right type of lady will be much more accommodating and passionate than you could ever believe.
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You're over thinking this, just go with it! You know what you like just return the favor!
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I can definitely relate.
When I was I high school I found myself drawn to girls and it freaked me out because how society around me was homophobic and I thought I was bad or wrong. So I turned towards men but I have never orgasmed from dick except 1 time I almost did with my child's father (and I think it had something to do with pregnancy hormones).
Anyways I love oral sex and thought maybe I do like women sexually and would like to have that experience.
All I can say is there's a first time for everything!
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try not to freak yourself out by putting a label on it, just do what you want and who you are attracted to! maybe its not a "phase" you just have to try it. im sure if the other girl knows its your first time she will be understanding and help you along. sexually, i am much more attracted to females too. if im watching porn ill get into it when i see beautiful women with curvy, smooth asses.. and then a big old hairy cock will show up and ill throw my popcorn at the screen, get up, and do something else. lol
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if im watching porn ill get into it when i see beautiful women with curvy, smooth asses.. and then a big old hairy cock will show up and ill throw my popcorn at the screen, get up, and do something else. lol
I'm sorry, but the image of you eating popcorn while watching porn just cracked my shit up!
xStacey, I feel you. I've been into women as well, though I do still like men. I just always find women much more visually pleasing and would really like to experience being with one (in a non-work-related, "putting on a show" setting), but I don't know where to go or what to do either. I am so confident when it comes to flirting with and hitting on men, but I can't flirt with a woman to save my life. I guess it just feels awkward to try to figure out if they are into girls too or just being friendly (shit, now i know how men feel when they hit on us! lol). I've tried doing the online thing, but I find that the majority of women looking for other women online are very much about wanting a real relationship and not just hookups. And going to gay bars makes me feel weird cuz every time I've gone, people can "tell" and make comments about how they know I'm not a lesbian. And I guess I've read and seen too many videos about how a lot of lesbians feel about bisexual women (not very friendly toward it, apparently) that it makes me feel like I can't be "that girl" around them because they'll just shun me. :-\
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and then a big old hairy cock will show up and ill throw my popcorn at the screen, get up, and do something else. lol
LOL!!
And Aurora_sunset, maybe if you were in Canada, we could experiment together...:$ :$ haha
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^^ Damn! If I ever get up there... :D
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xStacey
I have always been attracted to women but I've never been with one. I really love looking at beautiful women and often, when I play with myself I am fantasizing about a woman... I like men too, I love sex but whenever I have sex with a man, I always feel unsatisfied and cannot really explain why... I've never had an orgasm with a partner.
But I am really shy when I talk to a woman... I've had a guy tell me once that it may be a sign I am more into women than men... I am really comfortable around men though and my sexuality...
There is a girl I've been working with for a couple of years already, I find her extremely seductive and I really like her personality. We were fooling around at work yesterday and I really love the way she was caressing my body, she was giving me goose bumps lol. We ended up kissing and it was amazing, I was like oh my god!!!!! (I never felt this way when kissing a guy before, in my entire life). It didn't go any farther, she has a boyfriend.
I want to experience being with another woman so badly but I am nervous and worried I wouldn't be able to please her, as it would be my first time.... I don't really where would be the best place to meet somebody either.... Are online websites recommended? :S Have anybody ever felt the same way? How did you get through this phase?
I would say that go with it and see if you are bisexual. I start chatting up girls after high school and I had my first girl-on-girl experience when I was 18. I found out I was not into women but it great experience :) However, I love transgender women who are pre-op and I start think that they are much more who I am into :)
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A woman (IMO), can offer so much more in bed, than a man usually can. (except most black men that I have been with).
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Was with a woman for 10yrs...the sexual encounter is much more intimate and passionate. If you're playing around fine, but the average relationship is tumultuous. Women are naturally emotional and that alone causes drama. Yes, to sex NO to relationships and steer clear of the women that will attempt to force you into one. Just my HUMBLE opinion..best of luck.
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Practical advice: Okcupid.com or if you really want a quick fix, craigslist (be careful).
It is funny, I have female friends that are the most outrageous flirts I have ever run into – always giggling, always the center of attention, always getting or giving numbers. They have the guys all over them. But if they are into a girl (more often than you would expect) they turn into a 12 year old boy asking a girl to a dance. If my 12 year old self could gather the courage, I am certain you can as well. Good luck!
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I know just how you feel. The dating field for lesbians can be so frustrating, though. When I first came out, I posted on craigslist, and some couple e-mailed me looking for a third. They even offered me money. It wasn't what I was looking for, so I didn't make further contact. OkCupid might work for you, though. You have to put a lot of time into your profile to find a good match, though.
For me, I'm into the entire gender spectrum, though I'm not that into cisgendered men, though I've been known to be attracted to one or two men who were born men and identify as such.
After I came out to my oldest sister, she bought me a lap dance the next time I visited.
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I was going through the same thing this year. I finally broke out of my shell. I had the same goosebumps when I was with the girl I lost my female v card with. Good luck!
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If this thread shows anything, it's that a lot of women that are into other women have the same fears about meeting, pleasing, and being with other women that the OP had. I used to think that if a woman I was attracted to was super queer looking or was really into LGBTQ politics, it meant she also had a ton of experience in bed and was therefore out of my league, but I think some of these anxieties exist for a lot of people regardless of how they look, act, or how long they've dated other women. I try and remind myself that it's the same for any new couple, that it might take a while to figure out one another's bodies, but you'll learn another woman's body the same way you learn a male partner's body, or more likely the same way you've had to teach male partners about your body....