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I know these sugar daddy sites don't have the best reputations, but...
...can there be any luck with them? I know a girl who had a very successful sugar relationship with a man she met from a SD website. I did not go to seekingarrangement since that sounds to escort-ish to me. Anyway, I made my account last night just for shits and giggles and added one profile pic; I woke up this morning with a bunch of messages from interested men, several have put me on their "hotlists." I've weened out all their profiles and there are a few who don't seem to want sex (I want a purely sugar daddy relationship with no sex involved). My biggest candidate's profile says he makes over $1M a year with a net worth of 5-10M. Could this be completely false? I mean, does the site do anything to make the men verify their earnings? The site is sugardaddie.com.
Anyway, I can't respond to any of the messages because I'm not a "premium" member and that cost $25 for a month. I don't want to be naive and pay the money without getting results, but I've gotten over 20 messages by now and someone fruitful may come out of this.
What do you guys think? $25 isn't a lot to fork over and I might just meet the sugar daddy of my dreams, no sex, just dinners and shopping. I'm mature and classy enough to to attract a higher quality clientele. At the club where I work I have several guys come see me regularly who spend $1-2K+ each time just for conversation. But they haven't been able to see me much lately (one has a wife who just found out about me, one just got a new job) so I'm thinking of goin the SD route.
What do you think?
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I used to do it but I couldnt really keep it up (esp since I was like you and didnt want to have sex).
Search the sugar baby tag on tumblr if you want to know more about the life style.
Honestly, I found SD.com to be the best site and to be worth the money (by the way seekingarrangement and sd.com are pretty much the same tbh). If you don't want sex then there are two options to do it; be upfront about it or avoid the subject completely. Finding a sugar daddy that won't want sex will be extremely hard and they'll probably have to be very very old, so old that they can't even get it up. Avoiding the subject completely is honestly the best way to go. It sounds really bad but whatever. You just don't mention the subject and dont lead them to believe that anything will happen.
But all in all if you dont want sex it's better to just find a regular/SD in the club.
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Well on my profile I put that the type of relationship I want is "strictly sugardaddy / sugar baby" instead of the other option which is something like "not limited to sugar daddy / sugar baby relationship." I figured the latter would mean they're open to a more intimate relationship and sex whereas as "strictly sd/sb" seems to insinuate less expectation for intimacy. One of the men who added me to his hotlist has "strictly sd/sb" on his profile and talks only about wanting someone to wine and dine aand attend fundraising events with him, etc. His profile claims his est. worth is 5-10M. Doesn't seem to want sex. I may give it a try!
Thanks for your help! :)
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You would think a site like that would have the option for a potential sugardaddy to pay for your upgrade to Premium. I was on a fetish site a couple of years ago that had the option for another member to upgrade your membership, no strings attached.
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chloemay
You would think a site like that would have the option for a potential sugardaddy to pay for your upgrade to Premium. I was on a fetish site a couple of years ago that had the option for another member to upgrade your membership, no strings attached.
Girl I was thinking the EXACT same thing! I was trying to find a way to get one of the guys to pay for it but apparently that's not possible. I think I'm going to pay the money for one month and see how it goes!
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Nina_
Well on my profile I put that the type of relationship I want is "strictly sugardaddy / sugar baby" instead of the other option which is something like "not limited to sugar daddy / sugar baby relationship." I figured the latter would mean they're open to a more intimate relationship and sex whereas as "strictly sd/sb" seems to insinuate less expectation for intimacy. One of the men who added me to his hotlist has "strictly sd/sb" on his profile and talks only about wanting someone to wine and dine aand attend fundraising events with him, etc. His profile claims his est. worth is 5-10M. Doesn't seem to want sex. I may give it a try!
Thanks for your help! :)
On that site a "strictly SD/SB relationship" means that you want allowance and will give companionship (and most men will expect sex). "Not limited to SB/SD" means that they want an actual GF (and you are looking for an actual relationship).
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newb2
On that site a "strictly SD/SB relationship" means that you want allowance and will give companionship (and most men will expect sex). "Not limited to SB/SD" means that they want an actual GF (and you are looking for an actual relationship).
So when guys on there say they're looking for companionship that means sex? Ugh... that sucks. I read a lot of profiles of men saying they want "intimacy" and "passion" which obviously means sex to me. I thought the guys who only say companionship just wanted that. :(
One guy says he wants a woman to wine and dine with who he can take to fund raisers and events. He says he wants her to be witty and astute in politics. He put me on his hotlist. I hope he doesn't just want sex, that would suck.
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I hate to break it to you but 99% of the men on those websites want sex. Tbh I would go even to 99.9% lol. You're just going to have to work your way around it or find someone you actually find attractive and want to have sex with.
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Lol. So that means that the amount of guys there who don't want sex is between 1/100 and 1/1000. Right now I'm getting about 1-2 messages per hour (probably because I'm new) so by those calculations within a month of me being on the site ($25) I will have probably found the one who doesn't want sex. Lol.
But you're probably right, it's probably a waste of time. I'm not looking for a handsome man to have sex with; I'm looking for a classic SD/SB relationship where I give company, not sex, and get paid well in return.
It's rare, but I've seen it happen that a girl gives no sex and still lands a good sugar daddy. Being that I work in extras capital of the country and still make more money than most of the extras girls, I feel like I have a shot. But I just don't know if a SD website is the right choice. I could just stick to working solely at strip clubs because I make great money, but it's a lot of work and I find myself NEVER wanting to work if I don't have a regular coming in these days.
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Im in sd website from one week ago,i recieve many message but...the mans want meet for know me (paying the cost of flight) but my question is how i can know if i take a flight for know a "rich man" and he dont pay me nothing before how i can know if is real he have money?because maybe he dont have money?he lie? i want to have money in advance before the meeting but of course they dont want pay nothiefore in advance for i am sure hw have money?
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Personnally I wouldn't pay travel expenses to meet with a potential "sugar daddy" who lives on the other side of the world. You don't know if he has money, maybe he just wants sex and what if there is just no chemistry... He doesn't have any obligation to compensate you and I've heard enough horror stories about sugar daddies from online sites.
Maybe if he lives in the same town you don't really have anything to lose (except your time if it doesn't work out) meeting him for a dinner but I wouldn't fly to another country.
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sara100
Im in sd website from one week ago,i recieve many message but...the mans want meet for know me (paying the cost of flight) but my question is how i can know if i take a flight for know a "rich man" and he dont pay me nothing before how i can know if is real he have money?because maybe he dont have money?he lie? i want to have money in advance before the meeting but of course they dont want pay nothiefore in advance for i am sure hw have money?
Ask him for money in advance so you know he's serious about what he's offering.
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She wrote in her post that the men don't want to pay in advance...
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What I meant was, she should explain to these guys that she isn't flying on a place to meet them anywhere until she's paid first. I'd never hop on a plane to meet a stranger if they didn't give me a ton of money upfront. Even then I'd be too weary to take a flight to see someone whom I have never met. The men she's describing sound like phonies.
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So it sounds like you have some trial and error Nina_ as it it would be interesting to see more girls with positive experience with these sites would chime in here.
I myself am curious but have yet to do these meetings online for dating/sb or whatever. My guess is that if you have a knack for sifting through people and personalities and have some money upfront for assurance from cheap jerks then I say give it a try.
If you do then, Good luck and let us know how it goes :)
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So it sounds like you have to have your own experience and some to do trial and error Nina_
Also, it it would be interesting to see more girls with positive experience with these sites would chime in here.
I myself am curious but have yet to do these meetings online for dating/sb or whatever. My guess is that if you have a knack for sifting through people and personalities, keep the cookies for genuine intimacy, and have some money upfront for assurance from cheap jerks then I say give it a try.
If you do then, Good luck and let us know how it goes :)
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I'm curious as if you'll have any luck. I used to have a seeking arrangements profile but I deleted it because my bf didn't like the idea. I too, was just wanting shopping/dates.. no sex lol. I did get some responses from some local guys. One saying he didn't have a lot of money to offer (wtf!?) and he only wanted sex and for $300 a month. I declined. Broke sugar daddy? That's an oxymoron if I ever saw one.
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I'd also like to know how this pans out.... I live in a ritzy part of town so it might be a lucrative endeavor...
I follow some SBs on Tumblr and most of them use Seeking Arrangment... and several of them are "no sex".... Also, many will charge the guy for an initial meeting, usually between $200-$500. At that rate you could just go on a bunch of potential SD dates :D
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Former Sugar Baby here! Ladies, I hate to say it, but most of these arrangements do involve sex, or as my former Daddy says (who is actually still a good friend of mine) "if I ain't f*****ng her - she's not getting money". I started out on Seeking Arrangement but I'm older than the average "Baby" so I had much better luck on Sugardaddie.com. I definitely felt it was worth the $25 and definitely thought the men to women ratio was much higher than SA. Seemed to have more qualified leads as well.
I honed my "craft" thanks to Taylor Jones and her "Sugar Baby Boot Camp"; she has a ton of great info for free on her website http://thesugardaddyformula.com/
Also, here's a trick I learned with SA -- log in every day, several times a day. That keeps you higher on the search results. They have a great blog on SA as well.
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Also, to Sara -- DON"T EVER TRUST ANYONE TO REIMBURSE YOUR COST OF TRAVEL!! I've never traveled to meet anyone because I had enough prospects locally but I do know this: If I did, I would insist on the airline ticket upfront as well as a paid hotel room before I went anywhere.
I also never required anyone to pay me upfront to meet me but I always insisted on a dinner meeting at a nice restaurant. I think you can tell a lot about a potential by his table manners, or how he treats the service personnel. One potential Daddy ate with his mouth open; that's one of my pet peeves and I knew I would never be able to see past that, lol!
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Thanks girls for the advice,i think the 80% of the mans in this sites are fake,dont have money...
I live in Paris and most of the mans are from US,some mexico,canada etc.... some man are in france but almost two hours from paris or more ,i dont want to flitght for met anybody without paid and advance and even with paid i think is dangerous,there are many psychopaths loose and i dont want meet any of them.
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Hi Stacey You can tell any of these horrible stories? honestly i think a sugar daddy is better to get it in other places like in the work ( escort,camming,other work) but not in a website like this for me has been disappointing, and certainly everyone wants to talk on Skype and ask for send many pictures...
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Well if these guys don't want to be generous with their money I'll ask them why it is that they list their yearly salary as 500,000+ but can't fork over "suggar daddy" type of cash.
I've always imagined myself charging for the first meeting. I don't care, it's still part of my time that I invested.
I don't know.
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newb2
I hate to break it to you but 99% of the men on those websites want sex. Tbh I would go even to 99.9% lol. You're just going to have to work your way around it or find someone you actually find attractive and want to have sex with.
Definitely agree with NEWB2. I've met several SD on various sites. However, there is always a catch. A majority of them are unattractive, perverts or simply demanding. You must figure out what its worth to you. One SD was willing to provide a $5k monthly stipend. We met and yes he was authentic. However, I had to meet him in different cities, ALWAYS pick up the phone when he called..it was as if he wanted to own me. I got out quick, simply wasn't worth it. A SB in most cases is a POSSESSION, like a trophy or some other trinket,
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I'm on sd.com and it's definitely interesting. To be honest, SA gives you a better bang for your buck and they have a diamond club where the members have been verified financially before hand. Also, they have a verify club to make sure the SDs and SBs have clean records, etc. on sd.com anyone can "claim" they are SDs and they do. You should've seen the characters I've run into on there and I don't plan on renewing my membership at this time. I will say that if I wasn't a BBW, I'd do better for sure, but my pickings are slim. I like sd.com, but I feel their safety net should be bigger, and they need to upgrade their site. I've missed IMs every time I got one and it seems the quality of men compared to 5 years ago has gone down hill.
I've had several messages from potentials who end up sending old photos before they lost their hair, or turned grey, and guys who fake their income. Most of these guys want me to dominate them and are not SD potentials to me, they are wannabe subs. I do my research and I think it shocks and surprises them so they give up or try and pursue someone naive. I've been offered up to $5k (my monthly minimum) and several of them fall off, or make up some lame excuse after they've made plans for dinner. I've already met two previous SDs from that site so they do exist, but I think sd.com is a waste of MY time this time round and since they don't have that added safety net like SA, there's no point.
I had one guy say he made $500,000-$1,000,000,000 a year on his profile. Then, he sends me photos of his "golden years" after he clearly already is balding, etc. and ends up telling me his divorce took half of his money, and his company had to be built from the ground up, and how he had only $300,000K liquid. And this guy was offering $5-10K a month. LMAO. Yeah, okay so basically you DON'T make $500K+ a year. The other one gave me some 1995 photos and I found his updated photos on his google+ page. You wouldn't have guessed they were the same as they were literally almost 20 years apart. Also, his "company's website" came up nil and void. A LOT of these guys are fakes and phonies. Another guy on SA was offering $1-3K and again, wanted me to dominate him. Being black is a curse sometimes lol. Sorry but if I wanted to dominate in person, I'd charge sessions for that.
My suggestion is to weed them out, do background checks, and don't even discuss sex. And if they constantly talk about sex, constantly talk about money. Keep it professional and get those first few dates and your money before even thinking about giving them what they want. Some of them are just looking to toy around with things but aren't legit. Out of all the guys who have contacted me, 95% of them stereotyped me into some dominant escort, which I'm not. I also rather stack my own coins. Some of these guys have diseases and want unprotected sex with young naive girls who they are "paying off". It would suck to be paid $1-10K plus a month and get dumped only to realize he left you an STD that outlasts your monthly income. No. Fucking. Way. I still have an on and off again SD but he's proven himself for 5 years that he's capable of owning, and wearing that title. Not only have we not have had sex, he's been respectful for 5 fucking years.