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how do i make men fall in love?
I'm goo at making them think i like them and getting them to like me and become pseudo regulars, but i want to make them literally fall in love. i know this is hard to do, but ive read so many threads about girls getting gifts and having a few real regulars and champagne and vip rooms and i get none of these. someone's hustle has to be explainable. Attachment 35935
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and i know im not skinny, but my shape more often than not works to my advantage.
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Cultivating regulars, especially ones like that, really requires the perfect storm of customer. If you want them to literally fall in love with you, you have to have no shame -- call him your boyfriend, tell him you love him, lay it on thick how much you love spending time together, keep in touch OTC, etc., etc. It's a draining hustle that has potential to go bad with the wrong customer (stalker, etc.), so I'm personally not a huge fan of it.
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Treating your customers with respect is the only way to cultivate regulars who will in turn respect you back. This means being honest and real with them. If you don't do OTC, if you don't give out your number, if you don't allow touching - be real and tell them. Stringing them along with false promises not only makes you look bad, it's treating them like they are less than human and that's not what we are here for. Just treat them with respect. It's that simple. The respect you get back is returned times 10. If someone doesn't respect your boundaries, walk away, they are not worth your time and they will not spend money, which is the reason we do the job.
You can't "make" anyone fall in love, you can only be real and connect with people who are also on your level, who will in turn respect you and spend money on you. If you are comfortable with them and they spend a lot of money, I advocate giving them your professional FB page or alt phone number/ email so you can communicate when you are going to be at work. If you're looking for sugar baby type relationships with your customers, I have no advice for you, I keep work at work and don't care about money and stuff enough to exhaust myself by associating with customers OTC.
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I've had two regulars in my career who were "in love" with me like this. It's so draining I decided I would never do it again. My one piece of advice is to have a plausible reason why you can't be together even though you love him back because otherwise it won't be believable and you'll lose him quick. I told mine I was in an unhappy sexless relationship and was always on the brink of leaving it to be with them, but I was nervous because the relationship left me with trust issues, I needed more money to move out, I felt obligated to care for my bf because of his medical issues, etc. All lies obviously. You could drop the whole bf thing though and just say you were burned by a bad relationship and aren't quite ready to date. The key is to give a little glimmer of hope that can be sustained for months or even years, and the sense that he'll fuck it all up if he's too pushy. But seriously, you don't need to do this to make money. I made just as much money when I switched back to hustling the floor every night, and it was a lot easier emotionally.
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Be careful what you wish for. I had love sick dudes and it has never ended well for me.
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shanna dior
Cultivating regulars, especially ones like that, really requires the perfect storm of customer. If you want them to literally fall in love with you, you have to have no shame -- call him your boyfriend, tell him you love him, lay it on thick how much you love spending time together, keep in touch OTC, etc., etc. It's a draining hustle that has potential to go bad with the wrong customer (stalker, etc.), so I'm personally not a huge fan of it.
I do not know if this a great hustle for a dancer...but it works for me as a PSO :) and I agree that it could go bad for a dancer because this hustle can bring in a lot of weirdos.
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It's not about falling in love, it about attracting the right customers. There are customers who do things like this for their own needs- like to feel like a man or something, not because they're "in love." For example, I had a customer who liked the attention he received from dropping so much money. Some men are just simply thoughtful like that, I had a guy buy me a almost $2,000 purse and I hardly seem him. Some guys love their family but need that "break" like, fantasy life. For example, I had a guy who loved the GFE and bought me things and VIP and as soon as he got bored with me, he moved on to the next chick and did the same things... Some guys also just enjoy being a sugar daddy. No need for that "love" bull crap. Some guys like being someones bitch.
There are so many diff breeds of customers, some are hard to find...trust me girl, you don't want someone "in love" with you...I love your body btw, it is beautiful.
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Sorry, i just find the concept of having a guy so attracted to you that he wants to splurge on you, quite intriguing. I think I deserve it my hustle is truly on point and I remember everyone's name and drink of choice. I don't want love, I just want money. And that seems like a steady way to get done for a minute. But thank you, this advice actually is the most in depth hustle help I've seen on here thus far.
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There are so many diff breeds of customers, some are hard to find...trust me girl, you don't want someone "in love" with you...I love your body btw, it is beautiful.
Thank you your advice was on point and I think you're very knowledgable, the other girls were as well but there's a certain character to your writing that I admire.
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I smother them with my tits. ::)
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shanna dior
Cultivating regulars, especially ones like that, really requires the perfect storm of customer. If you want them to literally fall in love with you, you have to have no shame -- call him your boyfriend, tell him you love him, lay it on thick how much you love spending time together, keep in touch OTC, etc., etc. It's a draining hustle that has potential to go bad with the wrong customer (stalker, etc.), so I'm personally not a huge fan of it.
Agree 100%! I have a few customers that I do exactly this with. I only do it with men who could not be in the least bit dangerous. One guy is very elderly and has no one at home to keep him company and is enjoying his time with his "girlfriend" at the strip club. Another guy has a wife and family and needs to keep his extra curricular activities private to preserve his primary relationship and public image.
I have a phone I use exclusively for work, and will send my regulars texts with messages like "just thinking about you, miss you!" and the like.
When I am with these guys, I become their fantasy woman. I never complain about my life, I never talk about myself on a personal level. In their world, I am single and happy and never get sick or feel tired. If they want to talk about sports, I will chat with them about sports. I will mirror their political beliefs, religious beliefs, and will show rapt attention for their hobbies. They fall in love with a totally fake person.
I approach it as a role I am playing for a film or tv show. For the elderly guy, he likes me to be domestic, so I'll talk about a new recipe I want to try out and how excited I am that I got a chance to clean out my closets last weekend. The married guy likes a party girl, so I talk about all the wild "Stripper parties" go to when I'm not at work.
It is a huge amount of work on the front end without much in the way of financial compensation. But about 2-3 weeks into this kind of role playing, the customers do fall in love and are more than happy to open their wallets to keep that feeling going. I try really hard to never promise OTC, and I also never complain if they can't afford some VIP time with me. I just act a little disappointed, but assure them that I will be more than happy to have some hot and sexy time when the budget allows. Then I politely excuse myself to go make some money, and aren't they happy that I'm such an independent woman who can take care of herself if necessary?
The key is keeping your game face on. If you can't do that on a particular day, then it is best to either not go into work that day, or pretend to be super busy while at work. You've got to be good at remembering details, too. I make notes about my customers in my contact list so that way I don't have to rely on my very flawed memory. If you like to drink at work, this can be really hard to accomplish.
On the plus side, having regulars in love with you will make your income more predictable. I used to not know how much I'm going to be making because I had no idea how foot traffic was going to be in the club. Now I know that Mr. Lovey-dovey is coming in and he wants an hour in VIP. Mr. Kissey-face is in every Tuesday, and Mr. Biker-dude likes to come by on Fridays on his way home from work.
When you work this way, you have to always be looking for your next regular. Eventually, the guys fall out of love and will move on. I like to keep 3-4 weekly appointments with regulars. This also gives me time to work the crowd for one-off types as well as working to establish new relationships with potential for regulars in love.