I'm not sure if there is already a thread for this, but if I may, How old were you ladies when you started dancing? Also, did you went in solo or had a friend who is a dancer helped you out? Thank you! :D :cloud9:
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I'm not sure if there is already a thread for this, but if I may, How old were you ladies when you started dancing? Also, did you went in solo or had a friend who is a dancer helped you out? Thank you! :D :cloud9:
22. Solo.
I know you specified dancer friends, but of my biggest 'new girl' annoyances was when a newbie just had to have her bestie in the dressing room w/ her for moral support. You're a big girl. You don't need to have help to get started in this business, from civilian friends or dancer friends for that matter.
My bad Hun, hope I didn't offend you, I'll keep that in mind when I go audition, thank you very much for the info :D
I was 18 and had no one supporting my decision. I did it dead sober and was scared shitless. I didn't know anyone in the club.
It's the kind of experience that can be a big self-esteem builder if you go through with it successfully. It's extremely empowering. Once you get done with your first audition or first shift and are sitting in your silent car afterwards, you'll have this intense feeling of "Fuck YEAH!" and simultaneously "What was I so afraid of?" :)
I really admire your confidence and strength, as also admire dancers all around, I truly salute too you ladies, really, thank you so much for the info. Much love! :D xoxo
^We're here for you!
I got recruited by an older friend.
I was 19 and went with a former member of this forum. I had met her once before going to the club, where she gave me a rundown of dancing in our city and even gave me some of her old outfits and a pair of shoes. She took me to the club, introduced me to the manager and DJ, and sat through my first stage set. I really appreciated her support!
22 and solo. Of course my sister and my boyfriend know about it so I have their support at home.
I was 18, no support didn't even tell a soul I was going. After my first shift I remember feeling so proud and exhiliarated and driving directly to the super walmart that was open 24 hours and buying a ton of groceries.
I was 24, but looked 18. Twas' fun! I made so many friends, and sometimes miss the bonding all of us girls had. Camming is very isolating, and when I do a private dance gig, it's just a quick in and out of the event, and not much time to socialize. Plus, the other dancers are always on their mobile phones texting. There were no mobile phones when I used to dance, back in the dark ages! lol!
19 right on the verge of my 20th birthday. I did it all completely on my own. I loved it then, and I love it now : )
I was 24 and had support from a couple of friends I had told and also the guy I was seeing went in with me (I was lucky I got away with this - in hindsight I shouldn't have brought anyone, esp a guy).
20 and I did it all by myself, sober and super pumped about it. The first night was one of the most educational experiences ever for me.
I was 19-I auditioned and started the same week, alone, sober and completely out of my depth.
I was 21. I went in with my friends and they supported me as custies while I danced and worked the floor for my first two nights. It was great to have the support. It took me a couple weeks to grow brave enough to go back and finally do it on my own, but when I finally did it (after already commuting there once on my own and chickening out)...it was the best feeling ever. I was lucky enough to have one of the girls who worked there basically take me under her wing and teach me all of the basics.
I was 19 (five years ago now). I posted a lot of this forum before I went-- couldn't have done without the support of the people on here-- and I was so scared I was shaking when I was filling out the employment forms. The girls were cool tho, I remember them teaching me stuff to do on the pole and a couple of them gave me lap dances and I still use some of their moves to this day. I didn't tell anyone else I was dancing. It was hard for me the first few shifts, I went out to my car and cried every night, it was a big self-esteem blow for me because I was like dude when I go to a club everyone hits on me and now I can't get any motherfuckers to dance with me?! It's a totally different environment, DON'T compare the two and DON'T expect to bank on your first few shifts. It takes time to build up. I think I was making 100-200 my first month/month and a half but by third a $400 night was bad for me. You'll get there it just takes time.
i was 23 . i had a male friend drive me to the strip club to make sure i didn't turn around because i was literally shaking i was so scared, but no female dancer friend. my friends backed my decision, but my parents were furious at first. i was the most scared and self conscious i've ever been in my life but charlies right about it being empowering to muster up that much courage. take a lot of guts, but its worth it! its one of the two things in my life that im the most proud of courage-wise.
I had just turned twenty when I first started dancing, and took a cab there by myself, I told everyone I was starting as a waitress. So I went in not knowing what I was doing at all and I ended up running into a friend of mine from high school at the club I was working at. She took me under her wing so to speak, showed me the ropes and how to dance. How to talk to customers, everything. I fell in love with job and haven't looked back since.
My family is very supportive (I'm a second generation stripper, my mom danced for 15 years) and any friends that had a problem with it aren't my friends anymore so you could say things have worked out well.
I was a month away from my 29th birthday. I worked retail up until that point. I got laid off when the store I worked for closed. I couldn't find full time work in my town, and only did part time waitressing at a diner. My income was supplemented with unemployment payments. When my unemployment ran out, I had to figure out how to pay the rent and keep the lights on, so I auditioned at one of the two strip clubs in the area.
I was totally alone. I didn't want anyone to know what I was doing in case it didn't work out. I was so broke when I went to my audition that I couldn't even afford to buy a drink. Aside from one experiment, I have always worked sober.
Now I'm 44 and still at it. I'm aware that I am not the typical dancer.
I was 19 when I started. I didn't tell anyone and I didn't know a damn thing, haha.
I was 18 and not sober.... but I was alone. My older sister who dances NEEDS to have a friend go with her to any club especially if she's auditioning (she's 25). I seriously don't get it.. I mean if you can't walk into the damn place without someone holding your hand how are you going to work the whole shift on your own? A couple nights ago a new girl auditioned and stayed to work the whole shift but was attached to her friend the entire night.
I think it's better to just learn on your own (and probably sober.. lol)
18 visiting first club, chickened out. 21 when I auditioned sober somewhere else, did so terrible that the guy said day shift only *lol* so I was too embarrassed and didn't go back, and 22 when I decided to get serious and went to a 3rd club, they loved me and I haven't looked back :) my sister waited in the car for me for that one and it helped having someone there supporting me. But I never took a friend in with me. In fact, everyone that I mentioned it to was totally against it and tried making me feel terrible. Still, about 1 in 10 people are actually supportive/interested when I tell them what I do.
27, educated in a small town and alone in a new city. Guys typically assume I'm between 22 and 24, so I usually just tell em I'm 25 BC I don't want to seem too young or too experienced either, though I'm kind of a young face with an old soul.
I'm VERY fortunate to have been taken in by my boss, who helped with literally everything from self image to hustle skills to saving money for legal issues.
I haven't kept any consistent friends in the industry and didn't have too many vanilla friends at the time but I pretty much scared away the few I had..XD
It's almost been a year now and wow, I am sooo thankful to have my first steady job in over 2 years!! I have no intentions of leaving any time soon especially with my newfound carefree attitude that tends to drive things like naysayers, aging, and debt away. :D