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Lapdance etiquette
Hey everyone!
So I recently got hired in a club and was told on my first shift that when giving a lap dance I shouldnt be too "grindy" and that any touching should be "incidental". Basically I was told to air dance. So I did. And guys never wanted more than one dance (even when saying "you don't want to stop now right?" And "let's keep going" etc). I looked around the room and saw girls spanking themselves, letting guys rub their legs/butt, grinding a lot... So I felt like I needed to step up my game if I was going to make any money. What's everyone's experience with this? I don't want to be a prude but I also don't want to give up more than is expected.
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Re: Lapdance etiquette
The strictness w/ which contact rules are enforced will vary by club. Kinda like the 3ft rule in Houston.
When I worked in Daytona, straddle dances were actually illegal. Every1 did them tho, b/c most of the clubs in town were brothels & the nxt closest club was the sort of place ppl (including cops) went to for only one thing. It was a fine line & our doorman had to have sm kind of golden tongue, or else was paying sm1 off b/c vice was in the club 3-4 nites a wk.
If you can get away w/ doing most of the touching, i.e. spanking yourself, appearing to touch yourself in a more risque way, & also position yourself &/or the customer so that his view of the rest of the private dance area is as limited is possible, you might have sm better luck keeping them back there longer.
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Re: Lapdance etiquette
Yeah, this is a great example of how the rules aren't always the "rules." There are two likely scenarios here: (a) your local bylaws forbid contact so the club officially has rules that abide to that but turn a blind eye in all cases or (b) you keep seeing extras girls doing more, and they either tip to get away with it or are very sneaky with management/security is around.
Look up your local bylaws and see if (a) is the case. If so, you want to figure out how likely it is that you will get in trouble legally and whether or not that is worth the risk. My club is like this -- no contact officially, but we are actually very high contact like all the other clubs in the city. Bylaw and management only care when it crosses the line into sex acts or drugs get involved. They have a good relationship as well, so we always get a warning if bylaw is coming (which is once a year tops) and can do air dances then. If you get in trouble with bylaw, you basically get the equivalent of a parking ticket here. So, low risk means I follow suit and offer high contact.
If (b) is the case, then you may get in trouble with the club for doing more. The only way to find out is to allow some contact when security is present. If you get in trouble, play the new girl card and know for next time. That is, of course, if you are actually comfortable offering more contact, which is a question only you can answer.