Has any of you experienced getting attached to your customer?
or falling for them or anything similar to that?
What do you do in that situation?
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Has any of you experienced getting attached to your customer?
or falling for them or anything similar to that?
What do you do in that situation?
People often fall (in love) or get attached with the 'wrong' person, most cam girls will say 'dont do that', i say: listen to ur heart, judge wisely, see the benefits & risks, etc. Depending on who u are & who is he & ur personal situations & expectations make sure u safe. Here in this forum are many threads on this matter, look up and read, i hope u genuine & not 'fake' here.
I tried to look for those topic but i couldn't find it.
It is normal to find yourself getting attached to a customer but just like in many other work situations you must 'keep it professional' because of outside consequences (i.e. being attracted to your boss or a lawyer being attracted to their client.)
^^^ OMG yes, i was in love with my boss, it was haaard to just be around him for almost 3 years (vanilla job), he was attracted by me too, there was 'something' between us but he was engaged, i was single but still i would 'keep it professional' even he was single, i am not 100% certain but considering all the risks in getting involved 'at work', especially vanilla work... online is different but not less risky, just different type of risks.
ETA: u know what the biggest risk is with meeting people online, in this case falling for a customer? Is the fact they show online just a little part of their personality & character, just the 'nice' part, the ugly part u see eventually later on.
Also, they most times see a cam girl as a sexual object even they pretend "u different, u amazing, i wanna know the real u, i am in love with u, i wanna make u happy" bla bla bla, there in their mind will always be the idea u are a sex worker aka sexual object & they will exploit this aspect, everyone in different way, more or less, even if very little. They will look down on u & feel superior towards u just for the reason they found u on a cam site. Even they treat u well, show their love, make a family with u (kids included) if they are NOT in the industry themselves they'll always have that small idea deep into their brain that u were, are or continue to be a sex worker so u inferior.
Men hypocrisy!
The Happy End stories are extremely rare but not impossible.
I talk from own experience unfortunately.
I NEVER fall for a cam client,because they all have an 'expiration date', and ALWAYS end up 'turning' on me one way or another.
I learned The hard way, like I seem to have done IRL.
I'm just there to stay focused on getting their money while I might still have a chance.
i have a reg that i am very attached to, almost romantic. I care about him a lot. I enjoy the feeling of closeness, I take it for what it is....mutual attraction and respect....I love it!:) But I use my head, and I don't plan on pursuing anything off cam.
It brings our sessions to another level...but I don't express it or anything, I don't want any advances. I just keep it as a fun secret.
I usually keep work and my love life VERY separate and I don't plan on changing that! I fell for this guy when I was brand spankin new so that might be part of it. :) He has a soft spot in my heart, if that makes sense.
It's hypocritical of me to say so, but a guy surfing the net and paying to masturbate to an image of me on his computer screen just does nothing to turn me on. I'm respectful to them if they give me the same respect, but the turn on for me is seeing that $ add up.
I've been making my living this way for a long while though, perhaps I'm a bit jaded. :)
I used to get attached to my customer when I first started camming now im jaded. They see other girls they like so it's like why get attached to them if you know you're not the only one. I will admit I have a crush on some of them but I don't get attached bc I know they will cum and go one day they will stop visiting.
I dated a guy I met on cam for 3 yrs. Worst decision ever. We have lots in common but we were not meant to be together. He fell in love with my cam persona not the real me. I warned him that I wasn't who he thought. I though after getting to know each other he would realize I'm not the cam persona. But he just didn't get it after he got to know the real me we were just beating a dead horse. Also he stopped spending money on me and complimenting me and kissing my ass like he used to when I met him.
In short, it's okay to have a crush but leave it at that. It's not like you're actually getting to know the real person they can portray anything to you bc they're on the other end of the screen.
I agree with funismymiddlename. These guys keep talking about wanting to meet up and "get to know us better," but you've gotta wonder how many other cam girls they're saying that to. Kinda reminds me of Ron who tells all the MFC models "BEST ON MFC, BOO." LOL. We are internet models viewed by several men on a daily basis, and let's be honest...some of them probably assume that a cam girl makes an easy lay. If they think they have a chance to hook up with us in person, it's like they've struck gold.
Also, I think it's best to not get involved with a cam site member anyway, because doing so would mean he now gets to learn my real name, location, etc. I can't have people who know my personal info coming into my public chat accidentally (or intentionally, God forbid we have a nasty fight) blurting out things.
Yes, I can think of two different MFC members I've had a little crush on. But the farthest it went was talking to them on the phone, and I'm relieved it didn't go any farther than that.
yes brownfox is right about the location thing. After my break up I was worried he'd expose me. Or out me to my fam but he didn't. Idk if he loved me forreal or had too much respect for my fam but I was almost certain he'd tell my mom I was camming.
My biggest regs are the nicest guys ever. I do enjoy spending time with them, and talking with them outside of private. They spoil me and treat me like a princess. I am thankful for them; I don't love. When I turn off my computer for the night, it ends.
I am an entertainer first and foremost.
Iam living that story. I'm completely smitten by a client. We spend about 1-4 hours at a time together, always in private never free and he has no clue what I look like with out clothes on. Honestly If I meant him in real life ( I mean first) I would fuck the shit out of him, gargle his cum and swallow with a smile.
To piggy back off of funismymiddlename, no matter where you meet a person or for how low long they can portray what ever they fuck they want to us. They ones we think we know the most can be the most shocking to us when their true personality comes to light. Its just as easy to be a good guy/girl while meeting you in person as it is to meeting someone online. There are girls who meet their husbands from camming and some that met their worst nightmare in a class room. To me location is just where you met, it has nothing to do with the quality of the person.
Now with that being said, I advise against dating clients. At the end of day this is our job, this is what (some of us) do to make money, we don't work for Christian Mingle, this is not what we do to make a love connection. True most of us probably don't go anywhere to meet someone, cos I know I love staying home making money,but once we make enough to meet our goals we'll start leaving the house and start meeting people. Beside if we spend so much time with client we like them we honestly don't have time for a relationship, we at work to much.
I'm glad I'm not the only one.
It really made me worried LoL.
I have regular customers who i chatted with for years and they spoil me but this one was a bit different. I don't know why but talking to him makes me feel excited or happy. I miss him when he is not online and when he is online i feel so excited and happy that sometimes i act or talk like stupid.
I can't help but get jealous when he talk to his friends on FB even though they are his friends in real.
We just always talked in prvt and he never asked me to get naked.
I do not really care about this before but yeah i can't help but feel sad when i think that he is also chatting with other camgirls it makes me feel so sad...
Sometimes i do not want to work because of him.
What should i do?
Should i stop talking to him or just let it since it will pass?
This is the first time it happened to me so i don't know what to do...
One of my closest friends is someone I met on cam. I've met his family, named his dog, and we're super close. I've never done anything with him, and I doubt I ever will. He did saved me from a bad situation with me ex and has NEVER asked for anything in return. He also has paid my medical bills and rent when I got sick and couldn't cam, my dogs vet bills when she was poisoned (over 2 grand), and supports my every endeavor. I honestly adore him but I know better than to fall for him. So, in short, I doubt I could ever fall in love with someone I met via camming but adore, appreciate, a dote on a bit; definitely.
^^ That's the perfect way of wording it. My situation is similar. It wasn't the normal cam customer that's for sure.
Also, you named his dog :'3 <3 that is so cute.
LOL, thats me to a t. Whenever Im not working, I still check to see if he's online and I swear if I could find out which room he was in I would go in and ask him
"what the fuck are you doing", lol
He was chatting with cam models before he starting chatting with you, you were chatting with other clients before you started with him. Its the biz, don't take it so personal that you feel hurt by it. You cant expect exclusivity from someone when the conversation hasn't even been brought up, same goes he cant expect exclusivity from you.
I say you should enjoy yourself and have fun (at work) with him. There is nothing wrong with having fun and actually enjoying the time spent with a client.
I personally couldn't picture not talking to my online boo but if you feel that's what you need to do for yourself you could do that.
I have a few customers I am attached to. Not in love with, and they don't seem to be in love with me. These are a few regulars who I met years ago online, kept it online and they are on my Skype. They call Skype for any holiday, or my B-day. I do the same for them. We talk NFL (49ers here) and pets. NEVER sex. I really like these few guys. We never ask personal questions, and I laugh and type to them when I see them tipping big in other rooms, never jealous.
There are good customers out there, just like good performers.
I hope they never stop being my friend.
I have not cammed long at all, but I immediately felt this way. I am like why would I want to date a man that pays me to masturbate online? Which I am not Judging the OP at all, each to his/her own. My boyfriend watches cams, for free the tight wad lol but oddly enough this does not bother me. Maybe where they are total strangers, I think it could just be a scary situation and you do not really know who is on the other side of the camera.
I've cammed for about 3 years now and have become close to a couple of men I met through camming. They've been there through some difficult times and I'm glad they're friends. Although I'm extremely fond of them and I know that one in particular has romantic feelings for me, I am hesitant to open myself up that way. I think that's because I wonder if it's the cam persona that they're smitten with and not the real me.
I have one good friend from a site I'm too embarrassed to name. It was when I first started out 5 years ago. He is the only person I am friendly with in real life and we are just friends. I never cammed with him.
I have fallen for a customer and I ended up getting my heart broken, just remember you need to not get so attached that you fuck up your world, I learned that the hard way. I haven't found any other threads about this either and I think the reason is that girls are embarrassed they let this happen.
I had my heart wide open, didn't understand I needed to keep a wall. KEEP THE WALL!
^^^ I am sure there are many girls embarrassed to talk about it.
I have a friend I met through camming who I talk to outside of when I work, but I would never fall for someone I met camming. Mostly because I'm in a happy relationship already, but still. I like some of my regs a lot, and we have great times together, but a guy who spends a bunch of money on camgirls on the internet is probably not a guy I would end up dating because honestly, he's almost definitely not only spending money on me.